The Better Mom Devotional: Shaping Our Hearts as We Shape Our Homes
By Ruth Schwenk
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As a mom, you want to give your best to your family. Motherhood is incredibly rewarding, yet its challenges can leave you feeling anxious, inadequate, and overwhelmed with mom guilt. Trusted author Ruth Schwenk of Pressing Pause and The Better Mom blog will help you learn to give yourself grace as you grow in wisdom with The Better Mom Devotional.
As a busy mom of four kids, Ruth understands the stress of raising a family and trying to do it all perfectly, but she has uncovered a secret: becoming a better mom doesn't start with what you are doing but with who God is inviting you to become.
In The Better Mom Devotional, 100 devotions filled with Scripture, prayers, and reflection questions will help you discover:
- How God uses motherhood to change you from the inside out
- Intentional ways to deepen your faith in any season of parenting
- The true calling of motherhood: training, disciplining, and loving your children well
- The life-giving impact of honest, loving friendships
This devotional is a great fit for:
- Mothers of small children and teenagers
- Small groups, women's Bible study groups, and personal daily reflection
- Mother's Day, birthdays, and holiday gifting
With Ruth's encouragement, you can overcome mom guilt, stop trying to be the perfect mom, let go of the endless to-do list of motherhood, and experience the most challenging but rewarding adventure yet--becoming The Better Mom.
Ruth Schwenk
Ruth Schwenk is the founder of the popular blog TheBetterMom.com and co-founder, with her husband Patrick, of FortheFamily.org and the podcast Rootlike Faith. She is also the trusted author of several books with HarperCollins Christian Publishing, including The Better Mom Book and Devotional, and co-author with Karen Ehman of Pressing Pause and Settle My Soul. Ruth is a Michigan football super-fan, lover of all things HGTV, and a self-proclaimed foodie. But her greatest joy is her family. She lives with her husband and their four kids in the dreamy college town of Ann Arbor, Michigan.
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The Better Mom Devotional - Ruth Schwenk
Introduction
Dear friend,
I wish we were sitting across the table from each other, face to face, sipping cups of my favorite coffee and sharing our hearts—the joys, the struggles, the fears, and, of course, the hopes of motherhood. My prayer is that this devotional will be the next best thing. It’s one way I hope to spur you on, inspire you to keep going, and remind you that you are not alone. We are in this together!
It’s hard to believe, but nearly seven years ago, TheBetterMom.com was born. Over the past several years, hundreds of thousands of moms have joined and journeyed together, learning and growing through our daily devotions and social media presence.
At the heart of TheBetterMom.com and this devotional is the message that Jesus calls us to live not a weary life, but a worthy life. It’s my sincere hope and prayer that God uses this devotional to encourage your mama heart and meet you right where you are.
The good news is that there is more to being a mom than the extremes of striving for perfection or simply embracing the mess. Just as God is using us as moms to shape our children, God is using our children and motherhood to shape us. It’s okay to come as we are, but our calling is far too important for us to stay there!
So I invite you to discover all that God wants to do in you through the devotions that follow. The way to becoming a better mom starts not with what we are doing, but with who God is inviting us to become.
Many blessings,
Let God Be God
I am God, and there is no other; I am God, and there is none like me. I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.’
—ISAIAH 46:9–10
Every mom I know sometimes feels as if she’s blown it. Am I too lenient? Am I too strict? What could I do to better protect, teach, or guide my child? Our kids don’t come with an owner’s manual, and that’s one reason parenting is hard work. When our children are young, being a mom is physically exhausting. But as our children grow, motherhood becomes far more emotionally exhausting.
Because we love our children and desire to see them mature and walk wisely in the world, we can beat ourselves up over our parenting. We can get weary. Feel overwhelmed. Question whether our kids’ mistakes will affect their futures. This is why we need the reminder of this truth: God is God—and we are not.
There are countless places in the Bible where God declared He is God. Although that seems obvious, the frequency of these reminders suggests just how often we forget. Instead of trusting God, we try to be God. Bad idea! We might not come right out and say it, or we might not even realize it. In many ways, though, our actions can reveal our lack of trust in the God who is ultimately in control of our lives—and our children’s lives.
Friend, let’s choose to rest in God’s promises and trust Him for the future. And let’s be faithful to what He has called us to do today. Even when we feel as if we are failing as moms, God’s purposes for us and for our children never will. Let God be God.
Father, I need Your grace. I know that I don’t always parent the best way. I need You. I need Your wisdom, Your grace, and Your power. Remind me that even when I feel like I’m failing, You are faithful to accomplish all of Your purposes. Give me hope and joy today as I serve and trust You. In Jesus’ name, amen.
• In what part of your life are you struggling to trust God?
• How can the faithfulness of God be an encouragement to you as a mom today?
Loving by Listening
Turn your ear to me, come quickly to my rescue; be my rock of refuge, a strong fortress to save me.
—PSALM 31:2
I heard Sophia, my youngest daughter, yell, Mom!
And then again, Mooom!
Growing in volume, the third cry came as I was on my way to see what was going on: Mooooooom!
As it turns out, she needed toilet paper. Thankfully, nothing life-threatening!
