Assumptions Can Mislead: Failures in Health Care and Elsewhere
By M. C. Dye
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The stories led to the book's title and chapter titles. Most chapters begin with stories. Some of the twenty-one chapter titles are: Urgent!; Tenacious Assumptions, Dogged Beliefs; Automatic Assumptions Can Mislead; Betrayed; Now Will You Listen; Our Doctors Need Our Stories; When We Are Patients; Hospitals; Recognizing Assumptions. Because medical errors are a serious problem, we, as patients, and our medical professionals need to be aware of incorrect assumptions that can compromise our care. Orlando has shown us how we can recognize assumptions and get the story right. Whether in health care or elsewhere, getting the story right can sometimes be crucial.
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Assumptions Can Mislead - M. C. Dye
Copyright 2013, 2014 M. C. Dye.
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Contents
Acknowledgments
Preface
1. Orlando’s Model
2. Tell Me Your Story
3. Orlando’s Enigma
4. Urgent!
5. Tenacious Assumptions, Dogged Beliefs
6. Automatic Assumptions Can Mislead
7. Betrayed
8. Now Will You Listen
9. The Need to be Heard
10. Acknowledge Me
11. Respect Me
12. Our Doctors Need Our Stories
13. How We Hear Our Doctors
14. When We Are Patients
15. Hospitals
16. Hospitals and Hierarchies
17. Hierarchies
18. The Milieu in Health Care
19. Recognizing Assumptions
20. Reflections
21. One Final Story
Appendix A
Relaxation-Meditation Exercise: Talking to Your T-Cells
Appendix B
Conversations with Orlando and the Author
Appendix C
Robert J. and Ida Orlando Pelletier Memorial Service
Notes and References
The Author
The US Review of Books
Reviewed by Caroline Blaha-Black
The Orlando Model tells us we cannot assume we have adequately responded to someone’s need until we can verify that our actions have adequately responded to the need.
The gist of the Orlando Theory, as developed by the late Ida Orlando, R.N., M.A., is that people need to communicate effectively in order to bypass errors in judgment. Whether it is in the health care industry or elsewhere, people must learn to listen to each other in order to avoid mistakes that can sometimes cost a person’s life. Specific actions that will be taken afterward need verification, in order to resolve the situation at hand properly.
The author has had a long career in health care and was a student of Orlando, the founder of the above theory. The book is replete with specific examples from the health care industry as well as from everyday life. One notable example is when Edna, a participant at a conference designed to help women handle child delivery and labor, told the leader that she can’t breathe after being wrapped in a tight blanket to simulate the birthing experience. The leader, however, told her that childbirth is supposed to feel like that. Edna continued to complain that she cannot breathe, and the leader kept telling her that it is the correct feeling for being in childbirth. . . .
The author keeps a clear, concise tone throughout the book and shows the reader how assumptions can mislead and create possible emergency situations, even death. At the end of the book, there is a relaxation exercise to help boost the body’s immunity, as well as an explanation of the basics of good communication. This is a great book for nurses, doctors, and other health care professionals.
...Few people outside the nursing profession have likely heard of Orlando, who promoted a systematic approach to health care centered on the idea that medical workers should truly listen to their patients’ stories and verify accurate treatment protocols instead of making assumptions. The author, a close friend of Orlando’s as well as her former student and colleague, presents a book of stories about people of all ages in a wide variety of situations in health care and elsewhere
that demonstrate the power and accuracy of Orlando’s ideas. These concepts seem quite simple (the person in the situation needs to stay in the moment and follow what occurs
), but in practice, they require a great deal of presence of mind. This collection of telling anecdotes reveals how Orlando’s theory offers solid solutions for dilemmas that might otherwise be difficult to solve speedily and efficiently. Unfortunately, many medical professionals rely on predetermined notions rather than closely attending to patients’ stories, which can lead to...misdiagnosis. These narratives, mostly written in a clear, succinct style, reveal how applying Orlando’s approach can be exceptionally effective not only in the health care arena, but in other areas of professional engagement and everyday life....
