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I am no expert. But since it's Sunday, I have enough time to contemplate how I feel and why. Life has been a ruckus lately. It keeps getting fussier at times. Being an overly sensitive individual; things aren't easy for me. So, when I'm feeling overwhelmed these are the steps I've broken down for myself which, I guess is working. • Getting deeper in my thoughts, to understand where it is coming from. Is it my past experience, my childhood trauma, my sensitivity or anything that has triggered my emotions? • After I get convincing feedback, I try and acknowledge it. "Yes, this is what I'm feeling and I know it's okay!" No matter what the world tells you, a little matter can be overwhelming for you. And IT'S OKAY. • I try to stay calm. Concentrate on my breath. Forgetting all that chaos build up, I try to concentrate on my breath. But, if the emotions are bursting out, I let myself cry. I don't restrict it. Because if I do, it'll be worse. • I detach myself from the person, or the situation that's bothering me. Because it's not wrong. It's self-care. • I try to focus on some decluttering activity, like writing my thoughts out, talking to myself, listening to music. And, with time even if it doesn't settle completely, it gets a little better. You cannot control others, you can't control a situation. What you can control is your reaction to it. It's not your duty to tell others how to behave or talk. But, you can take a conscious move to let them know how their behaviour affects you. But in the worst case scenario if cutting off is the solution, do it. #selfcare #selfawareness #yourstorymatters #loveyourself #mentalhealthmatters #mentalwellness #solvingproblems #peaceofmind

Today, a simple conversation triggered something very old. I had not felt that bad in years. There was no objective reason for it. But what we feel is always right and legitimate for the simple reason that we feel it, so: 1. I identified that an old wound had been ripped open. I named it and wrote it down on paper. I remembered all the times in my life I had felt like this. I went back to the root of it. I didn't discover anything new there but I knew that doing this once more was part of the process that would eventually bring me back to my senses and my happiness. 2. I acknowledged I was feeling terrible. I accepted that the despair was lasting longer and longer, and that I couldn’t seem to find my way out of it. 3. I allowed time and space for the inner devastation to lessen a bit and when I felt strong enough on my legs, I went for a walk. 4. I walked and walked, talking to myself aloud with the clear intention of being my best friend and helping myself out of this sick feeling. (Just put your headphones on and you will look like everyone else on the street even though you are talking to yourself.) 5. As I walked and talked, I started sorting things out and feeling better. I didn’t rush anything. I did a bit of energetic cleansing too. 6. I went back home and had a wonderful evening. Recap: 1. Identify the real trigger: 99% of the time it lies in the past. 2. Approve what you are feeling: always validate first, work on it later. 3. Create time and space in your body for whatever is present within you. 4. Walk and talk out loud: moving the body moves the energy and supports the flow of thoughts that will disentangle the situation. 5. Take all the time you need. Feel what to do next, don’t think it. 6. Once you feel the release, trust it and allow the life force to run freely through you again and bring you good experiences. #panic #lifecoaching #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #emotionalintelligence #emotions #anxiety

Not gonna lie, I'm white-knuckling it a bit right now. There's a lot of changes and challenges in motion that are messing with my sense of balance, and I have to filter many of my thoughts through my internal sub-committee to make sure the right voice is holding the megaphone. Ego, exhaustion, and imposter syndrome have a lot of opinions about how I should be thinking about things, and they're fond of rolling their eyes at wonder, wit, and rest. Should you be feeling the same, let this be a reminder that it's okay to not be okay all the time. Cut yourself some slack. Adulthood isn't kid's stuff. Find a way to put enough space between you and the challenge(s) so that you can get a clear perspective on what's real and what's imagined. Take a walk. Shut off your phone for an hour. Go for a drive and sing 80's pop songs at the top of your lungs. Scream into a pillow. And then find the truth in the middle of the noise and do something about it that turns the anxiety into action. Worry isn't reality. It's a stack of what-ifs setting fire to the bridge between doubt and done. You got this. And if you don't, ask for help. Because you and your dreams are worth it. Rock on. #tuesdaytips #mentalhealth #innovation #worklifebalance #kindness

