Stuck in Time: The Tragedy of Childhood Mental Illness
By Lee Gutkind
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Four-fifths of American children with serious mental health problems receive no professional treatment whatsoever. They are the product of an overextended and often neglectful system that, as Lee Gutkind writes, has reached the level of insanity. Following the stories of three children—Daniel, Meggan, and Terri—Stuck in Time chronicles the tragedies and injustices wrought not only by the deficiencies of the mental healthcare system, but by government policymakers who have failed to address the problem. Through these children and their families, Gutkind explores mental illness as both a scientific and social issue, from the harsh economic realities of supporting a disabled child to the immense difficulty of finding a suitable counselor.
Written with passion and piercing detail, Stuck in Time is a poignant examination of three families fighting against impossible circumstances, and of a system too inflexible to accommodate the helpless victims it is meant to support.
Lee Gutkind
LEE GUTKIND is the author and editor of more than thirty books, including You Can't Make This Stuff Up: The Complete Guide to Writing Creative Nonfiction and Forever Fat: Essays by the Godfather, and the award-winning Many Sleepless Nights: The World of Organ Transplantation. He has appeared on many national radio and televisions shows, including The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, Good Morning America, and National Public Radio’s All Things Considered. He is a professor emeritus at the University of Pittsburgh and at Arizona State University.
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Stuck in Time
The Tragedy of Childhood Mental Illness
Lee Gutkind
This book is dedicated to Mrs. Duncan, who died recently after forty years of voluntary service. No one loved children, revered families, or spent herself more vehemently on their behalf.
Contents
Preface
Daniel
Part One: The Scanlons
1
2
3
4
Daniel
Part Two: Terri
5
6
7
Daniel
Part Three: Western Psych
8
9
10
11
Daniel
Part Four: Family Therapy
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13
14
15
Daniel
Part Five: Stuck in Time
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17
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21
Daniel
Acknowledgments
Index
About the Author
Author’s Note
Parents, such as Tom and Elizabeth Scanlon, who have children with mental health problems, are often forced into untenable, desperate situations because of a lack of options and not because of a lack of love. I observed the Scanlons and other families in similar situations for nearly three years. Despite their struggles, I never doubted the love and commitment they shared.
In certain cases, pseudonyms have been used to protect confidentiality. However, all the people who appear in this book are real, as are their stories.
Preface
AS I WORKED ON this book, I periodically thought about a scene in Kurt Vonnegut’s novel Slaughterhouse-Five. The protagonist Billy Pilgrim entered his living room, turned on the television, and suddenly became slightly unstuck in time,
an event that enabled him to watch the late movie—an epic about American bomber pilots in World War II—backward. This was a marvelously therapeutic experience: American planes, riddled with bullet holes and bloodied men, took off from an English airfield backward, and flew backward to France, where they were confronted by German fighters, which sucked bullets back into gun barrels protruding from their cockpits. The Americans followed the fighters to Germany, backward, where fire and debris were siphoned up from the earth into big bombs. As the backward procession continued, the bombs were stacked on racks in England, then transported on ships to the U.S., where American pilots were transformed into high school kids. The movie subsequently reversed direction, but Billy Pilgrim speculated that if the backward momentum had continued, Adolf Hitler might have been a baby and Adam and Eve reborn.
This is what I wish for the three children—Daniel, Meggan, and Terri—whose stories I chronicle here; that somehow, with the flick of a switch or the wave of a magic wand, they too might become unstuck in time,
triggering a journey backward to their own hopeful beginnings, thus launching a new and better start in life, not only for them, but for all the 7.5 to 9.5 million U.S. children who suffer from serious mental health problems. Four fifths of those children receive no treatment, while even the lucky
remaining minority are often treated inappropriately.
Researching and writing this book, I met many intelligent and compassionate people: the personnel at Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic (Western Psych), where I regularly observed treatments; the national child mental health care experts I interviewed; the psychiatrist Kenneth Stanko, who welcomed me into his inner sanctum. They, like the families and kids they are dedicated to protecting and treating, are also stuck in time, mired in an outdated and overextended system that only infrequently functions therapeutically for anybody.