- Kirkus Reviews
To the memory
of my Dad
W. J. Paul Dye, M.D., F.A.C.S.
a quintessential country doctor
who understood the art of listening
To the memory
of Ida Jean Orlando, R.N., M.A.
my teacher, mentor, and friend
To David Dunham
my husband and remarkable partner
without whose assistance
this book might not
have been possible
Author’s Note
All stories in this book are true. If the story is referred to in the Notes and References, all information remains the same as noted there.
Except for Ida Orlando, myself, family, and friends, the names and identifying characteristics of all others are changed to protect their identity. The format separates specific stories from discussion. Memories in discussions are presented as accurately as possible.
Unless otherwise noted, all doctors referred to in this book are physicians.
Acknowledgments
This book would not have been written if I had not been a student, then a colleague and close friend of Ida Orlando (1926-2007), whose theory is the basis of this book. I believed her work needed to reach health care, including medical care, and it needed to reach the general public. It is impossible for me to adequately thank Ida Orlando for what she offered us through her theory. Those who read this book may also find themselves thanking her. She deserves the utmost praise.
At first Ida was not sure this book made sense. She believed the general public would have difficulty carrying out her theory because,
she said, it takes discipline.
I agreed that without thought it can be difficult. However, with further discussion she supported the book because she knew I planned to write about it through true stories, and she knew I was thoroughly familiar with her theory including the difficulties in carrying it out in practice. She eagerly awaited my first presentation of her theory to the general public in a Dinner Lecture Series at the Wellesley College Club on the college campus in 2008. Unfortunately she died before then. Her husband, Bob Pelletier, a few of her friends and nursing colleagues, some of my family, and people from the general public attended. She would have loved knowing that all responded very favorably. Many of them made a special effort to share their thoughts with me immediately after the lecture.
The lecture at Wellesley College would not have been possible had I not been asked by Andele Novak from the College Club to be one of the speakers in that Dinner Lecture Series. I am enormously grateful to Andele for that invitation which was my first opportunity to share Orlando’s theory with the general public. Their response convinced me that Orlando’s theory could be understood and even welcomed by those outside of health care. Their eager response bolstered me as I moved ahead, collected more stories, and began to write the first few chapters. That marvelous evening included a delicious dinner. Andele deserves immense credit for arranging an evening that went so smoothly and was so enjoyed by all.
Special thanks to Bob Pelletier for his continuing support. Though I did not need any more information about Ida’s work, after the Wellesley lecture Bob offered to give me all of Ida’s papers that were at their house. Come on down and get them, they’re yours.
I declined but thanked him for his generosity. Through many phone calls he told me how enthusiastic he was about the book, and he shared many wonderful memories about Ida. Unfortunately, he also died before the book was completed.
For about a decade beginning in the mid-nineties I worked as a consultant in Orlando Theory with the Nursing Department at New Hampshire Hospital, an acute psychiatric hospital with a major affiliation with the Geisel School of Medicine at Dartmouth. The Nursing Department had decided to put Orlando Theory into practice. It became clear that Orlando Theory was easy to understand, but for various reasons, including issues involving assumptions, it was not easy to practice. I am grateful to the dedicated staff at New Hampshire Hospital who shared with me their struggles and successes in putting Orlando Theory into practice. From them I learned much more than I ever expected.
Because of my work with the New Hampshire Hospital staff, by the time I left the consulting position in 2006 I decided to delve more into the issues of assumptions as relevant to Orlando Theory by writing this book. By then I realized that the struggles in putting Orlando Theory into practice needed much more consideration, and that the theory was relevant for a wider audience: health care in general, medical care, and the general public. I told Ida Orlando about my plan a few weeks before she died in 2007. It was in the spring of the following year that I took her theory to the general public in my presentation at the Wellesley College Club.
Another supporter of this book was Florence Wald (1917-2008) who is credited with bringing the hospice movement to the United States from England. Over the years we had stayed in contact. She telephoned me shortly after a visit with Ida at her home in Massachusetts which led to a conversation about Ida and her theory. Florence was familiar with Orlando Theory. Ida, Florence, and I were at the Yale University School of Nursing during some of the same years. In a later telephone conversation with Florence I told her about my book. She understood that I valued her support which she offered during that conversation.
