Miss Manners: It’s jarring to see the face of my friend’s late husband come up on my phone when she calls

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Many people’s cellphones are set to show an image when they call. I have a friend who uses a full-face image of her husband -- who has been dead for over eight years -- as “her” photo when she calls someone.

She is in therapy, but still voices her heavy grief all the time. I realize grief has no proper timetable, and I respect her choice to speak about her husband and how much she misses him. But I find it profoundly jarring to see the face of this long-dead man whenever she calls me.

Is there a reasonable way to let her know the image is disturbing?

GENTLE READER: No.

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