Brilliance: 101 Short Stories, Essays, and Insights to Improve Communication Skills
By Armani Talks
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Brilliance is a collection of 101 short stories, essays, and insights to improve your soft skills. A trait of a brilliant person is someone with high levels of self-awareness. The higher the self-awareness, the better this individual can navigate the world. The stories in Brilliance will spark inspiration
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When Good Employees Stop Caring
I saw this article a few days ago that wrote something along the lines of:
‘A record-high amount of people are quitting their jobs.’
As I read the article, I noticed something.
A lot of these people were not quitting their jobs to start a business.
They were quitting their jobs to find another job.
Which meant there was a management problem.
I do believe that a lot of people have gotten lazier as of late.
Since a lot of infrastructures are set up, the masses have no clue what consistency and grit are about.
On the other hand, too many numbers have desensitized us to other humans.
Employees included.
In this article, I am going to explain why good employees stop caring.
Too Many Numbers
Too much analytics is not a good thing.
It’s easy to keep focusing on the metrics so much that we forget why those metrics exist in the first place.
‘Why do they exist?’
To provide useful value.
The entity that is providing useful value is a person.
Not seeing that will lead to poor judgment.
We have more data tracking tools than ever.
A regular guy can have 40,000 followers on Twitter.
But do they really perceive it like that?
40,000 people are a lot of people.
However, since the followers have been digitized, we just see numbers on a screen.
If a manager sees numbers on a screen for too long, they will lose perspective.
Put the data analytics down and go back to the basics.
Learn about human nature.
The Primal Need for Appreciation
Humans need food.
Humans need oxygen.
These are the physical sides to us.
But want to know something else?
‘What?’
Humans also need appreciation.
Appreciation is a big driving factor in why we do what we do.
As a manager, if you want to get the most out of your employees, you need to evaluate the intent.
The intent comes down to viewing their work ethic.
What is it like?
Are they consistent?
Are they delivering?
If so, praise them either in front of others or on the side.
Fulfill their primal desire for appreciation.
Why Appreciation Has Plummeted
‘Are you really saying that employees are quitting at record-high rates due to a lack of appreciation?’
That’s not all I’m saying.
Clearly, this is a complex problem.
A complex problem cannot always be reduced to one answer.
However, I do believe that appreciation is something that will get the most out of the employees that you do have.
I’ll share an example.
There was this time when I was the External VP of my fraternity.
I was in charge of throwing events.
Not going to lie… I hated the position.
I was doing too much small talk with others.
I’m normally a lowkey guy and I didn’t want to be in all these events.
One day, I go to chapter.
I’m annoyed.
I just came from a 3-hour dinner and wanted to chill.
In this particular chapter meeting, our president introduced a new concept.
We were going to praise 1 fraternity brother for what they bought to their position.
Ironically, I was the brother chosen for this meeting.
One by one, everyone goes around the room talking me up.
They were saying stuff that embarrassed me:
‘I don’t know how you are put in any event and are already making friends. It terrifies me to create small talk.’
I realized that these guys appreciated the work that I did.
Once I felt appreciated, I was like:
‘Let me look out for the bigger goal. I’m not just working for myself, but rather… the fraternity.’
Quiet Quitting
There’s this concept known as quiet quitting.
I was introduced to this lately.
The concept, from my understanding, is when the employee doesn’t go above and beyond in their role.
They only do what is required.
As I heard this concept, all I thought was:
‘And??’
They are getting paid for what they were hired for.
Why are we putting a label on it?
You shouldn’t expect everyone to be ambitious from the get-go.
Most people are just coming to their jobs for a paycheck.
This may get under a manager’s skin.
But it is what it is.
When you see someone who is always doing more than expected:
LOCK IN ON THEM.
Praise them and ask them if they want more responsibilities.
Instilling a New Culture
When Sam Walton was scaling Walmart, he was doing what a lot of other CEOs were not doing.
‘What?’
He was sharing information with his employees.
The reason he did that was because he wanted them to feel like they had ownership.
