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Recruiting Leader @ Zapier | Former Educator | Advocate for job seekers, demystifying recruiting, and making the workplace more equitable for everyone!!

Harrison Butker whines about DEI, thinks women belong at home raising babies instead of building careers, and attacks the LGBTQ community. And apparently he believes women's lives don't really begin until they get married and have kids - imagine being married to someone who sees everything that happened before they entered the picture as irrelevant. But in the grand scheme of things, he's fairly irrelevant and non-influential in most of our lives. Maybe he made that speech just to have a shot at a bit more relevance and fame - we've seen it work for other men who think like him, why not take a page out of the playbook? But here's who may have more impact on you: -The leadership at Benedictine College that read that speech and felt this was appropriate message to send their recent grads who will soon be your colleagues. -Those board members at Benedictine College who run their own businesses and are making decisions about who to hire and promote and what businesses and initiatives to support.  -The millions of men thinking just like him who are making decisions about hiring and promotions and donations in your communities. Maybe they look at an applicant's pronouns and see a sinner.  Maybe they see a young woman's application and believe her real priority and passion is having kids instead of career, and hire a man instead. Maybe they decide not to promote the new mom because they believe her focus should be her family regardless of her actual skills and goals. As far as I can tell, Harrison Butker is a small man who is threatened by progress for other groups and therefore, pushes rhetoric to try to stop that progress. But he's not making decisions that will impact any of us. But there are small men just like him all over the US who are.

Andrew Ahn

Junior Web Developer

1mo

So, he was invited by the head of Catholic school, as a Catholic, to speak to Catholics, in the USA, and somehow people are surprised he doesn't think highly of LGBTQ, etc? I'm reading the transcript of his speech, something I suspect many people arguing either in support or not of him have not done. There are some factual errors in the speech (Jesus did not infact found the Churcg, or the religion that bears his name, he was just preaching against the perceived excesses of the Jewish faith). Most of the speech actually rails against the Catholic Church (basically, they're not doing things properly). Honestly, most of this is stuff I'd expect from any Christian not from the Church Of England. Most Christian organisations have quite the hard line regarding homosexuality etc.

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Jess Ramos, MSBA

Sr. Data Analyst @ Crunchbase | Founder @ Big Data Energy⚡️ | LinkedIn [in]structor | Empowering career growth in data | Breaking industry stereotypes

1mo

I can't even believe that speech was approved. Such a slap in the face for all the women celebrating a 4 year academic achievement that day. Did he consider some women don't want to get married and have babies? Or that some women physically can't? Disgusting.

Les Lim

LinkedIn is absurd, please stop recruiting me

1mo

I love that the Benedictine nuns behind the institution were inspired to clap back at Butker’s regressive nonsense: https://www.mountosb.org/

Scott Ledford

Owner, Law Office of Scott M. Ledford, LLC

1mo

I don't get anything from his speech that you appear to have gotten. Moreover, I respect everyone's right to express their beliefs, even if someone else may find it to be harmful of offensive. It makes for more honesty and clarity of with whom you are dealing instead of people speaking in hushed tones about their *real* beliefs. Riding on the DEI bandwagon doesn't mean that you have an insulated bubble that protects you from "mean tweets" or ideas that you don't agree with. In fact, it's quite the opposite. If you're truly on the DEI bandwagon, you're going to embrace all sorts of viewpoints and ideas, whether or not you necessarily agree with them. Anything less isn't true acceptance of DEI.

🌈 Desiree Goldey 🌈

Marketing, Talent, & Culture Leader | DEIB Champion & Strategist | Challenging Everyone to Do Better | Public Speaker

1mo

Exactly. I could care less about him and his viewpoints, but I do care about the people in "power" who thought this made sense. The same happens in the workplace, which is why we must continue fighting for change.

Ron Sperber

Data Scientist & Analyst ◆ Machine Learning, Python, SQL ◆ Specializing in Predictive & Prescriptive Analytics and Classification Initiatives while Helping organizations choose the best strategies backed by data

1mo

My first reaction afterwards was "The speech was horrible, but the worse part is how many people think he was spot on" and that sadly includes many people in positions of power.

Gloriann Sahay

Cloud Operations Manager at Trimble, technology leader specializing in cloud transformation, and DEI leader/learner with a focus on women in tech

1mo

Imagine if it was reversed and someone gave a speech about how men should be excited to be fathers instead of their careers.

Heather Duval Gilbert

Sr. Director: Brand + Content Marketing @ Engine Shop Agency

1mo

People can have their own opinions/lifestyles, but to give THAT speech at peoples *graduation from college* seems so tone-deaf. Did you see that even the Benedictine Nuns released a statement against his speech?

Bernadette Pawlik

Job Search / Career Strategist, Recruiting Insider

1mo

Has anyone reported on the reaction of the graduates? I didn't attend a religiously affiliated university but that applause from what I understand was thunderous...so why? I assume that some of the audience were parents, but did female students applaud as well? (What made me think of this: I see a lot of YouTube clips recently about "TradWives", which seems to mean women who have chosen a very traditional wife role. Now, they are all dressed beautifully making Martha Stewart worthy meals..but are we seeing women endorsing this?)

Jonathan Corrales

I help people in software get hired by coaching them to show their value, effectively

1mo

Bonnie Dilber I couldn't believe he said the things he said. That was ... something. A bunch of antiquated nonsense. Look, my entire life I've been surrounded by strong, independent women. My older sister worked since she was 17. My wife has worked since she was 16. My mom worked since she was in her teens too. She raised two kids, worked blue collar and white collar jobs alike, and did it all as a single mother. She did the maintenance work on her cars (oil change, tune ups, clutch work, and so on). She could do electrical work, install flooring, and more. And she could crank out a spreadsheet if she had to. Then at night, she'd help me practice my multiplication tables, cook dinner, and whatever else she needed to get done. That women belong at home crap needs to go the way of the dinosaurs. What year is this? If women want to work, cool. If they want to be homemakers, cool. It's their choice. I know several men that wanted to be homemakers, and they are. And they rock. They're BAMFs. They're not less manly for wanting to take care of things at home.

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