Even without the Fairy Godmother. I was having a chat, or discussion with my wife the other day. We had watched Cinderella a day or two before. A movie, incidentally, that I love, and I happened to say something along the lines of ‘life should be like a fairy tale, don’t you think?’ Initially she looked at me like I had lost the plot. No pun intended. And its not just because I have a tendency to wear frock coats either. Let’s just think about it for a minute, what exactly is a fairy tale? A fairytale is a genre of magical story usually originating in folklore. Typically, a poor, brave, and resourceful hero or heroine goes through testing adventures to eventual good fortune and love. They include a wondrous or magical element, and include fantasy, supernatural or make-believe aspects. Let’s start at the beginning then. Why shouldn’t you be the poor brave or resourceful hero or heroine? The first component for that to happen then is belief. I struggle with that, still. However, by a little luck and by conscious decision, I am slowly collecting a fantastically supportive group of people around me. People who believe in me and find ways to say ‘yes, we can do that’, I still need that pointing out to me from time to time. Recently whilst struggling, perceiving I been let down again, my wife pointed out that ‘she had never let me down’. Amazingly obvious, however I needed reminding. Belief will always lead to resourcefulness. However, I am starting to believe. Anxiety makes imposter syndrome difficult to put away. Entirely. Brave? Well I’m not about to start bungee jumping or getting in the ring with Anthony Joshua either. Both require a certain amount of madness and whilst I may have a certain amount of madness, it’s not that type of madness. However, if I start feeling fear about something that is part of the every day then that is my que to stand up and step forward. If I am living my own fairytale then I have to be brave. No mean feat when anxiety is still rolling around in there… Giving a presentation to a large group of people, in a frack coat is scary. But I won’t back down, I know that the euphoria on the other side of that fear is one of the things that makes life so special. Whilst on the subject of frock coats, they are a symbol to me of how far I’ve come. For more on the fairytale, please visit https://lnkd.in/eD8ugn2Z Simon Pollard Urban Countryman March 2024. #mentalhealth #mentalwellbeing #fairytales #positivity #slowthemind Brian Mike Mike Gaynor Les Neil
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Blessings morning to you all Today someone of my colleagues had shared this photo on line it did strike my thoughts and emotions about doing help towards each others and how stressful to be challenging so ……… I wanted to take a moment to reflect on the significance of supporting one another in life, particularly during challenging times. Throughout our own experiences and myself with job searches, heartbreak, health challenges, financial problems, doubts in self-esteem, and family responsibilities towards raising your kids throughout that challenging time Also losing loved ones without seeing them or done what we should done with while they are with us I wrote on self reflection but is We all can think of those moments who we been through changing era of life I have come to understand the immense value of having people who offer their assistance with minimal expectations. In these moments of struggle, it is crucial that we provide not only practical help but also moral support through kind words and attentive listening. I am truly grateful that, when I faced such difficulties, fate brought individuals into my life who encouraged my positivity and emphasized the importance of recognizing my own strengths. They reminded me that the key lies in acknowledging our capabilities rather than solely focusing on overcoming weaknesses. I have learned that each person has their own psychological boundaries when it comes to accepting advice on how to become stronger. Therefore, the best we can do for those in need is to assure them that we are there for them, ready to stand beside them as they navigate their challenges. By extending our friendship and offering positive support, we can make a significant difference. Ensuring that we truly check on them Throughout this process, it is essential to remember that we are not alone. With faith in a higher power, be it GOD or any other wisdom we believe in, we can draw strength and guidance. Understanding the true meaning of helping one another through good deeds and moral support, we can create blessings among those who offer assistance to those in need. Let us appreciate and cherish the individuals who extend their helping hands to others. …..Their acts of kindness bring light into the lives of those who are struggling. Together, let us continue to promote a culture of empathy, understanding, and support, knowing that our actions can make a profound impact on the lives of others. We do our best GOD do the rest Tarek through life era
