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At the end of my mother’s life, she taught me one of life’s great lessons. Being a well-accomplished woman as Miss America and an actor, she utilized her deeply felt emotions and high-strung attitude to her advantage. As a Mom, she was loving and deeply cared for her children, but her temper many times got in the way. As she lay on her deathbed, her physical beauty covered with age, she opened her beautiful blue eyes and stared at me. Then she started to whisper, as it was all she could manage at that time. She murmured, “I cannot believe all the time I spent upset and angry. What a waste of time being so angry, over things that I realize today did not matter at all. Please forgive me.“ She stared at me a moment and then closed her eyes and went back to sleep. It was the last words I would ever hear her speak. Those few simple words made a profound impact on me. We all get angry; it is part of being human. It is your choice to hold on to it or let it go. Will you choose to make others around you miserable, or bring a joyous, happy spirit to life? People will forgive temporary anger, it is natural and sometimes even can serve a purpose, but nobody wants to be around an angry person. Holding onto anger hurts you more than anyone. It can create resentment and angst against your own body. Anger is one of the ways disease is formed. Every day we are presented with a choice on how we live; what type of impact we make on the world. Please do not waste your time being irritated or angry at people you love and things that do not matter. Life is a gift, and brutally short for all of us; do not waste a minute. Anger, resentment, hostility and “should haves” prevents what brings you joy. Live each day as if it were your last, because one day it will be - said in different forms from Marcus Aurelius’ to Steve Jobs. “There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot“ - Plato
Thank you, Kiki Vandeweghe. Your mother's words resonate deeply. As I approach the 25th anniversary of my mother's passing later this month, I'm reminded of her wisdom. During my engagement, she shared: "Mary Cay, there are very few things worth getting angry about." Like your mother's insight, it's a precious gift that continues to guide me.
Love this Kiki!
Thx for sharing this Kiki.
Beautiful wisdom from your mother. She was absolutely right🙏🙏
Such profound words .... thanks for reminding us of such an important lesson!
Kiki, most profound words I have ever heard from you! I am proud of you! You are a "Man"!
Kiki, what a great message! Very touching.
Teaching what you just learned to someone else is also an effective way to learn. Thank you for sharing this private moment.
Sorry for your loss, Kiki. But thank you for passing along your mother’s profound realization. It is a lesson for all mankind!
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1wBeautiful Mark Twain said, “When angry, count to 10. When very angry, count to 100 ( Way before brain research posited that the frontal cerebral cortex shuts down under stress, leaving us with our “ reptilian’s” brain, “ fight or flight Paraphrasing Aristotle, “ Anyone can be angry: this should be about when, how much and to what degree Sorry for your loss