Back Then: Two Literary Lives in 1950s New York
By Anne Bernays and Justin Kaplan
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Novelist Anne Bernays and biographer Justin Kaplan -- both native New Yorkers -- came of age in the 1950s, when the pent-up energies of the Depression years and World War II were at flood tide. Written in two separate voices, Back Then is thecandid, anecdotal account of these two children of privilege -- one from New York's East Side, the other from the West Side -- pursuing careers in publishing and eventually leaving to write their own books.
Infused with intelligence and charm, Back Then is an elegant reflection on the transformative years in the lives of two young people and New York City. Marked by their youthful passions, this double memoir marries the authors' distinct literary styles with a riveting narrative that captures the density and texture of private, social, and working life in the 1950s.
Anne Bernays
Anne Bernays is a novelist (including Professor Romeo and Growing Up Rich) and coauthor, with her husband, Justin Kaplan, of Back Then: Two Lives in 1950s New York. Her articles, book reviews and essays have appeared in such major publications as The New York Times, Sports Illustrated and The Nation. A long-time teacher of writing, she is coauthor, with Pamela Painter, of the textbook What If? Ms. Bernays currently teaches at Harvard's Nieman Foundation. She and Mr. Kaplan have six grandchildren. They live in Cambridge, Massachusetts, and Truro, Cape Cod.
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Back Then - Anne Bernays
PART I
CHAPTER 1
Where we lived in Manhattan had a lot to do with how my father, the person who made the hefty decisions in our family, chose to be perceived by the world beyond his front door. And this, in turn, had a lot to do with his profound and nervous reluctance to be identified as a Jew. His reluctance was the chain on which many of the beads of daily life chez Bernays were strung. Being Jewish was something we almost never talked about, just as we avoided the contagion of cancer, poor people, and sex. Naturally then, cancer, poor people, and sex took a tenacious hold on my imagination, hung there like a cat halfway up a tree. Oma Hattie, my mother’s mother, was one notch less inhibited than my parents about the subject of Jewishness; whenever she wanted to indicate that someone was Jewish she said, sotto voce, "M-O-T—Member of the Tribe. It made my father wince whenever she said it. If I read his thoughts correctly, they were saying,
Why do I have to hear this? What does it have to do with me? Oma Hattie was just as circumspect about malignancy—she wouldn’t say the whole word but whispered its initial:
My friend Bessie was just operated on for C, poor thing." People with C almost invariably died of it.
Each era earns its particular codes and proscriptions, some more demanding and painful than others, depending on the temperament of the times and the moral force of what has preceded it. As I grew up the language I spoke was heavily encoded, a condition due in part to my hothouse upbringing and in part to the period itself. Because my parents were born before the turn of the century (my father in 1891 and my mother in 1892), many of their regulations hung in suspension around us like the smell of something nasty. Not once did I hear my father or my mother say anything more freighted than damn and hell—and then only when, like Rhett Butler, they found themselves pushed to the limit.
I found it a constant challenge to decipher what someone really meant when they used this coded language, and since I wanted to believe what I heard, I wasn’t all that adept at instant understanding. It took me a long time, for example, to understand that Will you go out to dinner with me?
more often meant I want to fuck you
than it did Let’s share a meal.
When I accepted a dinner invitation I didn’t think I owed the man who had extended it any favors; often, he did. Good friend
or Great and good friend,
a staple of Time magazine euphemism, meant lover or mistress. A long illness
might have been lengthy but it was also specific: it meant cancer. Died suddenly
meant a suicide and he was a confirmed bachelor,
homosexuality. New Yorker
was the equivalent of Jew. When a woman said, I have to go wash my hands,
you knew she was headed for the little girls’ room,
another euphemism. As for a girl’s periods, they were known by many names: the curse,
the monthlies,
falling off the roof,
and, inexplicably, grandma’s come to visit.
Your periods put you in a condition about which boys and men pretended to know nothing. The term social disease
was code for syphilis or gonorrhea; they were both potential killers and, before antibiotics, often were. On the other hand, it didn’t strike us as inconsistent that words like retarded, crippled, foreigner, spinster, and old lady were never disguised but were allowed to emerge starkly, like naked children at a picnic.
Our pervasive language code fortified the pretense that ours was a polite and well-regulated society—at least at its upper reaches. And along with this, good manners
were passed more or less intact from one generation to the next, fortified by books of etiquette that changed very little from decade to decade. You knew how to behave in front of and talk to intimate, casual friend, and stranger alike.
