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HeartMath - Self Empowerment
HeartMath - Self Empowerment
The most direct and to the point book on stress management that I
have read. With remarkable clarity, Childre identifies our most prob-
lematic areas, shows their underlying causes and offers powerfully
creative solutions. Chapter 3 alone ranks this among the most useful
and insightful books in the field.
KEN CAREY
Author, The Starseed Transmissions,
Starseed, The Third Millenium
Doc's idea is simple: function from the heart. Maybe we've heard that
before. But this time the message appears in the vernacular: it's
presented in a streetsense manner that sounds do-able. Releasing
stress and efficiently directing energy to ever more productive and
satisfying ends are some of the benefits of heart-based choices. Fe-
male/male relationships can move toward a true partnership para-
digm. Child/parent relationships can be mutually nourishing and
instructive. Heart intelligence can help us find family and can expand
our notion of family so that all interaction is supportive. In the final
analysis, heart smarts may be the only intelligence that matters.
JOYCE CHUMBLEY, Ph.D.
Educational Consultant
Thank you. I welcome Doc's new book as a way to enhance the inside
out learning process.
BRADLEY WINCH, Ph.D., J.D.
Member of the Board of Directors,
National Council for Self-Esteem
A must for anyone who seeks a happier and more balanced life. A
pleasure to read.
ROBERT SCHWARTZ
President, Laurie Records
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Different Strokes for Different Folks
Being Yourself
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T HE NOW A GE
A Look at the New Age
The Now Age
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Author's Foreword
My First Appreciation of Self-Management
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FOREWORD
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Stress:
The Planetary
Governor
Face it, stress has become a standard household commodity
near mandatory to say the least. However, not all people experi-
ence the same amount of stress. Some have a natural knack for
deflecting the obvious day-to-day stress factors that most people
experience. Still, there are deeper levels of stress management
that can be achieved by anyone.
In watching yourself closely, you can usually find energy
leaks in your mental or emotional nature that add much stress to
your system. Some people are positive thinking types (which is
healthy), but they still experience subtle energy drains. With a
little sincere effort, anyone can bring their personal energy leaks
progressively under management.
So, if you want a way to de-stress your life, then self-empower-
ment is a practical method. Efficient prescriptions for stress relief
are within each person. By practicing self-empowerment, you can
bring them into realization and application.
Well discuss simple techniques to practice in the following
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healthy challenge with the right attitude. For example, when you
transform resistances into fun creative achievementssuch as
weightlifting, jogging that extra mile, meeting a deadline, closing
a sale, etc.youre still releasing positive hormones into your
system. As you meet resistances, its your attitude that regulates
the amount of stress in the outcome. The balancing and manage-
ment of attitudes is a key factor in understanding and dissipating
stress.
You can accelerate stress relief within your own system by
learning how to follow your hearts directives or what people call
the inner voice, intuition, inner knowingness, etc. This book
is about how to do that. Discovering how to follow your hearts
directives is a practical key to self-empowerment.
Many people are living to survive rather than to increase their
quality and enjoyment of life. Survival living is definitely minus
the fun and fulfillment you can have if you practice a system of
self-empowerment. If you wait for the economy to balance or the
wars to stop before you have peace, you could have a long wait. Or,
if you wait for relationships to change, or for children to meet your
idealistic expectancies, or for harmony in your workplace before
you have inner peace, you may never find it.
The point Im making is this: because of innocent ignorance
most peoples peace and security are dependent upon other people,
places or things. Self-empowerment is about building your own
security from within. Based on the planetary stress accumulation,
its an appropriate time for people to connect with their inner
truth and realize they are well equipped to de-stress much of their
internal and external environment. This can be done by training
yourself to listen to the intelligent truth in your own heart.
Inside themselves, people catch glimpses of the potential of
self-empowerment. Still, its hard for them to get started in the
effort to harmonize their energy patterns and attitudes. They
often feel they are waiting for the spirit to move them. You may
not realize that the spirit is waiting for you to hear and acknowl-
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edge the potentials it has to offer if you live from your true self
from your heart. Your inner heart feelings signal you when its
time to make attitude adjustments, but the mind often drowns out
the signal. With practice you can increase your ability to hear and
follow that inner voice, resulting in efficient living.