Greetings Linkedin Family!🌟🌟 Hope you all doing well! Here I am with my thoughts on "Impulsivity and our thinking ideology" on #day8 of #100daychallenge of #findoutwitharzoo 💯💯 How dangerous are impulsive reactions and how important it is to quit it?🙅♀️ Friends, while a certain level of impulsiveness is common, too much of it has serious consequences on one's overall personality. I am sharing this from my personal experience as I also encountered impulsiveness in me at one stage of life wherein I took some decisions or acted on certain matters without much analysis but as I grew I realised that self-Introspection, thorough thinking and a detailed overview of the problem statement is very important before reaching out to a conclusion especially when you are taking some tough decisions that has high overall impact. While these behavioural traits cannot be expected to be changed overnight, one should always be conscious of his/her weakness and try to control or work upon that! Therefore, start with taking baby steps. 1. Condemn to take haste decisions if you feel that there is even 1% scope of re-thinking else you'll end up regretting about it. 2. Do not get blown away to react on the spot when you feel emotions like anger etc. 3. If you are under stress or in bad mood, keep it to yourself and deal with it calmly. Medidate or alienate yourself. Not being in right state of mind doesn't give you authority to behave in incorrect manner. Be mindful Following above steps, I have improved upon this upto a greater extent. Yes, sometimes situations do trigger us but that's our test time wherein we've to pass with flying colours.🎯🎯 Hope you're able to relate and get help from this! Stay tuned for more. LinkedIn LinkedIn Guide to Creating #impulsive #emotionalheath #awareness #betterme #beingme #linkedin #linkedinforcreators

You want matched effort and consistency? You have to be the person you expect to receive. 💣 Far too often you expect people to "fix" you or hold some secret power that'll make you better or feel more alive. WHAT?! Not only is that impossible, but you're seriously going to put your fate, your happiness, your inner power, your mental & emotional health into someone else's hands? Let's break it down 👇 - You're setting yourself up for heartbreak. Trust me - I know this one all too well. - You've lost control of who YOU are by playing a role of someone you're not. You're not someone else's puppet or convenience. You are a person with real feelings, wants, and needs. - You feel disconnected because you are. Remember when I said that you can't live on two sides of the same coin? Yeah, that. You can't pretend to be someone you're not all while pretending to be authentic to yourself & those around you. So, hear this - stop playing the victim and start holding yourself accountable for the people you allow into your life. Period. You have to change the way you do things in order to get different results. Same goes for relationships. Personal accountability sheds light on what's really happening on the inside - of you and the people you surround yourself with. 🗝 Happy Tuesday, friends! I'm here if you'd like to chat. #accountability #emotionalhealing #personalaccountability #traumaresponse #emotionalhealth #emotionalgrowth #innercircle #relationships #personalgrowth #innerstrength #copingmechanisms #personaldevelopment #menscoach #mensmentalhealth #gentlemen #toxicrelationships #selfrespect

During one day we can go through a whole range of emotions from: Desperation Thinking about how it could be better for yourself. Feeling happier and being able to see something better. To being super excited about a particular moment in life. Why, because as human beings this is what we're capable of if we allow ourselves to be like this. I am a family mentor for Back Up Trust and one of the things that comes up regularly from a family member after their loved one has sustained a spinal cord injury is, "I feel guilty for having time to enjoy myself whilst they are struggling." Even in the darkest periods of our life, you can still have excitement and laughter. It may feel strange, you may feel guilty, but it's about allowing yourself to feel this, by letting it into your life and not feeling bad about these times when the rest of your life may feel as if it's falling apart. Allowing yourself to experience the desperation and the heartache is important to be able to work through them. But, you shouldn't numb yourself to the enjoyment and fun that you may feel guilty about. This is you living a half-life whatever is happening. SO. Where are you right now with your emotions, feelings and thoughts? Are they where you want them to be? How would you like them to be different? What one thing can you do to get you closer to having these emotions, feelings and thoughts? If you would like to know more about how to get to where you want to be then simply send me a personal message. #emotions #feelings #thoughts #wellness #choicesmatter