When one of my boyfriends, a former sailor, inserted abso-fucking-lutely
into an otherwise bland conversation, I was dazzled. What did you say?
He repeated it. Navy talk,
he said.
As a result of these taboos, the shock value of smutty language was as loud as an air raid siren. You could calculate the seriousness of a girl’s determination to be her own man
as much by the words she spoke as by how many guys she had slept with and which substances—and in what quantities—she poured, inhaled, or injected into the temple of her body.
If you can say any word any time you feel like it, it loses its bang; if you save it for the exact right moment it’s going to do its job and rip through your adversary like a dumdum bullet. You tucked your list of precious forbidden words and phrases into your deepest pocket, fingering them as you might someone else’s gold coins. And, like Russians under communism, like Aesop, we tended to tell our stories in altered form, hiding the truth in assorted disguises. Self-censorship is supposed to be dehumanizing, and perhaps, ultimately it is. But it forces you to be inventive and sly. You got away with something, you slid the true text past the censors as you sneaked absinthe past Customs; you slipped out the window when they thought you were in bed, sleeping; you had sex when they thought you were at a wedding shower.
My father was a gilded creature, shimmering with a vanity that had as much to do with his forebears as it did his considerable brawn in the world of commerce and celebrity. He was Sigmund Freud’s double nephew: a brother and sister, Sigmund Freud and Anna Freud, had married, respectively, a sister and brother, Martha Bernays and Eli Bernays, in Vienna in the late nineteenth century. This kind of pairing was not uncommon then, especially among Western European Jews who, xenophobic and cautious anyway, were reluctant to marry outside their tight social circles. It happened, as well, at about the same time, on my mother’s side of the family, when two brothers married two sisters. My father’s parents were Eli Bernays and Anna Freud (after whom I was named). Almost every time I saw her in her Upper West Side apartment, surrounded by the smallest and dearest of what must have been a substantial collection of glassware, silver, and other gemlike household items, Anna would tell me, Siggy was such a clever man.
My mother confided to me that even in old age Anna was still harboring a grudge against her brother because their father had sent her out to earn her living as a nursemaid even as he paid Sigmund’s way through medical school.
My father was so proud of his blood connection to Sigmund Freud that he made sure everyone he met was aware of it by the end of the first encounter. A waggish New York newspaper columnist, who felt my father had exploited this connection—managing to insert my uncle
into any conversation—called him a professional nephew
in print. This probably didn’t bother my father at all, because, in one sense, that’s what he was. Working with his brother-in-law, Leon Fleischman, a founder of the publishing house of Boni and Liveright, my father had been responsible for the first translation and publication of a Freud book in the New World.
When I was a child the name Freud was only a sound, although my father gave that sound an ardent inflection like that used by the devout when speaking of the Divinity. I knew Freud was important; what he had done to deserve this didn’t register with me until I was in my teens, when word of his unusual preoccupations had seeped down to the general populace. Whenever I was asked about my own connection to the fabulous mind doctor whom I never met, I got defensive: It doesn’t have anything to do with me.
Although of course it did and my great uncle knew it: to mark my birth Freud sent me, via my parents, a postcard headed Prof. Dr. Freud,
upon which he had handwritten, Welcome as a new output of life on the day great grandmother [his mother] was buried.
He signed it Great Uncle Sigm.
After leaving Austria in 1891, my father’s father became an importer. The family—my father, four older sisters, and their parents—lived very comfortably in a brownstone in a neighborhood that eventually became Harlem. There was always money enough. My mother’s father was a lawyer, taciturn and unsmiling—a disciplinarian with no shade of gray in his thinking. Both sides of my family were solid in a way that doesn’t arouse much interest from the outside, their conflicts and dramas—if there were any—remained safely inside their skulls.
Edward Bernays was different: inspirational, energized, provocative, bold. He revered his uncle and, believing that traits and talents show up in succeeding generations of the same family, felt that he had inherited a good deal of Freud’s flair and ingenuity. He deemed himself the father of public relations, although there was a question as to whether he or a man named Ivy Lee had actually provided the sperm. In any case, after a stint as a Broadway press agent, he coined the phrase Counsel on Public Relations,
and set up a counseling office in the mid-1920s, with my mother as unequal partner, and a staff of more than a dozen. He used his brain the way a superior athlete uses muscle plus timing. He dreamed up improbable things. For instance, with the American Tobacco Company as client, he persuaded nice
women to start smoking in public during a period when a woman with a cigarette in her mouth or fingers was viewed as a lowlife. He accomplished this by asking several debutantes to walk down Fifth Avenue smoking what he called torches of freedom.
