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Many marriages end in divorce, and even those that do not end in physical separation are largely broken. Many people are just managing to keep it up because the laws of society demand it, or because of the children. Many people discover in the marriage relationship that they made a tragic mistake. They married the wrong person. They made an irreversible mistake in their choice.
The crucial prerequisite for a happy marriage is that both parties be in the centre of God's will for them; that they be rightly related to God, understand what God wants marriage to be, and be committed to that purpose. It also demands that the partners know themselves, know what they want in the partner, look for the right person and make the right choice. After the choice has been made, the relationship needs also to be rightly handled for it to truly succeed.
We believe that God meant marriage to be a wonderful experience – a foretaste of heaven on earth. We believe that He has the right partner for you and that if you co-operate with Him, you will find that partner and be truly blessed. The question is, "Who is that partner? How can I find him/her? How can we carry out our relationship so that it remains a blessing?" This book will tell you.
God bless you!
Zacharias Tanee Fomum
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Enjoying The Choice of Your Marriage Partner - Zacharias Tanee Fomum
ENJOYING THE CHOICE OF YOUR MARRIAGE PARTNER
GOD, SEX, AND YOU
BOOK 2
ZACHARIAS TANEE FOMUM
Books4RevivalCopyright © 1984 by Zacharias Tanee Fomum
All rights reserved.
No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means, including information storage and retrieval systems, without written permission from the author, except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.
Unless otherwise stated, the Scripture quotations in this book are taken from the Revised Standard Version of the Holy Bible, the British Edition.
Published by
A division of the Book Ministry of Christian Missionary Fellowship International
In this book I have said everything in plain language. I have not held anything back. Its frankness may shock you. If you fear the truth, do not read it, for it will surely disturb You.
I dedicate this book to my darling wife
Prisca
and our beloved children
Ruth Angum
Paul Tanee
Stephen Fokam
Elizabeth Afor
John Sentamu
in grateful acknowledgement of their constant love and encouragement.
CONTENTS
Preface
I Made a Terrible Mistake!
Marriage as God Meant it to be
1. God the Author of Marriage
2. The Creation of Man
3. Why did God create man?
4. The Need For a Wife
5. God’s purpose for a wife
Marriage as Man Has Made it
6. Man’s distorted purpose for marriage
7. Mutual exploitation
8. The choices of all rebels are wrong
A New Humanity is a Must
9. The Genesis of the Old Humanity
10. The Destiny of the Old Humanity
11. The New Humanity—1
The Treasure of Great Price
12. The New Humanity—2
A Pearl of Great Value
Choosing Your Perfect Life Partner
13. God has a perfect partner for you
14. Know Yourself
15. Spiritual compatibility
16. Physical and Sexual Compatibility
17. What about physical compatibility?
18. Compatibility in Habits
19. Intellectual Compatibility
20. Are You in Love? Are You Loved?
21. confirming your choice
22. Courtship in the centre of God’s will
23. If I Stand Before Christ’s Judgment Seat
Back Matters
Very Important!!!
Thank You
About the Author
Recommended Books
Distributors of ZTF Books
PREFACE
Many marriages end in divorce, and even those that do not end in physical separation are largely broken. Many people are just managing to keep it up because the laws of society demand it, or because of the children. Many people discover in the marriage relationship that they made a tragic mistake. They married the wrong person. They made an irreversible mistake in their choice.
The crucial prerequisite for a happy marriage is that both parties be in the centre of God’s will for them; that they be rightly related to God, understand what God wants marriage to be, and be committed to that purpose. It also demands that the partners know themselves, know what they want in the partner, look for the right person and make the right choice. After the choice has been made, the relationship needs also to be rightly handled for it to truly succeed.
We believe that God meant marriage to be a wonderful experience – a foretaste of heaven on earth. We believe that He has the right partner for you and that if you co-operate with Him, you will find that partner and be truly blessed. The question is, Who is that partner? How can I find him/her? How can we carry out our relationship so that it remains a blessing?
This book will tell you.
Enjoying the choice of your marriage partner is the second book in the series, God, Sex and You
. Book One in this series is entitled: enjoying the sexual life and Book Three is entitled: enjoying the married life. Be sure to read all the three books in order to obtain the complete picture.
If this book has blessed, encouraged or angered and frustrated you, be sure to write and let me know. Please write at once. Do not wait for tomorrow.
