Live Life in Crescendo: Your Most Important Work Is Always Ahead of You
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Stephen R. Covey spent his long and storied career inspiring millions of individuals to make their lives more effective, compassionate, and meaningful. Near the end of his life, Covey felt there was a final component to his work: How do you live your best life no matter your age?
Live Life in Crescendo is Covey’s directive to live life in crescendo, meaning to continually grow in contribution, learning, and influence. In the same way that music builds on previous notes but leaves us anticipating the next note, a life builds on the past but unfolds in the future. The Crescendo Mentality urges you to use whatever you have—your time, talents, skills, resources, gifts, passion, money, influence—to enrich the lives of people around you, including your family, neighborhood, community, and the world.
Cowritten with his daughter, Cynthia Covey Haller, and published posthumously, Live Life in Crescendo is a life-changing and life-affirming book that will “inspire you to dream bigger and bolder” (Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Again) and befits the generosity and wisdom of the late Stephen R. Covey.
Stephen R. Covey
Recognized as one of Time magazine’s twenty-five most influential Americans, Stephen R. Covey (1932–2012) was an internationally respected leadership authority, family expert, teacher, organizational consultant, and author. His books have sold more than twenty-five million copies in thirty-eight languages, and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People was named the #1 Most Influential Business Book of the Twentieth Century. After receiving an MBA from Harvard and a doctorate degree from Brigham Young University, he became the cofounder and vice chairman of FranklinCovey, a leading global training firm.
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Live Life in Crescendo - Stephen R. Covey
Preface:
Creating Your Best Future
by Cynthia Covey Haller
What we leave behind is not what is engraved on stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.
—Pericles
My dad taught me the best way to predict your future is to create it. He always planned to work and contribute as long as he lived, and he planned to live forever. He made it very clear to his children and those who knew him well that the R
word—retirement—was not in his vocabulary. He lied without conscience about his age and cringed when someone referred to the stage of life he was in as his golden years.
Dad lived with a carpe diem—or seize the day
—attitude and taught all nine of his children to do the same. He loved to quote Thoreau’s admonition to suck the marrow out of life
whenever we had a great opportunity ahead of us. This outlook kept him young and constantly learning. We understood he wasn’t going to miss any opportunity to enjoy his life and make a difference in the lives of others.
After my dad graduated from the Harvard Business School at the age of twenty-five, his brother asked him what he was going to do with his life. He answered simply, I want to unleash human potential.
For the next fifty-five years, he carried out that goal across the globe through his inspiring books and dynamic teaching, generally around what he called principle-centered leadership.
The symbol of his company was the compass, signifying the importance of aligning one’s life with what he called True North
—a symbol for bedrock principles that don’t change over time. Dad believed that teaching these timeless, universal principles, common to all people, could dramatically change and impact individuals and organizations for good. He was a visionary man of great ideas and ideals.
He loved to learn by asking everyone he met about their lives, their work, families, beliefs, what they felt passionate about—just to learn from them. He would often pick people’s brains to get a different perspective. He listened intently to their opinions and asked questions as if they were experts in their fields. He listened to teachers, cabdrivers, doctors, CEOs, waitresses, politicians, entrepreneurs, parents, neighbors, blue-collar workers, professionals, even heads of state—and treated them all with equal interest and curiosity. It used to annoy my mom, who would roll her eyes and sometimes say, Stephen, why do you always act like you don’t know anything when you talk to people?
And he would say as if it were so obvious, Sandra, I already know what I know, but I want to know what they know!
As the oldest of nine children, I grew up listening to my father discuss principle-centered ideas at home and in his various presentations to many audiences worldwide. One of my favorite principles was First Things First, also the title of one of his books and one of the 7 Habits. Dad tried hard to live what he taught, and family relationships were a top priority for him. Though there were nine children, each of us felt we were an important member of the family and had good relationships with both of our parents.
One of my favorite childhood memories is when I turned twelve and Dad invited me to accompany him on a business trip to San Francisco for a few days. I was so excited, and we carefully planned every minute we had together after his presentations.
We decided that the first night we would ride around the city on the famous trolley cars I’d heard about and then shop in some of the fancy stores for some school clothes. We both loved Chinese food, so we planned to go to Chinatown and then head back to the hotel for a quick swim before the pool closed. Our evening would be topped off with room service—a hot fudge sundae—before calling it a night.
When our big night finally came, I anxiously waited for him at the back of his presentation. Just before he reached me, I saw one of his old college friends greet him excitedly. As they embraced, I remembered Dad’s stories of all the great adventures and fun times they’d had together in the years before. Stephen,
I heard him say, it’s probably been at least ten years since we’ve seen each other. Lois and I would love to take you out to dinner tonight—let’s catch up and talk about old times.