By giving them clarity, they knew WHY they were doing what they were doing.
If you pull a lot of employees to the side and ask them:
‘Do you know WHY you are doing a series of tasks?’
They are going to shrug their shoulders.
That’s your fault as the manager, my friend.
They should know the macro and the micro.
The micro is their role.
The macro is how their role has an impact on everyone else’s roles.
By giving them clarity, you give them direction.
When you give them direction, they move with an extra pep in their step.
Focus More On The Soft Skills
Too many tools are not a good thing.
I truly do believe this.
It makes us small-time thinkers.
Center the business on people first and technology second.
This allows you to keep the important thing the important thing.
Soft skills are more important than ever.
The basics are what I call it:
A strong understanding of psychology.
Proficiency in emotional intelligence.
Team working.
Supreme listening skills.
Focus on these and you’ll see yourself attracting good employees and magnifying great employees.
What I Learned from Alfred Hitchcock
When I was a kid, I’d go to the local library to get books.
My mind was blown when I found out you could rent movies too.
My younger self thought:
‘If I could rent movies all along, why the hell am I wasting my time renting books??’
I go to the movie section and eagerly peek through the selections.
I was very disappointed.
All the movies were whack!
Old school Planet of the Ape movies and Alfred Hitchcock movies.
Who the hell is Alfred Hitchcock??
Sound’s like a bird.
Anyways, curiosity got the best of me and I decided to watch one of his films.
The movie I rented was called Birds.
My Experience with Alfred Hitchcock
When I watched Birds, I was pleasantly surprised.
It was a thriller about when birds attack and disrupt ordinary life.
What a strange concept, I thought.
But Alfred Hitchcock was able to make it work.
Since I was pleasantly delighted by the movie, I went on to rent more of his films.
That’s when I saw:
Psycho
Frenzy
Rope
Each movie was amazing to me.
He was creating thrillers without many special effects.
His movies were based in the 70s, so he had little to work with.
However, despite having little to work with, he was providing a lot.
What I Learned from Alfred Hitchcock
‘So, what did you end up learning from Alfred?’
I learned that you can produce a lot with a little.
As I got older, I once again got curious about Alfred.
More specifically in 2020.
When the lockdowns were going on, I was like:
‘Let me check out some Alfred Hitchcock interviews.’
In one of the interviews, he shared a story about an actress who came to his office crying.
She was upset by something Alfred did…
Or didn’t do.
Alfred asked her what was wrong.
She said:
‘Alfred, most directors are giving me endless feedback on set. But you don’t say anything. You don’t make me change anything!’
And he was like:
‘That’s because you’re doing a great job.’
Done.
End of the conversation.
Keeping the Important Thing the Important Thing
When you have little, that’s when you can do a lot.
Because with little, you have no choice but to keep the important thing the important thing.
A lot of whiners make excuses.
They are like:
‘I would be able to make movies too if I had x, y, and z.’
They begin listing off all these gadgets and software that they don’t have.
While completely undermining what they do have.
‘And what do these whiners have, Armani?’
Their mind.
That’s what made Alfred’s work stunning.
It was the simplicity.
The simplicity allowed him to keep the story as the king.
How He Became the King of Drama
Alfred’s fundamental philosophy can be broken down to the following line:
‘Allow the audience to know more than the character.’
Wow!
It seems too simple, doesn’t it?
But think about any suspense film that you watch.
All those movies have one thing in common.
The audience members know more than the idiot who is about to go into the dark forest.
‘Don’t go into the forest lady! The monster is in the forest!’
By knowing something that the character doesn’t know, we automatically become engaged.
Think about this, my friend…
Alfred’s philosophy that created endless work can be boiled down into 1 simple line.
This further highlights how Alfred could do a lot with little.
How to Apply Simplicity to your Life
We have so many tools nowadays.
But just collecting tools for the sake of collecting tools creates clutter.
The more clutter that you have, the more you lose sight of the bigger picture.
James Clear’s blog is a good example of eliminating all clutter.
There aren’t any graphics or anything like that.