Kurt Vonnegut’s work reflects a unique understanding of the absurdity of a system and situation that so blatantly defy logic. Perhaps new leaders will emerge to help improve child mental health care in the U.S., but at present our best bet for salvation and change is the immediate re-creation of Billy Pilgrim, who can reverse our senseless direction.
Daniel
Autumn
WHEN I DROVE UP to the house, Daniel was walking toward me. I got out of the car and waited for him to approach. Even though he waved and flashed a quick smile, he seemed grim and befuddled. What’s wrong, Dan?
He shrugged and shook his head as we walked up the steps toward the porch. Nothing’s wrong,
he said, but his eyes were darting erratically from side to side.
Daniel had been working periodically that summer at a rental property I owned, cleaning out the basement, a filthy job that he savored. Nothing made Daniel happier than getting dirty, especially with a bunch of junk. A pack rat, Daniel had always rummaged through trash, rescuing an array of worthless mechanical objects—manual typewriters, speedometers, radios, lamps, rusty tools, old motors. Keys of any size, type, or condition were his special passion, and locks, whether or not they corresponded to the keys. Sometimes he managed to clean or fix a derelict item of junk and sell it at a Sunday flea market, but usually Daniel was more interested in contemplating these items in the questionable safety of his room.
Daniel is short and broad, part muscle from his recent forays into weight lifting and part paunch from overeating. It was not unusual for him to devour an entire large pizza with mushrooms, sausage, and pepperoni—our traditional Saturday-afternoon snack—followed by a few hot sausage hoagies for dinner. Over the past three years, he had changed a good deal physically; when he was twelve, he weighed ninety pounds, a frail and exceedingly delicate feather of a boy; now, still very short, he could be more aptly described as a fireplug.
We stopped at the top of the steps, and I put my hands on his shoulders. Ruffling his curly hair with my hand, I joked about how dirty he was and made a crack about his ears, which are unusually small. I could almost always get him to laugh by invoking his ears or by pointing out that he was most handsome on Halloween, when he wore a mask. But this time he did not laugh, or protest; he was so somber that I pulled him down on the stoop and looked him straight in the eye. C’mon Dan. Something’s wrong. What’s going on?
Although I could see it coming, I was surprised at the power of his emotions. A mask of fear suddenly exploded onto his face, and he began to whine, like a small, frightened child. Oh, I’m so scared,
he said. He’s going to kill me.
His eyes darted crazily, and he tried to stand up and run, but I held on to him. I won’t let anyone hurt you.
Tears were streaming down his face, which he buried in my chest. A man molested me.
He reached down and began squeezing his buttocks. Oh, it hurts,
he wailed. It hurts so bad back there.
Daniel poured out his story in the midst of choking sobs. He had worked in the basement for half an hour or so, dragging out a mess of discarded timber, empty paint cans, and old furniture, and then decided to take a five-minute walk to the local convenience store for a soda. There’s a bank of pay phones on the corner beside the store, and as he was passing, a phone was ringing. Daniel answered. A male voice at the other end said that he had been waiting for Daniel and would kill him if he didn’t do what he was told. Yeah, sure,
Daniel had replied, hanging up the phone and going to the store.
But when Daniel walked past the telephones on his return, a car screeched to a halt at the curb. A man, unshaven, dressed in black trousers and shirt and black patent leather shoes and waving a knife, ordered Daniel inside. Instead of running, or screaming—or even laughing—Daniel complied. They drove around the corner, down a side street, and into an alley, whereupon the man led Daniel through a clump of bushes behind an abandoned building. Following orders, Daniel kissed the man on the lips, then, under threat of the knife, sank to his knees and performed oral sex. Finally, Daniel lay facedown on the ground. The man entered him. Daniel felt a sharp and intrusive pain. Now, at the end of the story, Daniel was nearly hysterical. Oh, it hurts so bad. He said he’d kill me if I told anyone. What am I going to do?
I could not answer his question, for I felt dumbfounded and conflicted. This incident had occurred in my neighborhood, an area in which I lived with my wife and infant son, and one considered the most urbane in the city. Not that crime never occurred here, but child molestation (or kidnapping) in the middle of a bright and busy Saturday afternoon was unlikely, to say the least.
