Hey everyone,
I’m back and proud to share that my next adventure is taking me to Reddit as their newest content designer!
Before anything else, let’s get into a few shoutouts. A special thanks goes to these folks in particular–they were critical in many ways and this post couldn’t exist without the care they showed me: Nasikar Lezeau, David Rice, Aaron Avila, Donny Guy, Garry Guerrier, Michael Ochnicki, Natalie Remon-Simpson, MS, Ivan D. and Jahmal Heron.
Here are a few things I kept in mind over the last few months:
1. You are more than your work
For me, this mentality is an exercise in mindfulness. Prime example- I almost led this post off with “I’m Reddit’s newest content designer.” As cool as it sounds, that’s not who I am. I’m Tory, a person with more than a few passions, fears, quirks and aspirations, dreams (you get it).
While the work I produce matters greatly to me (it always will), it no longer defines me. Somewhere along my journey I lost sight of who I was outside of the work I did for these companies. It took losing that to realize there’s more to me than what I create on the clock. I hope everyone (whether affected by a layoff or not) remembers that we're people first and employees somewhere further down the line.
2. Do what’s best for you
I hit the ground running when it came to applying for new opportunities but that might not work for everyone. There’s value in every approach, but only you know what’s best for you and your families. Do that. There's a lot of noise out there on the best approach for layoffs and a lot of it is just that--noise.
3. Don’t expect “you” from other people
Layoffs are generally one-sided conversations. If you’re going through one and you’re anything like me, you’ve spent a lot of time asking questions you’ll never get answers to.
I always want to know why things happen or why people do (or don’t do) things. The problem is, if left unchecked, it becomes a distraction from reality. Thoughts like “Well, I don’t understand this because I would have done x,y,z.” didn’t bring me any closure, they brought me the opposite, resentment at first and then sadness and a pinch of bitterness later. I had to accept the fact that there are some things I’ll never know.
Sometimes people handle situations differently than you would. And that’s ok.
Hearing one side of the story is tough. Changing your life’s path suddenly is tough. Layoffs are TOUGH. And unfortunately, that’s just a life thing. But choosing to focus my time and energy on the folks who actively showed up for me, had my back, encouraged and uplifted me made all the difference for my mental state.
I think I’ve rambled enough here for now, but as always if we’ve worked together in the past and you need anything at all, my dm’s are open. I’m happy to move forward in my life with a new opportunity and I’m happy to help anyone else out there do the same however I can.
See? I told y’all this wouldn’t keep me down for long.
Amazing opportunity, love to see that ERGs are valued and efforts are made to communicate those values org-wide.