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Single! Young Christian Woman December 2009
Single! Young Christian Woman December 2009
A P U B L I C AT I O N O F O N M Y O W N N O W M I N I S T R I E S
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Straight Talk from the Proverbs:
Will the Real Fool Please Stand Up?
by Donna Lee Schillinger .4
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Single!
Moving Out ... Settling In:
Young
Christian
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What Happens in Vegas is Forever
by Kimberly Miller Woman
a publication of On My
Own Now Ministries
Down Home Healthy Cookin' for One ona Budget: www.onmyownnow.com
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Three Square Meals + Some on $5 a day,
The Fin-ally Editor-In-Chief
by Reba Ray donna lee schillinger
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Dear Gabby:
Early life crisis .14 contributors
paola segnini
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Spare Change: kimberly miller
Merry Christmas on No Budget Tamara Jane
by Paola Segnini
Debra Collins
Fashion DIVinA
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art director
A Modest Measure
by Tamara Jane and Donna Lee Schillinger daniela bermúdez
Just What You Need
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A Reality Check for When it Sounds
“Too Good to be True”
by Donna Lee Schillinger
o We see high
drama in the
movies all the
time, but in
real life, big
Fridge-worthy. acting does not
win awards.
Straight talk from the Proverbs for young Christian women who
want to remain pure, debt-free and regret-free.
Will the
real
fool
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please
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stand
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by Donna Lee Schillinger
“ Whoever corrects a mocker invites insult; whoever rebukes a
wicked man incurs abuse. Do not rebuke a mocker or he will hate
you; rebuke a wise man and he will love you. Instruct a wise man
and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man and he will add
to his learning. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. ”
Proverbs 9: 7-9
Kimberly Miller’s business trip, and resulting opportu- were destroying her country. Instead, she was raging
nity to witness to her coworker (see “What Happens in against the very things that had provided the privileged
Vegas…” on p. 6), is a good reminder that how we share life she took for granted.
the wisdom of the ages is as important – if not more
important – than sharing it at all. If we leave a nega- One day in Wal-Mart, she started testing me or perhaps
tive impression in our attempt to share Christ, we have she was teasing me. At the time, I thought she was sin-
done more damage than good. And I’m sad to say that cere, but I realized with some reflection, she was simply
many a zealous Christian has erred in this manner – doing what a rebellious teen does for fun. She picked up
myself included – read on. a magazine and announced that she wanted to die her
p
hair red like the actress pictured on the cover. This was
As we begin to hear wisdom’s voice and submit our- one of those unnatural reds for hair, like the color of
selves to it and we feel ourselves gaining wisdom, we blood. I told her I wouldn’t allow it while she was with
want to share this with others. Our new insights are me. My reason was simple – I didn’t want my nine-
truly exciting and our soul wells to overflowing. We year-old daughter, who admired our exchange student,
have a pure desire for others to understand what we to tuck a memo away in her mind, “Die hair blood red
understand. This is all good, but as we read in the at age 17.” I should have just said that and left it alone.
above scripture, we must be selective about when and But I couldn’t help myself. I saw an opportunity to try
with whom we decide to share our newfound insights to enlighten this young rebel – to share some wisdom.
about life.
A discussion about stereotypes and the importance of
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom – the other people’s opinions ensued and crescendoed into
beginning of wisdom – meaning we’ve just left start on a heated and loud exchange in Spanish in the checkout
the game board of life. To underscore this point God line at Wal-Mart. If indeed this exchange was between
may put a fool or mocker in our path. If ever someone a wise woman and a fool, an onlooker would have had
needed to know and understand what we know and un- great difficulty figuring out who was which – we both
derstand, it is that poor fool, right? looked like fools.
“What’s this? The fool and mocker is asking my opin- Fools and mockers are very useful for humbling those
ion? An opening? An opportunity to share with her? who are wise in their own eyes. Resist the temptation
Thank you, Lord.” to share your wisdom with just anyone. Someone truly
eager to learn will be in an open, opinion-neutral zone,
Careful. This is not what you think. This is a learning not staunchly held up in the tower of a particular view-
opportunity, for sure, but it’s for you, not the fool. point. When you sense in the listener a humble willing-
I hosted a foreign exchange student from South Ameri- ness to learn, your few, carefully chosen words will be
ca who was raised in a very privileged lifestyle, devoutly welcomed and effective.