Self-Management
The power to think yourself into misery is within you and the
power to stop it is within you also. If youve glimpsed that self-
truth, then its time to take it to the next level by acting on what
you know inside. That would be a wise investment of your time in
this next decade.
Many have used religion, self-help, science, new age, and
other processes to facilitate personal change, peace and fun in life.
I realize that individuals have been helped by these programs and
will continue to be. But, the collective HELP systems havent
been much of a bail-out for stress problems on a global level, as of
yet. For some, adherence to a system becomes a crutch or mind-
set. (A mind-set is a narrow perspective, bound in cement, that
knows-what-it-knows and refuses the evidenced truth of a wider
perspective.)
Something is missing that is seriously needed if we are look-
ing for basic peace, much less total peace. The missing formula is
within your own heart. Thats where you can find the primary
gateway to quality living. The doctrines and by-laws of inner truth
are within you. As you unfold your inner truth, you are more able
to be yourself and no longer have to play plastic roles to suit
others expectations. Developing a closer relationship with your
heart intuition efficiently guides you through your own energy-
management process. Then you can add more quality to any
system you may participate inself-help or religion, etc.
The increasing stress condition on the planet will awaken us
to the realization that we have to clean up our own mess individu-
ally. People will soon begin a more serious search for efficient
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ways to get the stressors off their backs. As you establish balance
and harmony between your head and your heart, you gain a more
intelligent perspective of what creates your stress. By applying
intelligence to stress, you decrease its power to drain your energy.
The wars on drugs or the wars on crime wont be very
effective until we have declared war on stress through indi-
vidual self-management. If we even have to use references to
wars (which weve had enough of), lets at least aim that energy
towards dissipating stress-creating agentspoor attitudes, mind-
sets, judgments, lack of care, etc. When individuals overcome the
battles within themselvesby balancing the head and heart rela-
tionshipthe rest of the wars will diminish in time.
Stress reigns as a major influence over the planet thus far,
though you would think that the people are in charge. They are
not as of yet. There was a time when you could get lost in your
own little thing and escape having to deal with national and
international stress levels. Now, global stress is accumulating
into a force to be reckoned withwhich daily affects us all. As large-
scale stress increases on the planet, it will especially be experi-
enced on the individual leveleven if you are far removed from
the wars or the social distortions. Other than learning manage-
ment of your attitudes and contacting your own strength within,
theres no lasting way of escaping the societal effects of exponen-
tially increasing stress. Everyone is subconsciously connected to
the stress of the whole planet more than they think, even if their
mind is not focused on this awareness.
Articles from PEOPLE MAGAZINE, TIME and many other publica-
tions prove that it doesnt matter whether you are wealthy or
poorno one is exempt from the stress monster. Stress operates
as if it had intelligencemaking sure that people experience
repeated energy drains daily. Realize that stress maintains its
powerful momentum by living off the innocence of human igno-
rance. People increase their stress deficit by mechanically re-
creating the same problem patterns in a merry-go-round fashion.
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The Head
and the Heart
It has been said that the longest distance that a man or
woman ever travels is the distance between their head and their
heart . From my perspective that is trueonce you understand
the meaning of it.
How would you like to live life rather than just live through
life? Would you like to get rid of insecurities, eliminate hassles
and manage your day-to-day stress? Well, its possible. You can do
it, and youll surprise yourself in the process. It starts with under-
standing what your own heart truth is all about.
When you understand the difference between your head and
your heart, youre past the halfway point in the development of a
system for self-stress relief and fulfillment. In learning that differ-
ence, a simple analogy is helpful.
I know this ones mundane and often over-used, but lets slice
it a different way and take a deeper look: In the past when I found
myself in a gridlock traffic jam, especially while already late for an
appointment, there would be a tendency to blow the horn, scream
out the window, or quietly rage in silent despair.
