It's time for #HonestyWednesday again. To be honest, while deciding what to write about today, I had #doubts come up. Just to be clear, there are a lot of different topics on my mind, and things I reflect on all the time (I'd say it's one of my hobbies). I'm not lacking ideas. But what if no one's interested? What if it's just all dull and boring for people, or annoying? Do I even have something meaningful to contribute? What am I even doing? And that's all it takes to be in a mental rut again. That reminded me of the article I have mentioned with my last week's recap on Friday. It stated that most of our thoughts are useless. And that we should aim for more variability in our thinking. (For those interested in reading it: https://lnkd.in/dSD-kN_g ) But why do we find ourselves in rigid thought patterns? From what I've seen in myself lately, I'd argue it could be the #emotions that come with it. The ones that are uncomfortable, that we want to avoid. What helps me (if I'm lucky to have enough energy and bandwidth that day) is giving myself a few seconds to feel the feeling. To tell myself it's okay to feel that way. And suddenly, when I've done that, my mind is more flexible. It comes up with new options to deal with things. I was surprised myself by how simple that is. Simple, but not easy. Maybe think about it this way: What if we could use our thoughts FOR us, not AGAINST us? #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #honest #thinking #cognition #LITanslators
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9moTalk about serendipity, Maria Theresia. This is exactly the kind of thing I just posted, but relating to grief after leaving an abusive relationship. It's true, once you stop denying your feelings and accept them, we can start growing.