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Job Searching with Self-compassion : A kinder Approach to Finding Your Next Opportunity Let's get real for a second... Have you ever noticed how we can be super kind and understanding towards others, but totally harsh and critical towards ourselves? Let's explore the power of self-compassion together... What does self-compassion look like in real life? It's mindfully speaking to yourself in a gentle and supportive way, even when you've made a mistake. It's taking care of your physical and emotional needs, like getting enough sleep and eating nourishing foods. It's being kind to yourself when you're feeling stressed or overwhelmed, and remembering that you're doing the best you can. And trust me, it especially important during the job search process which can be a difficult and emotionally draining experience. So how can you practice Self-compassion during job search ? Here are some tips: - Be gentle with yourself: Remember that job searching is a process, and it's okay to take time. Don't beat yourself up over rejections or missed opportunities. - Practice mindfulness: Take breaks and focus on the present moment. Go for a walk, do some deep breathing, or practice yoga. - Speak kindly to yourself: Use positive affirmations like "I am capable and qualified" or "I am doing my best." - Take care of your physical and emotional needs: Get enough sleep, eat nourishing foods, and engage in activities that bring you joy. - Embrace your imperfections: Remember that everyone makes mistakes and that it's okay not to be perfect. By practicing self-compassion during your job search, you can: - Reduce stress and anxiety - Increase your resilience and ability to cope with rejection - Develop a more positive mindset and attitude - Improve your overall well-being - Find a job that aligns with your values and goals Remember, finding a job is not a reflection of your worth as a person. You are so much more than your job title or salary. Be kind to yourself, stay positive, and keep going.

Yesterday, I talked about the need to have a positive mindset when looking for a new job. I mentioned that sometimes you have to step away and do something for yourself whether it be go to the gym, church, take a walk, etc... Today, I want to talk about creating a routine. What would your schedule look like if you were working? You'd probably get up at 6:30 or 7, shower, drive to work, etc... Well, do something similar when you are out of work. Get up around the same time, but go to the gym or church. Putting yourself on a schedule, allows you to focus on getting things done. It is very easy to let the day slip away by sleeping late, running errands, or doing anything but what you need to do. The next thing you know, the day will be gone and you will have nothing to show for it. Take some time the day before and plan out your day. What do you need to accomplish? How many jobs do you want to apply for? Is there any training that you want to take? Are there any errands that need to be done? Plan out how long each of these tasks will take and give yourself time to get them done. (Don't forget to plan for some delays!) You'll be surprised at how much you can really accomplish when you plan things out. It will help you keep that positive mindset going.

Regret's Heavy Price: In Career: Over time, the regret of not seizing professional opportunities can overshadow the satisfaction of potential accomplishments. In Fitness: Similar regret surfaces when considering the lost progress and well-being benefits that could have been achieved if you had started your fitness journey sooner. They both go hand in hand.

Coffee is more than just a drink, it is a source of comfort and relief for many hard-working people. After a long day of work, nothing beats the feeling of sipping a hot cup of coffee and letting go of the stress and fatigue. Coffee can help humans relax by soothing their nerves, improving their mood, and releasing endorphins. It can also help them refresh themselves by stimulating their brain, enhancing their alertness, and boosting their energy. Coffee can be a great way to reward oneself for a job well done and to prepare for the next challenge.

Everyone has dreams. Mine? A simple 5 p.m. yoga class on Mondays and Wednesdays. To make it happen, I had to redesign my entire career. Seems extreme for just yoga, right? But that weekly ritual was key to my happiness. And impossible to sustain with my old career situation. Work takes up a huge chunk of our lives. Shouldn't it make room for the things that truly matter to us? The ideal career doesn’t ask you to put your dreams on hold; it helps you achieve them. Have you been deferring your dreams because of work? Whether it's making minor adjustments or major changes, take the steps needed to make those dreams a reality. P.S. Funny how life works – my yoga studio happens to share the roof with a former client’s office, where I once daydreamed about yoga during meetings :) 📹On my way to class. -------------------------- Are you a mid-career woman considering a career redesign or change, but feeling stuck because you don't know what to do instead? Let's work 1:1 to help you: ↳ Get clear on who you are and what you want in a career ↳ Explore new career paths ↳ Crush self-doubt and fear ↳ Design a solid action plan I'm Ramya Arora, a Career Fulfilment Coach. Visit my website or simply DM me for more information. If you liked this post, follow me & hit the 🔔