Throughout the Depression, when most Americans struggled to feed their kids, when hundreds of thousands went jobless, and despair was the most common emotion, my father continued to make piles of money. His P.R. services, like those of bankruptcy lawyers, were considered by many businessmen and institutions to be not a luxury but a necessity. I was used to being rich in a way only someone who has never been poor is used to it. I almost never thought about money.
Under several layers of bourgeois camouflage, my mother was a bohemian.
Among her friends had been the literary moths—Franklin P. Adams, George S. Kaufman, Marc Connelly—who drank and traded witticisms at the Algonquin Round Table. She had been a Herald Tribune reporter when most women her age already had a couple of children, and fancied herself a nascent novelist. But for reasons she kept to herself, she encouraged her husband to make the kind of decisions that are often arrived at by both the man and the woman whose lives will be most affected by them. He loved being the boss; she, apparently, was willing to be bossed. Given the choice, she might very well have chosen the West Side; its informality and energy, its fierce sense of neighborhood, suited her temperament. But my father would rather have lived on the Bowery alongside the bums than among Jews and assorted Old Worlders on the Upper West Side. If you put a drop of ink into a pail of water, it will dilute in a few seconds. This was my father’s Jewishness—he trusted that it would disappear in the watery East Side. To be fair to him, he was a thoroughly secular man who very early decided to rely on his own imagination, intelligence, and skill to get him to where he wanted to go. The idea of applying to a divinity was, for him, as unthinkable as sacrificing a live chicken every time he needed to change his luck. Having also decided that Jewishness was a matter of religion rather than heritage, he rationalized his impulse to pass
in the largely Christian world that was Manhattan’s Upper East Side and resisted the Jewish label by saying, I don’t believe in God. I have no religion.
He expected the same of his children, although he did tell me when I was very little that I was nothing
and that when I grew up I could choose any religion I wanted. I think he viewed the idea of religion in the same way he chose a street to live on or a pair of shoes—easy to change when the spirit hits you.
For a few years before the war we lived in the Sherry-Netherland Hotel in an apartment that occupied the entire twenty-seventh floor. My sister, Doris, and I shared a bedroom. We had a cook and a kitchen, but my mother often ordered our dinner from the hotel kitchen; it would arrive under a silver-plated dome wheeled in by a waiter who came up on the back elevator. Although we usually had meat for dinner, whenever my mother went out for the evening she would order a vegetable plate for Doris and me, thinking, no doubt, that this sort of food was healthier for children. We had boiled and naked cauliflower, carrots, mashed potatoes, string beans, and asparagus arranged prettily on a round platter. I looked in vain for the meat.
Anna Freud Bernays, New York, late 1940s.
Letter from Freud to A.B., 1930.
The hotel doorman was suited up like a Russian general, with golden epaulets and something that looked like a coiled miniature fire hose pinned to the front of his uniform. Since this was the favorite New York hotel of visiting movie stars, there was always a crowd clutching autograph albums and waiting under the canopy to pounce on Rita Hayworth or Tyrone Power or Spencer Tracy. One Saturday morning, in the grip of mischief, my sister and I decided we were goodie-goodies and better do something about it. Excited, howling with rapture, and starting out on our floor, we scrambled down twenty-seven flights of back stairs, overturning a large laundry cart on every floor, spilling out used sheets and towels. We were inexperienced vandals, and when we reached the ground floor, instead of retreating back upstairs via the elevator, Doris locked herself in the lobby’s men’s room while I gave myself up and confessed. The manager, obviously torn between rage and servility, assured our mother, now on the scene, that it was just a childish prank and not to worry. He banged on the door of the men’s room, pleading with Doris to come out.
The Central Park duck pond, which froze in winter, lay directly below our living room window. It had a bucolic, ad hoc shape and a graceful, arched stone bridge like something in a fairy tale; I waited for trolls. When we had outgrown our governess, my mother hired a series of Barnard College girls to look after us when we came home from school and before she returned from the office. I fell in love with a couple of them—especially Phyllis, who looked like Hedy Lamarr. I played in Central Park at least three times a week for years, until I was old enough not to need supervision. The park was our front yard.
