Jason Lorber’s Post

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It is summer time, I'm out on my front porch. It's super hot and, um, thunderstorms, but I'm protected. I've got my Ben and Jerry's ice cream and when I'm buying a pint of Ben and Jerrys. Which happens on a daily basis I. Try to remember. To have an agreement with myself. Before I bring it home that I'm only going to eat half the pint, I'm not gonna eat the whole thing this time. And. I would say that half of the time that I set that goal. I keep it. And. All of the time that I don't set that goal, I finished the entire pint. And Oh my God, sometimes there's two for one on sale with the pints and that's just, that's bad news, but. When you're entering a negotiation or a conversation that's particularly, you want a certain outcome and it could be, umm, you have a family member or a friend that you're saying, you know. When we have conversations, I want it to be civil and if it's not civil, then I'm not going to be able to partake in it. I'm going to have to get up and leave. Or let's say you're being offered a job and it's good to know beforehand. Well, I'll, I'll be willing to take the job if they let me work from home. Or if they give me extra time off. But it's good to know that before you go into the meeting. And setting these. Boundaries in negotiation terms, we call it a BATNA best alternative to a negotiated agreement. And knowing setting that before the meeting, before you can be influenced by the other person enables you to be clear with yourself. And then if you're clear with yourself, you can be clear with your the other person. But if you don't set those ahead of time. Especially if you are a people pleaser or in my case. An ice cream oholic. Then you're toast. And you're not gonna accomplish what you need to try to think about that ahead of time. And good talking with you. I think you got what we needed. Although actually I think we should probably do another two or three takes and I think we're going to need some more ice.