Making Medical Decision For Someone Else
Making Medical Decision For Someone Else
This guide is based on Making Medical Decisions for Someone Else: A Maryland Handbook
(2006) by the American Bar Association Commission on Law and Aging in collaboration with the
Maryland Office of the Attorney General.
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ust as with Bill, when someone close to you is seriously ill, a doctor might ask you
What should we do? When this happens, you are acting as a health care proxy
which is the general term used in this Guide for anyone who can make health care
decisions for someone else. There are three kinds of proxies:
1. A health care agent. Your relative or friend has
signed a legal document called an advance
directive naming you to make health care
decisions for him or her in case something
happens. Some people call this a durable power
of attorney for health care. Your states
terminology may differ, but the concept is
identical.
2. A legal surrogate. Even when nobody has named you as a health care agent, you
may still be asked to make medical decisions for someone else. If you are a family
member or possibly a close friend, you may be called upon to make decisions as the
default decision-maker. In most states, you would be referred to as a surrogate, but
again, state terminology varies.
3. A guardian. A court may appoint you as a guardian or conservator and specifically
authorize you to make health care decisions for someone else. A guardian is directly
answerable to the appointing court.
The authority of each kind of proxy is a little different, but all share the challenges of
health care decision-making for someone else. This handbook tells what it is like to be a
health care proxy, what to do while theres still time to think about it, and what to do in a
crisis. It also talks about situations that proxies often face and tells where to get help.
Getting the same medical information the patient would get. You should
have access to the patients medical records and any information you need
about the patients health or health care. If you are having trouble getting the
patients medical information, contact the medical facilitys privacy officer and
ask for help.
Talking with the medical team about treatment choices. Ask questions and
get explanations, so that you can understand the patients medical condition
and treatment options as much as possible.
Asking for consultations and second opinions from other doctors.
Consenting to or refusing medical tests or treatmentsincluding lifesustaining treatment in many, but not all, cases.
Deciding whether to transfer the patient to another doctor or health care
facility (such as a hospital or skilled nursing home).
Getting the doctor and other medical professionals to communicate
with the patient if he or she is still able to understand anything.
Being a proxy can be difficult. But there are several key things to remember:
Saying yes or no. If someone asks you to be a proxy, you dont have to do it. It
may be hard enough coping, even without the added responsibilities of making
health care decisions. But it is an important way to help someone you care about.
Being a Proxy
As a proxy, you have the
special privilege of doing
something important for
the patient.
Its not about your money. There could be choices about money and
insurance, but your own money is not at risk. Being a proxy does not make you
owe or pay anything with your money or risk being sued. It is only the patients
money and insurance that is involved.
Inaction has consequences, too. If you are a proxy, you will be expected to
make decisions. The doctor is relying on you for guidance, so consult with the
medical professionals involved and try to sort out the choices.
Keep the patient involved. Even though the patient is not able to make health
care decisions, he or she might still have something helpful to say. If you can
communicate with the patient, try to involve him or her in the decisions as much
as possible. If the patient is able to express meaningful choices, these should
always be sought out and honored.
Respect culture. The patients cultural background might be one of many factors
affecting how health care decisions are made. In some cultural groups, for
example, the whole family is involved. But what the individual patient would have
wanted is the most important thing.
our first task is to learn as much as possible about what the person would want
if he or she were seriously ill. What choices would be in line with the persons
personality, religious beliefs, personal values, and past decisions? What fits with
the persons life story? How would that person want to live the final chapter of life? This
is important to learn because the law in most states tells you to try to decide as the
patient would, even if the decision goes against the way you would decide for yourself.
You must be able to put yourself in the patients shoes and speak with the patients voice
to the extent possible.
Try to prepare in advance with the person for whom you are a proxy. This means having
conversations about what the individual would want before a crisis arises. Not everyone
can do this, but if there is still time, you will be glad that you did. Learn what is important
to the patient in making health care decisions. What is the person hoping for in his or her
health treatment?
Dont be afraid to use the D word: Dying. Its hard to talk about illness and dying, but
its a lot harder making decisions without having a sense of what the person would want.
