Our Otherness Is Our Strength: Wisdom from the Boogie Down Bronx
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Actress Andrea Navedo, best known for her role as Xiomara, Jane's mother, on The CW's Jane the Virgin shares hard-earned wisdom from the boogie down Bronx.
Andrea Navedo didn't get to see many positive portrayals of Latinas in the media growing up. So when she had the chance to play a starring role on Jane the Virgin, a role that cast her as a complex, flawed, and genuine Latina single mother, she jumped all over the opportunity.
Now, she shares bits of her story of growing up in "da South Bronx--boogie down, burning"--to inspire young people who grew up like she did and who, after being counted out, still strive to succeed.
Expanding on her beloved commencement address to DeWitt Clinton High School and other speeches, Navedo offers the pithy, ghetto-honest, and at times laugh-out-loud funny lessons she learned from surviving abusive relationships, dealing with repeated rejection, and eventually triumphing in the entertainment industry. From how to listen compassionately to your own internal dialogue, to why fame and validation may not make you feel better about yourself, to how to never play the victim, she provides notes from life's trenches, the trenches of the South Bronx. She shows how the outer and inner challenges of what popular culture deems the horrors of places like the Bronx can instead be the very factors that bring out our superpowers.
For all who wish to take the reins on their own lives, especially in the face of hardship, trauma, discrimination, and inner doubts, Navedo's reflections, confessions, memories, and, most of all, hard-earned lessons help us realize our "ghetto" is the breeding ground for our self-actualization--our otherness is our strength.
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Our Otherness Is Our Strength - Andrea Navedo
Our Otherness Is Our Strength
Wisdom from the Boogie Down Bronx
Andrea Navedo
Broadleaf Books
Minneapolis
OUR OTHERNESS IS OUR STRENGTH
Wisdom from the Boogie Down Bronx
Copyright © 2023 by Andrea Navedo. Printed by Broadleaf Books, an imprint of 1517 Media. All rights reserved. Except for brief quotations in critical articles or reviews, no part of this book may be reproduced in any manner without prior written permission from the publisher. Email [email protected] or write to Permissions, Broadleaf Books, PO Box 1209, Minneapolis, MN 55440-1209.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Navedo, Andrea, author.
Title: Our otherness is our strength : wisdom from the boogie down Bronx / Andrea Navedo.
Identifiers: LCCN 2022054662 (print) | LCCN 2022054663 (ebook) | ISBN 9781506485706 (hardcover) | ISBN 9781506485713 (ebook)
Subjects: LCSH: Self-actualization (Psychology) | Other (Philosophy) | Identity (Psychology) | Navedo, Andrea, 1969- | Hispanic American women--Social conditions.
Classification: LCC BF637.S4 N376 2023 (print) | LCC BF637.S4 (ebook) | DDC 158.1--dc23/eng/20221116
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2022054662
LC ebook record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2022054663
Andrea Navedo photo by Diana Ragland
Cover image: © Getty Images 2022; New York City Skyline Silhouette Vector Illustration by vladmarko
Cover design: 1517 Media
Print ISBN: 978-1-5064-8570-6
eBook ISBN: 978-1-5064-8571-3
For Ava and Nico:
I hope these stories inspire you to fight for you, to love yourself, and to be the captains of your ship.
Contents
Note to the Reader
Your Otherness
Is Your Strength
Fear Is a Mofo, Step Up to the Plate Anyway
Stand on Your Own Two Feet
Work with What You Got
Speak Well: A Homegirl Grammar Lesson
Learn from the Challenges of Others
Be Your Own Damn Hero
Play Hooky: The Bennies of a Homegirl Field Trip
Sometimes You Just Gotta Go Bronx
Draw the Line
Discover Your Roots
Don’t Judge Yourself by Your Cover
Claim Your Inheritance
Be the Captain of Your Ship
You Betta Work
Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone
Show Up and Own Your Shit
Be the Change You Want to See
Speak Up! There’s Power in Your Words
Represent!
