I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet Study Guide plus Streaming Video: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working
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What If You’re Not a Failure? What If You’re Not Falling Behind? What If You’re Learning?
“Every single thing that used to work has stopped working, all at the same time.”
Award-winning author Shauna Niequist’s mom wrote down this phrase in her mid-forties and shared it with Shauna in her mid-forties. It was exactly the way Shauna was feeling at the time. Many of the beliefs and practices that had been useful in her life no longer worked. After trying—and failing—to move forward using the same old tools, she realized she required new ones: courage, curiosity, and self-compassion.
Throughout the five sessions of her I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet video series, Shauna talks about unlearning what is no longer helpful, embracing curiosity, and making peace with the unexpected twists and turns of life. She shares candidly about the challenges and blessings she has experienced and invites participants to explore what happens when we release our expectations for how we thought life would look and open ourselves up to the freedom and peace that come from choosing to be a beginner again.
Whatever you’re trying to navigate, Shauna’s honest reflections offer hope for healing and encouragement to begin again. Discover that life is more about questions than answers, more about forgiveness than force, more about tenderness than trying hard.
This study guide includes:
- Individual access to five streaming video sessions
- A guide to best practices for leading a group
- Video notes and a comprehensive structure for group discussion time
- Solo study section with questions and biblical passages for reflection between sessions
Sessions and video run times:
- When Change Comes (And It Always Does) (19:30)
- Tender Toward Ourselves (20:30)
- Questions, Questions (24:00)
- Learning to be Brave (19:00)
- Coming Home (15:30)
This study guide has everything you need for a full Bible study experience, including:
- The study guide itself—with discussion and reflection questions, video notes, and a leader's guide.
- An individual access code to stream all video sessions online. (You don’t need to buy a DVD!)
Streaming video access code included. Access code subject to expiration after 12/31/2027. Code may be redeemed only by the recipient of this package. Code may not be transferred or sold separately from this package. Internet connection required. Void where prohibited, taxed, or restricted by law. Additional offer details inside.
Shauna Niequist
Shauna Niequist is the New York Times best-selling author of seven books, including I Guess I Haven’t Learned that Yet and Present Over Perfect. Shauna and her husband, Aaron, and their sons, Henry and William, live in New York City. Shauna is an avid reader and traveler, and a passionate gatherer of people, especially around the table.
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I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet Study Guide plus Streaming Video - Shauna Niequist
a note from shauna
When I was struggling to finish the first draft of I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet, my mom called. When I heard her voice, my eyes filled with tears. No matter how old I get, it seems I can hold it together pretty well until I hear my mom’s empathetic voice, and then the floodgates open.
She’d been clearing out some paperwork and books she no longer needed when she came across some old journals of hers. A few of them made me think of you,
she said. When I was in my mid-forties, I kept writing the same thing over and over again using different words: ‘Every single thing that used to work has stopped working, all at the same time.’
The reason my mom thought of me, I’m sure, is because I am now in my mid-forties. And because recently everything that used to work for me quit working all at once, too.
Just after I turned forty, life as I knew it changed in about a thousand ways. I faced a series of losses—we left our church, our hometown, a circle of relationships that had buoyed me for decades. We moved from the suburbs of Chicago to Manhattan—new friends, new lifestyle, new schools for the kids. Also my body, it seemed, had lost its mind—early menopause, chronic pain and insomnia, long-Covid symptoms. Over and over during the writing process, I told my husband I wanted to throw my laptop into the Hudson—what on earth did I have to say to anyone about anything? I felt like I was barely staying afloat myself. But then I looked around and saw that we all were struggling to stay afloat. Struggling to come back to life after a global pandemic, or to manage the mayhem of midlife, or to sort out any of a million points of confusion that were leaving us weak at the knees. I kept going, kept writing, determined that while the night was admittedly dark and getting darker, by borrowing each other’s companionship, together we’d wait for dawn. I trusted the process, as they say, because I had no other choice.
I have no tidy conclusions to offer you, as you strike off on this five-week journey, you and your beloved people, digging in and going deep. But I do know this: With a daily practice of curiosity, courage, and self-compassion, we’ll find our way through.
how to use this guide
We’re so glad you’ve decided to be part of this video group study based on Shauna’s latest book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working.
The five sessions included in the pages that follow will help you think through the big ideas from the book and personalize Shauna’s insights for the season of change you find yourself in right now. You’re in for a beautiful, meaningful experience, but before you dive in, peek at the pro tips below. There, you’ll find answers to many of the questions you likely have.
getting ready
To get the most out of this experience, have each group member gather the following materials:
Everyone will need a copy of this study guide, which includes personal streaming access to all the teaching videos. Instructions for accessing the videos and the personal access code are located on the inside front cover of each study guide. Don’t forget to write down your password! You will simply log in each time you want to watch a video or catch up if you miss a group meeting. (DVD is also available.)
Your favorite Bible (This guide references both the New International Version and The Message, but any translation will work.)
A pen, and extra paper or a journal, in case you need more space to log your thoughts
An open heart and mind! Change changes us, and this experience can help us grow through those changes, if we let it.
FOR GREATEST EXPERIENCE: A copy of Shauna’s book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working. Associated chapters to read in the book are noted each week.
gathering your group
To form your group, consider rallying a few friends, family members, neighbors, colleagues, or a mix of people from all of those groups to walk through this experience with you. The best growth happens within your community, and while sharing your burdens aloud in the presence of other living, breathing human beings can feel a little scary at first, the support and strength you’ll feel as a result of engaging with others who are also choosing courage and candor will be worth your while in the end.
Once you confirm who’s in for this study, choose a time and date to kick things off, and also decide how frequently you will meet. This guide has been arranged into five sessions; divide those across five weeks, if you wish, or another interval that makes sense for your group. Regarding facilitation, feel free to rotate leadership responsibilities, or declare one member the point person for all five sessions. Facilitation cues appear in grayscale at the beginning of each section.
structuring your sessions
Group Time
Section
Content for each Group Time assumes a ninety-minute meeting and is laid out in the following six sections [time estimates are in brackets]:
1. Session Overview :: A complete description of the session content, intended to be read aloud by one group member [5 min]
2. What Say You? :: A non-threatening icebreaker question that gives everyone a chance to contribute something to the discussion