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Ever felt guilty about taking some time off? Not fully present with your loved ones in fun activities because you feel you should be doing something work-related? What if you could drop that guilt? You've learnt life is hard. And in the corporate world, you know you have to work a certain number of hours to "deserve" your salary. Now you have your own business as a creative who follows your passion but you're used to the struggle. So when you take some time off, you feel guilty. You feel you have to practice more or work more on your marketing, or do something to make sure you feel worthy of earning your money. You might not be consciously aware that that's what's happening, but subconsciously that's part of the identity you have built from what society and caretakers have told you. What if I told you that all of this is only a perception? Picture this: you have shifted your beliefs and perceptions about yourself. You have let go of the struggle mode, you have healed the feeling of guilt. You now see that your worth doesn't depend on anything external. You feel worthy of having more time and of creating / receiving more material resources Your mind is now clear, which creates more peace in your body, allowing more flow for your creativity to be unleashed. You can feel successful and fulfilled (without that tension in the back of your mind). It's not just about feeling better emotionally and mentally; the ripple effects are huge and pave the way for financial freedom too. If you're ready to let go of guilt and have a clearer mind to optimise your work time and have a better work/life balance, DM me and let's chat about how my work can help you break through that struggle mode and income plateau for more ease and peace.

Midlife crisis happens these days around our 30's (and even younger). Why is that? Are younger people maturing much faster? What I observe with people between the age of 20-35 yr, is that our Information Age pushes them to ask bigger questions. When I was around that age, I was fully focussed on my career and a bit later how to juggle this with becoming a mother. That focus is still there for many, but what is added, is the daily stream of information on worldly problems, I didn't know about back then. The huge amount of information you can find about basically any topic, or, it will find you pushed through social media algorithms, is quite tough to ignore. And how to process this all emotionally? It makes sense that big life questions are asked in an age where the world is in chaos, where there is a lot of tension and threat, where the future feels unsure. Questions like: 'Is my career bringing me fulfilment or does it contribute to make this world a better place?' 'What kind of relationship do I desire?' (marriage is no longer a standard) 'Do I want children when the future is unsure?' 'Why am I here?' 'Who am I?' 'Is there more to life than success and wealth?' Being confronted (aware of it or not) with these big life questions so much earlier in life, takes away the natural eagerness and invincibility to belief everything is possible. This does influence our workplaces, where boredom and burn-out are normal 'illnesses' these days. Nevertheless, I find this shift very promising, because a good life crisis will push this generation into more self awareness, and that will eventually lead to better and improved life, more conscious parenting and conscious choices to create new solutions that fit new perspectives. If one is courageous enough to perceive this questioning-phase as a huge opportunity, the shift will be short, bitter-sweet and liberating. One will come out much stronger and above all, natural empowered and aligned authentically. So what to do if you feel this is happening to you right now? The first step is just being curious, open yourself and find some eagerness to learn more. It is not a crisis, it is an amazing opportunity.

30 ways my clients’ lives have changed after working with me: 1. They began to feel a tenderness toward themselves when they previously felt a demanding harshness  2. They negotiated a higher salary because they know their value, worth, and contribution  3. They left relationships that were damaging to their self-esteem and spirit  4. They have clarity on their future career path 5. They have a clear sense of purpose  6. They developed self-compassion instead of constantly beating themselves up  7.  They can communicate calmly to their partner, family, and friends when they feel hurt 8. They understand the parts of themselves that have been neglected and tormented and can give them love and care  9. They assert boundaries with partners, employers, friends, and family because they know that boundaries are there to protect their sacredness  10. They began to feel empowerment, joy, and endless possibility when they think about their future  11. They pursued creative passions  12. They launched businesses that light up their spirit  13. They got promoted into a job that fulfils them 14. They understand and soothe the parts of them that feel shame  15. They have a clear framework for how to communicate clearly at work and in their personal life  16. They know their top values and the behaviours that support them  17.  They allow themselves to rest  18. They have a calmer nervous system  19. They developed a mind-body connection that guides their decision-making  20. They built a loving family where they are present for their children and partner  21.  They resolved pain with their parents from childhood  22. They travelled to new countries alone  23.  They can handle setbacks and “failures” with dignity  24.  They left jobs that do not align with their values and purpose  25.  They stopped being so angry  26. They exercise more regularly  27.  They meditate  28. They enjoy their solitude  29.  They feel at peace  30. They relate to the world from a state of wholeness As I wrote this list, I felt an overwhelming sense of joy and peace that I'm living my life's purpose: to help people build more joyous lives. ⁠ ⁠Every single one of these changes is something I’ve witnessed in a client.⁠ ⁠ My job is to help you build the life you've always dreamed of. ⁠That could cover health, relationships, career, or self-esteem. ⁠ If you want these changes, the 10-Week Life & Work Transformation starts this Friday. ⁠ There are only a few spots left for the founding cohort. ⁠ Comment the word TRANSFORM or send me a DM if you want to change your life. #lifecoach #transformationcoach #lifecoaching