Tips:
Another way you can get the conversation going is by using the Proxy Quiz in
the Appendix of this guide. The quiz will help you find out how well you know the
health care wishes and values of the person for whom you are a proxy. It will
help start a conversation and might result in better mutual understanding.
Telling stories
can be a way to find
out about the patients
wishes and values.
Steps in Making
Medical Decisions
Decide based on
what the patient
would do, or
whats best for
the patient.
2. Find out the options. Make sure the doctor describes the risks and benefits of each
option. In comparing these options, ask:
How will this option make the patient improve or feel better?
4. If you just dont know what the patient would do, choose the option that is in
the patients best interest. If you have little or no information on what the patient
would want, then your job under the law is to do what you believe to be best for the
patient. In weighing the options, you should consider what a reasonable person in
the same situation would decide. Dont be influenced by whether the patient is poor
or has a long-term disability.
eing suddenly thrust into the hospital or other medical setting may seem like
visiting a foreign land. Even for people familiar with the routines of the system, it
can be challenging. However, here are some tips that can help you do a good job
as a proxy for a loved one or friend.
Make yourself and your role known to the medical staff. Make sure any advance
directive is in the medical chart and medical staff know what it says. Have a copy
ready to show to people involved in the patients care. Keep in touch with these
people.
Be ready for transfers to another medical setting. If the patient is moved from
one section of the hospital to another or to a different facility, make sure that you
know the treatments to be continued or begun after the transfer. Meet with the new
medical team or head nurse to be sure that they are aware of the ordered treatment.
Advocate on the patients behalf and assert yourself with the medical team, if
necessary. If you are confused by the doctors recommendations, dont stay quiet.
Be tactful, but insist that medical issues be explained to you in words you can
Be Visible
Be Informed
Be Involved
Be Heard
understand. If you feel you are not being heard, ask for help from the places listed in
Part VI. Be a squeaky wheel, if need be.
Ask for a second opinion, if necessary. If you disagree with the doctor or if you
are just not sure what to do, get an opinion from another doctor. If need be, you
have the right to transfer the patient to another doctor or facility.
Consider hiring a private care manager if you are unable to work with the medical
team on your own. A care manager, who usually has an advanced nursing or social
work degree, can help you understand the medical situation and advise on care
options.
Make a list of questions to ask the doctor, such as concerns about symptoms,
changes that have occurred, or medication reactions.
Prepare well
for the time
you have with
the doctor.
Have a list of all medications the patient is taking, including vitamins and
supplements. Sometimes if there are several doctors involved, each one may not
know about all the medications. This is important since medications can interact with
each other.
Dont hesitate to ask questions about what the doctor says. For example, ask:
What will this treatment do? What would happen without the treatment? What are
the side effects? How long will it take? Is it covered by insurance? What if the
patient has a reaction to the treatment later? Make sure you understand. It may help
to repeat what the doctor told you in your own words, to be sure there are no
misunderstandings.
Consider bringing a friend or relative of the patients with you to help you
remember what to ask and what the doctor saysand for moral support!
Be aware of exactly what it says because it should give you guidance on how to
exercise your authority as a health care agent.
Make sure the treating health care professionals and health care facility are aware of
it and have a copy.
If instructions in the document are vague (and this is actually quite common), you
may have to make the best judgment you can with the information you have.
Consider prior discussions the individual had with you or others that may shed light
on their wishes and values. You may also find it helpful to discuss this with the
patients treating health care providers.
In many states, there are other helpful documents to be aware of and to use if
appropriate:
Out-of-Hospital Do-not-resuscitate (DNR) orders are available in most states
and are very important for seriously ill individuals living in the community who,
under their current condition, do not want resuscitation by emergency medical
services or EMS personnel if their breathing or circulation stops. See What
About DNR Orders on page 15.
POLST Form (Physicians Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment). A growing
number of states have adopted some version of this medical order, also
called by other names such as MOLST (Medical Orders for Life-Sustaining
Treatment) or POST (Physician Orders for Scope of Treatment).
