Barbara Decker’s Post

The fine line between loving and enabling Have you ever thought your actions could be enabling your son’s or daughter’s disease? There’s a fine line between loving and enabling. “If I say yes to his request, am I helping him get better or enabling his disease?” “If I lend her money for transportation, am I helping or enabling her?” “If I do this, am I loving or enabling them?” These are questions all of us ask ourselves almost every day. Sometimes it can be nerve-wracking to figure it out because their behaviors are so erratic. You can’t tell if you’re helping or enabling. Their disease is so good at lying and getting what they want. But not anymore. One person with addiction in the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide phrased the difference between loving and enabling so clearly… Every mom who listened went “AHA” instantly. Suddenly, everything became clear. Now, they started SEEING which kind of behavior is loving and which kind is enabling. And they see why. Once you invest in the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide, you’ll see what the fine line is. As clear as day. It’s a refreshing revelation that no one has talked about. Only people with addiction know this. Now it’s your turn. Click here to invest in the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide and you’ll see what I mean. https://lnkd.in/egu-wKj4 Find a pocket of joy in your day today. Barbara 🙏 P.S. LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide is perfect for moms who want to dip their toes and evaluate whether Love Another Way works for them without pouring in too much time and money upfront. #recovery #OvercomeAddiction #loveanotherway

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 Have you ever thought your actions could be enabling your son’s or daughter’s disease? 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗮 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴. “If I say yes to his request, am I helping him get better or enabling his disease?” “If I lend her money for transportation, am I helping or enabling her?” “If I do this, am I loving or enabling them?” These are questions all of us ask ourselves almost every day. Sometimes it can be nerve-wracking to figure it out because their behaviors are so erratic. You can’t tell if you’re helping or enabling. Their disease is so good at lying and getting what they want. But not anymore. One person with addiction in the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide 𝗽𝗵𝗿𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼 𝗰𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗹𝘆… 𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗺𝗼𝗺 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗲𝗻𝘁 “𝗔𝗛𝗔” 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁𝗹𝘆. Suddenly, everything became clear. Now, they started SEEING which kind of behavior is loving and which kind is enabling. And they see why. Once you invest in the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide, you’ll see what the fine line is. As clear as day. It’s a refreshing revelation that no one has talked about. Only people with addiction know this. Now it’s your turn. Click below to invest in the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide and you’ll see what I mean. https://lnkd.in/ehUaFMBv Find a pocket of joy in your day today. Barbara 🙏 P.S. LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide is perfect for moms who want to dip their toes and evaluate whether Love Another Way works for them without pouring in too much time and money upfront. 𝗝𝗼𝗶𝗻 𝘂𝘀 𝗯𝘆 𝗔𝘂𝗴𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝟭𝟴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗲’𝗹𝗹 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗔𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗪𝗮𝘆 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶-𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲. #addiction #recovery #loveanotherway

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 Have you ever thought your actions could be enabling your son’s or daughter’s disease? 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗮 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴. “If I say yes to his request, am I helping him get better or enabling his disease?” “If I lend her money for transportation, am I helping or enabling her?” “If I do this, am I loving or enabling them?” These are questions all of us ask ourselves almost every day. Sometimes it can be nerve-wracking to figure it out because their behaviors are so erratic. You can’t tell if you’re helping or enabling. Their disease is so good at lying and getting what they want. But not anymore. One person with addiction in the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide 𝗽𝗵𝗿𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼 𝗰𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗹𝘆… 𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗺𝗼𝗺 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗲𝗻𝘁 “𝗔𝗛𝗔” 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁𝗹𝘆. Suddenly, everything became clear. Now, they started SEEING which kind of behavior is loving and which kind is enabling. And they see why. Once you invest in the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide, you’ll see what the fine line is. As clear as day. It’s a refreshing revelation that no one has talked about. Only people with addiction know this. Now it’s your turn. Click below to invest in the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide and you’ll see what I mean. https://lnkd.in/ehEVJ88p Find a pocket of joy in your day today. Barbara 🙏 P.S. LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide is perfect for moms who want to dip their toes and evaluate whether Love Another Way works for them without pouring in too much time and money upfront. 𝗝𝗼𝗶𝗻 𝘂𝘀 𝗯𝘆 𝗔𝘂𝗴𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝟭𝟴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗲’𝗹𝗹 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗔𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗪𝗮𝘆 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶-𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲. #addiction #recovery #loveanotherway