Besides, there was Daniel’s history to consider, beginning with the abuse and neglect that had led authorities to permanently separate Daniel from his family when he was ten years old. The abuse during his early years had been documented, but recently, new and questionable incidents of violence and molestation had allegedly occurred. Only a couple of weeks ago, Daniel had come home with his face bruised and his books and wallet missing. He claimed to have been attacked by four black kids, wielding pipes, who stole his money and beat him up. Later, witnesses reported that he had actually gotten into a fight with a neighborhood kid, who was white—and lost.
Last year, Daniel had reported that a teenage female resident of his group home had accosted him in a darkened passageway and molested him. At about the same time, Daniel told a convoluted story about being followed by a mysterious bearded man who had forced him into his Cadillac and molested him. Daniel also claimed that a teacher at school was abusing him and encouraging him to run away and not attend classes.
Many of the past horrors in Daniel’s life had been confirmed, but his recent credibility was partially suspect because of his own maliciousness. Hadn’t he, one Saturday afternoon, removed all the manhole covers from the sewer system on the periphery of his group home and covered the holes with twigs, grass, and weeds as booby traps
? Hadn’t he promised, after I had explained the danger, to immediately replace the manhole covers, and hadn’t he reneged on that promise? Didn’t he lie frequently about where he went and what he did, using his learning disabilities and the side effects from antidepressant medication as justifications for forgetting and making mistakes?
Some of his excuses were plausible, especially those attributed to his learning disabilities. The intent of messages directed toward him sometimes did not register, but because Daniel was intuitive and responsive, he skillfully maintained eye contact with the person to whom he was speaking, able to sense when to shake his head, shrug, or nod, indicating understanding while completely in the dark. But there was an unpredictable side to Daniel, as well; he was a kid who tottered on the precarious edge of ambiguity.
The booby trap
incident had been especially disturbing because it made me realize that Daniel’s defensiveness could distort his sense of right and wrong. The caseworker at his group home observed that Daniel had been so brutally battered by his family and by the child welfare system that rescued
him that it was impossible for him to feel compassion. The fact that someone could have been hurt—or killed—by his booby traps
meant little to Daniel, who frequently declared, I don’t care about anyone else.
I don’t believe that Daniel wants to hurt anyone, but because of his history, he possesses an irrational and uncontrollable fear of being taken advantage of, especially by someone unknown. This helps to explain his penchant for locks, keys, and burglar alarms, and suspicions toward strangers. Daniel could have seen this unshaven man dressed in black sitting in his car or making a telephone call and his imagination might have done the rest.
Daniel continued to whimper as I tried to decide how to proceed. At the very least, I had to get him away from this house and the fear that the mysterious man, whether real or imagined, was going to come back for him. I remembered a story he’d told me of another unshaven man who lived in the woods across from his home who would periodically sneak into the room he occupied with his sister—and molest them both. The power of his emotions and the horror of what might have happened to him confused and frightened me. Hurriedly, we gathered his possessions and climbed into my car.
I drove in the general direction of the convenience store until Daniel pointed to the street to which the man had taken him. Instinctively, I turned the corner, Daniel directing me into the alley he had described. For the first time, I began to believe that the incident could have happened. The alley was not dark or narrow, but it was clearly out of the way, as was the building to which he pointed, set off in a secluded corner of a vacant lot. The underbrush around the building was thick and concealing. If a molestation had occurred, it could have happened here.
I backed down the alley and once again headed for the store. A police van was sitting in the parking lot, its engines idling. Out of the corner of my eye, I could see two officers, both women, eating a take-out lunch and listening to their walkie-talkie. Daniel was staring straight ahead, whimpering and snuffling. He did not see the police van, but its presence provided a direction—right or wrong.
Well, Dan, this is your chance,
I said, pointing at the white van with its large blue-and-gold official seal. We could approach those officers and tell them what happened.
Daniel did not hesitate. Yes,
he said, with conviction. Daniel has always possessed an irrepressible penchant for law enforcement officers, which is what he wanted to become. The order and control that police may establish appeals to kids who have lacked the order and control which might have made their lives happier and safer. As Daniel had grown older, the idea of being a policeman had faded, although their uniforms and authority were still quite seductive.
We got out of the car, walked across the parking lot, and knocked on the window of the van. I was molested by a man dressed in black,
Daniel said. He quickly highlighted the gruesome details.