I enormously appreciate the enthusiasm and meticulous reviews from three critique readers, all experts in their fields: Karen Baker, Clapham Murray, and Robert M. Vidaver, M.D. They were gracious to take time from their busy schedules. Other than my line editor and myself, these three critique readers were the first to read the book in its entirety. Their comments were invaluable, encouraging, and enriching. All recognized the importance of the content and how various themes played out through the stories. I also immensely appreciate that they wrote paragraphs in support of the book.
For nineteen years Karen Baker has owned the Country Bookseller, an independent book store. When the store’s early popularity led Karen to realize she needed a larger store, many volunteers from the local and surrounding towns formed a human chain to pass each book a block and a half through the center of town from the former store to the new store. The process was slowed only by those who read the covers as the books passed through their hands. Karen Baker knows literature.
Clapham Murray is a veteran character actor whose performances my husband and I have enjoyed for many years at the Barnstormers Theater, America’s oldest professional summer theater. He is Professor Emeritus of Theater Arts at New England College and its branch in Arundel, Sussex, England. He is the author of The Making of Daniel, an Amazon-Kindle book, and he was in the movie In the Bedroom produced a few years ago. Clapham Murray knows stories and story-telling.
Robert M. Vidaver, M.D., is Professor Emeritus of the Geisel School of Medicine at Dartmouth. From 1988 to 2008 he was Medical Director of New Hampshire Hospital, the acute psychiatric hospital affiliated with the Geisel School of Medicine, and Professor and Vice-Chair of the Department of Psychiatry. From 1988 to the present he has been serving as the Commissioner’s Designee to the New Hampshire Board of Medicine. Dr. Robert M. Vidaver knows health care.
I have not included by name many family, friends, and colleagues who supported and encouraged me throughout my writing this book, only because the list is amazingly long and I do not want to miss anyone who may feel they should have been included. I can’t count the number of times I’d go to town to get the mail and be stopped by one or more people whose comments included: how’s the book coming; how far along are you now; I can’t wait to read it; when will it be published; can I get a signed copy. I can’t thank them enough.
When I first told David Dunham, my husband, that I was going to write a book about Orlando’s theory through true stories, neither he nor I had any idea how essential he would become in the process from its inception to its publication. He knew about Ida and Bob through my telephone conversations with Ida during which she’d ask about David, and I’d ask about Bob. Through us they’d share their interests, such as how climate change seemed to be affecting birds in our yards. Both knew about Ida’s theory, and both knew Ida and I had a commitment to having this book published.
I had met Bob a few times, had occasionally talked with him by phone, and he and Ida had once stopped to visit with me on their way north to a winter vacation. But the following warmed my heart as much as it took me by surprise. At the Wellesley College Club lecture I noticed Bob and his group coming through the outer door, so I went over to greet them as they entered the lobby. Bob looked at me and immediately said, Hi, Mimi, where’s David?
I motioned David over, and they stayed together throughout the evening. David’s friendship was enormously supportive to Bob who was grieving Ida’s loss which had occurred only four months prior to that evening.
When I began writing the first chapters soon after that lecture, David offered to be my line editor and to comment on anything I wrote. He had been praised as a line editor by others, we already worked well together on writing and other relevant matters, so I accepted his offer. He knew he would be helping me with my computer, because I invariably rely on him to sort out my computer struggles.
As time went on I realized that I had not only an in-house line editor and computer consultant, I had a partner who was available to me any time I needed his advice. No matter what time of day, or what he was doing, he took time to listen to my thoughts and ruminations, and he’d offer advice. He told a friend that we occasionally had spirited discussions
about his editorial suggestions, but we both agreed that the final version should be mine. His involvement was not only emotionally supportive, his line editing kept the writing crisp, and our discussions helped to keep me focused. If he believed some content was not clear, I would rewrite it.
Then it came time to electronically send the manuscript to Trafford Publishing. That is way beyond my competence. David had already worked on the book cover with Maryann Evans at Kingswood Press, where he has for many years been a printer, so he and Maryann also agreed to work together to put the manuscript into the proper format to electronically send it to Trafford. I am grateful to Bill Swaffield, owner of Kingswood Press, for his invaluable assistance, and to Maryann and thank her for her expertise and commitment. Her involvement also made it possible to include my ideas before it reached Trafford.
