The Sexual Activation Blueprint v3
The Sexual Activation Blueprint v3
charisma
reverse mistakes
desire
chemistry
attraction
the blueprint
700,000+
single women
chemistry
blueprint
By Craig Miller
Introduction
If youre reading this right now then youre already doing more than 95% of
the other men to improve your sex and dating life. Most men
95%
are stuck, powerless and would rather stay home alone and do
nothing about their current situation out of stubbornness and
pride. But youve chosen to take action, and from one man to
another, Id like to congratulate you on your choice and the fruits that are
awaiting you.
The cutting edge research Ive prepared for you will give you more power and
control over your dating life, more choice, more natural confidence and a
deeper understanding of how women really think and act. Ive developed this
system from scratch so you know exactly what a woman wants and how to
give it to her as fast and efficiently as possible so you get what you want.
Every tip, trick and strategy youre about to learn is based on hundreds of
hours research and data analyzed by high-end supercomputers and a team
of Ivy League researchers youre going to learn it all in just a few hours.
These findings reveal the truth behind how the most successful men routinely get women turned on and eager to date and sleep with them.
Nothing like this has ever been done before and yeah, I believe this is the
future of dating. In 10 years, every man (and woman) will have access to research like this offering them insights into the opposite sexs strategies, but
since youre reading this now, youre well ahead of the curve and youll soon
enjoy a huge competitive advantage over other men and the sex life full of
ease and options that comes with it.
Now before we jump right in, I need to tell you how this all started, because
its important that you A) understand exactly where the research came
from so you can trust it, which in turn will give you more confidence around
women and B) that you know the story of my journey to success so you can
trust what Im about to tell you, since a lot of this system is derived from my
own personal experience and success with women.
My Story
When I was young, flirting and dating did not come natu-
I was 21. When other guys were out on Friday nights get-
who had no control over his dating life and honestly, I was
and losing their virginity. The more time and more time I
first date (she practically did all the work for me) I had
ing John was one of the things take finally took things
turned around. That was until six days later, when she
who was better looking than she was and when she saw
us together shed be jealous and beg for me to come
was actually
websites.
the bar into a drooling idiot and theres nothing you can
wants. The guy shes with is whispering into her ear while
I would know 98% of the time if you say this one word
hes saying and everyone at the bar can see it. And then,
end of the night, the girl in the red dress getting her things
guy in the bar, what the hell did this guy say to her?
the 4:1 ratio Youll hate me for this one, but its for
learning in real life. Ive heard some guys say ten hours,
ing first hand what got them fast results. Heres what I
strongly recommend...
this book will not read. Most people who read this book
will never use the system Ive developed even once. You
do not want to end up in this category! Start small and
jibe with you and thats totally fine. You may find other
this book, try not to read any other similar books while
can, but give this your 100% FOCUS then move on.
GETTING STARTED2
System Summary
Heres how the system breaks down into 7 simple steps (plus an extra bonus section on following up):
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STEP 1
Lifestyle
Attractiveness
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STEP 3
Connection
We cover proven ways to make a woman feel a deep, strong connection with you so shes eager to want to see you and spend
time with you.
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STEP 4
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STEP 5
The Date
One night stands and hookups are great, but dates are often
necessary and if youre busy you probably prefer scheduling
a date. Here are the statistically best ways to end up back at
your place and the dangerous pitfalls to avoid.
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STEP 6
Getting Physical
At some point, things will have to turn physical in order for you to
end up in bed. Again, a big point of tension, Ill show you the most
successful (and failure proof) ways to get physical quick and easy.
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STEP 7
Even small mistakes can ruin the night (and your chances).
Closing the deal successfully is all about statistics and eliminating your chances of mistakes.
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BONUS
Following Up
STEP 12
take care of the easy things first, which are usually not the
So with that said, here are the fastest and easiest ways
Two miles away is Bar #2. Your friends dont like Bar #2
Create An Ecosystem
But Bar #2 has a whopping 12 hot girls and less guys than
can take or a place you can go, but its hands down one of
Bar #1. You can meet 600% more women there and have
Chances are, there are many decisions like this that youre
or the closest place, but never to the place with the most
post-it note over your light switch so you cant even turn
shopping malls, your job, where you eat lunch, where you
eat dinner, the parties you go to, the bars you go to, the
If you work in a job where you have off for lunch, use that
coffee, go to the coffee shop where you see the most cute
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many women did you meet? How many dates did you
on) and which you can improve. You might think well
time writing this out, but the truth is, our heads do not
so if you can afford it, try visiting some new places when
the best cities for dating in the world. It has one of the
highest girl-to-guy ratios and highest number of single
what your dating life is really like and all the areas of
time and actions reflect that so you get what you want.
in the first situation is screwed and its not his fault. Hes
not a loser or hopeless or bad at dating or unlovable, he
The men I know who have the most success have the
opportunity to meet a lot of women. If you dont actively
create these opportunities then you wont have the
opportunities.