I'll never forget the day I sunk my face into my hands as I broke down in tears in front of my laptop. "What happened to me? Why do I feel insignificant and unseen? What happened to my life and the idea of a fulfilling career?" Although I had felt empty for a while, the emotions had been bottled up and unmanaged for too long. I didn't want to get to that level of confusion and dissatisfaction but there I was. I hid my true feelings from myself by denying what was really happening. I camouflaged my unhappiness with amazing vacations, delicious dinners out, and retail therapy. I thought hiking and working out was enough to clear my head and make me feel purposeful but they weren't. I felt the need to repeat these activities, mostly out of desperation to refresh and refuel versus experiencing pure enjoyment. I began socializing less and cared about work minimally. I wasn't maintaining my physical health which was making me feel less attractive. Top it off with perimenopausal symptoms and my organized life turned into mush. 😔 Life happens when we aren't paying attention. Life will wake you in the morning and force you to put one foot in front of the other but it doesn't mean you're consciously making decisions. 💣 Being alive doesn't mean you're living. As I held my tear-soaked face that day, I knew I wanted more. I had no freaking idea how to get out of where I was but I knew the only way to start living was to wake up to what had been slowly happening to me. When I say "happening to me," I really mean, what I permitted to happen in my life. 💡 If you had five years left to live, how would you spend it? 💡 If you had three years left to live, how would you spend it? If your answers are significantly different from how you're living your life now, you may have just realized you've been alive but not living. I chose to live and love on a level I always wanted. Everything smells different and tastes different. Colors are more vibrant and laughter only comes from my belly. 🙌 Start living! Your life happens today! #lifecoachforwomen #cpconnector #startliving #whatsyourpurpose #livefulfilled *********************************** Curious to know what it's like to work with a coach? Watch my free workshop and decide for yourself if working with a coach is right for you. https://lnkd.in/gV5huYAX

Are you off work at the moment? Then this is an opportunity for you to get lots done but it's so easy to fall into bad habits, stop prioritising what's important and feel like the days are just passing by leaving you feeling a little deflated. It's Monday, and that means it's time for our weekly prompt to plan a well balanced week to help you make the most of your time away from work. Use this template to set 1-3 things you would like to do in each section to feel like you have had a productive and balanced week! 🧠 Mental wellbeing 💪 Physical health 🏡 Home environment 💰 Financial wellbeing 📚 Career & education 👨👩👧👦 Family & relationships 👫 Friends & partner 🎨 Hobbies & interests ✈️ Travel plans 🤝 Volunteering/helping others 🎉 Celebrating your successes 🔍 Self-reflection 👋 Hello, I'm Sarah Legge, your return to work expert! If you're currently off work for whatever reason and you would like some help to; - make the most of your time off - make decisions about what returning to work looks like for you - Help getting interview ready, securing that new role and getting back in the game. Then I would love to help you! Please message me saying 'off work' and I will send you a link to book a call with me to find out more about how I can help you. You can also join my waiting list for a free return to work guide that I will be releasing SOON! Message me saying JOIN and I will add you to my list. #TimeOffWork #CareerBreak #PersonalDevelopment #GoalSetting #BackToWork #JobSearch #WorkLifeBalance #SelfImprovement #CareerTransition #MentalHealthAwareness #ProfessionalGrowth #LifeCoaching #CareerCoaching #Unemployment #JobHunt #Sabbatical #MaternityLeave #PaternityLeave #SickLeave #ReturningToWork #Burnout #Redundancy #Retirement #Bereavement #Breakups #Divorce #HealthRecovery

𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙩𝙤𝙤 𝙤𝙡𝙙 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨. I missed my last chance to change my life. Jim came to me feeling defeated and disappointed. His life was gray and monotonous. His future looked gloomy and hopeless. He felt stuck. The decisions he put off making caught up with him. Some were changing jobs, moving to an area where he would have had more opportunities, exploring a new career, shifting into a more dynamic complementary industry, and starting his own business. There was never enough time. There was always the next deadline, project, and the end-of-year evaluations. He had told himself he would do it after X, Y, or Z for years. He never did because the monotony of his well-oiled routines and ongoing struggles kept him occupied. He was stuck in the rut. Before he knew it, he was 50+. Around this time, he felt he had reached the ceiling for growth in his current career. But how could it be he had so much more in him? Yet, there were no options for further growth. He considered staying where he was for another decade or so before it was time to retire. Soon, it turned into a nightmare. He felt unhappier by the day. He felt stuck. He didn’t want to continue this way. He reached out to friends and family for support. As well-intended as they were, they didn’t help much. They assured him that this was what midlife was about and that he was going through his midlife crises. One even suggested a boys’ night out to kill the bad mood. Somehow, Jim knew the mood was there for a reason and would not go away. The only thing that was going to come was a hangover. He has been unhappy and dissatisfied with his life for a while. Something had to be done. To his credit, he decided to take action and seek professional help. He decided to take the plunge and DM-ed me. In the following few months, he actively participated in his own life. Even after our first conversation, I could see how he stood taller and more energetic. Maybe there was light at the end of the tunnel. Some of the steps he took in our work together were: - To know himself better in this stage - To gain clarity on his values and priorities - To update his life script to reflect his current needs and aspirations - To prepare himself for setbacks and diversions - To develop a plan for action with a timeline - To put the required work I celebrate Jim’s success for him and everybody who wants to follow his steps. It is such a liberating experience to step out of your comfort zone and into your desired future. The road may be rocky and curvy, but it is worth it. Trust me, I’ve been there and seen others go on this journey. What do you want to have in your life? Are you prepared to miss the opportunity to do something now and live for the rest of your life, asking yourself, “What if?” DM me and give yourself the chance to make your future decisions with clarity and understanding. #MidlifeTransformation #CareerChange #PersonalGrowth #TakeActionNow