Catholic and sheltered from the social ills that abound
in her country. Despite all her good fortune, she re-
belled against the good things in her life - clashing with
her mother, the church and the norms of society in gen-
eral. How I wished she would have turned that passion
Hold this thought:
against the corruption, poverty and illegal drugs that It’s foolish to argue with a fool.
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w moving out ... settling in
W H A T
happens
VEGAS
IN
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IS FOREVER Kimb
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by
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give you four day’s worth
of menu and shopping list,
by Reba Ray
as well as the shopping list
for a starter kit of ingredi-
ents that’ll last you for at
least three months, in most
cases. Now I know $55 for
Square
a starter kit sounds a little
outrageous, but it will aver-
age out to be less than a dol-
lar a day because of how long
the ingredients last. Add it to
MealS
the $4-a-day menu and yur
eatin’ for $5 a day.
SomE
shopping lists. If you are
seeing this for the first time,
what ya really otta do is go
back to the first four-day
menu and start there. Then
follow links to the second
and third menus until you
work yur way back to this
on $ 5 a Day
one. But if yur hard-headed,
go ahead and start with the
last part (you wouldn’t read a
book that way though, would
ya?).
the
spice bottles for $.50 each
fin-ally ★
instead of paying for name
brands. If not, go to the local
★
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dollar store to buy yur spices. And a disclaimer: prices vary
so much from store to store and then when you take into
account different regions of the country, well, this iddn’t no
$55 starter kit
exact science. I’m ballparkin’ figures here and I believe you
can get mighty close to the total amount regardless of where
you live, as long as you shop smart. Salt $2
Pepper $1
And if yur just feeding Ginger $2
yurself, well, you've got to Cinnamon
Basil
$1
$1
have a little repetition to Oregano $1
Cumin $1
use all the food that was in Brown sugar $2
the package. Again, budget Molasses
Baking powder
$2
$2.50
food does not usually come Baking soda $1
Whole wheat flour $3
in single servings. Vanilla $2
Mayonnaise $2
Pesto $3
2. Surely you notice a little repetition in these menus and
that there aren’t too many fancy foods on them. Newsflash: Bullion Cubes
You can’t eat fancy foods on $5 a day. And if yur just feeding (chicken and beef) $2 each
yurself, well, you’ve got to have a little repetition to use all Lemon juice $2
the food that was in the package. Again, budget food does not
usually come in single servings. Jalapeno peppers $2
Olive oil $5
3. As always, I’m learnin’ ya how to cook healthy. Give it a try
– I just know you can learn to love what’s good for ya. Balsamic vinegar $3
Soy sauce $3
Worcestershire sauce $2
Apple cider vinegar $1
Canola Oil $3
Cooking spray $3
BBQ sauce $1
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o Reba Ray´s down home healthy cookin’ for one on a budget
Day 13
BREAKFAST: French Toast
lunch: Fetuccini w/pesto and fresh tomato (4 oz. beef patty on bre
snack: Raisins
dinner: Chicken with potatoes and carrots
desert: Peanut Butter Cookies (use a favorite recipe, subbin’ in brown for white sugar and whole
wheat for white flour to make it healthier)
Day 14
BREAKFAST: Cereal
lunch: Left over Chicken sandwich with cheddar cheese
snack: Seasonal Fruit
dinner: Lentil stew (potatoes and carrots)
desert: Peanut butter
Day 15
BREAKFAST: Oatmeal w/ raisins
lunch: BBQ wings (or other chicken) and homemade French Fries
snack: Seasonal Fruit
dinner: Chicken Florentine fettuccini
desert: Peanut Butter Cookies
Day 16
BREAKFAST: Eggs and toast
lunch: Lentil stew leftover
snack: Cheddar Cheese
dinner: Leftover chicken with potatoes (mashed or fried)
desert: Seasonal Fruit crepe
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Left overs
Recipettes from list # 1, 2 & 3
Peanut butter
Cereal
8oz. Cheddar
Cheese Block
Chicken Florentine Fettuccini: Raisins Syrup
Eggs Fresh Garlic
Place ½ cup chopped, leftover chicken and Bread
one pressed clove of garlic in a teaspoon of
olive oil and sauté in a small skillet over me-
dium heat until chicken is heated through.
