DEAR ANNIE: I recently started a new job in marketing that I was very excited about, but I’ve run into a challenging situation with my manager, “Chris.” He’s quite dismissive of me during our meetings and often interrupts me when I’m trying to explain my ideas. I thought maybe it was because I was new, but there are other colleagues -- all of them male -- who started around the same time as I did, and he always lets them finish their thoughts, and even provides complimentary feedback in many cases.
It makes me wonder if gender plays a role. It’s really bothering me, and I want to address the issue without sounding accusatory or jeopardizing my new position. Should I confront Chris? Find a new job? Or just let it go, keep my head down and try to work my way up the ladder? -- Seeking Respect in Raleigh
DEAR SEEKING RESPECT: Letting it go might seem like the path of least resistance, but it’s likely to lead to ongoing frustration down the line. I suggest you address the issue head-on, albeit with tact.
Request a one-on-one meeting with Chris. Prepare for the discussion by noting specific instances where you felt dismissed, which will help keep the discussion focused on your experience rather than perceived intentions. By expressing your feelings without making assumptions about him, you invite an open dialogue, which could lead to greater understanding and respect on both sides.
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