The Case Against the Sexual Revolution Quotes

“If sex isn't worth of its own moral category, then nor is sexual harassment or rape. If we accept that sex is merely a service that can be freely bought and sold, then we have no arguments left to make against the incels who want to 'redistribute' it or the army officials who want to offer their troops 'convenient arrangements'.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“posters that say ‘don’t rape’ will prevent precisely zero rapes, because rape is already illegal, and would-be rapists know that. We can scream ‘don’t rape’ until we’re blue in the face, and it won’t make a blind bit of difference. It has to be possible to say simultaneously that rape is reprehensible and that it is OK – in fact, essential – to offer advice that could help to reduce its incidence.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“So I am going to propose an alternative form of sexual culture – one that recognises other human beings as real people, invested with real value and dignity. It’s time for a sexual counter-revolution.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“Men are encouraged into ‘cad’ mode, pursuing temporary relationships that offer all of the pleasures of cheap sex and none of the responsibilities of commitment.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“In the contemporary United States, about half of women who have abortions report that they were using contraception when they became pregnant,18 and about a quarter of all pregnancies end in abortion.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“We should treat our sexual partners with dignity. We should not regard other people as merely body parts to be enjoyed. We should aspire to love and mutuality in all of our sexual relationships, regardless of whether they are gay or straight. We should prioritise virtue over desire. We should not assume that any given feelings we discover in our hearts (or our loins) ought to be acted upon”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“just as Jeffrey Epstein supplying underage girls to famous and powerful men sounds like particularly bizarre fiction. And yet these things really happened.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“Prostitution has never been a matter of personal choice or female empowerment. Rather, the role of 'buyer' versus 'seller' has always been determined not only by sex but also by race, nationality and - above all - class.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“We have smoothly transitioned from one form of feminine subservience to another, but we pretend that this one is liberation.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“Only have sex with a man if you think he would make a good father to your children - not because you necessarily intend to have children with him, but because this is a good rule of thumb in deciding whether or not he's worthy of your trust.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“If you wanted to design the perfect environment for the would-be rapist, then you couldn’t do much better than a party or nightclub filled with young women who are wearing high heels (limiting mobility) and drinking or taking drugs (limiting awareness).”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“My perspective on this is often condemned as ‘carceral feminism’ by those who favour the abolition of prisons and policing, typically on the grounds of racial justice. My response to this accusation is that the women and children who make up the vast majority of rape victims are disproportionately likely to be both poor and non-white.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“Put differently, there are different modes of male sexuality: the mode that encourages commitment and the mode that encourages promiscuity”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“In fact, I’d go further, and suggest that almost no one is a walking gender stereotype – I have some stereotypically feminine traits and some stereotypically masculine ones, and I’m sure you do too.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“I conformed to the beliefs of my class, including liberal feminist ideas about porn, BDSM, hook-up culture, evolutionary psychology, and the sex trade, which will all be addressed in this book. I let go of these beliefs because of my own life experiences, including a period immediately after university spent working at a rape crisis centre.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“Sex workers can act as sources of sex advice only if we understand sex to be a skillset that must be learned and refined across different partners, with good sex a result not of intimacy but of good technique. In this framing, sex becomes something that one does to another person, not with another person. All of the emotion is drained away”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“Once you permit the idea the people can be products, everything is corroded.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“I propose a different solution, based on a fundamental feminist claim: unwanted sex is worse than sexual frustration.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“We should not regard other people as merely body parts to be enjoyed. We should aspire to love and mutuality in all of our sexual relationships, regardless of whether they are gay or straight. We should prioritise virtue over desire.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“The sexual playing field is not even, but it suits the interests of the powerful to pretend that it is.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“I suppose, at least in my case, that a post-liberal feminist is just a liberal feminist who has witnessed the reality of male violence up close.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“They show no regard for their partners’ intimate lives and discard them immediately afterwards.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“liberal feminism can’t or won’t answer: Why do so many women desire a kind of sexual freedom that so obviously serves male interests? What if our bodies and minds aren’t as malleable as we might like to think?”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“I’m going to argue in this book that Western sexual culture in the twenty-first century doesn’t properly balance these interests – instead, it promotes the interests of the Hugh Hefners of the world at the expense of the Marilyn Monroes.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“This is the central principle of liberal feminism taken to its logical conclusion: a woman should be able to do anything she likes, whether that be selling sex or inviting consensual sexual violence, since all of her desires and choices must necessarily be good, no matter where they come from or where they lead.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“In other words, almost all women are weaker than almost all men, and any feminist analysis of the power dynamic between men and women has to begin with the recognition of this fact.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“Modern contraception has allowed us to stretch out that young adult stage artificially, giving the illusion that independence is our permanent state. But it isn't - it's nothing more than a blip, which some of us will never experience at all. Either being 'a someone' or needing 'a someone' is our lot as human beings. That means that we have to find a way of being dependent upon one another.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“The libidinous public asks a lot of the women it desires. And when il all goes horribly wrong, as it usually does, this public labels these once-desired women 'crazy' and moves on”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“No one will expect to become incapable of having healthy intimate relationships for the rest of her life. Everyone knows that having sex is not the same as making coffee, and when an ideology of sexual disenchantment demands that we pretend otherwise the result can be a distressing form of cognitive dissonance.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century

“But, while young women should feel free to get hammered with their girlfriends or highly trusted men, doing so among strange men will always be risky.”
― Louise Perry, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution: A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century