Shopping List #4
Add thawed, dry spinach and sprinkle with Milk $2
salt, pepper, basil and oregano. Cook fet- Whole chicken $4
tuccini according to package directions. Potatoes $3
Top fettuccini with chicken/spinach mix- Carrots $1
ture and sprinkle with parmesan cheese. Seasonal fruit
Seasonal Fruit Crepe: (strawberries, grapes, tangerines,
pears, peaches) $2
Chop ½ cup of seasonal fruit into small Lentils $.75
cubes, removing seeds and peels as need- Apple sauce $1
ed. In a small saucepan, bring to boil with Fettuccini $1.50
one tablespoon brown sugar and 2 table- Tomato $.50
spoons water. Simmer over low heat for Spinach $.50
five minutes or until it forms a compote. In
a medium bowl, mix together 1/2 cup all-
purpose flour, 1 egg, ¼ cup milk, 1 table-
spoon canola oil, ¼ cup water and a dash
of salt. Over medium heat, pour a ¼-cup
scoop of batter into a lightly oiled nonstick
skillet in good condition, tilting the skil-
let like the Alpine ride at the carnival so
the batter goes all over the pan. Cook for
about two minutes and ever-so-carefully
flip it over and cook a minute more on the
other side. Slide off on to a plate, spoon in
a few tablespoons of fruit filling and roll it
up, seam side down. Repeat until the bat-
ter’s all gone. Drizzle a little syrup or mo-
lasses over the crepes.
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Dear Gabby
s ter
Gab
by
dear gabby:
I think I might be having an early life crisis. I’m in grad school
but wondering if I’m just here to avoid doing something bet-
ter with my life. I had some choices to do hard things after
college and I chose grad school instead—which isn’t easy by
any means, but I fear may have been the safe choice. I have
a propensity toward laziness and I’m afraid of it taking over
my life. There are mornings I really don’t even want to get
out of bed—literally. Before you say “prayer is the answer,”
you should know I’ve tried that and it has helped. Basically, it´s
led me to a realization of some of my character flaws. But
now what?
- Languid in Lancaster
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K Spare Change
a
merry
christmas
(on no budget)
by Paola Segnini
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K
I’ve always been a fan of giving I realize pictures from old maga-
zines and leftover Halloween candy
I’m not a huge fan of cook-
ing. I don’t hate it; I just don’t do
gifts. I remember when I was a is probably not what you have in it… like ever! I always say my Mr.
little girl and had zero cash, I used mind for a Christmas gift, but if you Right will have to know how to
to come up with gifts for my fam- think about it, it actually applies cook to win me over. This is no se-
ily all the time, and of course, they perfectly. As a kid, I was using what cret about me. So, imagine how my
didn’t cost a dime. Anything was a I had on hand in tandem with my friends and family would feel if I
potential gift: I’d pick flowers from abilities to make someone I loved actually decided to cook for them.
my grandma’s garden or a nearby smile. The concept for us today is If a friend of mine came over and I
park, I’d collect shells when I was at the same. How can we make some- surprised her with a home-cooked
the beach and save them for special one smile with what we have on meal, I bet she’d be both surprised
occasions, I’d draw pictures, write hand, or by just using our abilities? and excited. I wouldn’t even need
stories, cut nice images from maga- to cook something fancy – just any-
zines… I even saved a piece of candy If your mom absolutely hates doing thing from my pantry. Exploit that
or two so I could give to my friends dishes, how about giving her a “Get kind of thing. For me, it’s cooking,
at school. out of the Kitchen Free” card and do for you it may be sewing or garden-
them for her after Christmas din- ing. We all have things we know
Fast forward to 2009 and those ner? If your boyfriend can’t stand
childhood ideas aren’t looking as how to do pretty well but we just
ironing, give him a “fresh-pressed choose not to, or avoid doing them.
childish in this economy! This year load of laundry” for a gift. If you
has been tough on everyone, re- Surprise someone with your hidden
put your mind to it, you can think of ability!
flected by the number of petitions something you are perfectly capable
I’ve received to write a column of doing that your friends and fam-
about how to have a Merry Christ- ily hate, and offer to do it for them.
mas when you’re strapped for cash.
If you still want to go the traditional way and purchase a present, here
are some really good ideas for gifts under $10 that maybe could supple-
ment a hand-made coupon for a special act of kindness.
