Psychology Today’s Post

Kindness doesn’t always look or feel like flowers and butterflies. Kindness takes emotional intelligence, self awareness and intentional practice. kindness is a trait, a value and a skill we practice to strengthen at Gellert Health. #kindness #strength #kindvalues #healthcareworkers #bhpp #prss #gellerthealth

When you change to expressing your feelings instead of your thoughts, you will be able to become more vulnerable with your mate. In my article, I discuss some strategies on how to do that. https://buff.ly/3XkKeAQ #relationshipcoach #coachingforcouples #positivepoints

In a world where people judge both quiet and talkative folks, it's important to realize that everyone has their own struggles. Quiet people might seem mysterious, while talkative ones might be seen as too open. But being real means being true to yourself, whether you're quiet or loud.People who try to make everyone happy often get misunderstood. They might seem fake, but they're just trying to keep the peace while dealing with their own stuff. Even famous people, who seem to share everything, have their own private struggles. Instead of quickly judging others based on how they act, we should try to understand them better. By being kind and caring, we create a safe place for everyone to be themselves without worrying about being judged. #neverjudgeabookbyitscover #positivity #dealingwithlife #spreadinghappinesseverywhere #staypositive

Ever been left on read or suddenly cut off with no explanation? That’s ghosting—when someone abruptly stops all communication without any closure. People ghost rather than communicate due to a mix of fear, discomfort, or avoidance. It might feel easier than having a difficult conversation or facing uncomfortable emotions. But ghosting can leave the other person feeling confused and hurt. It can be very triggering. If you’ve been ghosted here are 3 coping strategies to help you move on. In therapy, we can explore these dynamics and develop healthier communication strategies. Book your consultation now!👉 #Ghosting #ghosted #communication #avoidance #avoidant #mentalhealthawareness #feelings #relationships

We often encounter negative thoughts and feelings during our day, for example anxiety, frustration, anger, or fear. Instead of engaging in destructive avoidance behaviour (working until late at night to "just get things done" for temporary anxiety relief, projecting the source of our feelings onto a partner and snapping at them for temporary anger/frustration relief, or drinking excessively to just cover it all up), it is much more beneficial to practice acceptance and self-compassion. Seeing someone in distress, most of us instinctively feel compassion towards that person. You can direct that compassion towards yourself also! If it's difficult to know how to do that, imagine what it feels like to experience compassion for someone else, then try to include yourself in that compassion. Need help in triggering a feeling of compassion? Feel free to use the image below! 😉 https://lnkd.in/gatpfxnU

Part 2: How to practice kindness A great follow-up question! Handling individuals who take advantage of others' kindness can be challenging, but here are some tips to help you navigate such situations: 1. _Set clear boundaries_: Establish limits on what you're willing to do or give. 2. _Communicate assertively_: Express your concerns and needs clearly, without aggression. 3. _Practice self-care_: Prioritize your own well-being to avoid burnout. 4. _Re-evaluate relationships_: Assess whether the relationship is balanced and healthy. 5. _Seek support_: Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you. 6. _Learn to say "no"_: Be comfortable with declining requests that drain your resources. 7. _Watch for patterns_: Recognize repeated exploitation and take action. 8. _Offer alternatives_: Suggest other resources or solutions for those taking advantage. 9. _Practice empathy with detachment_: Maintain kindness while maintaining healthy distance. 10. _Seek help if needed_: Consult with a therapist or trusted advisor for guidance. Remember, kindness doesn't mean tolerating exploitation. By setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care, you can maintain your kindness while protecting yourself from those who take advantage.

If anger never shows up, it’s usually because it doesn’t feel safe to show it. Anger is a vulnerable emotion. It shows that you feel hurt, ashamed, betrayed, mistreated etc. We can show anger and pain and still be respectful. Anger can show up as intensity of feeling, without steamrolling the other. It can cut through the bullshit without being run by the part of us that wants to lose it. The adult can be in charge as the anger is shown. This is not what I learned growing up. Taking charge of our anger also means connecting deeply with the full range of emotions, including love, fear, shame, joy, sadness, among others. When people attend our counselling and groups they become less reactive, more lovingly intentional.

Why empathy is important…

Empathy 💯 is super important both professionally and personally

Yesterday I was teaching the BANK Personality System to a group of future leaders and this was also one of the themes we discussed… not to be judgemental because we often do not have the complete picture given that what we see is only the surface. When we teach the BANK Personality System, it is not to box people in profiles because no personality tool can fully capture the complex and dynamic nature of human beings. Rather it is to equip people with tools for self awareness, and the ability to better understand individual differences to create synergies in organizations and teams.