Are you hiding your true feelings about your job behind a mask of perfection? So, you've been painting a perfect picture for the outside world to see. You have a good job, a beautiful home, a loving partner, wonderful kids, a great circle of friends and your weekends are filled with fun activities.    On the surface, everything looks ideal. But deep down, you're miserable.    Your job, once a source of pride and accomplishment, no longer fulfils you. There's a yearning inside for a meaningful career where you can be more creative and free.    Yet, admitting this to the world feels impossible. You fear judgment and disappointment from those who see your life as perfect.    So, you put on a mask, hiding your true feelings from everyone, even those closest to you.   You feel embarrassed about not finding joy in your career anymore.    Thoughts swirl in your mind: "Why can't I just be happy with what I have? Will others understand my need for change? Am I ungrateful?"    Your heart aches for a career that excites and inspires you, one that aligns with your passions and values.    You long to wake up each day eager to start your work, not dreading it.    But the fear of admitting your dissatisfaction, of breaking the illusion of perfection, holds you back. Remember this:   It's okay to feel this way. It's okay to want more.    Acknowledging your true feelings is the first step toward finding the career and life that genuinely fulfil you.    Are you're ready to explore new possibilities and discover a career that brings you joy? Send me a DM with DREAMCAREER and let's connect. #careercoach #careeradvice #findacareeryoulove #meaningfulwork

Looking for a new job is filled with constant emotional highs and lows. Fighting the fear of the unknown is enough to make anyone feel frustrated. Job hunting is an intense process that can seriously mess with one’s mood. Unemployment is very stressful, and looking for a job quickly becomes frustrating for many people. It is important not to let this anxiety and pessimism influence into your job search, however.   To overcome job search frustration, one should try to: Keep a schedule-treat your job search like it’s your job Set realistic goals that you can achieve-When you are planning your goals, be sure to set “SMART” (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) goals. Take breaks to avoid burnout-Speed can come at the expense of quality, and committing to too much too fast can overwhelm you. Allowing for an hour to read a book, go for a walk, or otherwise de-stress is a great way to make sure you don’t wear yourself out. Stay healthy - make sure you exercise and eat healthy food-Don’t let your search for a job become an excuse to eat too much, stop exercising, and start neglecting your health. Spend time with people-A robust support network is an important asset to keeping yourself healthy and happy in a stressful situation. Attending networking events is a great way to improve your social life and make professional connections at the same time. Avoid overthinking-By focusing too much on the uncertain future and over-analyzing your circumstance and decisions, you may be causing your situation to seem worse than it really is.

You may have caught my post last week that compared job searching to weight loss/fitness. If you didn't, I'm here to tell you that just as it takes time, a healthy diet, patience, rest, hydration, and repetition to build lean muscle... this same principle applies to job searching. Here are 3 frameworks that will help combat doubtful thinking when times are tough during your job search or networking journey. 1️⃣ Rome wasn't built in a day... Remember, when you first learned to walk or ride a bike? For most of us, that entailed falling. LOTS. It required a gentle pick me up and nudge in the right direction from someone supportive... ➪ It required patience. And most importantly...PRACTICE. Unfortunately, that job isn't just going to fall into your lap as we sometimes wish it would. In fact, it may take weeks to months. ➪ Just like learning to ride a bike meant having the courage to try something scary and new, falling down, and learning to pick yourself back up again...landing your next job may mean getting rejected a few times or getting ghosted. It may require getting out of your comfort zone. Upskilling. Going back to school. Expanding your professional network. Increasing your visibility on LinkedIn. ➪ Just like building muscle takes time and practice. So does your job search. Be patient with yourself. Recognize the winner in YOU who has defied all odds to get back up again. That is something worth celebrating. In time, you will see your so-called "failed" attempts were never in fact failures at all but life-defining moments helping to build a stronger YOU. 🏋️♀️ 2️⃣ Just like building lean muscle requires a healthy diet, proper nutrients, rest and hydration so does your body during times of stress and transition. If you're in the middle of a job search, it can become second nature to scroll endlessly through the job boards and apply to as many positions as possible. ➪ However, when was the last time you put your device away for 30-60 minutes and went for a walk outside? Made yourself a well-balanced meal? Got 8 hours of sleep? Basked in the silence and noticed the rhythm of your heart beating? Establishing a routine, getting daily exercise, practicing meditation or mindfulness, and building strong support systems are the key ingredients to an effective job search. ➪ Don't neglect your physical and mental health over money. There are more important things in life... 3️⃣ Finally, just like weight loss requires short- and long-term planning/goals, so does your job search. Do you have a set schedule or network strategy? To followup? Work on your resume? Update your LinkedIn? ➪ Have you set measurable and attainable goals for reaching out to prospects, recruiters, hiring managers, and talent acquisition specialists? Within 48 hours have you followed up with these folks or people of influence to draw attention to your application, interest, and call to action? #jobsearchjourney #jobseekersupport

