You're struggling to make progress in your mentoring career. What can you do to build resilience?

I believe every person has a different perspective in life, which may be completely different from mine. As a mentor, it is very important to understand, to listen, and to feel the perspective of others whom you are mentoring to truly contribute positively to their life. One of my biggest hurdles in mentoring is not always using my experience in my life to mentor but to pull from their experiences to help create a roadmap that suits their personality.

The success is not doing a positive thing once. In the same way, failure is not taking one wrong decision once. Success is doing a positive thing again and again. Similarly, repeating wrong decision again and again results in to failure. This repetition requires a strong will - a perseverance - a resilience. This is applicable for mentor-mentee relationships to get success out of it. Though, I recommend in Coaching rather than mentoring. Mentoring is like spoon feeding where mentor thinks that he knows everything and does accordingly Whereas in Coaching, coach gives vision to learner who uses his own intuitive, comprehensive, analytical skills which are supported by coach. Coach participate in this journey along with coachee.

Building resilience in your mentoring career is crucial for overcoming challenges and achieving long-term success. Here are some strategies that I’ve taken inventory of over my career: 1. Reflect on past successes. 2. Cultivate a growth mindset. 3. Seek support and feedback. 4. Practice self-care. 5. Set realistic expectations. 6. Stay flexible and adaptable. By defining your purpose and building resilience, you can overcome obstacles and make a lasting impact as a mentor. Keep striving for impact, and never lose sight of the difference you’re making in the lives of others!

The first is to understand your strengths and opportunities. Then focus on your strength through constant improving by taking small steps. It be successfully you need to make positive steps. I realized that daily improvement when you do a stock taking at the end of year, you will be amazed to see how far you have achieved. You should take ownership of the process and enjoy a journey. As I took those steps sometimes you hit rocks but you will know that the journey (those steps) have challenges which make you stronger.

Resilience for me is about my journey through dyslexia and being rubbish at school. Growing up, having the opportunity to be guided by mentors who believed in me. Their challenges shaped my growth, turning obstacles into lessons. Embracing each experience, I learned the value of guidance, persistence, and self-belief. My mentors, now my friends, helped unveil my potential, teaching me that true strength lies in overcoming adversity with grace. Their impact is profound, leading me to success and personal fulfilment. Remember, resilience is about moving forward, empowered by those who inspire us to grow.

Seeking feedback and support from others is a must! Those who can help in enhancing your skills, knowledge, and performance is key to helping build resilience. Support contributes to feeling appreciated, connected, and motivated.

Mentoring is to share lived. experience. From the moments in our life where mistakes have been made and we have acquired feedback that have benefited us; these we can share stories with others that elaborate on goodness, things to be mindful of, or that allows for input to new situations that that could help make others more aware. At the end of the day we all have perspective and mentoring is an opportunity to share our life with another. It can be a gift that can be held with as much resonance as the beholder dares to take in.

In my experience seeking feedback from people who usually disagree with you or see things differently from you might be able to give you the perspective you need.

Inspect and Adapt is a great mechanism to move forward One need to retrospect - What is working well? - Which practices doesn’t work? - What better can be done?

Je dirai qu'une des clés pour renforcer sa résilience est la compétence sociale. C'est la capacité à constituer dans son environnement des relations bénéfiques, à les maintenir et à les développer. Ainsi il faut avoir des pensées positives  : Je fais confiance aux autres et je compte sur leur soutien. J’ai un réseau relationnel au sein duquel chacun peut trouver un soutien et des conseils de la part des autres

Un mentor debe contar con la habilidad para ayudar a que la persona descubra sus competencias y aprenda a extraer de su ambito privado, elementos que le posibiliten aplicarlos al profesional. Usar las herramientas existentes y ponerlas en practica, a favor de los nuevos desafios y las oportunidades que surgen en otro dominio de su vida.

Según mi punto de vista el primer punto clave para poder empezar a desarrollarte como mentor, es haber vivido y superado una experiencia vital difícil que luego te permita poder ayudar a otros que estén pasando por una situación similar. Otro rasgo importante que en mi opinión debe tener un buen mentor, es entrenarse primero en su propio autoliderazgo. Esto incluye llevar una vida ordenada en base a sus prioridades y unos hábitos saludables ( actitud positiva, alimentación sana, entrenamiento efectivo ) que le permitan tener altos niveles de energía, imprescindibles para luego poder enseñar a otros. La tercera clave para ser un buen mentor, es ser un buen estudiante, desarrollarse de manera continua en crecimiento personal y profesional.

Often we seek a mentor who is in our field, but sometimes a mentor outside of our field may be even better. I have a medical student mentee who is going into surgery. Although, I am not a surgeon we have bonded over our interest in disparities research.