Just his ideas.
A first-time reader may say that the blog is a tad bit boring.
Why not spice it up, James??
But a long-time reader loves how it isn’t too flashy.
Lack of clutter allows the idea to remain king.
Therefore, when identifying how to add simplicity to your life, you need to know what you are prioritizing.
With content, it’s always the idea that is king.
Without the idea, you have nothing.
Once you have centered the idea in your workflow, now tools are only bought in if it helps amplify the idea.
Otherwise, you can live without it.
Reinforce the Fundamentals
No matter which interview it was, Alfred always gave glimpses of how he viewed filmmaking as a craft.
By viewing it as a craft, it was easier to reinforce the fundamentals.
Storytelling is a subject that combines a lot of other topics.
You need to be good with words.
Need to understand human nature.
Need to understand how to activate nostalgia at will.
Be proficient with technology along with a lot of other topics.
That’s why you’ll see a lot of people in the later parts of their life trying to create some sort of content.
The sum of their wisdom is naturally pulling them towards telling stories.
The cool thing about our era is that we can get a head start.
Rather than mastering storytelling later in our lives, we can start early.
That’s when a lot of lessons from old-school filmmakers like Alfred come to life again.
How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Comparison leads to a lot of new information.
When comparing yourself to others, a contrast is created.
All knowledge exists in a state of contrasts.
You don’t know something.
New information is presented.
Now you know something.
Therefore, comparison is not bad.
But it becomes bad when too much comparison happens.
With social media, you open your phone and are suddenly bombarded with images of people having something you don’t.
Next?
Jealousy ensues.
Next?
Despair ensues.
Next?
More comparison ensues.
To stop this toxic cycle, read on…
How Comparison Starts at a Young Age
I wrote this one newsletter where I talked about being overly competitive for a while.
I shared how I was too competitive in Toastmasters which led me to be jealous of the other speakers.
Once I stopped competing with them to compete with my prior day self, I became inspired by them.
Creativity = Unlocked.
Once I hit sent, I received an email from a reader.
He asked:
‘Why do I compare myself to others so much? I can’t stop.’
I asked the guy more questions.
Eventually, I was led to his background.
He was Korean.
‘Um..so?’
A lot of Koreans have strict parents.
In their household, a B is perceived as a D and a C is perceived as an F.
Whenever this guy would do good in a class, but not get an A, his parents would be like:
‘What happened? Tom’s kids got an A in the same class, how come you didn’t?’
I interacted with that reader some more.
At a young age, he was being compared by his guardians.
The subconscious mind picked up the pattern.
And the subconscious mind held onto the pattern.
The Homeless Man
A few days ago, I was getting out of 7/11.
I bought some chocolate milk and was given some change.
As I was walking to my car, I saw this man with a dirty shirt staring at me.
He motioned his face like:
‘Got any change?’
But he never said those words.
After seeing his body language, I motioned:
‘Do you want this change?’
When I motioned to give him the change, his eyes lit up.
Once I gave him the change and went to my car, I felt sorry for him.
That was my default reaction.
It’s because it was hot as fuck that day in Florida.
And he was waiting outside asking for money.
‘Why is the homeless man’s story important?’
Because I never thought for a second to compare myself to him.
It’s because I saw him in a moment of struggle.
The Confidence Irony
In my book, Speak Easy, I break down a law known as the Confidence Irony.
This is when we undermine how confident we are.
Then we over-amplify how confident someone else is.
It’s best to flip it.
View yourself as more confident than you really are.
And view others as less confident.
The only time you begin comparing yourself to others is when you find a certain part of their life where they excel.
Not only are they excelling in that field…
But that’s the same part of your life where you’re not doing so well.
It’s like the successful single businessman who envies the family man’s family.
But the broke family man also envies the successful businessman’s riches.
Call that duel jealousy.
You compare yourself to others when you view them at a higher level than you.
In doses, it’s fine.
But do it too much, now it becomes poison.
How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
The first thing to understand is that problems are built into nature.
