Loving Sophie
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In Loving Sophie, a family of 4 in Ohio decided to adopt a mixed bully-breed rescue dog. Little did they realize that their initial act of compassion would lead them on an adventure with their new dog Sophie.
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Loving Sophie - Lessa Clayton
One
The Meeting
Iwas covered in dog slobber. My body had been pummeled by the exuberant brown dog, who had practically gone through the shelter’s front, plate glass window to greet us. The dog’s tail was spinning like a helicopter blade and had hit us all in the face when we were sitting down on the floor to meet her. She was now rocketing from person to person in our family, absolutely giddy in the certainty that we were her people.
We were in another state, sitting on the cool tile floor of the shelter’s home base located at the back-end of a slightly run down strip mall, and there was this dog. In the background we could hear the barking of other dogs, who were waiting for foster placements, and were probably very jealous because she was being given a chance. Years of animals passing through in all stages of life had made their mark on the space where you could smell the emotions of fear, hope, and resignation.
The volunteer looked at us with gentle concern. It felt like being asked to go to the blackboard and do a complicated math problem in front of the whole class, when you hadn’t studied the relevant chapter yet. For better or worse, based on the pleading eyes of my tween daughter, this was our dog. Although, I could tell my husband and son were less enthusiastic.
So, you’ll take her?
the volunteer asked.
Yes, we will take her,
I said with a slight sigh. Where do I sign?
Little did I know on that fateful evening in October 2019 how much our lives would change.
No. We’re not getting a dog.
This was a mantra repeated many times in our household. Even before my husband, DJ, and I had children, family and friends had asked when we were going to adopt a dog. Never mind that DJ was allergic to dogs or that I had spent my entire adult life living in rentals or that we both preferred cats; in the eyes of those closest to us only a dog could make our family complete. Were we somehow weird for not wanting a dog? What’s wrong with preferring cats? Were dogs supposed to teach us how to be better parents? It’s not like dogs had a manual on child rearing we could confiscate. Or maybe they were the weird ones, belonging to a canine cult or something. Whatever. I found it insulting that having cats was somehow not enough, and DJ was adamant that no dogs need apply for residency on the basic principle that they were too much work.
It wasn’t that we hated dogs. We had both grown up in homes with house pets, and I had grown up on two different farms that also included livestock. For me, having lived in the country, dogs were there for useful purposes: to guard, to protect, and to alert. We loved our dogs, but they were free to roam the farm during the day and they came inside at night or when the weather was especially bad. They didn’t require much in the way of care. Regular vaccinations and being spayed or neutered were the extent of most of their medical treatments. They didn’t require much obedience training, either. They came when they were called. They wore a collar and a leash when necessary. They loved rides in the car. They would bark at, but not attack, strangers. They were friendly with our barn cats. Dogs on the farm were just part of the tapestry of daily life.
As for DJ, his allergies to dogs were part of what made him reluctant to want a dog, but he also liked quieter animals, like cats. Dogs were energetic and needed attention. They were loud and messy. While he had purchased a home in southern California in his twenties and didn’t have the prohibitions against dogs that I had as a renter, he did not miss their absence in his life.
When we met and started dating, he and his roommate had two cats: Emma and Ru. Emma had been a gift to his roommate, Dave, from a former girlfriend, and Ru had been a stray, caring for kittens near their house. They had thought Ru was the kittens’ mother because of the devotion shown to them only to discover that Ru was a rough and tumble male alley cat with cauliflower ears and a heart of gold. My tuxedo cat of twelve years, Max, had recently been re-homed to my parents’ farm because after my divorce I could not afford an apartment in Los Angeles and have a cat on the lease. As devastated as I was by his departure, I knew that he was living the life of pampered house cat with outdoor privileges, and my parents, now on their third farm, had no dogs. Not that I should have worried about my formerly indoor-only kitty taking care of himself; he was soon lording over all the other household and barn cats.