Almost instantly, the officer on the driver’s side activated her walkie-talkie. Announcing the specific location, I heard her summarize Daniel’s story to her sergeant, using the word that both Daniel and I had studiously avoided: A reported rape…
Within five minutes, the entire parking lot was ringed with police vehicles. Daniel was asked to tell his story twice more, once by a sergeant and then by a medic, and with each telling Daniel became more distraught. He buried his face in my chest and began sobbing uncontrollably, especially when the medic attempted to take him in the ambulance to the hospital for the long and intense physical examination required.
Lee, you have to come with me; I don’t want to be alone.
You go in the ambulance, Dan. I’ll be along in my own car. Don’t worry, I won’t leave you.
When I arrived at the emergency room a few minutes later, the police would not permit me to join him in the examination room; Daniel remained alone with the doctors, nurses, and policemen for the next six hours. As directed, I went home and sat by the telephone, waiting for the police to contact me. I did not know what to believe—or even what I wanted to believe. Did I want the police to determine that Daniel was telling the truth—that he had really been raped? Or would it be preferable to learn that Daniel had been lying or hallucinating? Either way, Daniel was the ultimate victim—of society, his family, his biology, and of himself.
Part One
The Scanlons
1
I FIRST LEARNED OF Tom and Elizabeth Scanlon from Debbie Rubin when she and I met for coffee one afternoon in the cafeteria of Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic (Western Psych
to Pittsburghers), part of the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center. Rubin, a social worker on the Adolescent Affective (Mood) Disorders Unit, 3 West, had just completed a family therapy session with Tom and Elizabeth and their fifteen-year-old daughter, Meggan, which she described as the saddest meeting I have ever heard.
Elizabeth was at her wits’ end, sobbing hysterically, and then Meggan read excerpts of the personal journal patients are required to keep. She began to cry and then Tom began to cry. I cried, too,
said Rubin. Elizabeth and Tom are going through a mourning process—mourning the loss of who they had dreamed their daughter would be.
I asked Debbie if I could meet the Scanlons. I had been observing on 3 West for about six months, during which time I had come to realize that facilities like Western Psych, although scientifically renowned, attracted a large majority of disadvantaged children, adolescents, and adults. For a variety of reasons, poor people are more apt to be victims of mental disorders from the earliest ages.
In a 1989 report, Research on Children and Adolescents with Mental, Behavioral and Developmental Disorders, the Institute of Medicine (IOM) identified nine primary factors leading to mental illness in children, many directly related to the family’s socioeconomic position. These include biological insults, such as physical trauma or exposure to toxic chemicals (lead poisoning) or drugs; poor prenatal care, resulting in a high risk of prematurity; persistent environmental adversity, such as poverty, inadequate schools, or homelessness; abuse and neglect; and disturbed family relationships. Indirectly related are causes that include chronic physical illness, such as leukemia, diabetes, epilepsy, and AIDS; cognitive impairments such as those resulting from mental retardation and deficits in sensory perception, including blindness and deafness; parental mental illness, with the accompanying and often traumatic disruptions of family life; and basic genetic factors that increase a child’s vulnerability to a host of mood and anxiety disorders.
Though poverty is often a precursor to mental illness, middle-class families with children who have emotional problems must consume many of their resources before they receive child welfare support. The Scanlons had exhausted their savings, as well as the equity in their home, and had gone $42,000 into debt in order to provide special education and counseling for Meggan, their younger son, Doug, and themselves.
Even more perplexing to the Scanlons was the fact that after all this time and effort from pediatricians, psychiatrists, and psychologists, no one could say with certainty what was wrong with Meggan—why she acted the way she did—or, more important how to control or modify her behaviors. Theories about Meggan’s diagnosis and treatment were plentiful, but successful solutions had not been forthcoming. Equally dismaying was the fact that some people, friends and family members particularly, actually doubted that Meggan was mentally ill, attributing her behaviors to normal childhood development and/or poor parenting. And it was entirely possible that Tom and Elizabeth had significantly contributed to Meggan’s downfall—the puzzle of mental illness is convoluted and intertwined.
