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Pops was at every thing that was important - but he wasn't around all the time Winter quarter of Sophomore year of college - I was getting crushed by expectations. I wasn't playing particularly well on the court and the classes I chose were killing me. After a solid freshman year, perhaps I got a little ambitious and in my sophomore year I signed up for Econ, Statistics, Calculus, and a PoliSci class that I ended up dropping mid quarter. Trying to take 20 units in the middle of the basketball season, what the heck was I thinking During the winter quarter we traveled extensively for games and were pretty much exhausted from long practices when we were on campus. I wasn’t focused and me and my college GF broke up several times that quarter - I was a mess. Well intended, but simply an undisciplined mess So we close out a mediocre sophomore season and about a week later Stanford mailed my quarterly grades to his office in San Diego. Pops flew up unexpectedly to visit me. Someone told me in the gym that he was out in the parking lot waiting for me. Pops would come up from time to time. He would buy me a great meal and slip me some cash along with some words of encouragement and a pat on the back and maybe a "make sure you call your mother" He was also unmercifully blunt with many of his messages. Me: “Hey Pops” (not knowing what is coming) Pops was 6'4" and I am 6'8" but he towered over me as he went in and started jabbing his index finger into my chest over and over and over and over - you know that part of your chest just left of your sternum. Pops had been a gifted athlete known for his intelligence, quick feet and mean streak - that index finger jabbed into my chest and his glare burned into my soul. I was a strapping g young student athlete at the time but I was emotionally reduced to that 6 year old boy that knew a whooping was coming after I got caught doing something wrong during my childhood. Pops: "Do you have any idea how many Wright's have suffered and sacrificed for you to have this opportunity to achieve here at this university"???!!! Me: speechless, ashamed, embarrassed Pops: "Get your shit together right the F@&k now young man". And with that he left and drove off. I wandered back into the gym, finished my shower and rode my bike straight to the Library!!!! That was one of the worst days in my life That was one of the best days of my life. I never got anything less than a B after that - on the court I earned two time All PAC 10 honors and fulfilled my childhood dream of making the NBA - more importantly I kept my promise to my mother and received my degree in Qualitative Economics Pops and I never really spoke about that confrontation ever again, but 15 Years later at my induction to the Stanford Athletic HoF we shared a knowing look while I was on the podium thanking him Happy Father’s Day Pops

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Scott Kaplan

Sided Founder, Host of ESPN 710 LA “Sedano & Kap”, and Executive Producer Kaplan & Crew

1mo

Wow!

Love this story Howard G. For some reason my chest hurts from you effectively recalling this moment #MrWright

Babak Pahlavan

Founder/CEO/CPO of NinjaTech AI (MyNinja.ai), Ex-Sr. Director of Product Management, 11yr Googler | Winner of Google Manager Award | 4x Entrepreneur | Investor, advisor & mentor | AI/ML geek | Stanford & Berkeley

1mo

Genuinely inspiring. Thank you for sharing Howard Wright. My mom did a similar thing for me when I was getting crushed by UC Berkeley (I was doing dual degree Electrical engineering and computer science; it was rough). To this day, I remember those moments of thinking I can't let her down; whatever it takes.

Garin Veris

Looking forward to working with you in 2024

1mo

A great man !

Derek J. Bruton

Senior Managing Director, Gladstone Group; Host of "Can You Hold My Attention?" Podcast

1mo

My father and mother met your parents at one of our games. I still recall their characterization of your Dad - a “man from San Diego with a personality from New York” and a man who “commanded deep respect”. Happy Father’s Day Howie.

Cher Jones

Your Brand At Work™ Expert, Speaker & Trainer | I teach Leaders & Teams how to build their personal brands to thrive in their roles, grow their careers & advocate for themselves + their teams | Obsidi #TechTalks Host

1mo

This by far was the best Father’s Day story/tribute. I’ve read in a while. Well done Howard Wright 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Brad Winney

CEO, nClouds, Ex-AWS, Limited Partner Stage2 Capital, Startups, CEO, CRO, Investor, Advisor

1mo

Love this Howard.

Amanda Wright

Raising two of the next generations greatest ☺️

1mo

Your Dad was a product of his own upbringing. He cared deeply about your work ethic and discipline and thought he had to be extra tough on you to get the impact….though had he made the effort to go see you in person and have a sit down, man-to-man conversation with you….knowing you…it would have been just as effective and motivating. I’m proud of you for gleaning these tough lessons in life so you can do things a different, but just as effective way, for our son.

Brent Wilkins, MBA

Business Development ONUG Communications

1mo

Howard love this sir. My youngest son’s first game as a hockey player at Providence College was my birthday on October 7, 2016. In his first game as a true freshman had 3 assists and won the game. Our son was undrafted and Providence the only one of two schools that recruited him and offered a scholarship. The Providence head coach came down after the game and I expected him to say how great our son was…he simply said “if this is going to work your son needs to attend every class” Let’s just say the Dad part came out, he never missed another class, was an All American his junior year and signed a contact with the Nashville Predators. I get it. Thank you for sharing.

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