Just because Johnathan seems like a golden boy in all facets of his life…
He has a great family.
A great job.
A great physique.
Doesn’t mean that he’s perfect.
Secretly, he does drugs and is unable to stop.
He struggles with the fear of losing everything.
And that fear only amplifies his drug usage.
By humanizing Johnathan like I was able to humanize the homeless man that day, it’s easier to realize that too much comparison is a waste of time.
But gathering everyone you’re jealous of and finding flaws in them to humanize them is tedious.
You don’t have to do it with everyone.
Just find one person you constantly compare yourself to.
Then do your best to humanize them.
You may lack information on the setbacks they have.
But remember, problems are built into nature.
So, if you are unable to articulate what their setback is, then just assume they have one.
This allows you to humanize them and keep it pushing.
Be Too Busy to Compare Yourself to Others
The act of finding setbacks in someone that you’re jealous of is just a mental experiment to realize that no one is perfect.
But to nip this problem in the bud, the solution is to level up.
Improve a minimum of 1% daily in something.
Anything.
Make today better than yesterday and tomorrow better than today.
Naturally, this allows you to focus more on your life and less on others.
Someone who is comparing themself too much to others most likely doesn’t have much going on.
A bit of jealousy is good.
It serves as a compass.
You’re jealous of Ricky’s body.
Chances are you need to get in shape.
But being jealous of Ricky’s body and not going to the gym is jealousy gone wrong.
Go to the gym, bud.
Focus more on that.
The tiny 1%’s adds up.
Soon, you’ll realize Ricky was never your enemy.
He was simply living his life.
Hopefully, now you are living yours.
6 Tips To Remember While Mastering your Craft
Let’s say you want to master the craft of writing.
It’s not only the writing that is important.
There are behind-the-scenes forces that influence your words.
The proper reading.
The proper research.
A disciplined writing practice.
Dealing with criticism and much more.
No matter what craft it is…
Mastering it takes work.
In this article, you will learn 6 tips to keep in mind when you begin your journey to mastering your craft.
Which brings me to the strange tip of number 1.
1. You NEVER Master Your Craft
Think about a master in any field.
Do they ever say something like:
‘I have officially mastered my craft.’
?
No.
Because if they think that, then their desire to keep practicing will plummet.
When their practicing plummets, their craft plummets.
True masters keep mastering for life.
They don’t speak in finite terms.
Which has a deadline. Like:
‘I have mastered my craft.’
They speak in infinite terms.
They say:
‘I will keep sharpening my blade, forever.’
2. There is ALWAYS Something to Improve
Stupid people think they know everything.
Smart people think they have yet to know anything.
The reason smart people behave like this is because they are aware of a lot of things.
However, one caveat of being smarter is knowing what you are ignorant on.
And the smart person knows they are ignorant on plenty…
This is a good problem to have.
Because this keeps them learning.
Similar to mastering a craft.
Maybe you have been practicing writing for some time.
Your ideas are breathtaking.
However, you have the tendency to ramble.
The sentences can be shortened.
When you have a finite mindset, you find this to be annoying.
‘Damn! When am I going to figure this out already?’
But when you have the infinite mindset, you’re like:
‘Yes, a new challenge for me to work on!!’
3. A Practice Routine Keeps You Consistent
A lot of creators don’t have an idea problem.
They have a deadline problem.
They have a deadline problem because they don’t take the initiative to set deadlines.
Without deadlines, the mind will overthink.
It doesn’t need to be a complex practice routine either.
The simpler, the better.
For example:
‘Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, I will write a blog.’
‘Evenings are for reading.’
‘Mornings are for writing.’
To better plan your day, be sure to check out my personal organizer planner, Simplify.
Take the guesswork out so you stay disciplined.
4. Keep Learning More Theory
Practicing is a great way to give your nervous system more data.
You learn the theory better by doing than learning the theory strictly with the theory.
But that doesn’t mean that you undermine the theory.
When you have practical experience, theory becomes a safe haven.
For a while, you were doing things a certain way.
There was a lot of guesswork involved.