There was a pony pitch where, for twenty-five cents, you were hoisted aboard the animal and led several times around an oval of soil, while the poor old beast beneath you creaked and rocked like a boat. I considered a pony ride perfect bliss, but it was a pleasure withheld from me—not because we couldn’t afford it but because it was deemed bad for me to have what I wanted simply because I wanted it. There was a birdhouse, and llamas, and a tiglon, the only offspring of a tiger and lion in the whole world. Cages were spartan—a concrete floor, a tree stump, and bars. The animals sat there glumly or walked back and forth, over and over again, side-stepping their poop, in a fever of boredom. The polar bears had a cave and a waterfall, the sea lions a small lake with a concrete structure in its center, where the seals sunned themselves and occasionally squawked like donkeys. Zoos were no more than jails for animals, but no one ever said this. All you had to do was look into their eyes.
Living on the Upper East Side meant making a contract with an orderly and predictable style. Mr. Bernays rang for the elevator every morning at eight o’clock to be taken down to the ground floor where he wished the doorman an impersonal good morning and entered his chauffeur-driven Cadillac, which whisked him downtown to the Graybar Building next to Grand Central Terminal and some years later, to Rockefeller Center, where he rented office space in the Time-Life Building. His wife and business partner—Miss Fleischman"—repeated this maneuver exactly an hour and a half later, having done the day’s grocery shopping over the phone and taken a long, scented bath.
Sunday evening party chez Bernays. A.B. sitting on floor (right) next to sister, Doris, 1947.
Around 1939 we moved to 817 Fifth Avenue, on the corner of Sixty-third Street, one of the few luxury buildings whose management was willing to rent to Jews. Our apartment had separate bedrooms for me and Doris, a kitchen and a pantry with shelves enough to hold plates and assorted tableware for fifty people, and a dining room my mother had custom-painted by an artist who specialized in interior murals to look like a tropical rain forest full of brightly colored birds and exotic flora. Milk made me gag; I told my mother about it, but she insisted that I drink a glass of it each day. Every morning I emptied my milk glass behind the radiator in the dining room. The spilled milk had been cleaned away by the next morning when I repeated again this small gesture of defiance, the maid, silent as always, apparently unwilling to snitch on me.
The living room, furnished with good contemporary pieces—and equally good antiques—was at least twenty-five feet long. Sometimes we rode in the elevator with a beautiful woman with blue-black hair and severely chic hats with a full-face veil. She was often accompanied by her daughter, a girl about my age, who looked at me with disdain. We never spoke, but I stuck my tongue out at her behind her back. My mother said the woman was Gloria Swanson, a silent movie star put out to pasture.
Except for the dining room our apartment was as neutral as a model room on Bloomingdale’s furniture floor. There was no way to tell what sort of people lived there except that they had oodles of money and liked original artwork. My parents, guided by my father, who knew precisely what he liked and rarely questioned his own taste, had bought several paintings while on their honeymoon in Europe: two by Raoul Dufy, one of them an oil of a French harbor. There was a Jules Pascin that embarrassed me: two girls sitting on an armchair. You could see the underpants of the older girl; I always looked away from it. On the piano stood a two-foot woman made of polished wood, all curves. This was the work of the sculptor Elie Nadelman, who, when an impoverished immigrant artist, had asked for the hand of one of my father’s sisters, Judith, and was turned away on the grounds that his poverty and prospects made him an unsuitable suitor.
No one left shoes or socks, apple cores, magazines, or cigarette butts around; if they did, the maid was instructed to pick up and do the necessary with these gritty reminders of daily life. If she failed to do this there was no second chance. Likewise, Sixty-third Street was always swept clear of detritus—no scraps of paper flew up and around, no garbage cans overflowed with grapefruit rinds and dog food cans. No old chairs were left in the gutter, empty boxes, or dead cigar butts. Outdoors was just like indoors. It was an area rather than a neighborhood, just one gray, severe apartment building after another, most of them erected in the 1910s and 1920s; and home to thousands of people who dressed up to go outside, rarely spoke to strangers, and threw away or mended things as soon as they showed signs of wear. Every apartment building in the area had a freight elevator used by boys delivering food from local shops, drugs from Larrimore’s, and spirits of various kinds from Sherry Wine and Spirits. All the gears in this machine worked smoothly and silently, oiled with money. You rarely heard of a robbery or other violent crime. We felt as secure as a safe in the vault in the bank at the corner of Madison and Sixty-fourth Street.