POLST expands upon the out-of-hospital DNR order by including additional
instructions in the form of a medical order about the level of medical care
versus comfort care desired, including whether to hospitalize; the use of
artificial nutrition and hydration; and possibly antibiotic and ventilator use.
s a proxy, you are probably not operating alone. You may be part of a family or
network of friends who are grieving about the medical condition of the patient and
under stress because of the medical crisis. Emotions may run high. You must
make decisions that others may or may not agree with. The decisions you make may
weigh on your mind in the future. You may have to defend your decisions against family
members. And long-standing family dynamics can be exaggerated in a situation like this.
In addition, you or your family may disagree with what the doctor advises.
Understand your legal authority. Under the law in most states, certain family
members and others have priority in making health care decisions for the patient.
The following order of priority is commonly used:
o Anyone named by the patient in an advance directive
o Any guardian appointed by the court
o The spouse
o An adult child
o Parent
o Adult brother or sister
o Certain friends or other relatives.
Ask for an ethics committee meeting if necessary. If people with equal priority
for decision making disagree, the case can be referred to a hospital or nursing home
ethics committee. These committees deal with ethical issues, such as end-of-life
decision-making. They help to educate the staff and to sort out difficult problems.
They usually dont actually make decisions, but advise. They may help proxies,
families, or medical staff to better understand each others views and to explore
choices.
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Keep the family informed, if appropriate. You may have the legal authority to
make medical decisions even if other family members with less priority under the
law disagree. However, most proxies are more comfortable if there is agreement
among family members. Good communication can help bring about agreement.
Use key communication tools. If family members disagree, make sure you are not
talking past each other and that you have the same understanding of the medical
facts.
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Long-term care social worker. Nursing homes and assisted living facilities may
have an in-house social worker to help residents and families meet their needs.
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Long-term care resident and family councils. Residents and family members
have the right to organize advisory councils in nursing homes, and sometimes these
councils exist in assisted living, as well. If your problem is one shared by other
residentssuch as not enough attention from nursing assistants, frequent pressure
sores, unhealthy conditions, or poor foodjoining with others in such councils can
be very helpful.
Long-term care ombudsman. Under federal law, every state and many local areas
have a long-term care ombudsman program. Ombudsmen are independent staff or
volunteers in a nursing home or in assisted living. They are advocates for residents
in long-term care. They can be very helpful in resolving complaints, mediating
problems, or helping the patient and the proxy talk with the medical team or
institution. To find the long-term care ombudsman program nearest the resident, see
the Web site of the National Long-Term Care Ombudsman Resource Center at:
www.ltcombudsman.org/static_pages/ombudsmen.cfm.
Clergy or spiritual advisor. If you are part of a faith community, now is the time to
call on your clergy for confidential advice, reassurance, help with the grieving
process, help in sorting out differences with others, and help in understanding your
own reactions in light of your spiritual beliefs and those of the patient. But remember
that in making decisions it is the religious or spiritual beliefs of the patient that
matter, not your own.
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1.
he following tips are about some special challenges you may have in making
medical decisions as a proxy.
EXPERIENCING GRIEF
When a loved one is dying, it is normal to have thoughts about how you will react and
cope after that persons death. You may experience painful visions of life without that
person and anticipate feelings of terrible grief and mourning, while at the same time
being expected to act as the patients decision-maker.
You are not alone. These reactions are normal. Sometimes they include feelings of
depression, fear, or focusing excessively on particular concerns about the dying person
or particular tasks. This process of anticipatory grief is a natural part of adjusting to the
reality of the loss. It is also a time, if possible, to complete unfinished business with the
dying personfor example, saying good-bye, I love you, or I forgive you. Not
everyone experiences anticipatory grief. Even if you do, the feelings of grief and
bereavement following the death may be much different from what you felt beforehand.
You may also feel guilty after the person dies, asking yourself repeatedly Did I make the
right decisions? For help in coping with grief or guilt, look for hospice and social work
resources or specialized grief and bereavement support groups or counseling.
2.
You may need to help the patient get pain relief. Pain can be controlled. It does not have
to be a part of being seriously ill.
Talk to the patient to find out as much as you can about the pain. If the patient
cannot talk, try to observe the patients reactions. Try to determine:
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1.
