I held hands at a concert with a blind man named Andrew. What happened next was hilarious. Should I feel bad about that clickbait headline? Probably, but I stand by it. I’d gone to the Ocean Alley concert on my own, at the wonderful Forum Theatre in Melbourne. I love going to gigs with friends or my brothers, but the solo outing does leave room for serendipitous encounters. And so it was. I’m so glad I got to experience the show with Andrew, a warm and friendly man with the courage to ask for what he wants. In this Fink Tank Col and I laugh about the cultural norms that were comedically broken that night. Unspoken in this conversation are the gendered safety issues around this topic. Patriarchy, misogyny, and homophobia have a lot to answer for here. I asked Andrew for consent for the photos, and to share the story. And I won’t forget that night anytime soon! -- Follow + 🔔 Find The Fink Tank on the usual podcast platforms
Not gonna lie, for a minute I thought this was going to be one of those LinkedIn posts that segued with “and let me tell you how holding hands with Andrew is like selling B2B programs”. And I should have known better. You two are much cleverer than that. 🧡🩷
This. Is. Hilarious. The ability to put aside social norms and go with the flow is a true joy. I have a buddy who always face touches during hugs. At first I was weirded out about it. Now if he hugs me without a face touch, I feel some kind of way. Love watching your laughter, Caminator!
Your stories are always gold 🌟 😊
Cracker story boys , 🙏😉 for sharing and caring , 😃
An awesomely told story of an incredible experience.
The cultural norms weren't always this way: Here are two encouraging articles I just re-read from Brett McKay, Kate McKay, and The Art of Manliness: 1/ https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/the-history-and-nature-of-man-friendships/ 2/ https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/bosom-buddies-a-photo-history-of-male-affection/ ~ Cameron Fink Col Fink
I'd love it if this was Andrew's ruse - and his support worker was also in on the whole thing. Seeing how Andrew gets strangers to hold hands. And on another social media platform Andrew is posting about your reaction to the whole situation. Kind of like free hugs, but holding hands at concerts.
Mmm parachute pants. And this is the most delightful story. Bring on more collegial hand holding I say.
Laughing out loud right alongside you two 😂 Great story and no-one tells 'em like the Fink Tank.
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4dLove this so much. Connection. Energy. Feeling. When I was pregnant with my first child and working in a school I would be out in the playground in the arvo when the kids all left for the day to say bye and see the parents and have a yak. As my belly got bigger the little kids loved coming up and putting their hands on my belly (which grosses some people out for a number of reasons - but I loved it) ❤️. I loved the idea of my child getting all this wonderful energy and vibes from these kids that I loved! Love the post gang and love the music.