I heard Dad explain that I had accompanied him on the trip, and he glanced my way and said, Oh, of course we’d love your daughter to join us as well. We could eat down on the wharf together.
All our grandiose plans for our special night with just the two of us were falling apart. I could see my trolley car rolling down the tracks without us and our plans to eat Chinese replaced with seafood, which I hated. I felt betrayed. But I realized Dad would probably rather be with his good friend than a twelve-year-old all night anyway.
Dad put his arm around his friend affectionately. Wow, Bob. It’s so great to see you again too. Dinner sounds fun… but not tonight. Cynthia and I have a special night planned, don’t we, honey?
He winked at me, and to my astonishment the trolley car came back into view. I couldn’t stop smiling.
I couldn’t believe it, and I don’t think his friend could either. We didn’t wait around to find out; we were out the door and on our way.
Gosh, Dad,
I finally got out. But are you sure…?
Hey, I wouldn’t miss this special night with you for anything. You’d much rather have Chinese food anyway, wouldn’t you? Now, let’s go catch a trolley car!
As I look back on my childhood, this one seemingly insignificant experience remains representative of my Dad’s character and built a level of trust in our relationship that I carried from that day on. He taught and always modeled that in relationships, the small things are the big things,
and each of my siblings could relate similar San Francisco
experiences of feeling important and valued. This deposit of love and trust was central to our self-worth and made all the difference to us while we were growing up.
Dad believed we should develop what he called the four-square person
: one who is physically, mentally, socially, and spiritually balanced, as each of those areas is fundamental to human fulfillment. Each day of Dad’s life, he tried to make a conscientious effort to live a balanced life by developing himself in each area, and he taught others to do the same. He wrote: Our first energies should go to our own character development, which is often invisible to others, like the roots that sustain great trees. As we cultivate the roots, we will begin to see the fruits.
Though he struggled with his own imperfections like all of us, he consistently tried to improve himself and overcome his flaws more than anyone I’ve ever known. We knew his professional life was admirable, but we felt it paled in comparison to the private life we knew as a family. For decades, along with our mother, he was actively engaged in creating a rich family culture in our home, and he tried to unleash our greatest potential as well as the potential he unleashed in others through his professional work. Our family never imagined the day would actually come when he would be unable to approach life in the same proactive way he always had.
Then in April of 2012, at age seventy-nine, Dad had a bicycle accident, and although he was wearing a helmet, it was on too loose, and he hit his head and suffered bleeding on the brain. He was in the hospital for several weeks, and was really never the same after returning home. Eventually, the bleeding began again and ultimately took his life.
Though we grieved his passing deeply, we knew our father to be a very spiritual man who had taught us that God always has a purpose behind what happens in our lives—even in our Dad leaving us much earlier than we’d imagined. As a family, we’d been blessed to have had such an amazing father for so many years, and we felt grateful for the unconditional love and insightful guidance we received. We are equally grateful for our loving mother, the matriarch of the entire Covey family, who also recently left us.
Several years before my Dad passed away, he asked if I would help him on a new book built around what we now realize was the last big idea.
He was viscerally charged about it. He often worked on several books and projects simultaneously, but I was intrigued and enthusiastic about this particular new idea and wanted to be involved.
Like the master plan for his life, he had clearly envisioned the book’s full title, years before it was completed: Live Life in Crescendo: Your Most Important Work Is Always Ahead of You. He believed that by adopting what will be known as the Crescendo Mentality,
one could keep looking ahead and progressing through all the various ages and stages of life. He spoke passionately about it often, and encouraged those who were unhappy concerning where they were in life, or discouraged due to past challenges or failures, to think and act proactively about their future, and what they could still accomplish and contribute in the years ahead of them. For him, the best End in Mind (one of the habits from his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) was to continually make meaningful contributions to bless the lives of others, and that, ultimately, this mentality holds the key to true, long-lasting happiness.
He believed in the Crescendo Mentality as much as anything he had ever taught in his professional work. Before writing about it, he began introducing it in some of his presentations, as was his pattern, and in his later years, it became his personal mission statement. Dad felt so passionate about the concept of Living in Crescendo, and he truly believed that if implemented, it could have a tremendous impact for good throughout the world.
We actively worked on the book together for three years, and I met with him regularly to record his thoughts and ideas. He always encouraged, and even pushed, me to finish my part, which was holding the book up, yet he understood my time limitations with young children at home and other pressing responsibilities. While I deeply shared his passion on the subject and collected material and wrote when I could, regrettably my part of the book was still mostly unfinished when he unexpectedly left us.
