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Sexual Tension
Sexual Tension
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Most people don't like the idea of
"tension". 1) TEASE
It's uncomfortable. If you want to INSTANTLY change the
It usually means confrontation or dealing way a hot, stuck-up woman is behaving,
with someone who's mad at you or who TEASE HER about something.
doesn't like you. Now, not all beautiful women are stuck up.
Tension is seen as a NEGATIVE by most Duh.
people. But, teasing works PARTICULARLY well
And when most men feel ANY type of when a woman IS stuck up... lol.
tension around a woman, they make a Maybe it's her big purse.
HUGE mistake... Or her tall shoes.
THEY RELEASE THE TENSION. Or her "runway model" walk.
Because most guys are so caught up in the Whatever.
"tension is bad" way of thinking, they Just tease her.
DESTROY all of the great Sexual Tension Say, "Hey, what's with the big purse?
that arises in the situations they find You're not one of those women with a live
themselves in with women. dog named "Precious" in there, along with
It's a total bummer. organic vegan high-protein treats for when
So, the first thing I'm going to ask you to she's in the mood to be pampered, are you?"
do, for the purposes of understanding this It doesn't matter.
concept, is to put your ideas of what tension Just say something to tease her.
is and how it works behind you. Oh, and it's usually better if you can do
Open your mind to a new way of thinking. this with a STRAIGHT FACE. This creates
Become "OK" with the idea of even MORE tension. If you MUST smile,
CREATING TENSION when you're around make sure it's the "I'm only smiling because
women that you feel an attraction for... and I know that you can't believe how confident
even AMPLIFYING that tension. I am that you love me" kind of smile.
And realize that if you can do this, women
will LOVE you for it. Women, and 2) EYE CONTACT
especially ATTRACTIVE women who are When a man and a woman make eye
approached all the time by loser guys, don't contact for the FIRST TIME, it's USUALLY
enjoy dating guys who are boring, the man who looks away first.
predictable, and lame. Men are WUSSIES when it comes to
They love guys who are unpredictable, doing things that say "I'm a strong, confident
mysterious, and CHALLENGING. person".
They love guys who keep them guessing Looking away when you make eye contact
what's going to happen next. with a woman is one of those things. BIG
And they love guys who can keep the TIME.
TENSION BUILDING, and NOT LET UP. Instead, if you HOLD the eye contact until
SHE looks away (and you don't fidget or
Here are a few ideas for "sparking" that twitch like you've got some strange bug
initial tension that I'm talking about... crawling up your shirt), it will send a strong
signal.
Oh, and it has a good chance of "sparking"
this attraction that we're talking about.
3) ROLE PLAY
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Often an opportunity will come up when Reversing gender stereotypes like this, and
you're meeting a woman where you'll want teasing is all kinds of fun.
to instantly shift into a "roll play". At this point the woman might open her
Maybe she mentions that she's getting a mouth with the "Oh no you didn't just say
new job. Tell her that you sure hope it pays that" look.
well, because she's going to have to support Of course, you should look back at her,
both of you... raise your eyebrows, and slowly nod your
And then tell her that you hope she has head, as if to imply "Oh yes, you're going to
enough energy to cook at night after work, support me".
because you need a wife who can bring This is just one example.
home the bacon, AND fry it up in a pan...
Then tell her that something she just said Here are a few more, just so you really "get"
screwed it all up for you, and that you're what it is that I'm saying.
probably going to wind up divorcing her a
week after you get married... and taking half 1) DON'T take advantage of something.
of HER money. Let's say that the woman you're talking to
Roll playing is fun, and if it's done right it is wearing a sexy outfit. She gets up and
can REALLY spark this tension that we're walks across the room to get something. She
talking about. KNOWS that you're going to be looking at
The point is that you have to SPARK it. her.
YOU must lead the way, and YOU must BUT YOU DON'T.
do something to create that little moment When she turns around to come back,
where things transition into "we're playing you're looking down at your shoes, and
like adults". Women feel this, and respond to commenting about what great taste you
it INSTANTLY. have.
- TURNING UP THE TENSION THIS IS SUBTLE, BUT POWERFUL.
Now, once you've sparked this tension and Not taking advantage of a look, a touch, a
engaged her into an interesting banter, it's kiss, etc. when it's available DIALS UP the
time to DIAL UP THE TENSION. Sexual Tension.
That's right, I said, CREATE MORE
TENSION. 2) Push her away.
Let's say that you were talking to her about Let's say that you have your first kiss.
making a lot of money so she can support PUSH HER AWAY gently just before the
you, and she answered with, "Well, I can kiss "should" be finished.
support you, but you're going to have to do Shake your head.
all the housework, dishes, and take care of Say, "you're trouble".
the kids". TENSION BUILDS.
Most guys would be thinking to
themselves "Cool, she's having fun with me, 3) End interactions first.
I'll say something to make her like me now". If you're talking to her on the phone, and
So they'd say, "OK, I can do that" or you're both enjoying the conversation, say,
something equally dumb-assed. "OK, I've got things to do. See ya."
This is the place to TURN IT UP. This is MAGIC.
Say, "Oh, no you don't. I'm the man here. I Not only are you ending a great
get to lie around all day watching TV.., then conversation when it was on an UP note, but
go out with my friends when you get home".
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you're also not trying to get anything from It's as important to learn how to change
her. how you think and feel as it is to learn the
Most guys cling and stay on the phone words and actions.
forever, then ask for a date or if they can call You must start on the INSIDE, and work
later. your way OUTSIDE.
DON'T DO IT. You can have the 100 best pick up lines
Just get off the phone. ever created memorized word-for-word, but
If it's the end of the date, leave just a little if you care too much what women think of
bit too soon. you, then THEY WON'T WORK WORTH A
The point is to create TENSION in the DAMN.
moment. In fact, almost NOTHING WILL WORK
- EVERYDAY SITUATIONS if you don't have your Inner Game together.
In just about every situation there is an
opportunity to TURN UP THE TENSION.
When you do this, you create a very
special emotion for women.
It's that combination of her laughing, her
not knowing what's going to come next, and
you not acting like a WUSSY...
It's that special curiosity that is aroused
inside of a woman when she doesn't know
what's going to happen... but she WANTS to
know...
It's that magical moment when it's obvious
that most guys would start acting like
CLINGY WUSSBAGS, and you're just
leaning back as if you've got all the time in
the world... and you need nothing.
These things spark and amplify Sexual
Tension.
And they INSTANTLY communicate to
women that you understand something that
most men DON'T.
Now, of course this isn't a simple topic.
There's a lot more to it.
In fact, one of the most important factors
in creating sexual tension is your ability to
not act needy... which has more to do with
your self image and overcoming your
insecurities than it does with your
"behaviors" alone.
As you probably know, I believe that it's as
important to work on your "Inner Game" as
it is to work on our "Outer Game".