Wow, this is very interesting. To be denied the status of authority re both what happened and how you understand what happens in your life really tees people up for inordinate codependency on external signifiers. It is why the waves of external curation can leave people with such an existential life crises. And furthermore, it places significant strains on state recognition, criminal accountability and redress mechanisms. Cultures do curate overlapping mechanisms of denial for harms done by siding with the dominant. This is an oppressive experience. One2many are indentured2such an extent that they side with the dominant appraisal. Un-concealment of harms is difficult even though the implicit message is clear there is a victim, impacts are overt, yet it is too threatening to articulate with coherence and consistency, and/or some can defend the indefensible and simply side with quietude in the avoidance of scandal. The assertion of energy is back to front, in defence of the realm, where the victim/survivor portrayed as knowledge resistant, a troublesome human being, up to mischief; trying to disturb the peace. It is very infantile on 2many levels. And we should not feel obliged to defend these expected&imposed loyalty points.
Some people are always quick to blame the victims of crime or other misfortune. Some of this is based in denial that bad things happen to good people, but much of it is just everyday sadism.