Summer Meyers's Reviews > Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

The first chapter of the book was awful. It opens with a story about Sherri and she is guilt ridden at every turn, from her mother ("you never have time for a little old lady!"), to her boss ("Could you have these done by tonight?"), to her family ("Whats for dinner?" "You can't make me!" etc etc).

Its pretty much awful.

After reading through that agonizing beginning, the next few chapters for me were like, "YES! YES! YES!". I loved it. I thought this was it! I have this and this problem and this book is going to help me.

About page 80 I had lost my enthusiasm again and could only think "This is a bunch of baloney." What irked me was the extreme examples he gave for people submitting and resenting it (ie not able to say no) and that the only real solution was to say no and to hell with the relationship.

Case in point-- Wife is chronically late. Husband nags and begs his wife to be on time. She doesn't respect his boundaries by not changing and coming on time. Solution? Leave with out her. After doing this a couple of times, she'll come around.

... really?

I get that it is important to protect yourself, to stand up, to say "this is not good for me". But it is also important to preserve your relationship with your spouse and your children and "my way or the highway" is not going to cut it.

eh, interesting read. I did mark a few things that I liked. Otherwise, I'd keep searching on how to say no.