Romantic Myths & Ending Codependent Relationships
Romantic Myths & Ending Codependent Relationships
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CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS, IMPROVE THE WORLD
CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS, IMPROVE THE WORLD
An unhealthy person can have a powerful pull when you are needy, unhappy, and trying to
maintain positive energy and balance while in search of a loving relationship. Entitlement to
your own feelings allows you to see other peoples pent-up anger and emotions and to
recognize whether a person is right for you. You cannot change others; you can choose to
see emotional problems in potential partners so you are not pulled into their darkness or
bargain with your own well-being. You can move on to realistic thinking, new behaviors, and
new emotions. You can see beyond old patterns of personal consciousness that have
trapped you in unhealthy partnerships. You can stop victimizing yourself, let go of negativity,
and become aware of your power to cope effectively with unhealthy people, thoughts, and
situations.
The codependent also has a deep need for connectedness, harmony and a sense of
belonging, which involves awareness that lifes most precious realities are love and
compassion. Love and compassion are attained only in the giving of it to ourselves and only
in the openness to receive it. We give by getting and get by giving in relationships. Feeling
good flows from self-acceptance, being joined with loved ones in a healthy way, and of
knowing we belong.
Tips for Ending Codependent Relationships
1. Invest in yourself: It will be easier to help yourself the more you know about
codependency.
2. Struggle, fail, and be confused and frustrated to discover your own truth.
3. If you are having great difficulties that you want to work out, seek professional counseling.
4. Do not form relationships solely on the basis of attraction.
5. Work through your family of origin issues so you dont find yourself working through them
with the people you are attracted to.
6. Learn to go slowly and pay attention during the process of initiating and forming
relationships.
7. Say how you really feel.
8. Let go of your need to control.
9. Create a solid sense of self and the courage to speak up when something bothers you.
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Amy
on November 27, 2014 at
9:27 pm said:
Amazing! Amazing article! Thank you!
Lake
on December 16, 2012 at
5:16 pm said:
I LOVE your web site Roberta! It is so
1solutionfocusedcoaching
on December 16,
2012 at 8:47 pm said:
Lake,
My heart goes out to you. The
recovery process from the emo
tional sadism you described is a
big life test for you. I can relate
to your statement, I believe
that emotional abuse and ma
nipulation are the equivalent of
getting someone drunk and
date raping them. Emotional
sadism is a type of soul murder
when you are in a relationship
with a mean sick person. Fortu
nately you have left and now
you build endurance to sit in the
sadness as you become
stronger. Sick people make
people sick Protecting your
neediness and longing for real
love takes a recognition that
Impower You
on April 2, 2012 at 8:00 pm
said:
I like #9. Create a solid sense of self
and the courage to speak up when
something bothers you.
I think this is great advice for anyone,
even those that are not in a relationship.