👥 Recently, one of my best friends faced peer pressure while checking his social media news from his circles. I shared my long-standing secret with him, a method I’ve been using for the past five years since entering college. Thanks to this approach, I’ve only experienced transient and insignificant pressure a few times over the years.
Where there is peer pressure, unfollow 🚫
Don't get me wrong. By "unfollow" I mean feel free to take a break from absorbing irrelevant news to you ❣️
I don’t know what people are achieving out there. I don’t care and don’t see any reason to care. I’m more interested in hearing what people had to trade to achieve their goals.
Early failures in life taught me how much family, education, environment, and finances influence our paths.
When I was 16, I rode my electric bike every weeknight through rain and wind, across four lanes of container trucks in Thu Duc, Binh Duong, to attend English classes—a 40km round trip. Soaked in rain, my white ao dai clinging to me, the dark road ahead, the sound of wind, and my body stiff with tension and fear, I still didn’t miss a single class.
I had dinner at 9pm, studied until midnight, woke up at 6am, and repeated this cycle, becoming thin and pale.
- Weak in speaking? I worked on improving my speaking skills.
- School far away? I gritted my teeth and persevered.
- Found an IELTS teacher who only taught groups? I gathered friends to join me.
Despite all my efforts, I eventually had to give up because the teacher refused to teach us—it was too dangerous for us to travel far without parental supervision given the chaotic traffic in our area (now I feel really thankful but at that time I just couldn't accept). My family and I gave it our all, but even reaching the starting line for the IELTS test took 200% effort, making the dream of a European scholarship seem impossible.
I learned that trying alone isn't enough. We are not the center of the universe, and there are limits to what we can control. This painful lesson grounded me in understanding my starting point.
That’s why I don’t idolize anyone or easily feel pressured by others. Instead, I focus on understanding and building my own resources. Because, I know everyone has to trade off to get what they want. Sometimes, they have what I don't, I have what they don't.
We can't see the whole picture via some online posts.
Ps: Some of my mentees are starting to see results—some as expected, some not. I don’t wish everyone gets everything they want, but rather that everyone dares to try and advance to their finish line 🥺
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