We send this book out with prayer that it should become your book. Read it. Secure a copy for a friend.
God bless you!
Yaounde, 1984
Dr. Zacharias TANEE FOMUM
B.P. 6090 Yaounde
Cameroon - Africa
I MADE A TERRIBLE MISTAKE!
We had been married for three months when I started comparing her with other girls whose tender care I had discouraged. She was not as hard- working as Monique or Chantal. She neither had the wit nor the sense of humour of Marie-Claire or Suzanne. She was far from being as sensuous as Sylvie or Dorotha. She lacked this and she lacked that. I was bored with her. I had made the wrong choice. It was the drama of my life. I needed to divorce her before it was too late. I kept thinking
It was 2 a.m. I had had a long session in the Clinic for Spiritual Diseases with a couple. It was a hard time. The session had begun at 10 p.m. It was four hours of agony. She said to me, Dr. Fomum, I am unfortunate.
Then she burst into loud sobs and cried for a long time. I am unfortunate. I wish I had listened. This man is utterly useless. I do not see one good thing in him. I wish I had listened.
She continued weeping. She was pregnant. The marriage certificate had just recently been signed. She was deeply frustrated. I looked at the man. He was handsome. He had a good job. I told her, Surely there are many good things in him. He is handsome.
And I tried to point out as many good things about him as were immediately obvious. But she cried on and on and said, There is nothing beyond the surface. I am ruined. I wish I had a second chance … I have made the mistake of my life and now I must bear it. How will I stand it for a|l these years? I wish I could die and end it all …
He was well placed. She was educated and sophisticated. They had been married for 16 years. They had children. They had possessions. They had position. Then she came for counselling and this is what she said, I knew from the beginning that it would not work. I always felt that I should say,
No, but I did not. Then we got married, and it has been sixteen years in hell.
At the beginning he begged me. He did everything I wanted. I turned him round my small finger. Each time we quarrelled, he was the one who always did everything to re-establish the relationship. He bought me gifts. He gave me everything I wanted. I gave him nothing. I had deep reservations in my heart. I knew I could never be fulfilled with him. He lacked something I could not describe. He just could never pull me out and satisfy me. However, I was very flattered by the fact that he gave me everything. So I decided I would marry him for the joy of having a worshipper around me to supply my needs. Then we got married, and he turned into a tiger! I had the misery of being forced to run after him to be given even an embrace. I wish I had known better.
It was all arranged by my relatives. He was many years older than me. He was experienced in every way. I was only 17. When I saw him I did not like his appearance, although he was quite handsome. We were married. All through it I never loved him. He loved me and was interested in other women too. I only gave myself to him when I wanted something out of him. There was another man. I loved and respected him. He would have been my ideal husband. He also loved and respected me. It was all pure, but we were from different tribes …
We had grown up in the same village and were friends. We were the same age. I told her I would marry her. She accepted. That was twelve years ago. I went to the secondary school. She did two years of post primary education and became a village primary school teacher. I went to the high school. We continued to correspond with each other. I entered the University to study medicine. Now I have finished my housemanship. She is still the village teacher. She does not understand me. I do not understand her. I still love her, but it is not the liking that has desire. She is to me like my sister and friend. She is anxiously waiting for me. Years ago I knew that I could not marry her, but I did not have the courage to tell her. I was afraid that it would hurt her. But in my heart the relationship was finished.
Then he said to me, Look at her letter. Read this part of it.
I drew near and read it: Oh! Darling, I’ve waited and waited for these years and now my dream is about to be fulfilled. When are you coming? Everything in me is burning. Come quickly. Every minute that now separates me from you is unbearable. We shall be married immediately. All my savings are yours to use as you like and, of course, I am all yours. The money is enough to pay for the bride price and all the expenses of the wedding. There will be enough left for us to live on until you start working. So let nothing worry you. Come at once. Send me a telegram as to your flight. My parents and I will be at the airport to welcome you. Come, my dear. Come, my king. I am waiting and I am longing …
Then he said, Dr. Fomum, that is my problem. I wish I had told her the truth years ago. What shall I do?
MARRIAGE AS GOD MEANT IT TO BE
1
GOD THE AUTHOR OF MARRIAGE
Marriage originated in the mind of God. The Bible says,
"Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.’ So out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all cattle, and to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for man there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took