Boundaries in Dating Quotes

“Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.”
― Henry Cloud and John Townsend, Boundaries in Dating

“If you do not allow yourself to rush into falling for someone that you have not become friends with first, you will be more sure when you let yourself go to the next step. Certainly you might find yourself having all sorts of feelings. Enjoy them. But do not believe them. Only believe your experience of getting to know a person and seeing if you can share at a deep level. See if you find that he or she is a person of the kind of character you would trust as a friend. And as important as all of that, see if that person is a person that you would like spending time with if there were no romance at all. That is the one true measure of a friend, a person with whom you like to spend time, having no regard to how you are spending it. “Hanging out” is fulfilling in and of itself. And that, long-term, requires character, and in the deepest of friendships, shared values as well. You would want your best friends to be honest, faithful, deep, spiritual, responsible, connecting, growing, loving, and the like. Make sure that those qualities are also present in the person you are falling in love with.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Dating

“Where there is deception there is no relationship.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Dating

“Blame is one of the gravest problems we face, spiritually and emotionally. It keeps us more concerned about being “good” than about being honest.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Dating

“All things being equal, a bad marriage is probably more painful than a bad single state.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Dating

“There is a very important rule in dating and romance: To be happy in a relationship, and to pick the kind of relationship that is going to be the kind you desire, you must be able to be happy without one.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Dating

“Loneliness is stronger than resolve, willpower, or discipline.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Dating

“Not Dating Sadly, some people who really want to be dating are on the sidelines, wondering if they will ever find anyone, or if anyone will find them. This is often caused by boundary conflicts, when people withdraw to avoid hurt and risk, and end up empty-handed.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Dating

“If you are caught up in passionate lust or with someone who is, then chances are that these issues are not being worked out. The lust is keeping you from integrating your soul. Just like a drug addict is not growing when he or she is using drugs, your soul is not growing if you are acting out lust.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Dating