Try these 3 things if you want to find a more rewarding and fulfilling career. Although I love the work that I do now, it has taken a lot of soul searching, research, trial and error to figure it out. This is what I did: ▪ 25 years ago, I was stuck in a career that I hated. I really didn’t know what to do. Then someone suggested I see a career advisor, so, I booked an appointment at the local job center - it didn’t cost me anything! ▪ He asked me what I enjoyed doing and when I mentioned Thai boxing, meditation and travel, he informed me that there was something called a TEFL course (Teach English as a Foreign Language) which would only take 4 weeks to complete and would allow me to Teach English work pretty much anywhere in the world. ▪ SOLD! I was so excited I couldn’t wait to sign up. ▪ I would never have known such a career even existed if it wasn’t for that career advisor. ▪ There are some amazing jobs out there in the world, many of which you have probably never even heard of, and they could fit your skill set and passions perfectly! ▪ So, the first thing I would do is to: 🔵 1) Book an appointment with a career advisor. ▪ Once I arrived in Thailand, my whole life changed and I experienced many new things, one of which was a Thai Massage. ▪ I thought how amazing it would be to study it and become a Thai Massage therapist, At the time, very few people knew what Thai Massage was or its healing benefits. I always thought I would like to work independently, so this seemed like an ideal opportunity to become my own boss. ▪ After studying Thai massage I became very interested in Holistic healing and went on to study many other healing modalities too. ▪ So the next thing I would do is 🔵 2) Try New Things. ▪ If you are unsure of what you are passionate about, go and try something new, something you have never done before. Be adventurous! Seek and you will find! Not only is this fun and intriguing, but you will also meet lots of new people who may guide your life onto a new and exciting path. ▪ Once you have found something that you enjoy: 🔵 3) Figure out a way to earn money from it. ▪ When I eventually had the Holistic Skill set that I needed, I started to think how I could combine Thai massage and meditation with travel. ▪ I started to do some research into health and wellness resorts and realized that I could work for some of the top resorts in the world on a freelance basis. They would pay for my food and accommodation, and we would split the earnings 50/50. ▪ Not only did this give me a great opportunity to do the things I loved and travel, it also provided me with a way to stay at luxury resorts all around the world and save money in the process.   ▪ Life is so short. Don’t waste it. If you are unhappy with your current career, change it. #careerchange #stressmanagemet #mindfulness

Job hunt for long time without any success Sometimes you have to sit back , stop for a Moment , look around and think of your life - when your job hunt is totally failure inspite of all of your best efforts . Think about your life for a moment - you can’t compromise your health and family life for the same . Sure you need money for the same . Do at least few things - 1) Stop searching for a while 2) Not mych use of increase in social connections. Sometime it might go against your job search 3) Involve in mental and physical health programmes 4) Develop your hobbies 5) Think something else . May be something different might workout for you 6) And as I always believe— TRUST ON YOUR SKILLS AND KNOWLEDGE AND BELIEVE IN YOUR LUCK , FAMILY AND GOD #motivation #Lookaround #jobseeksers #mentalheath