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Ways To Stop Domestic Violence
Ways To Stop Domestic Violence
1: Know the signs. The first step to action is to familiarise individuals and the
community with the possible signs and indicators of domestic violence. These signs
can vary and do not always come with physical symptoms because domestic
violence is not just limited to physical attacks such as beatings. It includes many
forms of abusive behaviour enacted to control the victim in a myriad of ways
including emotional abuse, verbal abuse and economic abuse. Domestic violence
also affects every level and demograhic in society, so there is no typical victim
despite the stereotypes. Someone who may not appear to be a victim of domestic
violence may well be suffering in silence and it is important to recognise the signs if
this is the case.
2: Get your community educated! A good start to eradicating Domestic Violence
from your community or neighbourhood is to start educating as many people as
possible about Domestic Violence, its impact and how to intervene safely. This can
be done in collaboration with your local Domestic Violence shelter or womens
organisation or police community outreach officers who can work with the
community, local schools and local companies to organise and implement talks,
townhall meetings and other group sessions to talk about this issue.
3: Get your community organised! There is safety and influence in numbers when
intervening to stop an abuser or making your community a place where Domestic
Violence will not be tolerated. So just as many neighbourhoods have neighbourhood
watch to stop crime, start organising a network of folks who will commit to
intervene in Domestic Violence situations, help victims leave their abusers safely
and provide a communal support structure for survivors.
4: Boost your community support network with technology! If you have a smart
phone and the victim has a smart phone, consider downloading a safety app for
women, many of which have been designed to automatically alert your support
network if you are in danger. If the victim does not have a smart phone, consider
pooling money with a few friends and neighbours to get her one and pre-load it with
a safety app that is connected to all your phones so you can become a de facto
support net for her. Free safety apps currently available include the awardwinning Circle of 6 and the iAMDEFENDER app which you can download here.
5: Stopping the violence is good for business. Domestic Violence has cost
economies and companies millions of dollars in lost time, medical care, productivity
etc. In the U.S., the cost of Domestic Violence to the economy is estimated at $8.3
billion a year. If you are a business owner or a senior member of a company (e.g. a
director, board member, senior manager), be pro-active in getting educated about
how to intervene if you suspect or know that your employee or staff member is
facing Domestic Violence because it will have a knock-on effect on your company.
Implement HR policies that makes provisions for the potential impact of Domestic
Violence. For example, the National Bank of Australia is currently offering paid
Domestic Violence leave because the economic freedom from remaining in paid
work is regarded as vital in helping victims escape violent relationships.
6: Ring the bell. If you are the neighbour of a family experiencing Domestic
Violence, please take the time to ring their bell when you hear a violent situation
happening. You could use the old neighbourly approach of asking to borrow a cup of
sugar or some milk as an excuse. If you feel that it could get dangerous, bring
another person with you so there will be more than one witness.
If you have a car and need to intervene immediately, make sure that the gas/petrol
tank is full so you can get in and drive to get the victim/survivor immediately if need
be.
12: Have an intervention plan. Work out a plan to get an intervention operation in
action have the following numbers on standby for your use:
The national Domestic Violence helpline (if your country has it)
The local Domestic Violence shelter helpline wherever the victim/survivor is located.
The local police wherever the victim/survivor is located.
Make sure to contact all of these agencies immediately should you receive an
urgent SOS from the victim/survivor or if you hear or witness the violence begin and
escalate (and in many cases, it may escalate incredibly quickly).
13: Provide some relief. If you know a Domestic Violence victim/survivor who is
being kept at home without relief, do a random act of kindness for her: Offer to
babysit the children for a few hours while the abuser is out so she can have a
breather; Offer to pick up groceries for her on your grocery run. Every small gesture
helps provide relieve and also build the victims confidence in eventually reaching
out to you for help (or accepting your help).
14: Check in regularly. If you fear for your friend, co-worker, classmate, or family
members life, call or text her once a day at a random time to see if she is all right.
If its your neighbour, keep an eye out on the house and your ears pricked for any
signs or sounds of violence.
15: Be a resource. Help her find the assistance she needs, whether it is legal
information, local domestic violence programmes, or finding a safe place through a
battered womens shelter. The greatest danger women face in these situations is
often the actual process of leaving, so finding a safe place may be key. Knowing this
information beforehand may be helpful, but assisting her in the research and even
making phone calls for her will also help speed things up.
16: Document! Document! Document! Document any incidents that you witness.
Take note of dates, times, injuries, and any other observations. Your ongoing
documentation can help bolster a victims courage and credibility when they are
finally willing to pursue legal action against their partner.