From the outside it appears you have the perfect marriage. You and your spouse seem to have it all - beautiful children, successful careers, a lovely home and many of life’s trappings most people can only dream of. To the outside world you’re the perfect wife, and your husband is loving, doting, generous and supportive.


But behind closed doors he’s a completely different man: your husband is mean, insufferably controlling, condescending and a serial cheater. To him, the quality and integrity of your marriage is based on sex, and he insists that you have sex with him exactly when and how he wants it.


This is how my guest Lola (not her real name) lived for years in her fake happy marriage. Lola lived this nightmare, until one day she found the courage to leave her husband and take on a shocking new post marriage identity.