2.
3.
4.
3.
For any patient who may be dying, consider hospice care. Hospice is a program that
uses a team for medical care, pain management, personal care, and emotional and
spiritual support to meet the patients needs and wishes. Hospice also helps the family
caregivers.
Hospice staff is on-call 24 hours a day, seven days a week. They focus on supportive
care, comfort, and pain relief, and they may provide needed drugs, medical supplies,
and equipment. Additional services are available when neededsuch as respite care,
speech and physical therapy, or in-patient care. In most cases, hospice is provided in
the patients home, but hospice care can also be given in freestanding centers,
hospitals, nursing homes, and other long-term care facilities.
Hospice care is paid for under Medicare, by Medicaid in some states, and most private
insurance plans and managed care plans. Families and doctors often wait too long
before they consider using hospice. If the patient has a serious and eventually fatal
condition, find out when and how hospice could help. For more information, call the tollfree HelpLine of the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization at (800) 6588898 or visit their Web site at www.nhpco.org.
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WHAT TO DO IN AN EMERGENCY
What should you do if the patient is with you at home and takes a turn for the worse? If
the patient is in a hospice program, you probably will get special instructions to call
hospice staff rather than 911. Otherwise, call 911 if any of these signs are present:
Fainting
Chest or abdominal pain or pressure
Sudden dizziness, weakness, or change in vision
Unusual difficulty breathing
Severe or frequent vomiting
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When you call 911, speak clearly and briefly describe the problem. Stay on the line until
the dispatcher says you can hang up. If someone else is with you, have the other person
stand at the street to direct the ambulance crew. At night, make sure the outside lights
are on.
Have key documents close at hand. This includes any of the patients medical records
that are available, like a copy of an EKG, and any advance directive. If the patient has
an EMS/DNR order or your states version of POLST (see next section), have it ready for
the ambulance crew so that they know whether to treat aggressively or to focus only on
comfort care.
5.
Talk with the doctor about the likely outcome of CPR for the patient.
Ask about side effects, and pain or discomfort associated with the procedure. For
example, respirators can make it hard to swallow or speak.
See if there is anything in the patients advance directive about CPR when the
patient is seriously ill, or try to figure out what the patient would want.
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Make sure that the medical staff do not interpret DNR or No Code to mean no treatment
at all. You still may want the patient to have treatment for other conditions, as well as
comfort care.
6.
Sometimes a proxy is asked to consent to surgery that a doctor recommends. Here are
a few tips:
7.
Ask why the surgery is necessary, what would likely happen without it, and what
the risks are, especially given the patients age and condition.
Ask the surgeon how many times he or she has performed the operation, and the
outcomes.
Find out how long recuperation will take and what the patient will have to do to
recover.
At least a day or two before the operation, get all the forms that you will be asked
to sign. Read them carefully, and ask about anything thats not clear.
Health care professionals must always make reasonable efforts to help a patient eat and
drink normally. But when a patient can no longer take fluid or food by mouth, a feeding
tube can be used. There are two types of tubes. A nasogastric tube is put through the
nose, down the throat, and into the stomach. This usually is used on a short-term basis.
For a longer term, a gastrostomy tube is put by surgery through the skin into the
stomach or intestines. For fluids only, intravenous (IV) lines may be placed into the veins
of the arm or hand to give artificial hydration.
Feeding tubes help many patients to get the fluids and nutrition they need. They are a
lifesaver. Yet, there are some cases where the benefits of feeding tubes may be unclear
for a seriously ill and dying patient. Some people say that no matter what the chance of
recovery, a feeding tube should always be used unless the patient refuses. Yet,
sometimes, artificial feeding and fluids for a seriously ill person can be more of a burden
than a benefit.
As a proxy, you may have to make the difficult decision of whether the patient should
have artificial nutrition and hydration.
Talk with the doctor about the likely outcome for the patient. Will it extend life
significantly? Will it lead to improvement in the patients functioning?
