Tammy's Reviews > Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children

** spoiler alert ** I've been struggling with my 8-year-old. He's very independent which often translates to bossy. If he doesn't get what he wants he will have a tantrum. He likes to argue.

Things I liked in this book . . . .

You and your child each have a different job. Your child's job is to test your resolve, so he can learn about reality. A parent's job is to withstand the test, including anger, pouting, tantrums and much more.

Consequences transfer the need to be responsible from the parent to the child.

The focus of learning consequences needs to be that the child understands that the problem is himself, not an enraged parent.

Teach your child that when they have a problem they should first examine themselves to see what they might have done to contribute to the problem.

The child who is never frustrated never develops frustration toleration. You are teaching him that he is entitled to always be happy and that all he has to go do get others to do what he wants is to cry about it.

A child needs to understand that the solution and the answer to his problems always begins not with someone else, but with him.