In my experience when you are responsible for training another person and passing your knowledge to them, you always get to the point where you do not know something, and it is your choice if you wish to pretend you know it all or embrace this and to use it for training purposes. Thinking together and looking for the solution together is amazing, bonding and generates trust thus producing realistic expectations.

Para fortalecer a resiliência, veja desafios e oportunidades como lições valiosas. Adote uma mentalidade de crescimento, encarando dificuldades como chances de evoluir. Esteja disposto a inovar, arriscar e explorar novas estratégias.

Everyone needs a way to decompress and manage stress. Your spouse/partner/ friend is always a good soundboard to listen. Your hobbies and activities can a positive effect on your stress. Sleep, activity and nutrition are paramount to alleviate a stressful lifestyle.

Getting away from one's desk. Self care I think one always forgets when one is busy. I was given some good advice. Document one thing you are proud of daily, gratitude lists and 8 things that you do for yourself a day, might even just be a word. A great book which is really worth reading is also Courage to be disliked, by Ichiro Kishimi. Stress is often caused by worry that our boss, our colleagues our clients don't like us. Its OK.

An example of stress control is to differentiate how you feel and how you react , it’s linked but differentiating help to mitigate the negative reaction n and focus how to manage how you feel first abd through many aspects start with good breathing , to break not to quite or over react, mentoring from someone you trust and with wisdom, be provided on your strengths and previous success stories and remember that you can use it for coming stress challenges too .

What needs to be a strength cannot be a weakness. This clearly implies that being a mentor means dealing with vulnerabilities at various levels and hence also undergoing emotions and that state of mind. Managing yourself as a mentor means believing in holistic well being that comprises physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well being. Doing this is no longer a luxury but an essential necessity 💯✌🏽

As a formerly burnt out professional, I focus on these 3 evidence based strategies for stress management and a sustained and effective burnout recovery. They are: feeling you are in control of your work, supportive relationships, and feeling you are in control of your wellbeing. When stress starts to get a bit much, these are the things I go back to prioritise.

As a mentoree, I would recommend to incorporate regular reflection into your routine, allowing you to learn from experiences and adapt your strategies. Also, acknowledging and celebrating your achievements and progress is vital. It boosts your morale and reinforces your resilience.

Little drops of water make an ocean. Staged reflections are important. My tips would be make a plan. Not the grand 5/10/20 year plan. Make a 6 -12 month plan. What is your ideal role? What skills does it require? Make a plan to acquire the deficit. Set mini goals /milestones. Have monthly check-in with yourself. You may miss that big goal but hit all the milestones leading up to it. Be kind to yourself.

Being kind to yourself is critical. Takes lots of self-reflection. - Set goal - Break the goal into smaller pieces attached to incremental realistic pieces of work - Set them into schedule form.

Analizar, reflexionar, ayudar y agradecer retroalimenta situaciones positivas. Identificar acciones propias buenas ayuda a potenciarlas y repetrilas. Reconocer la dificultad y las virtudes para vencerlas es el punto, luego poder alegrarse, celebrar el triunfo y por ultimo ayudar al otro, suma un doble valor, tanto para la persona, como para la otra. Es el pasaje perfecto de "victima" a protagonista.

Journaling might strengthen self-efficacy. Reflect after your mentoring session about what went well and what you learnt and may want to improve or what you want to start, stop and continue doing. Also use this journal to reflect on what you enjoy in the mentoring process to remind you about why you want to be a mentor. This could also help you distinguish who would be an ideal client and to whom you may want to say "no". Treat yourself to celebrate your achievements. Share your success stories with family and friends and on social media.

Never stop trusting yourself and keep doing your best ! Do not perform to IMPRESS....work to EXPRESS and you will never get disheartened or discouraged!!! Believe in yourself n your talent....always strive to upgrade your skills to keep up with the dynamism of the trade and Technical advancements. Thanks n Regards

Also it’s important to continuously keep upskilling yourself as a mentor. Learning from experiences with the mentees, learning to match up to their expectations will keep one motivated also to grow themselves. Also the reverse mentoring piece and being open to learn from mentees is a great way to keep one motivated as a mentor.

Enjoy your mentoring journey and keep capturing the AHA moments with mentees. These AHA moments can be your booster dose of energy and high frequency during the challenging times and thus will help you to be more resilient coming for the core of your purpose behind the profession.

Mmmm, if one is struggling to build resilience in a mentoring career, its time to reflect on that career! ? Bottem line, its not your pathway! Ones own resilience spills over into other peoples lives to empower thier resilience! They ( the receiver) gets plugged in , like a power point!

Always remember why you felt you could be a mentor in the first place. You felt you had something you could help others with due to the knowledge and skills you hold. Someone will benefit from your mentoring, believe in your abilities and good things will happen