Over the last several years, I finished writing the stories, examples, and commentary that were my part of the project, as he had requested. You will notice that some portions will sound as if he’s still living—this was purposely written that way. Much of the material, relayed to me years ago, reflects his thoughts, experiences, and insights at the time. Other material was taken from his writings, presentations, and personal conversations. I consciously made the decision to write this book in his voice because the idea of Living in Crescendo is uniquely his, not mine. I also included true stories and experiences from his own life, as well as observations and interactions he had with various people throughout his career regarding this material, and those experiences are set off to indicate that they are specifically from my perspective and in my voice.
He envisioned Live Life in Crescendo to be the introduction of this new idea to people worldwide. This book represents what we as a family consider his final contribution—his last lecture
—his concluding opus. Victor Hugo wrote, Nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come.
Though our father wrote many other principle-centered books, we believe the idea behind this one is unique and greatly needed today. He envisioned that the Crescendo Mentality would promote looking to the future with hope and optimism, believing that we can always grow and learn, serve and contribute—through every stage of our lives—and believing that our greatest and most important achievements may still lie ahead.
Live Life in Crescendo is built around this singular central idea, illustrated through four parts that represent different stages and ages to support and bolster your understanding of this principle, offering practical ways to implement this mentality at every period of life. Dad and I wanted to include a wide variety of stories and inspiring examples from both well-known and ordinary
people to highlight this idea. We hoped the experiences of others would inspire many to believe that they too can make positive ongoing contributions to impact the lives of others within their own Circle of Influence.
Several days after our father passed away, my sister Jenny and I were talking about how different our lives would now be without him. Suddenly, the truth came very powerfully to us both when Jenny said, "Even though he’s not here, he isn’t really gone; he lives on through us—his kids, his grandkids, and everyone who tries to live the principles he taught. This is his legacy."
Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote: Our death is not an end if we live on in our children and the younger generation. For they are us.
Perhaps Jim Collins captured it best in his foreword to the twenty-fifth anniversary edition of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People:
No person lasts forever, but books and ideas can endure. When you engage with these pages, you will be engaging with Stephen Covey at the peak of his powers. You can feel him reaching out from the text to say, Here, I really believe this, let me help you—I want you to get this, to learn from it, I want you to grow, to be better, to contribute more, to make a life that matters. His life is done, but his work is not.
I only hope to be a faithful translator of my dad’s vision for this book. And perhaps it will lead people, as he liked to say, to communicate to another person their worth and potential so clearly they are inspired to see it in themselves.
My father, Stephen Covey, deeply believed that Live Life in Crescendo could powerfully affect and inspire those who strive to create their best future, which ultimately will become their own unique legacy. My hope is that this book will be a lasting and living part of his great legacy and serve to unleash your greatest potential. And although he is gone from our sight for a time, his legacy truly does continue on, in crescendo.
Introduction
The Crescendo Mentality
I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear.… I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life.
—Henry David Thoreau
How do you see the many ages and stages of your life as you progress through them? How will you respond to your own unique journey through life? I believe it is crucial to make a life plan for how you will handle the highs and lows of living: the doldrums, the successes, the unexpected challenges, and the vast changes you most likely will face. It is most important to create your best future before you actually live it.
This book will introduce the Crescendo Mentality of thinking in any stage of life. Living in Crescendo is a mindset and a principle of action. It’s a unique perspective of approaching life through making contributions to others and always looking at what’s ahead for you to accomplish. It redefines success from how society usually measures it. If you adopt the Crescendo Mentality, I believe it can make an enormous difference in your life, to those around you, and even throughout the world.
In music, crescendo means to continually swell and grow in grandeur, and to increase energy, volume, and vigor. The sign of a crescendo shows that if you keep extending the lines, the music continues increasing in volume and enlarging indefinitely. Diminuendo means exactly the opposite: the music is lessening in volume and power, lowering in energy, backing away; and as the sign shows, it eventually fades out, dies down, and comes to an end. Living a life in diminuendo means that you don’t seek to stretch, grow, and learn anymore; you are content to rely on what you’ve already accomplished, and eventually you stop producing and contributing.
When a piece of music reaches a crescendo, it does not just get louder. The sense of growing, intensifying, and expanding in a composition or performance results from an expressive mix of rhythm, harmony, and melody. These in turn are grounded in the fundamental elements of pitch and rhythm as well as the dynamics of volume, combined with the passage of time in a composition or performance.
In the same way, it will be shown that living your Life in Crescendo expresses our passions, interests, relationships, beliefs, and values—which in turn rest on the fundamental principles that guide us through all the stages of our lives.