Lets say the system Im about to teach you can triple
1. Miami, FL
6. Dallas, TX
2. New York, NY
7. San Diego, CA
3. Los Angeles, CA
8. Phoenix, AZ
4. Chicago, IL
9. Boston, MA
5. Washington D.C.
10. Houston, TX
as much. If you only have sex with one new girl per year,
youre now having sex with nine new women because you
A) used this system and B) went to a few different places
3
7
6
10
83%
because you can easily meet plenty more. Its not a big
deal if a girl breaks up with you or doesnt show up on a
ing and avoid any silly mind games you play with
motivates us to succeed
220%
54%
No, this isnt where I tell you that you could lose a kidney,
but online dating can to be a huge waste of time. First,
youre not the only guy who came up with the brilliant
idea to copy and paste the same message to hundreds of
Lounges (Not Bars). Most sports bars and pubs are filled
with men. Women prefer to go somewhere with more
atmosphere, a place with a cool vibe where they rip you
off for drinks, but women love these places and dont
mind paying the added prices.
53%
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Conclusion
idiot. Dont try to get too fancy or advanced, its the basics
if youve got goose eggs (all zeros) for your stats this week,
where its impossible for you to fail. What does this look
down three actions you can take to make this life happen.
Tape it to your wall in your office or by your desk.
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STEP 22
92.5%
that are totally within your control (e.g. not your looks.)
If a woman is born unattractive, there is very little she
can do to change her appearance in the eyes of the men
around her, but as a man, you have control over almost
everything that women consider handsome.
1. Hit The Gym Not a lot, just a little. In fact, most women
indict distaste for men who are too muscular or work
out too much. Women labeled photos of very muscular
or modelesque men as too feminine and unattractive.
3.2x
more common).
54x
65%
can make you look taller, as can the right shoes and shoe
shoes. Your haircut and wearing the color black can also
make a difference in peoples perceived height, as can
0.9
0.8
0.7
0.6
0.5
0.4
0.3
Flirty-face
1%
Smiling
Not Smiling
a big deal.
how you act and the word you say are what really turn
women on, your looks are just the icing on the cake.
Things that men think are big factors actually are not.
1.7%
NO EYE CONTACT
no control over.
harshly when they first meet them, but this isnt something to get upset about, this is simply the way life is
the first thing I did when I got out of high school was to
situation), but the good news is that you can use this be-
Thanks to the data we have access to, Ive found five key
end I still had zero dates, I still hadnt kissed a girl and I
tion, but will make her feel attracted to you. Keep in mind,
these are factors that most women are totally unaware of.
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55%
50%
proper grammar. Playing it too cool or acting nonchalant is one of the biggest turnoffs for women. Most men
whats up
45%
hola
35%
yo
30%
Netspeak = fail
30%
hey
25%
20%
realy
10%
ur
ya
cant
luv
wat
20%
hit
hi
Reply rates of messages containing these keywords in
the first 7. Plotted below each keyword is its frequency
per 10,000 messages sent.
offs. The worst 6 words you can use in a first message are
men). More is not always better/ The man who has suc-
all stupid slang or bad grammar. ur, u, wat, wont, hit and
cess isnt the man who does the most work, its the man
Interesting exceptions to
expressions of amusement.
haha (45% reply rate) and lol
82%
27%
hello
and sweet. If you say too much, it might sound like youre
41%
holla
45%
howdy
40%
0%
hows it
going?
63%
BOOST
PRO TIP
Manage Your Online Reputation
ber and your email address and any other information women may typically have about you as
Conclusion
You Miss 100% Of The Shots You Dont Take. If you dont
approach a girl, there is a 100% chance you wont get her,
of this Im certain! Too many men spend ages trying to
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STEP 32
an emotional connection
40%
35%
30%
cutie
25%
51%
cool
awesome
its
nice
that fascinating
hot
beautiful
20%
sexy
15%
38%
38% and 36% higher response rate respectively and all the positive-correlation words
were directly related to compliments.
of style are all great options. Here are some great examples
words are a time a dozen and any joker can type them
would be if you had slaved away day and night over many
long years to earn that money. Even still, a better compli-
their riches but admiration of their drive and determination admiration of their personal qualities.
the better and faster youll do it. Ask yourself: what one
there are lots of women. For each girl you see, chal-
Doing this will make you a master of starting conversations with strangers. Just walk up, tell them
confidence in my answers.