Early one morning, still in my pajamas, I went, as usual, into my parents’ bedroom and saw my mother sitting up in bed, crying into a linen handkerchief. I had seen her cry only once before, when I was very young and had wandered out to the porch of a rented summer house and found her alone, sobbing quietly. Now, crying with more vigor and blowing her nose, she paid no attention to me. I’d never seen her distraught, and it sent prickles along the skin of my arms and legs. My father told me that Germany had just invaded the Sudetenland and there was probably going to be a war. My mother said it was the end of the world. My father had steely blue eyes that refused to transmit messages—except those that said off limits.
Eight years old, I wasn’t sure what a war involved, but it didn’t sound promising. I looked at my mother’s face, streaked with tears, and began to worry; to ask her about it seemed out of the question—she had retreated somewhere she did not want me to enter.
And still, we lived an Edith Wharton kind of life, though somewhat scaled down from the plush way of life her characters enjoyed—we never had footmen. My father, an eccentric shopper, bought the mummy of an Egyptian princess at an auction; it lay inside its glass case, a thick X-ray film, lying over its chest like a shield, and disclosing the shadow of a pistachio-size scarab under the bandages. I enjoyed having it there in my living room and viewed it not as a corpse so much as a royal personage. But my mother hated it, would not look at it, and badgered my father until he had it removed and installed in his office, where it lay for years atop a table in his conference room.
My East Side smelled like money. Money to buy things, beautiful clothes, antiques. Money to eat at expensive restaurants and eat berries out of season. To have repairs made as soon as something was torn, broken, or leaking. To hire people to pick up after you, to cook meals and wash up after them. That’s how we spent our money, and still there was more. But money was not the whole story, as there were plenty of high-priced places to live on the far side of Central Park, like the Dakota and the Apthorp.
From the time I was about ten, it was obvious to me that the Bernays family had more money by far than most people in the United States. This gap increased my determination to look like everyone else my age; the impulse to blend was an imperative stronger than the one instructing you to be yourself.
I had but a dim notion of who myself
was, and besides, I hated it when people looked at me, certain they could see something embarrassing that I couldn’t. Was my slip showing, were my stocking seams meandering? Was a dog turd stuck to my shoe? My hope was to be a generic young lady, smartly turned out but never, never eye-catching.
However irrational a notion, it seems to be true that people who don’t have much money find the lives and disorders of the rich more piquant than their own. The fact of being rich makes a person automatically interesting even if they have a boring personality. I was ashamed of being rich, of living in a hotel and of being driven to the City and Country School, where we went until 1939, by Jack, the Bernays’ uniformed chauffeur. My sister and I made Jack stop the car several blocks from the school building, where, mortified by the possibility of being recognized for what we were—extremely rich kids, far more so than the other rich kids who attended this private school—we would get out and walk the rest of the way. Jack motored members of the Bernays family around the city in a Cadillac for many years until the war and gas rationing made a private car impossible—unless you wanted to trade on the black market, something my parents refused to do. Jack was released from his job. I never knew his last name.
Jack, the Bernays’ driver, late 1940s.
My parents had no reluctance or even mixed feelings about having money. They never apologized, denied, or even tried to disguise their riches. Whenever my mother needed something made of leather—handbag, wallet, passport case—she headed for Mark Cross on Fifth Avenue. A dress? Bergdorf Goodman, where the saleslady knew her name and size. A tie for my father? Countess Mara’s shop on Park Avenue, where every tie had impressed on it a medieval tiara. Shoes? Ferragamo. She bought fish at a place on Madison she called Tiffany-by-the-sea
but was actually Wynn and Treanor. A jewel or two? Cartier, a store both more posh and more personal than Tiffany, where you were apt to bump into tourists and arrivistes. And on and on, always top of the line, the most exclusive, cleanest, quietest, perfume-smelling swishy, and above all designed to make the customer feel desirous and desired.
When my sister and I were very young our mother bought our shoes at Indian Walk on Madison Avenue. They X-rayed your feet to make sure shoes and feet were a match. They gave you a paper Indian chief’s headdress or a balloon when you left the store
Before heading to a party young girls inserted themselves into party dresses with stiff buckram to make the skirt stick out like a tutu. Before the war, these were light-colored silk or Egyptian cotton with puffed sleeves and a wide belt. During the war you were in danger of growing out of your clothes and not being able to buy replacements as pretty. In any case, a girl’s delicate party dress underscored the prevailing assumption that we were expected to behave like angels-in-training. Sugar and spice and all things nice—that’s what little girls are made of
—we heard this with nauseating regularity.
Little boys wore short wool pants, gray or dark blue, a cutoff version of men’s trousers. When they reached a certain age—around ten—they graduated to long pants. This passage was so significant—the sartorial equivalent of rites of puberty or