I believe I would have found a way to write and publish this book by myself. But it would not have been the book that it is without David’s various skills, his emotional support, and his commitment to the ultimate product. There are not enough words to thank him. That he is on the dedication page as well as what I said there is a measure of my thanks.
Preface
Assumptions are interwoven into the very fabric of our lives. When we make an assumption we take something for granted. We accept it as fact. Incorrect assumptions can have powerful effects on our emotions and our lives. Incorrect assumptions can lead us astray. If we fail to recognize our incorrect assumptions we may find ourselves in situations that range anywhere from minor misunderstandings to disastrous outcomes.
Medical errors are a serious problem in health care.¹ Misunderstandings anywhere in the health care system can lead to patient complications, even death. Our medical professionals need to be aware of incorrect assumptions that can compromise the process of making accurate diagnoses, reasonable treatment plans, and carrying out those plans.
This book includes innumerable stories about people of all ages in a wide variety of situations in health care and elsewhere. All the stories are true. Through these stories the book describes and discusses our need to be understood, the types of assumptions we make, and how Orlando Theory² can help us recognize assumptions before we act on them. This is a book about us and how our assumptions affect us.
This book also includes information on how our minds influence our health and our immune systems. By how we hear our doctors and how we understand ourselves, we sometimes make and act on incorrect assumptions about our health. We can even talk to our T-cells, a form of biofeedback, to help us deal with bacteria in infections, viruses, and cancer. T-cells are important fighters in the body’s immune response to foreign cells.³
We need to have others who will listen and know what we mean. Incorrect assumptions can prevent accurate listening and reasonable responses. Orlando Theory offers us a way to listen and communicate clearly and accurately. It can remind us to be aware of our assumptions when we are in health care and elsewhere. Depending on the context, for ease in understanding, in this book Orlando Theory is also any of the following: the Orlando Communication Model, the Orlando Model, or the Model.
In recent years I presented Orlando Theory to a nursing school conference and to two conferences at New Hampshire Hospital, an acute psychiatric hospital affiliated with the Geisel School of Medicine at Dartmouth. Another presentation was in a Dinner Lecture Series at the Wellesley College Club on the Wellesley College campus. Lively discussions and various questions followed.
At one of the hospital conferences one participant seemed angry and demanded to know why schools of nursing, medicine, and business don’t know about this. She well understood that using Orlando Theory can prevent serious errors in health care. Another participant said she was familiar with the content and, because she felt it was so valuable in her personal life, came to the conference to learn more. Three student teachers at the Wellesley College Club lecture said they were going to begin to use what they learned from the presentation in their student teaching the very next day.
Various students and colleagues in health care have encouraged me to write this book to respond to the many questions and to the need for clarification about Orlando Theory. They recognize its value in health care and elsewhere, but find it especially difficult to use in intensely emotional situations, the very situations where clear communication is not only needed, but may be essential to prevent violence or to save a life.
Ida Orlando and I had many conversations about the difficulty health care students had in learning her theory. Our discussions inevitably returned to the issue of assumptions. Because she believed it takes discipline to recognize when we are making or acting on an assumption, she supported my bringing this issue to the general public. She was well aware that any of us in our daily lives can too easily act on assumptions that may adversely affect us.
My professional and personal relationship with Ida Orlando, my life experiences and professional career in mental health (faculty, administrator, supervisor, clinician), and many years as a psychotherapist have made it possible for me to write this book.
ASSUMPTIONS
CAN MISLEAD
1. Orlando’s Model
It was 8:03 a.m. I had just arrived at my office at a rural mental health service. The phone rang. Our secretary said, Dr. McKay is at the hospital. He wants to talk with you. He says it’s urgent.
Put him on,
I said. He asked me to come to the hospital immediately because Mavis, my patient whom he admitted a couple nights ago, had pulled the fire alarm. We need to get her out of here.
I assured him I’d be right over. As I arrived I was surrounded by Dr. McKay and some nurses. Firemen were clumping around in their tall black boots, yellow slickers, and firemen’s hats. A couple policemen watched me as I went over to Dr. McKay. He immediately told me that Mavis had pulled the fire alarm early this morning. He wanted me to transfer her to the state psychiatric hospital. I said I’d talk with her.