30%
50%
45%
40%
35%
grad
school
literature
favorite
movies
tattoo(s)
video physics
games
metal
vegetarian
zombie
band
into a certain hole and for women, this is a way for her
to try to filter you out of your dating pool and potentially
reject you, so you want to prevent.
30%
its what you spend most of your time thinking about, yet
you. If you put all your cards on the table too soon, shell
good at it, but it just doesnt put her (or you) in the mood
PRO TIP
My Rejection-Proof Compliment To Meet
Any Girl
people as it is to you.
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first time, its good let her know you have your own opin-
make your own choices in life and dont bend over back-
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ten women.
the owner, the chef, etc. all make you look like someone
connected.
goes over well with women, even women who claim the
dont get too deep and dont drag anything out too long.
If its a long story, find a way to tell only the most excit-
occasionally.
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41% lower response for men who indicate a preference for a less than serious relationship or casual sex
19% less for Just looking/curious
21% less for Id like to make new friends. Nothing
serious
much longer way; the same rules apply for a relationship. What actually makes us happy (haphazard
NICE GUY
BAD BOY
make a move, but you also dont want her thinking that
PRO TIP
Believe It Or Not, Cheesy Pickup Lines Work!
Make sure you dont come off as crazy, needy, or emotionally unstable. Being too nice could be seen as weakness
neous caring for her. It makes her feel safe and relaxed
your body when first meeting, getting too close too fast and
keep her in your life, she will spot this weakness quickly
PRO TIP
Go Over The Shoulder
26%
BOOST
Conclusion
sorry
apologize
awkward
pretty
30%
male self-effacement
probably
kinda
25%
The average reply rate of man-to-woman messages is 27%
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for clues
and can back up
Avoid controversial subjects that could lead to arguments
STEP 42
First a little disclaimer: while a phone number is a necessary piece of information to stay in touch with a girl, its
important not to think of it as a checkpoint or a suc-
2.3X
The real success is having a girl who likes you and who
wants to see you again and making solid plans with that
girl to see her again. Once you have this, the number is
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3.8X
number 3.8X more often than men who asked for a num-
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also see they are subtly putting pressure on her to hang out
PRO TIP
me. Once youve nailed down a great date spot feel free
Now youve made the plans, the chances of her giving you
her number when you ask for it go through the roof I
When youre asking her out, make sure she knows its a
Id love to take you out sometime. This way, its clear she
a big deal and less of a mental checkpoint or accomplishment and more of a way to stay in touch, because honestly,
than romance. Telling her you want to help her with her
career and then slowly working in the romance angle
its also a huge waste of your time... time that could have
with the career, and when you do make your move it may
only surprise her and end poorly with oh, I had no idea
The solution I found was simple. The men who were hav-
the more shell respect you and the less youll waste your
When you go out on a date with a girl who is there for ro-
Conclusion
to have success.
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STEP 52
The Date
Okay, so youve gotten some cute blondes number at the
hot brunette who works at the local bar and youve arranged to meet for drinks Friday night.
the day after (in place of a text in the 2-3 time frame
meeting them.
ing what she did last night or enjoy the rest of your
important
first date stats
14% said a sense
of humor.
40%
30%
20%
10%
career &
education
sense of
humor
looks &
smile
personality
0%
13%
make a difference.
Now lets assume she gives you an eager yes Id love to!
push if she says she doesnt want a drink. I also never order
her a drink without asking first and Im very careful to avoid
44%
STUDY
can makes it seem like a booty call and make her think
breeds attractiveness.
44%
The time that you spend with her is crucial. As men, were
basically ready to sleep with a woman the second we meet
her, but on average it takes women about seven hours of
for a girl who still feels that shes just getting to know you
and may not even be totally sold on you yet. For example,
imagine if I told you I had a date for you but I didnt tell you
what she looked like? You wouldnt want to be tied into a
ent places open. This will make the date more fun and
will even make her feel like shes known with you for a
77%
74%
67%
95%
BOOST
PRO TIP
Become a Regular
ask her how hungry she is and if she has any allergies.