Embrace Your Otherness
Acknowledgments
Note to the Reader
I was one of the girls recruited to attend the once-famous Dewitt Clinton High School in The Bronx to make it co-ed to save
it from being shut down. It had a long history as an all-boys school, stretching all the way back to 1897, with many notable alumni including Judd Hirsch, from the hit TV show Taxi, and Ralph Lauren, the clothing designer. In 1983 the school was deemed a school that was failing and threatened with being shut down. To try to salvage the school, a proposal was made to make it co-ed. I thought they had made a mistake by enrolling me in that first co-ed class. Little did I know that thirty years later I would be invited as a celebrity guest to give a commencement speech. My life had come full circle. I was so happy to come back to share some of my trials and hopefully help give a leg up to those students sitting in the same seats, facing the same issues, that I had way back when.
If we are honest with ourselves, we must admit that the only thing we truly own is our lives, and it is what we do with our lives that determines what kind of people we are.
~Cesar Chavez
Don’t worry, I believe in you almost as much as I believe in myself.
~Rogelio De La Vega
Jane the Virgin
Your Otherness
Is Your Strength
When you hear someone say, I want to become an actor,
you might roll your eyes and think, Yeah, good luck with that!
Born and bred in The Bronx, I believed becoming an actor was an impossible goal for me until I realized that growing up in da South Bronx—the boogie down, the burning borough of New York City—brought out my superpowers.
I knew the odds were stacked against me. I’m Latina, brown,
the other.
I didn’t get to see many positive portrayals of Latinas in the media growing up. I was keenly aware that I was not what mainstream media valued. Add to that the disheartening fact that only 5 percent of actors earn enough to make a living. I could have let all that get in my way. But I decided that was not how it was going to go down. Not with me. My difference, or what I like to call my otherness,
was my strength. My circumstances and heritage were different from what I saw on TV and film, but goddammit, I was going to hold onto them and claim them with pride. They had given me so much. Growing up brown in The Bronx taught me how to survive, how to fight, both literally and figuratively. It conditioned me to strive and go the distance, to persevere, to be tenacious. It groomed me to read people, situations, and circumstances and gave me a strong intuition that keeps me safe. It trained me to keep my feet on the ground, stay humble, keep it real, and be grateful. Growing up in the South Bronx equipped me with the qualities I needed to chase that next-to-impossible career of acting.
I just didn’t think that chase would take twenty-seven years! As a working actor, it was twenty-seven years of pounding the pavement, getting headshots, audition after audition, endless rejection, doing plays, acting classes, rehearsals, and practice over and over, simultaneous with trying to have a life: getting married, having children, and trying to pay the rent on time. All of that finally led to booking my first series-regular role in Jane the Virgin.
Had I believed the statistics and that I was a victim of what films, books, and media have wrongly identified as the horrors of The Bronx, had I listened to the negativity from the outside world and within my own mind, I would not have had the immense pleasure of being part of such a groundbreaking show. I would never have had the opportunity to play a role that portrayed a Latina single mother as complex, flawed, and genuine. Nor would I have had the immense pleasure of representing my beautiful Latina heritage on mainstream TV. The long, difficult journey was so worth it. And looking back now, I know that embracing my otherness
is what got me where I am today. The ghetto
was my training ground for self-actualization. Hardship, trauma, discrimination, and inner fears and doubts from that ghetto
upbringing developed in me secret weapons that equipped me to triumph.
Latina, brown, South-Bronx born and bred, my otherness makes me unique and gives me something different to contribute to the world. My otherness makes me appreciate the difference of those who aren’t like me; how boring life would be if we were all alike.
Never in my wildest dreams did I think telling my Bronx stories and what they taught me would be part of my journey. But I am happy to share them with you. I know the otherness pains of regret, holding myself back, being stuck. The otherness pain of not feeling that I matter. The otherness pain of not loving myself. I had to learn to listen compassionately to my own internal dialogue and teach my whole self these new statements to replace what I used to say to myself:
• I embrace where I’m from and I will risk finding where I really belong.
• I have to want my dreams more than anyone else.
• I have to choose myself before anyone else will choose me.
• Words have power. I use them in my own voice and declare with emotion what I want.
• My otherness
is not