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It's time for #HonestyWednesday again. To be honest, while deciding what to write about today, I had #doubts come up. Just to be clear, there are a lot of different topics on my mind, and things I reflect on all the time (I'd say it's one of my hobbies). I'm not lacking ideas. But what if no one's interested? What if it's just all dull and boring for people, or annoying? Do I even have something meaningful to contribute? What am I even doing? And that's all it takes to be in a mental rut again. That reminded me of the article I have mentioned with my last week's recap on Friday. It stated that most of our thoughts are useless. And that we should aim for more variability in our thinking. (For those interested in reading it: https://lnkd.in/dSD-kN_g ) But why do we find ourselves in rigid thought patterns? From what I've seen in myself lately, I'd argue it could be the #emotions that come with it. The ones that are uncomfortable, that we want to avoid. What helps me (if I'm lucky to have enough energy and bandwidth that day) is giving myself a few seconds to feel the feeling. To tell myself it's okay to feel that way. And suddenly, when I've done that, my mind is more flexible. It comes up with new options to deal with things. I was surprised myself by how simple that is. Simple, but not easy. Maybe think about it this way: What if we could use our thoughts FOR us, not AGAINST us? #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #honest #thinking #cognition #LITanslators

There's always something running through my mind every time I write, read, or engage in an activity. There's a voice talking about things in the background, about everything that has ever happened. It's like revisiting those memories and trying to rearrange them to become less painful or more joyful. These voices talk to me inside my head when I don't want them to. They say everything I want to say or hear. Sometimes they cry, sometimes they laugh until my stomach aches. I want to be like those voices: bold, confident, funny, cute, and happy. But I'm not. They are everything I ever wanted, but we are opposites standing right in front of each other. They look exactly like me, but they are inside a glass I cannot touch. I can only listen to them as they guide me through the dark. Amidst all the noise in my head, I find comfort in the fight. I've learned to deal with these thoughts, finding moments of clarity in the chaos. With mindfulness, therapy, and support from loved ones, I've found strength in myself. Looking back, I see that growth comes from tough times. Even though the voices keep coming, I know I'm not alone. Each day brings new challenges, but also chances to learn more about myself. As I keep going, I hold onto hope – hope for better days, hope to heal, and hope that one day, these voices won't control me. By facing my struggles, I'm learning to accept myself – flaws and all and you should too !! #PersonalJourney #OvercomingChallenges #LinkedInCommunity

Dear Generation Z, In today's world, social media platforms can sometimes make us feel inadequate and unworthy. However, amidst the constant noise and pressure, there is a powerful tool that can help you fortify your mental resilience and nurture self-confidence: the art of affirmation. Here are seven effective ways that you can leverage this tool to boost your self-esteem and cope with the whirlwind of social media. 1. Start your day with a positive affirmation and set the tone for your day. 2. Create a digital sanctuary that reflects your aspirations and values. 3. Replace self-critical thoughts with affirmations that validate your strengths and progress. 4. Create a visual affirmation board that reminds you of your aspirations and reinforces positive beliefs. 5. Engage with peers in affirmation challenges or groups to create a supportive network focused on growth and encouragement. 6. Combine mindfulness practices with affirmations to regain focus and confidence in moments of stress or overwhelm. 7. Cultivate gratitude through affirmations and foster resilience by emphasizing gratitude amid challenges. Remember, you are capable, resilient, and enough. Use these affirmations to build a stronger sense of self-worth and healthily navigate social media. Best regards. Coach Aviwe Melane To read more of my blogs, go to www.aviwemelane.com, follow me on Tiktok, Instagram, Linkedin #coachaviwemelane #mindsetcoachforgenz #amblogs #Affirmations #socialmediaculture #trendsforgenz #mindgamethebook