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"Why are you so sweet and nice to everyone? It feels so fake." "Don't be like this. Are you even being real, or is this a mask you are wearing?" "Are you being genuine, or are you genuinely a fake person? Give me a break, I don't think you are what you appear to be." "You mask your trauma so well. How can you still be kind to people? Or do you hold a lot of anger and rage inside but just don't show it?" "You need to toughen up to face the world. People don't take you seriously, and nobody really listens to your point of view because you're too agreeable and people look for ways to take advantage of you." I'm sure many of us have heard phrases like this and still hear them every day—in our families, workplaces, peer groups, #narcissistic partners and random strangers who probably haven't experienced life in your shoes. People will walk all over you and treat you like a doormat if you're like this. Your kindness will be used against you, and your empathy won't get you anywhere. That's why you are still where you are. Good people don't go very far in life, it takes them a long time to succeed, and there's no guarantee of extraordinary success for good souls. In a world where toughness often masquerades as honesty, I find myself inspired by a different approach. Just as Maya Angelou's #StillIRise poem speaks of resilience and strength in the face of adversity, I too choose a path of gentleness and love. While some may perceive being blunt and brutally honest as a mark of strength, I respectfully hold a different belief. I choose to see the beauty and potential in people, believing in their capacity for growth and kindness. In every step of our journey, I hope we embrace love as our guiding principle, understanding that it takes courage to approach life with an open heart. Just as the phoenix rises from the ashes, we must rise above the noise of harsh words and judgments, standing firm in our commitment to kindness and empathy. It's not about being naive or weak, it's about recognizing the power of love to heal, to uplift, and to transform both ourselves and the world around us. While so-called straightforward and sarcastic remarks may make people feel clever, they often overlook the fact that such comments can come across as condescending. Blunt remarks? They're more like mirrors—they say more about the speaker than the listener. Talk about self-reflection. You know those phrases like, "She's too soft to lead," or "He's too emotional for a guy"? They're like a broken record, playing the same old stereotypes. But here's the thing: when we toss around these judgments, it's not really about the other person. It's like shining a spotlight on our own hang-ups and insecurities. So, let's keep it real. Before we drop those comments based on assumptions we make about someone, let's take a second and think about the energy we're putting out there. After all, our words say a lot about us, don't they? #StillIRisePoem:https://shorturl.at/JGObu
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February 7, 2024 You can have it all. We know those words might be challenging to accept now in your life and world, but we beg to differ. When you begin to understand, accept, and love your unique life journey and what you came to offer your world, you experience having it all. We gave you a message on this date a year ago that will aid you now, as will our live conversation on your new moon. The world needed you and your life experience. February 7, 2023 Love and believe in yourself more. You came to the world during a time of significant change or restructuring, as we termed it, which you will hear others using as well. You have something you are meant to offer to yourself and the world, and as you continue to do so, you will energetically help shift the trajectory of your world, but it does require you to love yourself and believe in your gift. We gave you a message on this day ten years ago as we knew what many of you might be feeling due to the global changes that we also said would be ones none of you have experienced. That was purposeful to cause more of you to move in the direction of love and self-acceptance. February 7, 2013 You have created and allowed your experience of stress or any stressful situation to show up in your life so that you remember to take care of yourself and live in your moment of now. Any feeling of stress means that you are holding an attachment to something physical and, at that moment, halting your expansion. You can’t be in the process of simultaneously expanding and feeling any manner of stress. It merely requires you to change your mind to change the condition. – Wilhelm Please Join Us for Our Next Channeling Session & Wilhelm Conversation ‘You Can Choose Peace Over Chaos’ – February 9th at 3pm Pacific Time Register For the Channeling Session Here https://lnkd.in/g6TuyJ-5 #rogerburnley #wilhelm #ascension #selflove #selfacceptance #lifepurpose #lawofattraction #personaldevelopment