Living your Life in Crescendo means continually growing in contribution, learning, and influence. The mindset that your most important work is always ahead of you
is an optimistic, forward-thinking mentality that teaches you can always contribute regardless of what’s happened to you or what stage you are in. Imagine how life would change if you adopted the perspective that your greatest contributions, achievements, and even happiness, are not only behind you, but are always ahead of you! In the same way that music builds on previous notes but leave us anticipating the next note or chord, your life builds on your past but unfolds in the future.
This mentality is not a one and you’re done
event, but over a lifetime becomes a rich and proactive part of who you are. The Crescendo Mentality promotes using whatever you have—your time, talents, skills, resources, gifts, passion, money, influence—to enrich the lives of people around you, whether they be part of your family, neighborhood, community, or the world.
The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.
—attributed to Pablo Picasso
Picasso’s words could be the mission statement for this book. You can choose a forward-thinking mindset that focuses on always learning and growing through life’s ebbs and flows, while you continually look for ways to contribute to those around you.
The Greek version of this philosophy was first to know thyself,
then control thyself,
and then give thyself.
The Greeks emphasized the importance and power of that sequence. When you live with a sense of the purpose of your unique mission, and take control of your life through good choices, then you are able to serve others and help them find their purpose and mission as well. This leads to a sense of fulfillment and joy in others and in you.
Live Life in Crescendo is divided into four main parts, each based on pivotal stages in life when, depending on your response, you could choose to Live in Crescendo and continue to do your best work, or Live in Diminuendo, and eventually fade away and have no influence. And just as composers and performers express themselves through music that, no matter how complex, is always grounded in fundamentals, all of us live our lives in ways that embody fundamental principles of human behavior and interaction.
Part 1: The Midlife Struggle
This stage concerns where you are compared to where you want to be. During your midlife years, you may feel discouraged and believe you have accomplished little of value. Perhaps you’ve already given up trying to achieve much at all, believing the opportunity has passed? But in reality, you may have accomplished more than you realize concerning what matters most. And if your life does need improvement, you can choose to change and re-create your life to one of contribution and true success.
Part 2: The Pinnacle of Success
If you have experienced great success in some part of your life, the tendency may be to sit back, enjoy your spoils, and coast. You may have a been there, done that
attitude and feel like you’ve given all you’re capable of. However, Living a Life in Crescendo means you don’t look in the rearview mirror, focusing on past successes (or failures); instead, you look ahead to what your next worthy goal or great contribution will be. It could be that during this exciting stage of life your greatest work is still to come.
Part 3: Life-Changing Setbacks
An accident happens, you have a serious health problem, you get laid off or fired from your job, you’re diagnosed with a terminal illness, someone close to you dies—there are so many moments in life when you experience a major setback. At such moments, it’s natural to reevaluate your life, goals, and priorities. Do you drop out and withdraw? Do you let this experience define you? Or is it time to face the challenge, consciously choose how to respond, reorient your life, keep moving forward, and continue to make significant contributions?
Part 4: The Second Half of Life
When you reach the traditional retirement age, or what society has erroneously labeled the winding-down years,
you face a significant choice of what to do with your remaining time. This period of life can be a vastly self-serving, even monotonous and unfulfilling phase you pass through or simply endure. Or you can choose to be extremely productive and make tremendous contributions to those within and beyond your Circle of Influence. Your potential can be used or wasted depending on whether you believe your most important contributions could still be ahead of you.
The Crescendo Mentality uses key principles to guide you through each of these four stages of life:
Life is a mission, not a career
Love to serve
People are more important than things
Leadership is communicating worth and potential
Work to expand your Circle of Influence
Choose to Live in Crescendo, not Diminuendo
Transition from work to contribution
Create meaningful memories
Detect your purpose
Though there may be things that separate us from one another—cultural differences; misunderstandings; disparities in opportunities, background, and experience—as part of the human family we share far more important commonalities than we may fully understand. If you have ever traveled and been exposed to people around the world, you will have discovered that we are all basically the same—rich and poor, famous and unknown—all striving for happiness and value and sharing the same hopes, fears, and dreams. Most people feel strongly about their families, and have the same needs to be understood, loved, accepted.
I agree with the quote attributed to George Bernard Shaw: Two things define you. Your patience when you have nothing and your attitude when you have everything.
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How you respond to these opposites in life is both a challenge and an opportunity and will be illustrated throughout the book.
I am optimistic about people. I do not buy into a cynical view of our world, and though our problems are great and increasing, I believe that at the core of most people is goodness, decency, generosity, a commitment to family and community, resourcefulness, ingenuity, and extraordinary spirit, grit, and