6.7X
BOOST
waits and staff, tip the waiter well (above 20%) and
94%
BOOST
and how helpful you are at finding her just the right
thing for her desires and how you offer to take care
can make you look to fussy and uptight rather than laid
27%
BOOST
48%
BOOST
70%
27%
BOOST
just choose a different activity for the date that you can
From time to time, make sure shes having the best time
possible (just dont suffocate her or overdo it). You can
to pull out their card to be polite and will even split the
check if you dont stop them, but they will love if it you
smile, tell them not to worry and that youll take care
you arent looking for a pat on the back for your venue
62%
63%
BOOST
check.
paying for the entire dinner only once on a first date and
was because she had a gift certificate that had been sit-
ting around for a year and just wanted to use it. I did of-
Focus On Her
tells you what she does, ask what its like, if she enjoys it,
You could even say, Im having a good time, are you hav-
out all the time. Do you listen to every single word that
how bad I was at dating. These things are in the past now
Conclusion
but thats also a good thing. Start with one thing. Ask
cause for many years Jennifer Aniston was always at the top
With that said here are the key points to nailing your first
impression on a date:
In earlier sections we talked about the please mentality. We also talked about that giddy feeling you get
around a girl you like that makes you want to smile all
the time like an idiot. These are serious pitfalls on a first
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STEP 62
Getting Physical
Holding Hands
First, lets back track a little bit. You should aim to initiate
some level of contact on a date with a woman, whether its
during dinner or after or both, that being said, physicality
86%
hands might seem like an innocent activity, a mentor made a great point to me,
just certain basic touches can set the tone for your entire
there are only two men who a woman will hold hands
25%
ok. If you grope her or move too quickly past her boundaries, shell not only feel violated, but will also see you
PRO TIP
The Sexual Handshake
Kissing
73%
a date that lasts 2-3 hours and there isnt any kissing,
second date.
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Let her dictate the pace If she pulls back, let her.
Create silence Create a moment of silence or an awkward pause by intentionally talking less. The worst time
Also, make sure the place you choose to go for the kiss
Now that youve had your kiss its on. There are so clear
more than three dates was too long to wait to have sex
45%
BOOST
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Conclusion
Dont overdo it. Its a first date and you should like
from the research is that you should convey your personality and show her you card about in a way that doesnt come
Above all else, have fun with her. A lot of people find
subtle actions.
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STEP 72
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%
WOMEN
all
will have sex on the first date. If she says yes shes 68%
MEN
Be Unpredictable
If you didnt meet this girl online, asking her if shes tried
to your bedroom and start trying to take off her shirt and
while and had some success. Our prior stats show that
wont happen.
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has deep feelings of lust and feels very sexual then you
stumbling around in the dark, rummaging through your
PRO TIP
Make Her Feel Lust On Command!
draws and tears packaging open is not turning her on, especially because youre not doing what you were just be-
PRO TIP
Always carry a condom.
lastly its a huge bonus if you can teach her (or get
her to teach you) a skill in the moment - playing
mantic spot to kiss a girl will get her in the right mood,
the same goes for your apartment. Get dimmers on
hers. Too often the date goes bad because of poor planning or lack of smooth transitions between locations.
The point is, be prepared. Too often in the moments that
you need to run and grab protection will cause a woman
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Conclusion
If you can get her in the right mood (and keep her in that
date and getting some action are both pretty good. Here
are some keys
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too long and will make her think youre not interested or
did have sex, heres what the data and experience tells us
61%
follow-up phone call the day after having sex for the first
time will make a woman almost twice as likely to want to
be your girlfriend.
text message after having sex for the first time. Again, not
hookup buddy.
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success.
why you wanted to know. At this point, tell her you were
just thinking of her, perhaps because you were doing
Conclusion
Another great way is to say, Just got back from the gym,
Rock, this will still show her youve got confidence and
after delivering some expert-level game on a girl, sleeping with her once, and then suddenly, as if a switch had
the next level. This last message has a light, but obvious
texts or calls.
sexual tone.
Secondly, careful planning is key. It doesnt matter if you
If shes into it and says something like wow, sexy! :)
The final key here, once you gotten this far (which, if you
to how theyll make their exit once theyve done what they
A great way would be to tell her wow, that is really turning me on right now... Im starting to really wish you were
here :) So youre letting her know her photos are really
turning you on. Then you wait a minute or so and say I
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