Question: Should I have done more than pray for my drug-addicted granddaughter? Answer: This tragedy has already come to pass, and there is no answer to this question except that the family did the best they could with the information that they had. My heart is with this family in their grief about this tragedy, which is absolutely not their fault. This article covers that answer pretty well. And. There is another answer, as well. This answer is for those who are still living and battling SUD, and their families, as well. Another answer: Be absolutely sure that you and your loved ones receive high-quality, evidence-based addiction treatment. In the case of opioid addiction, which this young woman may have struggled with, it is especially important that patients have the option to access medication assisted therapy, or MAT, which can greatly reduce the likelihood of a death by overdose. Not enough people know about this treatment, not enough people have access to this treatment, and not enough people insist that their loved ones recieve this treatment. Spread the word! https://lnkd.in/gRkj-8r9 #Oregon #portland #addictiontreatment #MAT #opioids #healthcare

𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 or 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄? Beverley paid for her daughter’s rent. Covered her debts. Scheduled counseling sessions for her. All while hoping her actions might inspire her daughter to stop using. Despite trying everything — from attending countless counseling sessions and support groups to giving everything her daughter wanted — nothing worked. Beverley was drowning in her own tears, frustration, and loneliness. 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗱 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴. She saw my Facebook post sharing how I struggled and fought through my son’s addiction. And how I won the battle. For the first time in her life, Beverley felt she wasn’t alone. But Beverley wasn’t convinced entirely. She had heard enough of countless programs promising change. So Beverley decided to dip her toe instead and purchased the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide. 𝗜𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘃𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼𝗼 𝗺𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗶𝗻𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆. Through JumpStart, Beverley realized her daughter’s addiction was a brain disease. Most importantly, she learned that: 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝗲 𝗮 𝗽𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗷𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗱𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗺𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻. Beverley now understands her actual role in her daughter’s recovery journey without enabling the addiction. She now understands what her daughter really needs. (Hint: It’s not money, not fixing, and not reminding them how much hurt they caused.) Best part? Beverley changed her response toward her daughter. She didn’t feel as angry as before. Instead, she empathized with her daughter more and treated her like a human being. Because Beverley’s emotional state became calmer and stronger… 𝗦𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗱𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗲𝗿’𝘀 𝗽𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻! What would your life look like if you became your son’s or daughter’s pillar of support? A pillar so strong it can weather any storm and influence changes in your life and your child’s life. Just like it was for Beverley. If Beverley can do it, why not you? The first step towards becoming a pillar of support for your child is here. https://lnkd.in/eF-gYKra Find a pocket of joy in your day today. Barbara 🙏 #addiction #mentalillness #loveanotherway

January 13 Surrender to win “Help for addicts begins only when we are able to admit complete defeat.” Basic Text, p. 22 ––––=–––– Complete defeat—what a concept! That must mean surrender. Surrender—to give up absolutely. To quit with no reservations. To put up our hands and quit fighting. Maybe to put up our hand at our first meeting and admit we’re addicts. How do we know we’ve taken a First Step that will allow us to live drug-free? We know because, once we have taken that gigantic step, we never have to use again—just for today. That’s it. It’s not easy, but it’s very simple. We work the First Step. We accept that, yes, we are addicts. “One is too many, and a thousand never enough.” We’ve proven that to ourselves enough times. We admit that we cannot handle drugs in any form. We admit it; we say it out loud, if necessary. We take the First Step at the beginning of our day. For one day. This admission frees us, just for today, from the need to live out our addiction all over again. We’ve surrendered to this disease. We give up. We quit. But in quitting, we win. And that’s the paradox of the First Step: We surrender to win, and by surrendering we gain a far greater power than we ever imagined possible. ––––=–––– Just for today: I admit that I am powerless over my addiction. I will surrender to win. #enlightenment #wedorecover