But then you read a book that breaks down your moves into formulas.
When you see that your moves have already been codified by someone else, that’s when you’re like:
‘Whoa!! There’s a method to the madness!’
This is how education was meant to be in the first place.
Practical application and theory are meant to be friends, not enemies.
Therefore, lead with street smarts.
Fill in the gaps with book smarts.
5. Interleaving Learning
While mastering your craft, you’ll notice yourself becoming a polymath.
Interleaving learning is cross-combining subjects to build a holistic understanding.
But wait!
You may be tempted to study a bunch of random subjects to force yourself into a big picture view.
I recommend you don’t do that.
Instead, organically drift off to a new subject.
When I started writing, I had to set up my site.
When I set up my site, I organically learned more about domain setup, hosting services, and WordPress.
So, I naturally hopped from writing to information technology.
Once I learned more about information technology, I realized:
‘Whoa, computers are just a series of electricity turning on and off.’
What the hell is electricity…really?
So, I got curious about that subject.
Think about this:
Writing -> electricity.
Similar hops in subjects will happen to you.
As you aim to master your craft, you will learn plenty of topics along the way.
6. Clarify the Vision
The mind is prone to entropy.
It’s wired to get distracted.
When Steve Jobs got fired from Apple, he went on to start a new company called Next.
His most important role was to keep reiterating the vision to his employees.
Because the employees would often drift off to majoring in the minors.
Steve would fall for that trap too.
Therefore, he had to constantly remind himself of the vision.
The more the vision became clarified, the more the desire built.
The more the desire built, the more the work just took care of itself!
Keep reminding yourself of why you started this craft in the first place.
Keep adding more clarity to it.
Tackle it from multiple angles.
Eventually, that vision will always remain at the forefront of your mind.
Now the work will take care of itself.
Always Stay Sharpening the Blade
A strong purpose is not built from hoping to retire on a beach and drinking sour amaretto’s all day.
True purpose is becoming awesome at something.
Anything.
If you follow the ArmaniTalks brand, then you are aiming to get better with words.
Stick with the skills.
By mastering 1, you begin to master plenty.
And if you ask me…
That beats being a beach bum any day.
How to Deal with Changes in Life Like a Winner
Change is a part of reality.
Those who try to suppress change often end up dealing the worst with it.
It’s much better to deal with change.
Expect it.
Conquer it.
One of my first times realizing the importance of dealing with change was when I was forced to read this book called Things Fall Apart in high school.
For most books, I SparkNotes’d it.
But something in my gut told me to read this book.
So, I read it.
It was a book about a powerful warrior in Africa.
The book highlighted his gradual journey to gaining physical strength, growing a family, and winning respect in his tribe.
It seemed like he was going to be a winner.
But things began to change.
A new religion set up shop in his village.
Soon, he was finding it difficult to adjust to the new religion.
The culture was shifting.
His son abandoned his roots and converted to the new religion.
The powerful warrior saw his life falling apart.
I won’t spoil the book for you.
So, allow me to share how to deal with changes in life.
The 2 Parts of Reality
The 2 forces of reality are:
Constant.
Change.
In terms of human experience:
Awareness is constant.
But what changes is your life (mind & body).
Your body has changed from a baby to now.
Your mind has changed from a baby to now.
Another example is the screen that you are reading this blog from.
The screen remains the same.
But during your web surfing session, I’m sure you saw a lot of different content.
YouTube posts.
Other blog articles.
And tweets.
Screen = Constant
Content on the screen = Change.
These 2 parts of reality are baked into the human experience.
Why People Hate Change
‘If change is one of the forces of reality, why do so many people hate it?’
They hate it because of the emotional strings.
The subconscious mind loves familiarity.
It’s the conscious mind that wants to evolve.
Have you ever had that moment when you saw your friend making moves?
Let’s say one of them started a business and has been crushing it.
Now you want to start a business.
Your imagination is engaged and you can hear the coins pouring in.
One problem…
You keep self-sabotaging yourself.
