The Wiccan Guide to Self-care: A Witch’s Approach to Healing Yourself
By Marie Bruce
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This empowering book gives readers all the tools they need to improve their own mental health the Wiccan way, written by a qualified psychotherapist and practising Wiccan, Marie Bruce.
Exploring topics such as life spirals, world views, depression, insomnia, grief, trauma, burn-out, relationships, happiness, achievement, goal-setting and so much more, this guide includes spells and rituals to help the reader take a more proactive approach to self-care.
In addition to the benefits for mental health, Marie gives us her spells for pampering, such as beauty and bath rituals, meditations for relaxation and even dream incubation spells for additional self-care!
Whether you're a practicing Wiccan or are curious how its practices can benefit your mental health, this book is a wonderful companion on your journey to health and happiness.
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The Wiccan Guide to Self-care - Marie Bruce
Chapter 1
The Wise Woman
A long time ago, before the arrival of modern medicine, the wise woman was one of the most important and respected figures in any town or village. Her responsibilities were many and varied. They included things like mixing up herbal brews and birth control remedies, working as a midwife and a shepherd of souls, laying out the dead. She would also act as a confidante, offering advice and wise counsel to those who sought her help. She knew everyone in the village, including all their family secrets, which made her a powerful figure.
The old country term for a witch was wise woman and the two terms are often used interchangeably. The wise woman played a vital role in local society, as she helped the crops to grow and the livestock to thrive, using her spells and charms for good weather and to ward away illness. She was frequently called upon to act as midwife to both women and animals. She would also be sent for when someone was dying, bringing sleeping potions and pain relief, to make their passing easier.
More than this, the wise woman was something of a local agony aunt. People would go to her for advice and guidance, comfort and a listening ear, but she was no push-over. If she thought someone was whinging, she would give them a good dose of tough love and send them away to rethink their attitude!
A Wise Woman’s Welcome
In a sense, being a counsellor and psychotherapist is exactly like being the wise woman of old. We offer the truth, even when it stings a bit: we highlight where people are self-sabotaging or bringing their problems upon themselves. At the same time, we offer comfort and a listening ear to those in genuine need, helping them to get back on their feet after a setback of some kind, be this divorce, bereavement, redundancy or whatever else.
So what could you expect if you came into my witch’s therapy room in need of help? First of all, you’d get a warm welcome and you might pick up on a soothing, calming atmosphere. This is because I bring gentle magic to my clinical practice, not to proselytise – my clients have no idea that there is magic in the room, they just feel calmer as a result of it – but to protect the space, the client and myself. Being a counsellor is a tough job. You spend a lot of time listening to tales of horrendous trauma, accidents, deaths, abuse and so on. It is the darkest side of life staring you in the face and you see it over and over again, one client after another, day after day. It can bring you down if you let it, so of course I try to protect myself from the negativity as much as possible.
I also like to protect the space in which I work, whether I am seeing clients one to one or simply sat in my study writing about psychotherapy in the hopes of helping people whom I will probably never meet, so I always cast a circle before I get started. I want my work to be light, bright and happy. I want my words to reach out as a beacon of hope to my readers and clients, so that they know it’s okay to struggle: it doesn’t make you weak. Acknowledging the struggle and working through it is what makes you stronger. I want the room in which I see clients to feel welcoming and to have that ‘sparkle’ that positive magic always leaves behind – you can’t see it, but people can feel it and it comforts them.
I make sure that I open the windows and invite the spirits of air to bring in the winds of change, which is what my clients need. I light a candle to show that we are working in the light of a higher force, whether you call it the Goddess, Spirit, God or the Universe, something bigger than me is guiding the session. Many counsellors work with card decks – the Blob deck being most popular as it helps clients to get in touch with, and express, their emotions. They also use pebbles and stones to represent family members or future goals. I do all of this, but I add in a sprinkling of magic as I go, so I am just as likely to use a deck of angel oracle cards as the Blob cards. Angel cards are particularly useful when working with the bereaved and they quickly release lots of emotion. I use crystals too – I always ask a client to pick out a crystal to take away with them on our last session. Amethyst and rose quartz seem to be the most popular, but snowy quartz goes fast too. Ordinary beach pebbles can be used as worry stones for anxious clients, or wishing stones for those who are ready to start planning for their future again.
I protect myself by imagining that I am surrounded by a pink bubble that is filled with pure white swan feathers – the room and my client is protected by the cast circle, but this bubble protects me from the negative vibes they inadvertently bring in with their troubles, while the swan feathers cushion the blow of hearing bad things and reminds me that there is more purity in the world than darkness. It’s a simple visualisation exercise but it works. And what kind of wise woman would I be if I didn’t offer my clients a soothing witch’s brew? As I make their tea or coffee I silently call on the healing, cleansing powers of water to help my client to feel better and at the end of their session I say: Take care of yourself. Bright blessings until next time.