As I walked into her room I saw a small, slightly gray haired woman in her pale blue, rumpled gown, looking forlorn, sitting on the side of the bed. She quickly looked up, then said Hi
as she smiled in recognition of me. I acknowledged her also with a smile, a nod and Good morning.
I sat down in the chair near the bed, asked her how she was, and how the night went. I’m okay now.
She briefly hesitated, then continued. A while ago I woke up. It was dark. I didn’t know where I was. I was scared. I got out of bed, went into the hall, but I still couldn’t figure out where I was. I saw the fire alarm and pulled it.
She looked thoughtful, then continued. When I was a little girl, my mother told me if I ever got lost to find a policeman or a fireman, or even pull a fire alarm, and they would come and help me.
What happened then?
I asked. A nurse came and brought me back to my room.
In further conversation Mavis said she knew she was in the local hospital. She knew its name. She knew she had been admitted for a change in medication because she had been hearing voices, and her thoughts had been confused. She admitted feeling anxious and distressed because the nurse didn’t talk with her, only returned her to her room. She thought the nurse was angry with her. She had not seen anyone since then. She was no longer hearing voices, and her thoughts were no longer confused. She wanted to see her husband. She wanted to go home.
I reassured her I would talk with Dr. McKay, and we would have her husband come and take her home. We agreed it was indeed good news that the medication change was successful. She calmed down during our conversation. She was pleased that she would be discharged and would be going home. I was with her less than ten minutes.
Dr. McKay met me on my way down the hall. He urgently asked me when I could send her to the psychiatric hospital. I told him she no longer needed any hospital. I explained why she pulled the alarm and added that she was no longer confused or hearing voices. The medication change was working. Mavis knew who she was, where she was, why she had been admitted, and she knew that it was now morning. I said she could be discharged whenever her husband could come, and she was eager to go home. He acknowledged what I said, went and talked with her, then called her husband who came for her.
* * *
When Dr. McKay called me to come to the hospital, he had already made the assumption that the symptoms for which he had admitted Mavis had contributed to her pulling the fire alarm. Since the nurse who led her back to her room had not talked with her, it appears that she had made the same assumption.
When you make assumptions you take your thoughts and/or feelings to be a true version of the situation. You take them for granted without checking them out, without verifying them for accuracy.
Yale professor Ida Orlando discovered that successful communication is a process which includes five ingredients that flow from one to the other. The first is Perceptions, what we are aware of through our senses: what we see, hear, taste, touch, or smell. Being keenly aware of our perceptions is very important because this is the first information we receive. When we start interpreting what we have perceived, we are in the second and third ingredients, Thoughts and/or Feelings. The fourth ingredient is Validation, verifying accurate understanding of a situation. The fifth is Action, which should only be taken after verification. That action should also be verified to ascertain whether or not it has been relevant to the situation.
Had Dr. McKay transferred Mavis to the psychiatric hospital without including her version of the situation, he would have been acting on an inaccurate, unverified assumption. It took only a few brief questions for her to tell me why she pulled the alarm and give me the information that indicated she no longer needed any hospital and was capable of returning home.
* * *
Dr. Daley saw Gertrude, a middle-aged woman neatly dressed in dark brown slacks and a red sweater, looking at a book while waiting to see him. He was treating her for a chronic medical condition. He felt encouraged that her symptoms were not preventing her from reading.
They had developed a comfortable relationship. So, as she walked into his office, he asked her what she was reading. She hesitated, then volunteered that she could not read or write English. She admitted she often brought a book because she did not want to be drawn into conversations. She further admitted that for some time she had wanted to talk about this with him, but had felt too ashamed to bring it up.
He was puzzled. He knew she had come from Germany. Though she was not working, she had told him she had held executive positions here. So he asked how she had managed to do this. She said that her son, who can read and write English, handled all her paperwork. When she was at work, secretaries typed her dictations and filled out papers. She wanted to look for another job, but had been struggling with the ever present fear she’d be found out. She asked if he knew of any courses she could take to learn to read and write English. With the help of his staff she successfully attended such a program, and was accepted in a job that required writing skills. Dr. Daley and his staff were thrilled when Gertrude proudly read and filled out new office forms at an office visit a few months later. It had never occurred to them to question her when she had previously taken such forms home.