Podcast #429
Why You're Not Doing What You Say You Want to Be Doing






You know what to do, so why aren't you doing it? If you've ever been stuck in this cycle of being motivated to change, but not being able to get started or sustain new habits, you are not alone. This is a common struggle and there are a 3 things that are probably keeping you stuck. This episode will help you break the cycle of frustration.















In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: 







The 3 reasons you are not doing what you want to be doingHow to break the cycle of frustration Re-establishing your inner locus of self-respect and self-trust


 
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Trish I discovered this podcast exactly a week ago. And I've been listening to you everyday, your voice is so soothing, your voice sounds so genuine. I'm writing this review not knowing what to say to you because there's so much, but you said just write a review so others can be reached and touched by this podcast. I've recently started going to church again, I'm currently on the Daniel fast. So I truly believe it's not a coincidence that I came across your podcast. Thank you for all of your teachings. I can't wait to join the College of Confidence to learn more. Stay safe. Love Maritza. 




 
Note: Anyone Looking to Go Back to Church Here are My Favorite Online Church Communities:
 

National Community Church, with Pastor Mark Batterson

Elevation Church, with Pastor Steven Furtik

Transformation Church, with Pastor Michael Todd

Vous Church

Equip and Empower, with Christine Caine

Joyce Meyer Podcast

 
3 REASONS YOU NOT DOING WHAT YOU WANT TO BE DOING:
 


I “know” what to do, so why am I not doing it Trish? 



I get asked this all the time.



There are 3 main causes...



You don't think you'll get the results.You don't *know* that you are capable / you're stuck in your own self-conceptYou don't manage your mind as much as you manage your habits.



Build your confidence on a solid foundation and you will see breakthrough in your consistency and ability to show up for yourself. When you show up for yourself from a place of boldness and resilience, you *will* get results. 


 
HOW TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF FRUSTRATION
 


Slow down.



Pick one of the causes - just one - and go deep into your self-coaching work to rewire how you're thinking about it.



Sometimes, we have to take a risk and take action; proving to ourselves that our efforts are never wasted. 



Pray: ask God to show you who you really are. When we ask, He answers; but we must slow down and listen, because the answer is often in a whisper. Breakthrough happens in the quiet. 



Create structure to how you manage your mind. 


 
RE-ESTABLISHING YOUR SELF-RESPECT AND SELF-TRUST
 


Often we aren't doing what we say we want to do because our self-respect is tarnished.



If you don't respect yourself, you won't show up for yourself. The more you don’t show up for yourself, the more you will learn that you're not worthy of trusting yourself; and the vicious cycle continues. 



The way out is to learn to love yourself.



Not through frou-frou self-love practices, because let's be honest: you won't do them consistently enough to get the results because well, you already struggle with consistency and you don't think that they work anyways or that you have time.



We need to dial into a deeper self-love.



And that's what I'm teaching in my upcoming live workshop in the College of Confidence. The workshop is this week, and it'll be recorded for you - but I'd love for you to come live to...