In this way I am sending them away with a blessing that is non-denominational.
When the psychotherapy session is over, be it writing or counselling clients in person, I like to play a bit of music to eradicate any leftover negative energies, as I take down the circle and clear things away. I thank the four elements of earth, air, fire and water for their aid and I go about my day, happy in the knowledge that I have helped someone, just by listening and being there for them. As you can see, being a witch and a psychotherapist go together like black cats and pointy hats! It’s all just part of being a Wise Woman.
So welcome to this, our therapeutic space upon the page! Here, you are safe to share and let go of whatever you need to. Here we are going to work magic together, to improve your life and your overall wellbeing, one step at a time. Self-care is one of the greatest acts of kindness you can offer yourself. It is a set of tools that keep you healthy, happy, motivated and achieving. It isn’t something that you do once and consider it done. It is a daily practice that becomes a habit, and the habit becomes a more positive lifestyle.
Performative vs. Transformative Self-Care
No matter where you are in your life right now, whether you are at rock bottom, or just feeling the need to pamper yourself a bit more, self-care is a powerful tool, yet there is far more to it than simply running a bath! When most people think of self-care, they imagine lighting a candle or having a massage, yet this is really only surface level self-care. Many self-care books stick to this surface level of information – have a shower, use a body scrub, put on a face mask etc.
There is no doubt that such simple tasks can help you to feel better in the moment and they all have their place in self-care practice, but they are the performative aspects of self-care. In this book, however, we are going to go much deeper, getting right down to the root of the problem and working with transformative aspects of self-care too. Let’s take a look at the differences between these two types of self-care.
Performative Self-Care
Performative self-care is the quick fix. It usually pertains to the body and to your external self. It is the simple things that you can do to make yourself feel marginally better immediately. It’s the long soak in a hot bath after a hard day at work, the brisk walk in the fresh air, the soft glow of a candle burning, the squeaky clean feeling of freshly washed hair. Performative self-care holds a key place in any self-care practice, and it is often the gateway through which people begin to explore deeper levels of self-care, such as counselling or therapy.
Performative self-care is great for an immediate boost to your mood, or for building up several simple tasks into a solid routine. Because let’s face it, there are times in life when a simple task is all that you can manage. Maybe you have been recently bereaved, or you suffer from depression or a chronic illness. At such times, going deeper might feel like too much, so this surface level of self-care is extremely valuable during such difficult times. But performative self-care only goes so far and it rarely leads to a lasting, positive change. For that, you need transformative self-care.
Transformative Self-Care
What do we mean by transformative self-care? Well, if performative self-care pertains to the body and your external self, then transformative self-care is all about your internal landscape – your mind, your emotions, your spirit and spirituality, your past, your beliefs and so on. Transformative self-care is about excavating your inner self, developing greater self-awareness, addressing your past, identifying triggers, building your resilience and so on.
Transformative self-care uses tools such as journalling, free-play, free-association, mindfulness, meditation, visualisation and so on. It is focused on how you feel and what you think. It is a way of checking in on yourself each day, so that you can be more in tune with your emotions, thereby developing your emotional intelligence. It is transformative care that takes place in the therapy room and which leads to lasting, positive change. Transformative self-care is the long-term solution.
How to use this book
Transformative self-care takes work. It takes time, but sometimes a quick fix is really all you need and all that you’re looking for. With that in mind, I have designed this book to include both levels of self-care. Each chapter will include tips, tricks and tools for both surface and deeper level practices. If you are looking for a quick fix, you will find them under the Simple Self-Care heading, while deeper, more transformative techniques can be found under the Deeper Healing heading. Ideally, you should use both levels of care whenever you can to achieve the best results, but if all you can manage right now is the surface level, then go with that. What is most important is that you begin. Just make a start on looking after yourself and do whatever feels right for you at this moment in time. You can always come back to the Deeper Healing tools at a later date. In addition, there are more traditional magical practices here too, so if you are looking for spells and rituals, you will find these under the Witchy Ways heading.
I also suggest that you have a notebook handy. This should be something that you keep just for your self-care practices. In this book we will be using journalling, mind-mapping, time-structuring, free association and so on, which are all techniques that benefit from being written down. You can open a new computer file if you don’t like to write by hand. Alternatively, you can use a voice recording device. If you can use a journal, then I strongly recommend that you do so, as there is a form of magic in transferring your innermost thoughts onto the page, when writing by hand. Use a fairly large one to give yourself room to work. If you are cramping your entries onto a tiny page, you are stifling your personal growth, so allow yourself space to think freely on the page.