1. Gourmet coffees with a per- 11. Decorative napkins w/ rings 22. Specialty cookbook
sonal coffee cup 12. Fancy chocolate bars tied 23. Set of dish towels and cloths
2. Journal with special inscription with a ribbon 24. Nail polish kit
inside 13. Gardening gloves with a plant 25. A night shirt
3. Teacup with box of herbal tea or f lower seeds 26. Basket filled with kitchen
4. Homemade cocoa mix (layers 14. Photo album, hand-decorated gadgets
of cocoa, sugar, marshmallows is even better 27. Handwritten copies of your
and maybe chocolate chips) in a 15. Makeup tote favorite recipes
pretty jar 16. Homemade cookie mix in a 28. For the pets, gourmet dog
5. Collage of special photos quart jar with instructions for biscuits or cat treats
6. Gel pens and pretty stationery baking 29. Baking pans and supplies
7. Home baked bread, and include 17. Special coffee cup filled with 30. Pretty box for keepsakes
the recipe on a colorful, lami- candy 31. Address book
nated card 18. Fancy magazines tied togeth- 32. Christmas ornaments
8. Basket filled with an assort- er with a pretty ribbon 33. Favorite quote embroidered or
ment of small chunks of deli 19. Board games pen-painted on a nice handker-
cheese and fruit 20. Note cards and book of chief
9. Craft supplies stamps 34. Makeup brush set
10. Holiday serving bowl or plat- 21. Picture frames, buy them on 35. Special soaps and bath puff
ter sale!
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Fashi on DIVinA
A
modest
measur
Summer’s over and the pressure (both
societal and barometric) to dress scantily
are gone for a season. But our concern for
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modesty should be perennial. Modesty is
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1. What do my clothes say 2. When I dress I… 3. My clothes reflect
about my heart? a) want to be comfortable and ________ values.
a) I’m modest on the inside and look good, but not sexy. a) Biblical
out. b) opt for something fashionable b) greater societal
b) Not much – they are heart- without regard to much else. c) fringe
neutral. c) secretly want to cause a traffic
c) I just want somebody, any- accident as I cross the street.
body to pay attention to me.
re
could ever guess… wearing might be too immodest,
a) the location of my birthmark. I…
b) that I don’t spend a lot of a) put the outfit on hold until I
clothes. can ask the opinion of someone I
c) that I’m a Christian. respect.
b) ask my boyfriend what he
thinks.
c) shrug my shoulders, make
kissy-lips at myself in the mirror
and head out the door anyway.
Give yourself 2 points for each “a,” 1 point for each “b” and zip/zilch/
nada for each “c.” A score of 7 or greater indicates that modesty is a max
factor. Good for you. 4 to 6 points indicates modesty is on your radar,
but takes a back seat to fashion. Below 4 points, you don’t see the con-
nection between godly living and your wardrobe.
When we lived at home, Mom and Dad may have had it all to Goodwill just yet. Layering is a great technique
some tempering influence on our choice of clothes, but to mitigate immodest clothes. Spend $10 on some ge-
now that we’re on our own? Who will be our “Mirror, neric tights and camisoles to wear underneath and in-
Mirror on the wall”? There are our friends – but don’t vest in one superfly jacket to top tops. The jacket can
they need some help of their own? When you need an turn half your summer wardrobe in to all-season wear
honest answer to “Does this make me look sleazy?” a too by being instant sleeves for anything sleeveless.
godly adult can be invaluable. Seek out a godly woman Layer longer shirts under or over shorter shirts to keep
whose fashion sense you admire and bounce your outfit that rear end from rearing it’s ugly… (ehem!). And add
options off her every once in a while to keep your mod- a big, bold scarf to low cut shirts – and enjoy a warm
esty meter well-calibrated. neck this winter.
Also, consult Web sites that specialize in modest cloth-
ing. Even if you don’t buy online, you can get some There are plenty of ways to be modest and fashionable
ideas of how today’s styles can be modestly sported. My at the same time. The first step to making it happen is
daily asking yourself, “Is this an outfit that is pleasing
picks are TailoredLilly.com and ModestlySassy.com. to God? Will it glorify the body that He’s given me?”
If your score on the modesty test was embarrassingly It’s a two-question test that I pray you’ll score well on
low, you might be feeling like your wardrobe is beyond every day.
salvaging – shirts cut too low, dresses and skirts cut too
short, jeans look like they’re painted on... Don’t donate
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What
Need
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