On average, Ohio experiences the loss of 11 to 12 individuals per day, their lives taken, to death by drug overdose. Every day, we face the heartbreaking reality of losing loved ones—family members, children, parents, siblings, friends, and employees—far too soon. It's a sobering reminder of our duty to ensure that help is available every second, of every hour, of every day. The tragedy of addiction waits for no one. For those unfamiliar with the behavioral health field or the challenges of addiction and recovery, take a moment to imagine life without those you hold dear. Consider the countless individuals facing this reality daily. Now, think of those who are struggling to find support, acceptance, encouragement, love, compassion, connection, and hope in our community. We cannot afford to turn a blind eye. There is not a single day where we cannot make a difference in someone's life. Whether it's by spreading awareness, sharing a helpline number, or simply offering a kind word, each action matters. At Forward Health we believe that every step forward is significant. It's enough to begin the journey towards healing, to believe that support is available, and to acknowledge that every life is worth fighting for—a life filled with beauty, joy, and the love of those around us. This weekend, if you encounter someone in need, extend a helping hand. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to us. Our team is here 24/7, ready to provide the care and support needed to navigate through difficult times. You have the power to change lives, starting with your own. It may be challenging, but with the right support, nothing is impossible. Each step forward brings you closer to a brighter future. For immediate assistance, call our 24-hour admissions line at (614)-567-6274. Don't hesitate—help is just a call away. Together, let's make today the day we help someone take that crucial step towards hope and healing.

Siblings, I see you: the struggle, the pain, and the resilience. Growing up with a sibling who has the disease of addiction can often feel like an invisible journey. You support your family in the background, but your voice, needs, and feelings are frequently overlooked. I understand. I've spent decades working with families affected by addiction, and one story resonates deeply. It's the story of siblings – the unsung heroes who quietly bear their own pain. Many siblings have told me they felt out of place in traditional support meetings, unable to share their experiences as parents and partners pain felt more intense. Does this sound familiar to you? Have you ever felt stuck in the middle, your feelings overshadowed by the crises of others? Do you hold back to avoid adding more stress to your parents? You are not alone. I'm so excited to introduce the Embrace Family Recovery Sibling Coaching Group. This group is where your story is the priority. Over six sessions, we will delve into your experiences, providing education on this no-fault family disease, and connecting you with others who truly understand. We'll strategize on communication, boundary setting, and much more. Imagine a place where your voice is heard, your journey is recognized, and you can begin the healing process. Click the link below for additional information or to sign up for the group. Take care of you! #embracefamilyrecovery #podcast #recovery #addiction #addictionrecovery #addictionawareness #addictiontreatment #addictions #familyrecovery #familyrecoverycoach #familyrecoverycoaching #familyaddiction #familyaddictionrecovery #recoverysupport #recoverysupportgroup #recoverysupportservices #coachingsupportgroup #siblingcoachinggroup

𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 or 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄? Beverley paid for her daughter’s rent. Covered her debts. Scheduled counseling sessions for her. All while hoping her actions might inspire her daughter to stop using. Despite trying everything — from attending countless counseling sessions and support groups to giving everything her daughter wanted — nothing worked. Beverley was drowning in her own tears, frustration, and loneliness. 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗱 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴. She saw my Facebook post sharing how I struggled and fought through my son’s addiction. And how I won the battle. For the first time in her life, Beverley felt she wasn’t alone. But Beverley wasn’t convinced entirely. She had heard enough of countless programs promising change. So Beverley decided to dip her toe instead and purchased the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide. 𝗜𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘃𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼𝗼 𝗺𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗶𝗻𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆. Through JumpStart, Beverley realized her daughter’s addiction was a brain disease. Most importantly, she learned that: 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝗲 𝗮 𝗽𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗷𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗱𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗺𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻. Beverley now understands her actual role in her daughter’s recovery journey without enabling the addiction. She now understands what her daughter really needs. (Hint: It’s not money, not fixing, and not reminding them how much hurt they caused.) Best part? Beverley changed her response toward her daughter. She didn’t feel as angry as before. Instead, she empathized with her daughter more and treated her like a human being. Because Beverley’s emotional state became calmer and stronger… 𝗦𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗱𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗲𝗿’𝘀 𝗽𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻! What would your life look like if you became your son’s or daughter’s pillar of support? A pillar so strong it can weather any storm and influence changes in your life and your child’s life. Just like it was for Beverley. If Beverley can do it, why not you? The first step towards becoming a pillar of support for your child is here. https://lnkd.in/eUyY8q55 Find a pocket of joy in your day today. Barbara 🙏 #addiction #mentalillness #loveanotherway

The holidays are a time for togetherness, gratitude, and celebration. But for people who are struggling with addiction, the weeks between Thanksgiving and New Year’s can present a huge challenge – and danger. If you need help or want to start your journey to recovery this holiday season, Holland Pathways is here for you. Read our tips for getting through the holidays safely and happily on our blog: https://lnkd.in/genbtRzJ