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The Heart
The intelligence of the heart expresses itself through intu-
ition. Some call it an inner voice, some an inner knowing. The
heart transmits its intuitive feelings to the head, facilitating a
wider, more balanced perspective. People usually think intuition
comes from the head; but intuition comes from the heart and the
head then helps translate it for practical application to life. (Ill
address this more in later chapters.) Without heart intuition, the
head often mechanically reacts in non-efficient ways. The head
reaction is what creates anxiety, causing you frustration and
stress while diluting your systems energy. The heart intuition
can take you beyond these typical head reactions that get trig-
gered when things dont go the way you think they should. The
intuition is what gives you a wider overview of any situation that
you focus upon in day-to-day decision-makingtherefore mini-
mizing stress.
When the head is managed by the heart in a joint venture, the
results are efficient and productive thoughts and actions. Heart
intuition blends the heart qualities (care, security, understand-
ing, sincerity, etc.) with the heads knowledge, igniting the minds
higher functional capacities. You need the head to figure things
out, but its the heart that finally understands.
The Head
When I refer to the head, Im talking about the conglomera-
tion of your mind capabilities. You would have a hard time getting
around without your mind faculties. The head is convenient and
thats obviously so. A steak knife is convenient and useful, too, but
it can be used to stab someone or cut your hand the same way it
cuts steak. So the knife is used more efficiently when managed by
people, and the head is more efficient when managed by the heart.
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The Emotions
People may often sense the promptings of their heart feelings,
but repress them because they fear becoming vulnerable. Realize
that its living in the head that makes people vulnerable to stress
and prone to a profusion of mental and emotional pain. Because
the heart frequencies express themselves through feelings, people
tend to think of the heart as the emotions. You have probably
heard people say, When I open my heart, people take advantage
of me. As you learn more about your heart, you will find that
statement to be the opposite of truth. First of all, the heart
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The car represents a neutral power that you can use or abuse.
Emotional energy is like that.
Emotions add enrichment and excitement to your life. They
tremendously increase the texture and the potency of your experi-
encebe it positive or negative. When the emotions are at a low
ebb, life can seem bland and fun-less. When they are highly active,
you can feel like youre on top of the world if youre enjoying what
youre doing. But, if you add emotional energy to thoughts of
despondency, you can feel as if youre taking a tour through hell.
Thats when people do things they later regret, then they remorse-
fully wonder why they acted that way. The lack of emotional
management is a major cause of much swing-shift behavior that
people experience.
You often hear people say, I was having a good time until I
lost my temper and exploded. Thats like saying you tried to park
a car going 70 miles an hour. Thats dangerous. Its the head
thoughts that get you angry, triggering the emotions and hor-
mones that create temper. Even if temper feels good in the mo-
ment, there are a lot of friends lost, rash decisions made, and even
deaths caused by unmanaged temper. Its okay to have some
feistiness in your system. However, its important to manage it in
a way that you feel at peace with the consequences of your actions.
Often, after a blow-up from a head reaction, the energy
settles in the heart and you see clearly that reacting wasnt an
efficient way to conduct yourself. People often get into guilt trips
after emotional blow-outs. A guilt complex is non-efficientany
way you look at it. If you listen to your heart intuition, you gain
the insight to apologize or work things out, then you pick up the
pieces and go on. Its the head that keeps replaying the situation,
reinforcing the guilt or the hurt. The heart can be involved and
usually gets the blame for these scenarios, but its really the head
that pilots these situations into non-efficiency and pain.
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Repressed Emotions
Repression is not management. Its dangerous and can result
in psychological and physical disabilities. Repression is a protec-
tive mechanism used by the head when it doesnt have the ability
to face or resolve a problem. When the heart feelings are shut
down, you dont have the power to release and let go. For example:
In many traumatic situations, such as the death of a loved one,
child abuse or rape, the heart feelings shut off because of shock
and betrayal. You may feel like your heart is broken. The sense of
a broken heart results from a head-on collision of broken expecta-
tions, broken attachments and a short-circuit of your emotional
energy. The heart isnt broken; its that your heart feelings shut
off, and then your emotions run wild or get repressed because of
pain, or a sense of loss or remorse.