I got up this morning and I did something that is not really recommended (at least not before you hit the shower); I checked Facebook (as I am writing this I realize I am now officially part of the "older" generation). I came across the post below, which immediately evoked feelings of frustration, judgement, regret, but also curiosity and questioning. Why, you ask? I'm not found of people making false promises, or sharing statements that can't be fulfilled, let alone be harmful. Stating that you could "kiss imposter syndrome goodbye", would be like stating you could switch off any feelings you have as a human being, and that this would actually be a GOOD thing. It is quite the contrary. Imposter syndrome, or imposter feelings, are feelings. Like joy, love, anger, sadness, excitement, calmness... They are part of who you are and they have a very important function; they serve as a signal to your mind and body. Trying to stop or eliminating these, would be more harmful than understanding where they come from, how they are affecting you, and how you could learn to live/cope with them, making you more self-aware, enabling you to make choices, and ultimately grow/develop. Also, check the last sentence "help you develop unshakable confidence" - now whom wouldn't want that?! How would you feel when encountering someone who has no self-doubt whatsoever, is fully confident, and doesn't seem to question his/her skills anymore? Anyway - I guess my message here is: ♥ be aware of what you read and encounter, especially when it sounds/looks to good to be true - that might mean it's not. ♥ Embrace your imposter feelings, be curious about them, learn from them; as that might actually be a better way to have them less present/ less affecting your choices. 💞 #impostersyndrome #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #coaching #emotionalintelligence #emotionalwellbeing #mentalhealth

Our mindset is such an important tool for life. What we think about ourselves and our frame of reference can skew how we see things day to day and impact our sense of happiness and self. Unfortunately our mindset is often influenced by people around us and our experiences in life, as a result we can find ourselves thinking negative or intrusive thoughts that can then impact us day to day. I have been teaching my children about the power of mindset lately after my Son came home worried about whether he was ' a naughty boy' because he got told off at school. He suddenly found himself questioning whether he was 'good' and it was making him really unsettled, which I could see in his behaviour. After a bedtime chat where he explained his feelings, I bought them some positive mindset books. We use them to write affirmations and explore our thoughts. We also write down 3 things we are thankful for at dinner times to reflect and reframe our day. I love positive affirmations to help reset thinking and raise self-belief so yesterday I wrote some statements on the mirror for the kids to see when they woke up ( which was actually really helpful for my husband and I too!) yesterday when the children had gone to school, I found my daughter had written these positive statements on the mirror herself (photo attached) Slowly but surely I can see everyone's thoughts shift and the kids are suddenly spontaneously telling me things that have made them happy or were good about their day. We have a lot of power to reframing our thoughts, we just have to choose what we focus on and what we believe. #mindset #affirmations #selfdevelopment #selfbelief #parenting #childhood

You’re not Introverted, You’re Shy Your boyfriend or girlfriend is an introduction away. That random stranger you strike up a conversation with at the grocery store could be a CEO, founder, or influencer. The opposite of shyness is being outgoing, while the opposite of introversion is extroversion. Practice, Practice, Practice. Start looking for opportunities to practice different social behaviors in different settings. People who are shy tend to fear that they will be negatively evaluated by others, which puts it on the same spectrum as social anxiety (although people can be shy and not socially anxious). Introverts, on the other hand, have to expend energy when they socialize, so they need time alone to recharge. The more you practice, the more confident you'll feel. This life has a lot of beautiful things to offer. They’re ours for the taking. Let go of the things (labels, external validation) that aren’t helping you. Be nice to yourself. Take action. Not all shy people are introverts, and not all introverts are shy. #shyness #introversion

When was the last time you hyped yourself for all the good work you do? This is 2024 and you need to start recognising and valuing your worth and accomplishments. Stop waiting for others to do it for you. Stop it! Be reminded that no win or accomplishment is minute. I have a theory that we call certain things minute because we are comparing and comparison in itself is a thief of joy. You moving through the week and surviving it, is a win. You should sit back and reminisce on all the heavy lifting you’ve done lately, how gracious you were to others, how you controlled yourself amid complex situations and the many great things you've done that only you are aware of. Can you remember all of those ‘feel-good moments’? Can you? If you can't, again, try pausing and thinking deeply about your week and January thus far. Practising self-appreciation should be a habit for everyone as it goes a long way to helping us identify our strengths, boosts our self-esteem and helps us create a healthier and more productive environment for ourselves. Think about it, when you remind yourself that you are a big deal, that you matter a lot in the whole grand scheme of things and that you were made for good works, what emotions does this evoke in you? It ought to be a positive emotion and an energy tonic that you can do better. P.S.: Do you practise self-appreciation and when was the last time you did? #theopeyemiogundeji #youthdevelopment #empowerment #selfawareness #professionals #affirmation #positivethinking