As moms, we hear a lot. We can’t help it. We hear cries for help. We get questions about homework, going outside, permission to watch a show or go to a movie. We hear conflicts and arguments erupting between siblings. Hearing is something we can’t help. Hearing just happens.
But listening is different. We have to choose to listen. We choose to stop what we’re doing. We choose to put away anything that might be a distraction. We choose to look into our child’s eyes. We choose to sit down and ask more questions, choose to truly understand our children’s hearts.
This is, after all, how God is with us. He not only hears us, but He listens to us. Turn your ear to me,
the psalmist cried to God. One translation says, Bow down Your ear to me
(NKJV). Imagine that! The King of kings, whom we should bow down to, actually bows down His ear to us. He listens with His full attention.
What a great reminder for us moms. We can’t help hearing, but we must choose to listen. Observe yourself today: how are you doing at truly listening to your children? Make it your goal to do more than just hear them; really listen.
Father, thank You for being a King who bows down Your ear to listen to me. I praise You and thank You for the undivided attention You give me. Help me as a mom not only to hear my children, but also to truly listen to them. Help me love them by bending my ear toward them. In Jesus’ name, amen.
• What is the biggest difference between hearing and listening?
• What makes listening challenging for you as a mom?
Guard Against Grumbling
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever.
—PSALM 107:1
I felt it long before I expressed it: that slow simmer of frustration. My grumbling, which almost always starts out feeling like a deep growl, would soon begin. I wanted a clean kitchen, a little help, and some peace and quiet, and the irritation I was feeling turned into grumbling. And then I began to verbalize my complaints out loud to my husband and, of course, to God.
Are you a grumbler? Do you always find something wrong? Maybe the house is never clean enough or the kids are never quiet enough. This kind of grumbling reveals our blindness to our blessings. Our complaining shows how we fail to see all we have. And most serious of all, our grumbling and complaining are really accusations toward God that life is not going the way we want or the way we think it should.
Grumbling is dangerous not only to our hearts but also to our homes. A complaining spirit can fill the atmosphere with a thick fog that hangs over everyone. That’s why I love the reminder from the psalmist that we are to give thanks.
Giving thanks is, after all, the best antidote to complaining. Giving thanks silences our grumbling as we remind ourselves of all we have and don’t deserve. Giving thanks always leads to gratefulness, gratefulness to joy, and joy to praise.
That’s the kind of heart I want to have. That’s the kind of home I want to cultivate. Let’s start today. Let’s nurture a heart and home that are filled with praise as we give thanks for all we have and don’t deserve.
Father, open my eyes to truly see and appreciate all that You have given me that I don’t deserve. Please teach me to guard my heart from focusing on what I don’t have or on what I think I need. Fill me with thankfulness. Help me find joy in You, thanking You for all that You have done, are doing, and will do. In Jesus’ name, amen.
• In what ways can complaining be bad for your home?
• What can you begin to do today to cultivate a home characterized by gratitude instead of grumbling?
Don’t Go It Alone
One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
—PROVERBS 18:24
We haven’t only been saved into a relationship with Jesus; we’ve also been saved into a relationship with Jesus’ people with God as our Father. Together we are growing up as God’s family. Relationships were never meant to be optional in the Christian life.
Why does God put such an emphasis on relationships? Because they are one of the primary ways He works in us to teach us, encourage us, and grow us.
Sometimes, though, friendships get pushed to the back burner when kids come along. It’s far easier for many of us to be private instead of vulnerable, busy instead of available, and isolated instead of interdependent. As a result, we miss out on the joy and blessing of sharing life with other friends. Yes, relationships take work, but the effort is so worthwhile.
At the very beginning of the Bible, God said it is not good for a man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). Together, the first man and woman would have the capacity for intimate love and meaningful friendship, both of which help show the world what God is like (Ephesians 5:21–27). The rest of the Bible shows us that life is meant to be lived in community with others.
One of the greatest dangers of motherhood is not just isolation from our spouses, but isolation from other people. We were meant to live in relationships with others who will encourage us, pray for us, listen to us, and even hold us accountable.
Do you need to make friendship more of a priority? Is there someone you need to seek out for wisdom, encouragement, or just companionship? Be careful of trying to be a mom on your own! You weren’t meant to go it alone. Friends are an incredible gift. God uses relationships to help us become better not just at what we are doing, but also better at who we are becoming.
Lord, thank You for the gift of friends. Help me be more intentional about nurturing my friendships. Guide me to those women I should seek out to learn from and to those I can be a friend to. In Jesus’ name, amen.
• What is the biggest obstacle keeping you from deeper friendships right now?
• Is there a friend or even an acquaintance you can encourage, pray for, or call today?
Hiding God’s Word in Your Heart
I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.
—PSALM 119:11
If you ask my husband, he would tell you our closet could double as a store. Over the years I have accumulated a fair number of shoes, purses, scarves, and accessories. The truth is, I could live without them. There is something far more valuable the Bible tells us to treasure or store up.
In Psalm 119:11, the writer reminded us of the importance of storing and treasuring God’s Word in our hearts. He has made room and stored up the most valuable resource there is—God’s truth and promises.
We hide God’s Word in our hearts as we read it, meditate on it, memorize it, cling to it, pray it, and sing it. We store it in our hearts because it gives us strength. It protects us. Sustains us.