For long periods of time this can cause a numbness inside
which doesnt change until the heart energy re-opens within that
individual. The re-opening of the heart makes the releasing of
repressed emotions possible. The return of feelings often triggers
acute head memory of the old pain. Then the unmanaged head
mechanically keeps replaying the event. However, by staying
centered in the heart, you can more quickly dissolve the sub-
conscious mind tapes that keep reproducing and replaying the
painful scenarios. Then youll be able to clearly perceive that its
really not your heart that re-hashes the hurt, its your head. As
you maintain heart perspective, you accelerate the process of
releasing your imprisonment to past events. The heart awareness
helps bring the understanding that, no matter what happened,
you have the inner power to release and let goand build anew. If
enough of your true self is released through your heart, the re-
adjustment time is much shorter.
Some would say, yes, but isnt that still a long process? Not if
you make direct heart contact and draw from the strength of your
spirit within. This connects you with a whole new power accumu-
lator. You can facilitate the heart opening by trying to love and
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care for more peopleany people. Loving and caring for others
gives you the incentive to want to clean old repressive patterns out
of your data bank. Make sincere efforts from the heart and youll
find the power to manage those old thoughts until they starve
from lack of attention. This is the process of self-empowerment.
Its heart commitment that gives people the strength to release
the old and look forward to the new. Many people experience great
lives after releasing traumatic situations.
It could seem as if I dont understand how hard it is. Ive been
there. Ive experienced being shut off in the heart, the repression
and the despair. As I regained the deeper heart connection, it
made what could have been a long way out much shorter. It
doesnt always have to be the long road back from despair. Life
goes on, but you can miss it while trying to justify and figure out
all the whys and wherefores of the past. The re-opening of the
heart gives you hope for new possibilities.
Youve probably had problems at some point in life where
your mind constantly projected the worst-case scenario. Later,
simple stepping stones unfolded into efficient solutions and you
bypassed all the stressful results that your mind just knew you
were going to go through. If you can get your mind to chill out long
enough for your heart to assess any situation, then you can often
save the fear and stress accumulation that come from constant
worry and anxiety.
As you begin to recognize the difference between the head and
the heart inside yourself, youll see that the unmanaged head
approach to lifes issues creates most of your stress. Try asking
your heart feelings, What would be the most efficient attitude in
this situation? With practice, youll become sensitive to inner
answers that manifest in a feeling of knowingness. Answers be-
come more clear as you increase your attunement to the way you
really feel about things inside. As you learn to manage yourself
from the heart, your intuition guides you intelligently through
problems. Learn to check in with your heart intuition before
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If youre not sure what your heart is telling you, write down
your feelings and thoughts concerning a situation on a piece of
paper. Then try to read them objectively and see which make the
most common senseor save you the most energy and leave you
the most satisfied with yourself. As heart intuition becomes more
active in your lifes agenda, youre more likely to discover common
sense solutions in most decision-making processes.
Dont get frustrated with your first efforts to decipher which
are your heart feelings. After a few days of self-listening, youll
start to recognize the intuitive feelingsand more easily distin-
guish them from the scattered, unmanaged mind chatter or the
emotional, solar plexus reactions. As you practice this process, it
soon becomes automatic. As it becomes automatic, it facilitates
the integration of your spirit (the most fulfilling and fun manifes-
tation of your real self) into your day-to-day life.
This is not a book endorsing any particular religion. Its
addressed to all people and written with caring intentions not to
interfere with anyones perceptions of who or what God is or isnt.
I respect all peoples right to believe in whatever spiritual source
they choose that resonates within their heart. Those beliefs are
very personal and have to be decided within one's own heart.
Though I refer to heart intelligence and its effectiveness in self-
management, that doesnt mean that I dont acknowledge and
respect a higher power. I have proven to myself (as have others)
that managing my energies from the heart creates a more intelli-
gent and deeper personal connection with the higher power or
source of love.
What I am suggesting is that your heart is the likely human
point of connection to your true spirit, highest self, higher power,
the Light, or God. If you direct your life from the heart with
sincerity, it can help you manage your energies to make a cleaner,
clearer connection with your higher source. Its a sensitive subject,
but I'll try to explain my perceptions of the heart without stepping
on anyones toes. My intention is to address all the people in
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CARE AND OVERCARE
but not overcare to the point that it caused stress from interfer-
ence. As I released my attachments to helping people, my care
became more effective.
Care has strength. It can help. Overcare bleeds your strength
and can eventually exhaust the people you are (over) caring for.