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February 7, 2024 You can have it all. We know those words might be challenging to accept now in your life and world, but we beg to differ. When you begin to understand, accept, and love your unique life journey and what you came to offer your world, you experience having it all. We gave you a message on this date a year ago that will aid you now, as will our live conversation on your new moon. The world needed you and your life experience. February 7, 2023 Love and believe in yourself more. You came to the world during a time of significant change or restructuring, as we termed it, which you will hear others using as well. You have something you are meant to offer to yourself and the world, and as you continue to do so, you will energetically help shift the trajectory of your world, but it does require you to love yourself and believe in your gift. We gave you a message on this day ten years ago as we knew what many of you might be feeling due to the global changes that we also said would be ones none of you have experienced. That was purposeful to cause more of you to move in the direction of love and self-acceptance. February 7, 2013 You have created and allowed your experience of stress or any stressful situation to show up in your life so that you remember to take care of yourself and live in your moment of now. Any feeling of stress means that you are holding an attachment to something physical and, at that moment, halting your expansion. You can’t be in the process of simultaneously expanding and feeling any manner of stress. It merely requires you to change your mind to change the condition. – Wilhelm Please Join Us for Our Next Channeling Session & Wilhelm Conversation ‘You Can Choose Peace Over Chaos’ – February 9th at 3pm Pacific Time Register For the Channeling Session Here https://lnkd.in/g6TuyJ-5 #rogerburnley #wilhelm #ascension #selflove #selfacceptance #lifepurpose #lawofattraction
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I had a profound experience last night. While popping by to see a friend's band play (I missed it) I ran into a very old acquaintance. Someone that I knew 20 years ago; and not really all that well. To be clear. I had trouble remembering them. It took some reminding to regain much more context into who they are and what our history contained. Each new bit they reminded me of would have never surfaced again. Without a doubt. But, from their perspective it couldn't have been any more different. After talking for a bit the reminiscing had started to surface a lot of pain for them. Pain that I didn't so much cause but with which I was deeply entwined. And it quickly became extremely obvious the suffering this had caused. Again, not something I would have ever remembered much less had feelings about. Or been aware of. Yet from their perspective they were living in a purgatory for their actions and perceiving a continued indifference and anger from me. For two decades. That's really hard to take when I think about it. And even more so, it really made my mind bloom in thinking about how easily we can sometimes allow ourselves to imagine the worst. The amount of perceived judgment and worry. The mirage of self-critical vibes we allow ourselves to simmer in is startling. Simply put: I let too much fake shit live rent free in my mind too. Now, this enlightenment for me isn't one of condescension. It's one of perspective. Seeing this person's pain; that was being suffered for absolutely nothing, was a striking reinforcement of all the changes I've made in the last six months. Grace, my friends. Life is hard and we are amazing. But grace is due even when you can't possibly see yourself as deserving. In fact, you need it more in that moment than you could ever know. On a second note. Wow, how long the arc of the things we say can stretch. It's a hard lesson to know you've been part of someone's pain. It's a hard lesson to know how that pain continued to compound as it rolled out from them. The continuum is monumental. The impact? Devastating. Be kind with your words. Be kind with yourself. And be kind with people. You never know the life your words will go on to live. Choose them wisely.