After DJ and I were engaged, we moved in together to a rented townhouse. No pets were allowed on the lease, but we were not particularly upset because we were visiting Emma and Ru regularly as they had stayed with Dave in DJ’s former house. Plus, I still missed Max. My parents might have killed me if I had gotten a kitten at that point. There are only so many pets adult children can drop on their parents’ doorstep, and it was clear I had reached my limit.
Within nine months of moving to Monrovia, we got married in Palm Springs. And then we were pregnant with our first child. About four months before our daughter was born, we managed to buy our first home, a lovely Craftsman with a fenced backyard in Monrovia. The first question many people asked was, Are you getting a dog?
We always gave them a look like they were insane for asking. For one thing, every house within a square mile of us seemed to have a dog, including our neighbor with whom we shared a driveway. His dog was left tied to the garage all day while the neighbor worked second shift at a hospital, and we always knew when our neighbor was coming home because, the little Chihuahua mix of dubious origins, would start to bark exactly five minutes before the neighbor’s rusty Toyota truck would rumble up the drive. There was never any point in trying to go to sleep before 11p.m. because the driveway was right up against all the bedroom windows, and the dog was doing its own job: letting everyone know its person would soon be home.
We thought about getting a kitten about a month before our daughter, Grace, came along, but DJ talked me out of it. He rightly felt that a kitten and a newborn might be too much for me to handle, especially because I was working as a real estate agent and he was traveling out of state for work two weeks out of every month. It turns out that working full-time and having a baby are difficult activities to balance, and a kitten would not have gotten the love and attention it needed. A few years later our son, Grant, was born and three months to the day we moved from Monrovia, CA to Cincinnati, Ohio. In January. From sunny and 80 to snowing and -5 in less than twelve hours was a huge change for us all.
Our new home was much larger, and even though a toddler and a newborn were demanding, we started to have those little conversations people do where they’re dancing around the topic. The conversations, held during those brief respites between diaper changes, tantrums, and meals, always went something like this:
We could get a kitten,
I’d say as casually as I could muster.
DJ looked up at me over his lasagna. His eyebrows said, Is that really a good idea?
You have to admit they are the cutest.
Silence as he chewed, then he wagged a fork at me. But they are also little and fragile. And they are nocturnal. They’ll be awake all night.
I pondered that for a minute. Grant’s already awake all night.
Through bleary eyes, DJ agreed. I know.
I wasn’t done with the conversation. Other possibilities? What about a cat?
I was sure I was making headway when he replied, If we get a cat, I want two pair-bonded adult females.
That was very specific. I’d always had male cats without any problems. I looked at him with interest.
When I was a kid,
he continued, we had male cats that sprayed indoors. I don’t want that.
Knowing that some battles were not worth fighting over, I had simply complied. Okay.
We had that same basic conversation several times over that first year in Cincinnati. To be fair to both of us, we were exhausted because Grant had colic and didn’t sleep at night unless someone was holding him. Grace slept like a champ, but she was an extremely busy toddler. Aside from naps and nighttime, she was a whirling dervish of activity. But the end result was the same, we had agreed to get not one, but two female bonded cats. It was just a matter of when.
I was now a full-time stay at home mom. For the first time in my adult life, I wasn’t working for pay, and the adjustment was difficult. We had inadvertently moved to a neighborhood where all the other kids were tweens or teens, so our kids didn’t have readily available playmates. DJ had grown up partly in Cincinnati, but after his parents divorced, he had moved with his mom and younger sister to Oregon, so his ties to the area were only from visiting his dad, stepmom, and baby sisters. I found myself in a common trap of caregivers; my days were spent with very little adult conversation.
Blogging was all the rage in 2009. Reading blogs wasn’t my favorite activity, but DJ followed many different bloggers and suggested a mommy blogger, Heather Armstrong, known as Dooce,
for me to follow. He thought that since my social life had basically dwindled to seeing my favorite cashier at Trader Joe’s, I might benefit from a community of people, who were all struggling with similar issues.