In addition, create a safe space for yourself in which to read and work through the practices of this book. Look back at how I prepared the therapy room for my clients at the start of this chapter and see what you can do to similarly prepare your own space. Can you lock the door so you are not disturbed, or turn off your phone? Can you open a window to let fresh air circulate, or grab a calming drink, such as camomile tea? Do whatever you can to let your mind and spirit know that your self-care is sacred time. Looking after yourself is a serious business, but have fun with it too. Wear fuzzy socks with a silly motif that makes you smile, or write your journal in multi coloured inks. Just do what you can with whatever you have.
Mind Alchemy
Witches know that the most powerful tool they possess is their mind. Many of the tools in this book might not, at first glance, seem to be that witchy at all, but that doesn’t diminish their power. Appearances can be deceptive. Often, the most effective spells are cast with very few magical tools. This book might not be full of witchy bells and whistles, but the clinical techniques within these pages are designed to create deep and lasting positive change – and that transformation has to begin in the mind. It is a kind of metamorphosis. It is the alchemy of the mind, turning darkness and shadows into light, and that is pure witchery!
Take it Easy
I want this book to become a trusted tool of support for you. Self-support is the best kind because you are the only person who is guaranteed to always be there when you need help. Having said that, sometimes we all need a little bit of extra guidance, and I hope that this book will provide that guidance for you. You don’t have to read it from beginning to end if you don’t want to. You can flip through to the topics and tools you feel you need the most right now. In this way, you can begin your journey of self-care immediately. And it is a journey. This is not something that can be achieved overnight, for we are working towards emotional intelligence, mental resilience, general wellbeing, letting go of the past, overcoming obstacles and creating a life that serves you better. Such things take time, so go easy on yourself. There will be days when you can’t face doing any of the tasks or spells in this book, and that’s okay. Tomorrow is a new day. Push yourself, but don’t force yourself.
Do I have to be a witch to use this book?
In a word, no. It is more important that you maintain an open mind and a willingness to do the work necessary to make positive changes in your life and to your routine. Self-care and deep healing are for everyone, and so is the natural magic of the universe. You do not need to identify as a witch or Wiccan in order to benefit from the tools and techniques in this book. Everyone is welcome here.
Self-Care is a Practice
Self-care is a practice and practice makes perfect! The more time you give to your self-care the more proficient you will become at it and the better you will feel. At first you might only feel better for short periods, say while you are doing a Simple Self Care task, before sliding back into your old emotional rut. That’s okay. Back-slides are normal and it is all part of the process. However, as you build your practice into a daily routine, maybe adding in the odd Deeper Healing technique too, you will begin to notice that you start to feel better for longer. You may even start to look forward to your self-care practices and the routines that you have built and created for yourself. Don’t be afraid to adjust and adapt your routines so that they fit more easily into your day. If you have more time during the day when the kids are in school schedule in your self-care, then, when you have the house to yourself. Likewise, if you work all week, just do the surface level self-care on work days and leave the deeper healing techniques for the weekends when you have more free time. Tailor the practice of self-care to your own needs.
Chapter 2
Skills for Modern Self-Care
Self-care is a natural part of a witch’s daily routine. A magical life is one that supports your hopes, dreams, ambitions and wellbeing. As witches, we know the value of quiet time alone with our thoughts, we understand the importance of releasing the past and the skills required to restore balance in the body. We make herbal tea to ease a headache and add essential oils to the bath water to sooth aching limbs after a hard day. We mix up massage potions and home remedies, lending a touch of enchantment to our healing ways.
Perhaps even more importantly, we know that we cannot be effective magically if our body and mind aren’t in good shape. Stress means that our spells simply won’t fly! It is essential therefore, that we look after ourselves in mind, body and spirit, if the magic we want to cast is going to work. Self-care is simply a mindful extension of enchanted living, because magic and self-care are complimentary practices, leading to an empowered and happy life.
The Benefits of Self-Care
There are many benefits to developing a good self-care routine, not least of which is that you will become more attuned to the natural rhythms of your body. This in turn means that you are more likely to notice when something is out of sync, or not as it should be, enabling you to work some healing magic, or seek medical attention, sooner rather than later. For some illnesses, such as cancer, this early intervention can significantly improve chances of survival. Even for more minor ailments, the sooner you notice them and take healing action, the less likely they are to become any worse.
The same is true for your mental health too. In journalling and working through the deep healing exercises in this book, you are more likely to understand where your habits and behaviours come from, what issues might still be holding you back and if you need more professional help, such as one to one counselling. While the teachings of this book are rooted in the powerful psychotherapy practices I have successfully used with my clients, it is no substitute for personal counselling, so if something is flagged up as you read, please reach out and seek professional help. There is a list of useful phone numbers and websites in the Resources section at the end of this book, and don’t forget that your GP is often a great first port of call, as they can signpost and refer you on to specific help available in your own area.
Pampered Princess
Pampered, spoilt, overindulged, over-privileged, cosseted, entitled…these are