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Essence of Purpose Been reflecting lately about time and what would be my first message for 2024. If you write or have ever written before, you well know that any piece you pen down is pouring your soul into your intended recipients. William Ellery Channing once said that It is chiefly through books that we enjoy intercourse with the superior minds, and these invaluable means of communication are in reach of all. In the best books, great men talk to us, give us their most precious thoughts, and pour their souls into ours. God be thanked for books. They are the voices of the distant and the dead, and make us heirs of the spiritual life of past ages. Books are true levellers. They give to all, who faithfully use them, the society, the spiritual presence of the best and greatest of our race. As we make the best of our time today, 2 things have stood out in my experience with life and allow me to submit no matter your perspective of purpose. Empathy: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. This is the most pivotal attribute I discovered during my time in IT Ops. Individuals that mastered this skill have scored high on satisfaction. Drawing it to life, We all have crafted opinions about life and how perhaps people should behave and be. Human connections are the fundamental building blocks of society. We need to Affirm the validity of other's unpleasant feelings and negative thoughts. This is essential in promoting self-acceptance and facilitating healing. It shows respect for reality, be it positive and negative, and grounds us in the present moment. The Joy of Contribution: Acts of kindness can bring a big difference in someone's life. Being a contributor in someone’s life not only helps others but also brings us a sense of purpose and fulfillment. In our daily lives, we often get caught up in our own routines and forget about the world around us. It’s easy to get lost in our own problems and responsibilities, but what if we took a step back and decided to be a contributor to someone else’s life? What if we made a conscious effort to help others and make a difference in their lives? It can be as simple as a smile or a kind word. By taking the time to help others, we can create a ripple effect of positivity and make the world a better place To a prosperous tomorrow. Cheers Alex Old Man of the Clan
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Are you addicted to fear? In a world saturated with fear-inducing terms like recession and a cost-of-living crisis, it's easy to become numb to the constant undercurrent of anxiety. Indifference isn't a solution. Not watching the news is an illusion that you are inoculated from it. For instance, today I have a GP appointment and once again their addiction to fear infiltrates everything. Always saying: ‘Your history’ they can’t help only look at me as someone who has cancer once. A simple concern about blocked sinuses triggers their panic and referrals for tests. They can’t understand why I don’t feel the fear … they even said to me once: you should be more scared. (And this isn’t medical bashing … they aren’t perfect and nor am I or you!) Doesn’t mean they are wrong. It’s the energy behind their choice. Fear porn. Living under fear isn't truly living. And yet most are doing this to themselves in their business journey. And pretending they aren’t. Convinced fear's stories are the only way to ensure survival. Dictating their choices – urging you not to spend, discouraging courage, and convincing you to opt for safe, cautious, doubtful, suspicious, and believing you are exercising autonomy and control and boundaries when all it is is fear in the driving seat. Convincing you you’re being logical. You must wait. Yet, where is the adventure in a life dictated by fear? It whispers and shouts, finds evidence to support its narrative. Stirring your gut and masquerading as intuition. Closing your heart down. But here's the truth: fear is the opposite of soul adventure. It's time to challenge its grip on our decisions, to step into the unknown, and to trust our intuition. Let courage be our compass on this journey, guiding us to a life where we thrive. And where we experience the fullness of adventure and not the limitation that fear holds tight of caution is better than joy. Question: do you grow through love? Or through pain? Is it no pain no gain? Why? 💙💙💙
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Oy. I feel like I've been chasing this dream most of my life. All I wanted for my life was to live with purpose and meaning. Many of us, if not all, feel this to be true on a conscious level. However, it was a huge driver and motivator for me in desiring to understand and know myself. Loss after loss, trauma after trauma (particularly when experienced in childhood), it's easy to grow up thinking that life just plain sucks, there's no point, and we're all here to experience suffering. And so, the shadow of "victimhood" takes root. And that's where I stayed for a very, very long time. My "dark night of the soul" felt like it would last an eternity. I was tired of physically feeling drained. I was mentally tired of feeling frazzled, confused, and anxious. And I was spiritually suffering, too. Feelings of guilt and shame only amplified the victimhood feelings I was experiencing. You may recognize this energy as someone with a "chip on their shoulder" whose hair-trigger emotion is anger. Slowly, over the past nine years - I repeat, NINE YEARS - I've worked on myself. In hindsight, did it need to take that long? No, I don't believe so. But I also trust that the wisdom I gained along the way was necessary. If I were to embark on this personal development journey again, there are