As luck would have it, shortly after I began reading Dooce, she started a chat board called the Dooce Community. This online community of mostly women, many of whom were mothers of young children, was a blessing. The questions asked were compelling, and the answers were usually intelligent, thoughtful, and funny. We must have caught magic because we became a relatively tight-knit group of online friends, and we became each other’s support system. Being able to help each other, whether with tangible advice or a referral or a simple kind word of encouragement, made us all feel useful.
About a year after the Dooce Community formed, a well-known member asked a question about how to re-home her two cats. She’d been living in southern California with her parents, but they had sold their home and were moving to retire in the Smokey Mountains. Unsurprisingly, her parents didn’t want to take her cats with them, as they already had several pets of their own moving across country. These cats were pair-bonded young adult females, and they were dependent on each other. They were litter box trained, indoor-only, spayed, had all their shots, and were friendly.
This is where I offer a pro tip:
Don’t ever facetiously agree to something because you don’t think it will really transpire. In a fit of conscience because I’d been in this person’s shoes, I wrote, Well, if you can get them to Ohio, we’ll take them.
And thus the DoCo Kitty Train
was born. Originally members from California all the way to Ohio offered to drive Scout and Detective Stabler from one location to the next, like a cat-themed Pony Express, but it was agreed that while the spirit of the gesture was lovely, the logistics were complicated. Imagine two cats being handed from person to person and yowling non-stop the entire 2500-mile drive across country. It’s a terrifying thought. Instead, via PayPal, the cat’s owner raised enough money to fly them on a direct non-stop Delta Airlines red eye from LAX to CVG. Suddenly we were getting cats.
We were excited. We made a run to PetSmart and bought litter boxes, litter, box liners, the cat food brand they already ate and liked, toys, and a scratching post since they still had their claws. What were they really like? Scout was the elder of the two, a brown tabby with a sad origin story. She’d been found as a wee kitten in the parking lot of the Santa Anita mall next to her dead mother, who had been hit by a car. Detective Stabler, a tuxedo kitty, had been adopted as a kitten and had bonded with Scout, who was about a year older.
The kids were also thrilled. Three-year-old Grace, nicknamed Gray, insisted on getting up early with me so we could drive to the airport and pick up the cats on a cold January morning. Grant, a toddler, was excited because we were excited. I worried a little bit about the kids and the cats, but cats are wonderful teachers of consent. No cat will ever do anything it doesn’t want to do and trying to force a cat to do something is next to impossible.
When Gray and I arrived at the cargo bay and signed off for the cats, we received two heavy-duty carriers with two very frightened and unhappy kitties. Let’s not stress them out more,
I told her. We can get them home and settled and then they can explore.
Our plan was to give them the first day or two in the playroom and laundry room, so they could adjust to being in our house, and we would slowly expand their territory as they became more comfortable.
Detective Stabler ventured first out of the carrier. We were all sitting on the floor. Sit as still as possible, don’t make many sudden moves, and let the cats come to us,
I told the children. Deets, as we came to call Detective Stabler, slowly wandered over to me, sat on my lap for a brief moment, then went on to explore the rest of the spaces. Scout was shyer. DJ lured her out by using the universal language of humans with animals: a series of clicks, smooches, and pats on the ground.
Once they were out of their carriers and knew where the litter boxes, food and water dishes were, we spent a little more time just sitting there and trying to tempt them with toys and being rewarded with head butts and the occasional meow or purr. We had cats!
I, of course, rushed like a proud mama to inform the Internet. Thanks to the Dooce Community, two cats who might have otherwise been sent to a shelter and separated, had a warm, safe, and loving home together. That remains one of the most memorable moments in my life. It’s joyful to see what people, total strangers really, could accomplish with determination and ingenuity.
Eventually Scout and Deets settled in and had the run of the house. The kids still slept with their bedroom doors closed, so the two cats slept in the bed with me and DJ.
Deets, who’d been the friendliest to start, became a recluse and basically hid in our room whenever the children were awake and present, only coming out at night to play, use the litter box, or eat.
Scout, however, became like Nana from Peter Pan. She was devoted to the children and followed them around, letting them play with her, dress her up, and otherwise treat her in an undignified fashion. She tolerated with excellent humor all of the children’s antics. She did not,