Why keep putting yourself through the wringer, when you tell
yourself constantly that youre not going to do it again? Thats
your heart telling you to stop overcaring! After you get more
sensitive to following your heart guidance, you will efficiently
balance your over-attachments, allowing people the same freedom
to experience growth as you demand for yourself.
Overcare is a human condition, a social dis-ease, and most
have experienced it. You find overcare in different degrees
concerning people, places, things, issues, attitudes, vanities, etc.,
etc. As you understand its disguises, you will realize the hundreds
of ways that people overcare daily throughout the planet. If you
calculated the energy lost and the distortion created by the mil-
lions of people who overcare in just one day, the energy deficit
would amaze you. What a waste when it all started with care
care that became unmanaged.
That accumulated distortion doesnt just vanish. It looms
throughout the planet and feeds the stress monster that con-
stantly victimizes the masses of people. The stress monster knows
that enough people will live non-efficiently each day, so that it can
grow in power while feeding off their ignorance. Maybe you cant
stop others from feeding it, but you dont have to contribute to the
process. Just practice self-management by sincerely listening to
your inner voice.
How? You can have a self-talk and review your involvements
with people, places, attitudes, issues, etc. Then, attune to your
heart feelings to see if you are overcaring about things when you
should be just caring. With a sincere approach, youll be surprised
to find wasted energy in many areas due to overcare. Make note of
them because overcare is slippery. Make efforts not to keep re-
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Social Care
Its especially okay to care and get involved in social concerns.
Yet, overcare in the name of peace averts many of the good-willed
intentions, therefore creating more of a stress-mess for the
*A controlled study on care-giving among nurses (Montgomery 1990) observed that
it wasn't caring that led to burn-out, but the lack of caring. The study reported that,
caring itself allows nurses to access a very important source of energy and
renewal.
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whole. Saving the whales and saving the trees are important, as
long as we realize that a deeper caring for other people and
learning self-management could be ten times more important to
the whole of society for producing peace and harmony.
At this point in time, people as a whole care more for issues,
things, money, etc., than they do for each other. Society is learning
the hard way that the lack of care and respect for each other
causes the ecological and political systems to fall short of balance
and efficiency. Im talking about the lack of care that exists
country to country, state to state, town to town, among businesses,
within churches, within families, and within individuals for them-
selves.
All areas of relationship are experiencing compounded stress
because they have lost contact with the heart frequency of care
amidst business and social interactions. Governments and busi-
nesses use people as pawns to develop self-centered ambitions,
forgetting that care, cooperation, and co-creation would produce
more harmony, balance and success for the whole.
The hearts not just some mushy and sentimental doormat. It
especially has business bands of common sense and discrimina-
tion, meaning: You dont have to lay down and let people take
advantage of you without looking out for yourself. If you do that,
you end up blaming the negative results on the heart, when your
unmanaged head reactions caused the stress feedback. Dont let
the head shut off your caring if other people dont respond as you
hoped they would. Go back to your heart and find another common
sense approachit could be to simply move on. Just remember,
heart intelligence has crisp, clear business discrimination. Use it.
In the next decade, large numbers of people will affirm that
the heart is whats missing in all the social institutions that
fashion our lives. Signs of this are already apparent in news
releases, and major magazines often feature articles that suggest
that family ambience is a key missing ingredient in business,
religions and social movements. The family frequency band of care
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their vitality and sprite and feel lucky to get through a week
without croaking. This is what I mean by living on nerve energy,
which is unnatural since it creates dues to be paid. Learning to
follow your heart will naturally integrate the flow of your spirit
into your entire system. You just have to care enough for you to do
this for yourself.
Research has often evidenced the power of love and care in the
process of self-healing. So, preventive maintenance would be to
practice generating more love and care energy consistently. You
can do this by living more from your heart intelligence which is
naturally designed for self-maintenance and creative living.
Within your heart, you connect with the most trustworthy
counselor you can depend on when the bottom falls out in different
areas of life. People chase systems of peace, but they are only
effective to the degree that they help you contact your real heart
truth. Your heart is your personal built-in discriminator. Dont
just use it for picking up the pieces when tragedy strikes. Use it
daily to become more efficient in all things. This doesnt mean that
heart power can make the noisy traffic in New York disappear.
