Bedi Neelam Sondh.’s Post

If you are not a good listener, you will find yourself unmotivated and ineffective in moving toward what matters most. It was my inability to listen that led me toward burnout and a lack of vitality. One value of a Men’s Circle is in hearing and being heard. In our day-to-day lives, it is not uncommon to be swept up and lost in a sea of thoughts and emotions that influence the way we show up in the world. Sometimes it is just a passing moment that triggers an internal crisis of anxiety or emotional overwhelm, and at other times, that moment may creep into days or weeks. In my own story, it was often the moment of rest in between my constant doing that would lead to an internal collapse. This small pause in my otherwise full agenda would often send me into a spiral of doubt, self-criticism and shame, pulling me into a dark lethargy, sometimes for days or longer. Rather than meeting the emotions that were calling for my attention, I would binge - alcohol, sugar, Netflix - whatever would distract me from my existential angst. Then come Monday morning, I would forcefully rip myself out of it and back into compulsive activity. Perhaps there are some of you who are familiar with this kind of experience? When I started to listen to my body and my emotions, I was able to engage with myself and the world in a way that was more true to me. In time, the holes became less dark and less deep. I have personally found that participation in a Circle offers a way to deal with such a situation. Taking the opportunity to listen to and articulate our inner experience can help to bring clarity and order to the chaotic. In taking a moment in our schedule to pause and put words to our feelings, we emphasise integration between the left and right sides of our brain - the left biassing toward linguistic processing and the right toward emotion and bodily experience. The result can be truly grounding and leaves us with a sense of coherence. We become better informed of where we have come from and to where we will go from here. We find a greater internal availability to pursue our goals. Additionally, a Circle is a space where we can uniquely hear the authentic words shared by another. In Circle, we have an opportunity to practice empathic listening and develop our capacity to witness and sit with the emotional expressions of another. Often what I hear brings about a resonance within me, inviting me to explore my own relationship to feelings, relationships or situations in my own life. The qualities we come to learn and embody in Circle are what I would consider to be essential for any meaningful relationship in our lives, both to ourselves and to others. I wonder, what emotions are you not listening to? What are they saying? And if you would like a space to bring about your own inner cohesion, join me next Monday morning for Men’s Embodiment Circle. Link in the comments.

Your colleagues, including your boss and your customers, can probably read your mind. How is that possible? It's because you don't control your face. It sounds funny. But I'm serious. Here is the science. Humans possess a nearly clairvoyant ability to read the emotions radiating from each other's body language -- including facial muscles -- a skill that was necessary for our collective survival in our early hominid days. It allowed us to coordinate in hunting or escape on the fly without needing very much linguistic communication. We still possess that skill. There is ample research showing that most of the information we communicate to each other is non-verbal. (I know that some people's ability in this area is lessoned for complicated reasons, but that's a longer story for another post. Most people, though, have this ability.) Picture it: You are in a meeting and you make an announcement that know is going to be disappointing. Almost before you've finished talking you can see the faces of your colleagues contort. Eyes roll, mouths grimace, people shift nervously and sigh. It's impossible to completely control your physical reactions to emotions you feel. The signals get to your body faster than your conscious brain can intercept them. And the impact of this is that while we can all pick up on each other's emotions very easily, we don't know each other's thoughts. And that can lead to misunderstandings, especially at work. So then, we see the displeasure that is evident on their faces and our minds conjure all sorts of reasons to explain it. Unless you know the person very well, you are likely mistaking their apparent reaction to this information for something that it is not. But you do it too. And you're probably not even aware of it. You react in the same way when you hear difficult information. The solution is not more control, but rather acceptance. Don't try to control your face. Just try to get in touch with what's making it move. A simple daily practice of mindfulness... I am talking like 5 minutes of breathing in the morning with your coffee, not super onerous... can gradually enable you to be more in tune with your body and your emotions. That self awareness will alert you to your own facial expressions and body language so that you can intervene to help translate those signals for your peers before they are misinterpreted. Give it a try. Do it every morning for 30 days, and I promise you'll see a difference.