Who else’s life looks more like the first pie? 🙋🏻♀️ It starts right back when we’re a kid, my 16yo is copping it all the time, what career is she interested in? Why does work need to be the dictator of where life takes us? Wouldn’t the better question be - what sort of life do you want to lead (and how will your work support that)? We can't decide how we want to work until we decide how we want to live! When we lead with work, our jobs/business become our main focus and everything else gets tacked on. Of course there are pockets where we shift focus, newly married, new baby, or a health scare, but mostly we stay on the same track. We work our butts off and as we inch closer to that dreamed off retirement, the other things that are important to us starting dropping away… health, friendships, and sometimes even our marriage. All because where we’ve invested our time is lopsided. It’s never too late to flip this on its head. I did it at 45 and it’s the best decision I ever made. Start with asking yourself, honestly, what do you need from life to be comfortable, fulfilled and happy? What is your life's purpose, what impact do you want to make? Let me give you a tip, it’s not likely to include owning a maserati or a mansion. Then ask what does your ‘big enough’ business need to look like to support that vision? How can you simplify or refocus your business, to free up your time to spend it how you want? If you can’t get into the right headspace or need some help exploring these questions, DM me for a chat. #WorkLifeBalance #LiveYourBestLife #SimplifyYourBusiness #businessstorytelling #impactdriven #ballaratbusinesswomen #businesstip

"No one has a ready-made life. I repeat, no one. Even those born into financially sound families must navigate hardships. While they may have a financial advantage, they still need to learn to cope with emotions, health, and family dynamics . We all struggle, struggle, and struggle to make our lives worth living. We all need to start from scratch, building our empires and be a better human , with no shortcuts or easy routes. "So, we need to work. Working isn't bad, and at the end of the day, we all need to work to achieve our goals and support ourselves. However, sometimes people choose careers they don't truly want to pursue due to family pressure and circumstances. hopefully, I never did that "Sometimes, you think something is great for you, but it doesn't work out. And that realization gives you a sense of regret, feeling like you've made a wrong choice. What makes it even harder is that you can't blame anyone else for it - the responsibility is yours alone. I've been there, thinking, 'I did this.'"🫠 But after experiencing many things, I've come to a realization: it's never too late to make a change, but that doesn't mean procrastinating by thinking, 'I'll just wait a bit longer and then try something new.' That approach will only drain your energy, peace, time, and lead to guilt. We all need a career that excites us, making eager to jump out of bed in the morning and return to bed at night with a sense of fulfillment and peace. We should do what we love and love what we do, and the day we start doing that, trust me, we'll become unstoppable ." So are you loving what you do? #woklifebalance #career #mentalhealth #growth #happyworkinghours #stability #fulfillment #experience #responsibilities #hardships .

Don't trade your wellbeing for a paycheck. It's not worth it. All of the money in the world won't save you from a broken family, poor health and a crushed mind. Take it from me: - Have a date night every week with your spouse. - Spend 30 min daily for some exercise. - Fulfill your religious duties - Allocate 4 hours to do focused work. You don't need to hustle & grind 24/7 to be wealthy. But you do need discipline & consistency to show up to work everyday. This is how I do it: 1. Block the work hours on your calendar & share it with your spouse. 2. Eliminate distractions during those hours. Remember to aim for comfortable wealth & fulfilling heart. A more blissful life.

THIS WAS GOING TO BE MY ORIGINAL POST: “In a never ending work culture, go against the grain: 🏝️ Take your PTO 💻 Don’t take your work home 🧑🧑🧒🧒 Spend time with your family ….” AND THEN IT DAWNED ON ME, THAT IS SUCH A PRIVILEGED POST. Now don’t get me wrong, it's not a negative privilege to have. That’s actually such a great privilege! To be able to have the option to use time as you please… to have the option to take time off or to spend it with your family. I am a child of parents who came to this country years ago, with a dream to make a better life for their family. My parents, till this day, tell me stories about how they got here and all the hurdles they had to jump through while in a foreign country. One of those hurdles being, working multiple jobs to send money back home and to make a living for themselves. I know that my parents are not the only ones with this story. Take some time with me and imagine how many more people have had to work multiple jobs to support their family, as well as themselves, with no option to have any time off. Or the small time they did have off they would use it to catch up on sleep. Time off, was rarely an option for my parents. Time off for me, because of their sacrifices, is now a privilege. I hope you see how privileged you are to have time off and that you don’t take it for granted. It’s a beautiful thing that many wish they had. Take advantage of it. #worklifebalance #firstgenertion #PTO