The motivation is plagued with self-doubt, analysis paralysis, and inconsistency.
Why?
It’s because the subconscious mind wants things to remain the way it always has.
You have a nice cozy job.
Everything is predictable.
Why switch it up?
The subconscious mind doesn’t like change too much.
It loves predictability though.
How to Deal with Changes in Life
I believe it’s smart to willingly introduce changes to your life.
If things have been working for too long, then it’s wise to switch it up.
One of the simplest examples is the gym.
If you go to the gym and lift the same weight all the time, then there is no growth.
The general rule of thumb is to change it up.
Make it difficult for your muscles to adapt.
It’s the same with reality.
Occasionally introduce changes to your life…
It doesn’t have to be volatile changes either.
Let’s say you are someone who is always going for a walk on a treadmill.
Well, switch it up and go walk in the park.
‘Okay… what’s the point of that? I’m still walking.’
Doesn’t matter.
It’s the act of willingly introducing change that is key.
By introducing gradual changes every now and then, the subconscious mind no longer detests change.
Deal With It
Here’s some uncomfortable advice.
It may piss you off.
The advice is:
Deal with it.
‘Deal with it? This is your bright advice?!’
Okay, I’ll switch up the words to make it more powerful:
Thrive under it.
I recall in my first internship… one day, I got to work late.
Once I got to work, there was this guy named Hoa who came to me and was like:
‘Whoa, you’re here?? I was worried.’
For a bit of context, this was my first engineering-related job.
I was very nervous about being exposed as a fraudulent engineer.
Hoa took me under his wing and taught me the ropes.
We built a close bond.
I thought he was being sarcastic with his comment, so I was like:
‘Very funny, Hoa. I know I’m 20 minutes late, but there was a lot of traffic!’
He still had a serious face.
Then he said:
‘You didn’t hear? The new management that bought our company just fired half of the staff. Amy and Braulio are gone.’
Just like that, half of the company was slashed.
This was a tiny company where everyone knew each other.
I soon heard people crying in the walkways.
But what’s done was done.
We couldn’t do anything about it.
So, we needed to find a way to thrive.
The Adaptable Nervous System
‘You never know how strong you are until you have no choice.’
Over time, the few remaining members of the company adjusted to our coworkers’ departure.
We learned their:
Systems.
Workflow.
Processes.
We became smarter through the tragedy.
They eventually found new jobs as well.
We were all better off in the long run.
All change has a silver lining buried within it.
Over time, the silver lining will present itself.
Deal with Change and Grow with Change
No matter which field you are in..
Which state you are in..
Or which stage you are in…
Change is inevitable.
There are 2 forces of reality:
The constant and the change.
Awareness always remains the same.
It is nature that goes up and down.
Accept the reality of nature.
And it will no longer be intimidating.
How to Stop Making Everything About Yourself
To stop making everything about yourself, listen to listen, rather than listening to respond.
Listening to listen is when you listen in streams.
Listening to respond is when you listen in fragments.
‘Can you give me an example of listening to respond?’
Sure.
Imagine Sam has been learning about commercial real estate as of late.
One day, his cousin Rohit is in town.
Sam takes Rohit out to eat.
Sam asks Rohit what he has been up to.
Rohit says he has started studying commercial real estate as of late.
If Sam was listening to respond, then simply hearing commercial real estate was all that was needed for him to stop listening.
Commercial real estate resonates with Sam’s experiences.
So, now he stopped listening and is looking to respond.
Sam desperately wants to say:
‘I too have been learning about commercial real estate!’
But if Sam was listening to listen, then ‘commercial real estate’ wouldn’t be such a sticky phrase.
He’s not stuck on that fragment of the conversation.
Instead, he is still listening to the stream of Rohit’s response.
Which ends with Rohit saying:
‘That’s when I realized commercial real estate wasn’t for me. My real love was always engineering.’
Dangers of Assuming
‘Why do so many well-intentioned people make everything about themselves?’
There are a lot of reasons for this.
Sometimes, it’s a poor focus.
Other times, they are relating to your story to build more rapport with you.