Embracing Anger: A Guide to Self-Love and Positive Change In the symphony of emotions, anger often takes center stage, but what if we viewed it as our most loyal ally rather than a foe? Picture anger as a friend, one that truly loves you and cares for your well-being. It's that inner voice that shouts when you're mistreated, neglected, or disrespected – a signal urging you to step away from places that don't honor your worth. Anger is your personal watchdog, making you aware of the need to leave behind spaces that don't serve justice to your happiness. Whether it's a room, a job, or a relationship, this emotion whispers that it's time for change. It's like an alarm clock waking you up from old patterns that no longer work for you. But here's the magic: anger isn't here to stay; it's a transient guide. To make it your ally, learn to listen and understand its messages. Picture it as your best friend, offering advice and nudging you towards positive choices. As you heed its wisdom and take the necessary steps, you'll find that anger gradually fades away, leaving you with a newfound sense of empowerment. Listening to your anger is not about dwelling in negativity; it's a strategy for growth and self-love. It's the key to unlocking doors to better opportunities, healthier relationships, and a life aligned with your true self. So, the next time anger knocks on your emotional door, invite it in, listen to what it has to say, and watch as it becomes a catalyst for positive change. Embrace your anger, let it be your guide, and soon, it will gracefully exit the stage, leaving you with a renewed sense of self and a brighter future ahead. #EmbracingAnger #SelfLoveJourney #PositiveChange #ListenToYourEmotions #Empowerment #PersonalGrowth #InnerStrength #NewBeginnings #PositiveChoices #SelfAwareness #TransformativeWisdom #EmotionalWellBeing #AuthenticLiving #Relationships #CareerEmpowerment #MindfulLiving #AngerAsGuide #SelfDiscovery #LifeTransitions #InspirationForChange #BestFriendWithin #linkedin #linkedinforbusiness #linkedincreator

To start the week with some self-compassion and self-encouragement, try doing this exercise: ✅ Think of some positive messages you want to hear this week ✅ If it feels difficult to think of what you’d say to yourself, imagine what you’d say to encourage a friend or someone you know who’s finding things difficult ✅ Write down each of these positive statements/messages/words of encouragement on separate pieces of paper, or on a notes app on your phone ✅ Throughout the week, particularly at moments when your inner critic is loud or you’re feeling overwhelmed, read one of those pieces of paper or look at the notes on your phone ✅ Repeat the message back to yourself to help put self-doubt and self-criticism back in its place, and grow your self-compassion. #SelfDoubt #SelfCriticism #SelfCompassion #SelfWorth #MentalHealth 📷 IG: jennamariejournals

It's time for #HonestyWednesday again. To be honest, while deciding what to write about today, I had #doubts come up. Just to be clear, there are a lot of different topics on my mind, and things I reflect on all the time (I'd say it's one of my hobbies). I'm not lacking ideas. But what if no one's interested? What if it's just all dull and boring for people, or annoying? Do I even have something meaningful to contribute? What am I even doing? And that's all it takes to be in a mental rut again. That reminded me of the article I have mentioned with my last week's recap on Friday. It stated that most of our thoughts are useless. And that we should aim for more variability in our thinking. (For those interested in reading it: https://lnkd.in/dSD-kN_g ) But why do we find ourselves in rigid thought patterns? From what I've seen in myself lately, I'd argue it could be the #emotions that come with it. The ones that are uncomfortable, that we want to avoid. What helps me (if I'm lucky to have enough energy and bandwidth that day) is giving myself a few seconds to feel the feeling. To tell myself it's okay to feel that way. And suddenly, when I've done that, my mind is more flexible. It comes up with new options to deal with things. I was surprised myself by how simple that is. Simple, but not easy. Maybe think about it this way: What if we could use our thoughts FOR us, not AGAINST us? #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #honest #thinking #cognition #LITanslators