How our language affects on our lives Negative language can have a significant impact on our daily lives, affecting our mindset, relationships, and overall well-being. Here are some examples of negative language patterns that people may use: Self-Deprecation: Instead of saying, "I'm not good at this," try expressing, "I can improve in this area." Catastrophizing: Instead of saying, "This is a disaster," consider saying, "This is a challenge, but I can handle it." Blame-Shifting: Rather than saying, "It's not my fault," try acknowledging your role and saying, "I could have handled that better." Absolutes: Avoid using absolute terms like "always" or "never," as they can create a sense of hopelessness. For example, replace "This always happens to me" with "This situation is challenging, but I can find solutions." Negative Comparisons: Instead of saying, "I'm not as good as others," focus on your strengths and say, "I have unique qualities that make me valuable." Complaining: Try expressing what you can do to address the issue or improve the situation. Victim Mentality: Replace statements like "I have no control" with a more empowering perspective, such as "I can take steps to influence this situation." Recognizing and adjusting these negative language patterns can contribute to a more positive and constructive mindset, fostering better relationships and overall mental well-being. For inquiries about the workshop Positive language and communication contact [email protected] #corporatehealth #wellness #wellbeing #holistichealth #lifecoachingforwomen #communication #organisationalculture

In life, we all want to seem like confident people. This is because if we are confident people, other people would tend to trust us more. To seem confident, we have to be careful of what body language we display. This is because our body language reflects whether we are confident or not. In order to look like we are naturally confident, we should avoid certain body language. We should practice these habits so that we seem more confident than we are. If we seem confident to others, it would help us boost our own confidence level.

Creating Unconscious Rapport Unconscious rapport goes beyond words. It involves mirroring body language, matching vocal tones, and aligning with the other person's energy. These subtle cues create a sense of similarity and trust. For instance, if the person you're speaking to leans forward, you might do the same. If they speak softly, lower your voice. These adjustments happen below the level of conscious awareness but can significantly enhance the connection. Practising these techniques will make them second nature, allowing you to build rapport effortlessly. When you mirror someone's body language, you're subconsciously telling them that you are like them. This similarity breeds comfort and trust, making the other person feel more at ease. It's not about mimicking every move, but about adopting similar postures and gestures in a natural, subtle way. Matching vocal tones is another powerful tool. Pay attention to the pitch, pace, and volume of the other person's speech. If they speak slowly and softly, adjust your own speech to match. This alignment in vocal patterns can make the conversation flow more smoothly and create a harmonious interaction. Similarly, if they are enthusiastic and animated, increasing your own energy can help create a vibrant, engaging dialogue. Aligning with the other person's energy means being sensitive to their emotional state and responding appropriately. If they are calm and composed, maintain a similar demeanor. If they are excited or passionate, reflect that enthusiasm in your responses. This emotional mirroring helps establish a deeper connection and makes the other person feel understood and valued. To practice these techniques, start by observing people in social settings. Notice how individuals who are in sync tend to mirror each other's movements and speech patterns. Practice with friends or colleagues, paying close attention to their body language and vocal tones. Over time, these techniques will become intuitive, allowing you to create unconscious rapport effortlessly in any situation. Building unconscious rapport is not about manipulation; it's about creating genuine connections. This skill is invaluable in both personal and professional interactions, helping you to communicate more effectively and build stronger relationships. How can you apply the principles of unconscious rapport to enhance your interactions and build stronger connections in your daily life?