Ask about side effects, pain, or discomfort in providing or not providing food and
fluids. For example, in some cases artificial nutrition and hydration can build up fluid
in the lungs and other areas. Dehydration does not necessarily cause pain or a
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feeling of thirst in a dying patient. Its most frequent symptom, dry mouth, may be
treated by ice chips or moistened swabs to the mouth.
Whether or not the patient has artificial nutrition and hydration, make sure the
medical staff provides comfort care.
8.
Saying no to CPR or
artificial nutrition and
hydration does not
mean no to comfort
care.
Patients who cannot make their own decisions sometimes are eligible to become
subjects in a research study. As a proxy, you might be asked to give your permission for
the patient to participate in research. The person asking you might or might not be the
patients doctor.
Before deciding, make sure you understand:
Remember, nobody is ever required to participate in research. You might want to give
permission if being in the research stands a good chance of benefiting the patientor
even if there is no likely personal benefit, but very little risk. But if being in this research
means that the patient might be worse off, without any real chance of direct benefit, just
say no.
* The questions on pain were taken from Pain: Questions to Ask Your Doctor, by the Midwest
Bioethics Center, Community-State Partnerships, adapted from the Rhode Island Consumer
Guide to Pain, Joan M. Teno, M.D., Associate Professor of Community Health and Medicine,
Brown University Center for Gerontology and Health Care Research, and the Pain Action Guide,
American Pain Foundation, Baltimore, MD.
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APPENDIX
The Proxy Quiz:
A Tool for Better Understanding
Instructions: As health care proxy, answer these questions in the way you think the
patient would answer them. Then ask the patient to answer them and compare your
answers. Where the answers differ, discuss why that is.
1. Circle how much you fear the following near the end of life:
Very Little
a. Being in pain
1
b. Losing the ability to think
1
c. Being a financial burden on loved ones
1
d. Losing control over my medical care
1
e. Losing ability to practice my faith
1
Some
2
2
2
2
2
Very Much
3
3
3
3
3
3. Here are things about end-of-life care that some people believe. Do you agree?
If a dying person cant get enough nutrition by mouth, a feeding tube should always
be used if it will keep the person alive.
a. Yes, I agree
b. No, I dont agree
c. I dont know
Once a treatment is started to keep someone alive, its sometimes okay to decide to
stop and withdraw it when the persons quality of life is very low.
a. Yes, I agree
b. No, I dont agree
c. I dont know
Its usually better for a dying person to be given good comfort care at home than to
be admitted to a hospital for intensive care.
a. Yes, I agree
b. No, I dont agree
c. I dont know
4. You are very sick, and the doctors cannot stop the disease. With all possible treatments,
you might live for another few weeks. During that time, you would be on a breathing
machine. You would drift in and out of consciousness. Without these treatments, you would
die in a few days. Would you want the breathing machine and other treatments?
a. Yes, I think so
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c. I dont know
5. You have severe Alzheimers disease. You cant get out of bed, and you cant
recognize or talk with your loved ones, but you are not in pain. You could live like this
for many months. However, you get recurring infections which are treated with
antibiotics. You get another infection, this time pneumonia. If the doctors give you an
antibiotic, you will almost certainly recover from the infection. Without the antibiotic,
you will die in a few days.
Do you want the antibiotic if you can otherwise be kept comfortable?
a. Yes, I think so
c. I dont know
6. You have poor circulation, which resulted in one leg being amputated. Now, your
other leg develops gangrene and doctors recommend amputation because it could be
fatal. You also have moderate dementia causing mental confusion.
Would you want the operation?
a. Yes
b. No
c. I am uncertain
7. You are in a permanent coma and have a tube inserted in your stomach for food
and fluids.
Would it be important to you that decisions about your treatment are guided
by particular religious beliefs or spiritual values that you hold?
a. Yes
b. No
c. I am uncertain
8. You were terminally ill, but a course of treatment might extend your life by six
additional months.
Would you want the treatment even though it has severe side effectspain,
nausea, vomiting, and weakness?
a. Yes
b. No
c. I am uncertain
IMPORTANT:
THIS IS NOT AN ADVANCE DIRECTIVE. THE QUESTIONS ARE FOR DISCUSSION ONLY
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