And other times, it’s because they are assuming.
Assuming is dangerous to your charisma.
That’s why there is the quote:
When you assume, you make an ass out of u and me.
This is also why it’s difficult to listen to people you are close with.
There’s a high degree of familiarity.
You think you know everything about them.
When you think you already know most things… the likelihood of assuming skyrockets.
Sometimes, the assumptions hold to be true.
Other times, the assumptions are dead wrong.
It’s important to melt away assumptions and remain curious.
The more curious you are, the easier it will be to stop making everything about yourself.
Dealing with an Egotistical Personality
Talking to an egotistical personality is draining.
This is when you are being socially intelligent.
Listening.
Responding.
Asking questions.
But they still have this draining energy that sucks the life out of you.
Maybe this is a person you can’t get away from.
What then?
If it’s a person you can’t get away from, then use them as an emotional workout.
Just like going to the gym requires pain to grow…
Dealing with difficult personalities builds social skills.
Other than that, the main thing we can do is control our behavior.
Avoid being an egotistical person.
There will be times when we accidentally get caught in the act.
Our attempt at showing that we related to their story caused us to take the spotlight away from them.
Their body language shows they are not pleased.
Own up to it and say:
‘My bad… You were saying?’
Occasionally taking away the spotlight isn’t bad.
But not giving the spotlight back is a felony in all 50 states!!
What Does an Emcee Do? | Tips for Emceeing an Event
There’s a difference between a speaker and an emcee for an event.
Both are important.
Just know that the 2 are different.
By knowing the difference, you’ll be able to perceive public speaking from multiple angles.
Most events that are scaled often have both a speaker and an emcee.
By learning the intricacies of both positions, you’ll feel confident no matter which position you are called to take.
At the end of the day, both positions require words.
But how the words are delivered is different.
Difference Between a Speaker and Emcee
The speaker has an in-depth talk.
While the emcee is the glue guy.
‘Hmm, the in-depth talk seems much more important.’
Not quite.
Both serve a unique function.
As the glue guy, the emcee is the bridge between the speakers and the audience.
They will be the person:
Entertaining the audience.
Introducing the speakers.
Transitioning from 1 speaker to the next.
The better of a job that an emcee does, the more at ease a speaker is.
If the emcee sucks, then the speaker and the audience will feel uncomfortable.
‘How do you determine if the emcee sucks?’
If they don’t know a lot.
One of the main traits of an emcee is to know a lot.
They should know the setup of the event location beforehand.
They should know interesting facts about the speaker.
And they should have a rough idea of what the speaker will be talking about!
How to Prepare as an Emcee
Normally, there is an event coordinator that will ask a person to be an emcee.
It’s best to buddy up with this event coordinator from the beginning.
They will be able to give a rough idea of what the event is about.
From there, it’s best to get an introduction card from the speakers.
This is basically a short summary of the speaker.
These cards will have the credentials of the speaker, why they should be taken seriously, and an idea of what the talk is about.
An emcee can read off the cards.
But in my opinion, it’s better to memorize the cards.
By memorizing the cards, the emcee seems more professional.
Also, by memorizing the cards, it’s easier to transition from speaker to speaker.
While others are walking around in the forest.
The emcee has a bird’s eye view.
Opening Monologue
Have you ever seen an award show before?
Normally, the emcee or the host of the event has an opening monologue.
This opening monologue is a short funny talk to keep the mood light.
A lot of the audience members came as guests with someone who was invited.
So, as guests…they have no clue what to expect.
In the opening monologue, it’s smart to give a rough idea of what the event is about.
Let’s say the event coordinator wants to throw a seminar on leadership.
Then in the opening monologue, you can:
Tell a funny story of when you were under the supervision of a poor leader.
Explain why this seminar is needed.
Explain how the audience will learn leadership in this seminar from quality speakers.
The opening monologue is the first thing before introducing the speakers.
From there, it’s a game of transition.
Being the Hype Man
Where the speakers talk about their topics in depth…
The emcee is the glue