📚"What Every Body Is Saying" by Joe Navarro📚 In a time where communication extends beyond the spoken word, Joe Navarro's "What Every Body Is Saying" is an indispensable guide to deciphering the unspoken language of our bodies. Recommended by Amy Cuddy - a renowned social psychologist and author, this book delves into the nuanced realms of human behaviour, offering insights into both verbal and non-verbal communication. Navarro, a former FBI counterintelligence officer with a keen expertise in nonverbal behaviors, presents a narrative that bridges the gap between scientific research and practical application. The book explores the dual aspects of human interaction, emphasising the significant role non-verbal cues play in our daily exchanges. One of the book's core strengths lies in its detailed analysis of the limbic brain—the epicenter of our emotional responses. Navarro illustrates how this primal part of our brain governs our reactions to the world in a reflexive and thoughtless manner, providing a foundational understanding for interpreting non-verbal signals. Navarro dissects the body into its constituent parts—facial expressions, arms, feet, legs, torso, and eyes—each narrating its own story of truthfulness or deception. This segmentation approach not only breaks down the complexity of body language but also equips readers with the tools to discern the underlying emotions and intentions of others. Among the book's revelations is the identification of the most honest parts of our body—those that unwittingly betray our true feelings (I won’t spoil it). This knowledge is invaluable, especially when contrasted with the stark reality that humans, on average, possess a mere 50% accuracy rate in detecting lies, a figure that includes professionals like Navarro himself. This statistic, juxtaposed with the 60% to 80% accuracy rate of polygraphs, underscores the challenge of mastering non-verbal cues. My interest in nonverbal behaviour is not rooted in uncovering deceit for its own sake but in understanding when clients might be deceiving themselves. "What Every Body Is Saying" has proven to be an exceptional resource in this regard, enhancing my Socratic exploration with clients. By recognising and interpreting the subtle signs of self-deception, I am better positioned to guide clients towards their own revelations and truths. "What Every Body Is Saying" is a journey into the depths of human interaction and psychology. Navarro's expert guidance, combined with practical insights, makes this book a must-read for anyone looking to enrich their understanding of human behaviour, both in professional settings and personal relationships. #Psychotherapy #CognitiveBehavioralTherapy #MentalHealthAwareness #TherapyInsights #MentalWellbeing #CBTPractitioner #MentalHealthProfessionals #TherapeuticTechniques #Counselling #MindfulnessTherapy #cbt #cbttherapy #cbttherapist

"Knowing the self is far more important than paying attention to any type of criticism generated on the outside. The external criticism bounces the perspective of another, which may be filled with negativity derived from their own periods of suffering, implying hate speech, racism, or any other type of discrimination we may be subjected to in the environment we’re inserted into. We need to prepare the self to face external criticism in a conscious and meaningful way but we cannot let such criticism define the self, no matter the circumstances. What defines the self is the deep knowledge and understanding we have about our own consciousness, and how we can use them to step into our personal evolution. The more we attain clarity of mind to understand that, the easier we can live, love, and free ourselves from any type of criticism generated on the outside, whether it is a good one. The moment we are free, it’s the moment we become the ruler of our own mind..." #consciousness #understanding #Life #motivation #inspiring https://lnkd.in/d9K5BUWc

1. Match body language If you are looking to impress, get attention, or gain respect, observe the body language of the person you are talking to and try to imitate it. Research proves that this behavior will show comfort, reinforce trust, and help build a rapport between you and the person you are talking to. - Nurturing Empathy: People are drawn to people who interact with them in a way that shows understanding and care. For example, if you take the time to listen to a coworker's worries about a project and give them positive comments, you build a connection and show empathy. Integrity: Being honest and consistent in what you say and do can help your peers trust you. If a friend sees that you always keep your promises and are honest, even in small things like giving back borrowed items on time, they are likely to like that about you. Being open-minded: Being open to different ideas and points of view helps people feel like they belong. If someone brings up an unusual point of view in a group talk, it can make others feel valued and appreciated if you think about it instead of just ignoring it. - Showing Resilience: Being able to get back up after a setback may be attractive to other people. If you have a setback, like losing your job, and talk about how you are dealing with it and looking for new chances, it can be inspiring to those around you. - Being Curious: A natural desire to learn and interest can make other people want to learn too. If you go to a museum and show that you really want to learn about different kinds of art, other people may be interested and want to explore with you. - Giving support: Being a source of motivation and encouragement can be a powerful way to get people to like you. For example, cheering for a teammate during a sports game and praising their efforts, no matter the result, can create a positive and appealing energy. - Being humble: Recognizing and praising the efforts and contributions of others, even in small, everyday jobs, can help people get along. Thanking a colleague for their help in a meeting or letting a family member know how hard they worked to make a meal can make them feel loved and valued. - How to Develop a Sense of Humor: A good sense of humor that doesn't put others down can make conversations fun and easy. During a stressful time at work, telling a funny joke that doesn't hurt anyone's feelings can ease the tension and make you more likable.