THE SCANLONS ARE an engaging and youthful couple, both in their early forties. Tom is of medium height, with brown hair neatly combed to the side, and a rough, reddish complexion. For a while, he lived in Johnstown, Pennsylvania, the coal-country town of 20,000 where the popular Paul Newman movie about minor league hockey, Slap Shot, was filmed. Tom’s parents were strict and authoritarian, and Tom’s inability to discipline his daughter, as did his parents their son, has been a source of conflict for both sides of the family. He is disciplined about himself, though, watching his diet, keeping physically fit. In 1990, he ran the Marine Corps Marathon in Washington, D.C., in a respectable three and a half hours. As an accountant who serves as liaison between his employer, Westinghouse Electric Company, and the Internal Revenue Service, he is patient, down-to-earth, and always congenial.
At first meeting, Elizabeth is more extroverted. She recently earned an undergraduate degree with a major in sociology and minor in creative writing so that I could capture our exciting adventures with Meggan,
she says with a nervous but hearty laugh. She laughs often, with disconcerting spontaneity, while describing some of her worst moments as a parent. Her sudden bursts of humor in unfunny situations sometimes seem surreal.
Her father was a faculty member at Pennsylvania State University, and her maternal grandfather’s name was Millard Fillmore Kidney. There have been many people in our family with the same name, and we are definitely related, although this is not a source of pride or satisfaction.
The laughter erupts again, revealing a row of small, straight teeth. What can you say about a man—even a former President of the United States—who was elected to office on the ‘Know Nothing’ party ticket?
The Scanlons live in Mt. Lebanon, a well-to-do Pittsburgh suburb with a school district recognized for excellence, producing more National Merit Scholars than most other districts of its size in the nation. We’re an old-style family,
Meggan told me, but we have lots of fun. Everybody has a lot in common. When people argue, it is about stupid things. My parents get along really wonderfully. We live in a house where the outside looks like a modern home but the inside is all decorated with country stuff.
In a way, the Scanlons’ life is also much different on the outside, in that it resembles a comfortable suburban family existence, compared to the gauntlet of suffering endured within. When she wants to be—and especially with strangers and adults—Meggan is incredibly charming. After Meggan was interviewed for an exclusive private school, her parents asked the admissions counselor if she would be accepted, to which he replied: If she wanted to, she could be elected vice-president of AT&T.
In addition to caring for Meggan and Douglas, thirteen, Elizabeth works full time as a business consultant/office manager for a group of orthopedic surgeons in private practice and part time as a student. The worst day of my life was when I graduated college. There were no more classes to attend. I immediately moved into graduate study and the work force because I could not bear the thought of coming home and facing Meggan.
Escape has been a primary motivation almost from Meggan’s birth.
I remember a very special weekend,
says Tom. We got Elizabeth’s sister to watch the kids, and we came to Pittsburgh, shacked up in a hotel, went to movies and dinner. Driving back was the worst I had ever seen Elizabeth. She literally cried the entire way, because she was returning to Meggan. How she’s lasted this long is beyond me.
He persuaded her to put the children in a day-care center and find a job.
Meggan liked the structure of the day-care center,
Tom continued. She liked having other kids to play with and planned activities. But all that stuff dries up when you get to be a teenager, and that’s when all the serious problems started. She just got out of control. Elizabeth kept saying, ‘Maybe I should quit my job and stay home.’ But I resisted. ‘In a matter of six weeks, you’ll be in a nuthouse.’
Outside the home, Elizabeth’s friends identify me as being a mover, somebody in control: ‘If you want something done, ask Elizabeth.’ Inside my house I am like dirt on the floor that my daughter grinds into the rug. Her rhetoric can crush me. Meggan takes a razor blade to my psyche. My daughter can make my life miserable; she rips me to shreds.
Tom and Elizabeth were very open with me; one might almost say anxious to talk to me because, I think, hardly anyone except social workers fulfilling the responsibilities of their profession ever listened to them. Real people—family, friends, and neighbors—were not particularly responsive. Elizabeth’s family had problems of its own, so they couldn’t always be bothered by Elizabeth’s concerns. Tom’s family was convinced that Meggan had not been properly disciplined, which was the reason for her bizarre and oppositional behavior. What she needed was a good kick in the butt to knock some sense into her.
Friends discounted Meggan’s actions with comparisons to