In case you missed it #ICYMI, here is last Thursday's blog article. Is a High Level of Accomplishment Compatible with Peace and Well-Being? Does it make sense to believe that we have to choose between either a high level of accomplishment, or peace and well-being? On a societal level, we’ve been encouraged to think that’s the case. This is true to the point that most of us probably assume the only time we have a chance of experiencing peace and well-being is on the weekend, on vacation, or after we retire. In other words, when we’re not engaged in our everyday lives. To read the full article: https://lnkd.in/gjTdQTGN (For Instagram, visit my blog, the link is in the bio.) -- I’m a transformative coach, author, and TEDx speaker. The clients I work with are people who expect a great deal from themselves. My job is to help them see how much easier this can be than it seems. I guide my clients toward an experience of life that is everyone’s birthright; an ongoing sense of clarity, ease, and peace. This can only result in improved decision-making, relationships, resourcefulness, and resilience. This easier, clearer, higher-performing version of you is so close you can touch it. You already have everything you need. That’s the experience of life I’d like to see everybody have. Wouldn’t it be great to be able to let it out? If this speaks to you, visit https://lnkd.in/ewXEf_-b, and let’s connect! (The Instagram link is in the bio.) -- #GaryStine #GracefulAging #SlightyOlderPersonsGuideToGracefulAging #TransformativeCoaching

In case you missed it #ICYMI, here is last Thursday's blog article. Is a High Level of Accomplishment Compatible with Peace and Well-Being? Does it make sense to believe that we have to choose between either a high level of accomplishment, or peace and well-being? On a societal level, we’ve been encouraged to think that’s the case. This is true to the point that most of us probably assume the only time we have a chance of experiencing peace and well-being is on the weekend, on vacation, or after we retire. In other words, when we’re not engaged in our everyday lives. To read the full article: https://lnkd.in/gjTdQTGN (For Instagram, visit my blog, the link is in the bio.) -- I’m a transformative coach, author, and TEDx speaker. The clients I work with are people who expect a great deal from themselves. My job is to help them see how much easier this can be than it seems. I guide my clients toward an experience of life that is everyone’s birthright; an ongoing sense of clarity, ease, and peace. This can only result in improved decision-making, relationships, resourcefulness, and resilience. This easier, clearer, higher-performing version of you is so close you can touch it. You already have everything you need. That’s the experience of life I’d like to see everybody have. Wouldn’t it be great to be able to let it out? If this speaks to you, visit https://lnkd.in/ewXEf_-b, and let’s connect! (The Instagram link is in the bio.) -- #GaryStine #GracefulAging #SlightyOlderPersonsGuideToGracefulAging #TransformativeCoaching

Do you want more positivity in your life? Would you like to join me in a short experiment? Every night for the next week, before I go to sleep, I am going write down three things that went well today and why they went well. This exercise - known as the What-Went-Well Exercise (Also Called “Three Blessings”) - helps us have more optimism in our lives. Our brains are evolutionary wired to focus on the negative. But, by looking for good things in our days, we can start to break that programming, and become more open to good things in our lives. Which improves our wellbeing. Martin Seligman, positive psychologist, is an advocate for this exercise. Let me know in the comments if you're going to join me in this. Or if you already have this as a daily practice. It's just 5 to 10 minutes of your day, and who knows what good things it good things it could bring. #CoachingWithJo #change #mindset #wellbeing #Positivepsychology #gratitude #reflection #joy