tools/programs/things I wouldn't waste my time with and others I would have started with on day one. But would I have been emotionally ready at the time? Who knows. I've had to do a lot of healing around trust, rejection, and my big emotions. The more I learn about the energetics of what it means to be human and all of our complexities (particularly my own), the more I feel I'm aligning with who I am and what I am here to do. If you feel lost, as I did, I am here to inform you that you are not lost, per se. Rather, you are a seeker of truth - your truth. Once you discover what is true for you, including your strengths and gifts, what makes you tick, and how you show up in the world the way you do, purpose isn't too far behind. Do you need support in seeking your truth? ✨The tools I provide, while living my purpose through my work, are ones I wish I would have had years ago. 💫 #griefeducation #griefeducator #griefeducators #griefeducationpodcast #griefeducationforchildren #griefedu #grief101 #grieffacts #griefmisinformation #griefmyths #griefspeaker #griefeducatorsofinstagram #factsaboutgrief #griefrecoverymethod #grieftips #griefsupportforkids #griefsupportgroup #griefishardwork #griefreiki #griefandlosssupport #griefrecovery #griefcounseling #griefawareness #griefsupportresource #griefsupportafteraloss #griefsupportservices #griefsupportforchildrenandfamilies #griefsupportformen #griefsupportspecialist #theunleashedheart
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"You always have a choice". This statement made me feel frustrated, unsupported, and stupid for the longest time. This statement has even cost me a friendship. I still get slightly triggered when I hear or see this statement. So why do I want to write about it? Writing about it is my way of releasing the emotion and reframing what this statement means to me now. There was a period when I was very unhappy with almost everything happening in my life. I would exhaust all my energy, complaining and believing I only get lemons. (make lemonade out of it, some may say. I don't like lemonade either). My friends got tired of hearing the broken record, and each time, this one particular friend would say to me, "You have a choice to stay or move on from the current situation." "If you choose to stay in the current situation, then at least be happy about that choice." Of course, I should choose differently. I am not an idiot. And that was how the friendship started to go south. Why didn't I choose differently then? 1) the other options that I know of have worse consequences 2) the fear was crippling because I didn't feel I deserved anything good in life (this is another can of worms from childhood trauma) 3) instead of spending time and energy creating better options, I took the easy way out by complaining, hoping to "ease the pain." What broke? The "pain" got so bad that I could not bear it anymore. No amount of complaining will soothe it or make it go away. My mental and emotional state suffered. Creating better options. I have always enjoyed learning new things and attending self-development programs. And that was what I did. It took courage and faith to embark on a journey of self-discovery. The law of attraction connected me with the right people and nurturing environment, helping me to bring my aspiration to life. And the rest is history. And now, I want to pay it forward by being the "right person" for you. I want to listen to, empathise with, and support you to live your best life confidently and authentically. "Sometimes, we don't have a choice in where we come from, but we can definitely choose where we go from there." And when great options come knocking, are you ready to choose?
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February 7, 2024 You can have it all. We know those words might be challenging to accept now in your life and world, but we beg to differ. When you begin to understand, accept, and love your unique life journey and what you came to offer your world, you experience having it all. We gave you a message on this date a year ago that will aid you now, as will our live conversation on your new moon. The world needed you and your life experience. February 7, 2023 Love and believe in yourself more. You came to the world during a time of significant change or restructuring, as we termed it, which you will hear others using as well. You have something you are meant to offer to yourself and the world, and as you continue to do so, you will energetically help shift the trajectory of your world, but it does require you to love yourself and believe in your gift. We gave you a message on this day ten years ago as we knew what many of you might be feeling due to the global changes that we also said would be ones none of you have experienced. That was purposeful to cause more of you to move in the direction of love and self-acceptance. February 7, 2013 You have created and allowed your experience of stress or any stressful situation to show up in your life so that you remember to take care of yourself and live in your moment of now. Any feeling of stress means that you are holding an attachment to something physical and, at that moment, halting your expansion. You can’t be in the process of simultaneously expanding and feeling any manner of stress. It merely requires you to change your mind to change the condition. – Wilhelm Please Join Us for Our Next Channeling Session & Wilhelm Conversation ‘You Can Choose Peace Over Chaos’ – February 9th at 3pm Pacific Time Register For the Channeling Session Here https://lnkd.in/g6TuyJ-5 #rogerburnley #wilhelm #ascension #spiritualawakening #lawofattraction #selflove #selfacceptance #personaldevelopment
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