You can use that inner power to make peace with the traffic and
adapt to itthen it might even be fun.
Theres a lot to be said for learning to make peace with
issues, especially if you cant change them right away. For ex-
ample: Adapting to the recent large earthquakes in California
had to be extremely stressful for the people immediately involved.
It was a stress they couldnt control so they had to either adapt
the best they could or experience mental distress. Psychologists
observed people who shared similar losses, but noticed extreme
differences in their psychological adjustment times. They also
observed some who had minor losses experiencing extreme overcare
and distress, while others who lost much were caring and appre-
ciative that they had their lives and experienced minimal stress.
How is it that some people seem to adjust and adapt much more
quickly than others? Its the heart security that helps you to
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*A Footnote:
Upon hearing about the heart system of self-empowerment,
some people commented that it sounded too easy and asked,
Wheres the catch? The only catch is whether you sincerely
practice or not. If managing from the heart seems idealistic, then
familiarity can warm your perspective. A hundred years ago,
people watching birds fly overhead would have thought a three
hundred passenger airplane was idealistic. If you re-read the book
and put into practice, step-by-step, that which resonates with you,
then youll discover the truth of the heart for yourself and experi-
ence new levels of self-management. Exampleif at first you only
benefit from changing your attitude in some of the inconveniences
of life, like traffic jams, or in minor irritations with friends, family,
co-workers, etc., thats one step of the way which can save you
much energy and stress accumulation over time. Then if you
practice: learning to create a joint venture between your head and
your heart, learning not to overcare, developing a deeper sincerity
in your relationships with people, and utilizing the other tech-
niques found in each chapteryour whole system will feel better
from the energy you save and the vitality you gain. At times you
may take three steps forward and fall back two but dont judge
yourself. Jump right back in the game. Its rewarding, and many
people are successfully using the system. Its a you on you
adventure.
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Intui-Technology:
A New Dimension of
Efficiency
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winning lottery numbers, etc. Yes, it has to do with that, but thats
only one slice of a larger pie of possibilities. Intuition can be just as
efficient in directing relationship problems, business affairs, so-
cial affairs, managing your time, the way you dress, the way you
eat, and on and on. It provides you with the directions for effective
unfoldment in any given area of focus. Intuitive development can
make all areas of your life more productiveand therefore much
more enjoyable and complete.
You dont have to discover another light bulb to verify an
intuitive experience. Youve experienced heart feelings before,
signaling you to change attitudes or go in certain directions
thats intuition coming through. Your intuition can prompt you
not to blow your top or over-react with children, family, business
disappointments, etc. It can offer you efficient guidance in simple
or complex situations. It will develop to the degree of your efforts;
thats fair. As you practice following the heart, your intuition
becomes more user-friendly and accessible. Youll find intuition
much more accessible if you dont put the word on a pedestal
making it too complex to approach.
Intuitive research has to expand past the head center (mind/
brain) approach, or it will result in only limited discoveries. Sci-
ence will eventually break through to the realization that intu-
ition can be accessed easily through an individuals heart contact,
which then engages the head for facilitation and completion.
The masses are in need of simple packages of understanding.
Thats all they have time for. And thats what intuition is famous
forefficiency in a simple package. Everyone has the capacity to
recognize and develop their inner knowingness. Listen more deeply
to your inner truth and you can prove this to yourself. Whats
wrong with a little practice for such a lucrative return?
Earlier, I implied that modern technology has made life more
convenient. And I also suggested that technology still hasnt of-
fered much that would create more efficiency in the management
of your mental and emotional energy expenditures. You need a
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technology that can offer solutions for: why children carry weap-
ons to the classroom; why we still have wars; why people have to
be scared to go out of their houses at night; why people are allowed
to starve when there is plenty; why many families cant get along
with each other, much less the rest of the world; why there is more
crime, more rape, more violence, etc., etc., etc. Its time for inner-
technology. Intui-Tech research will focus on these pressing social
issues.
Stress overloads in our society prove that psychoanalysis is
not equipped to offer the needed solutions. Its time for a new twist
on an old subjectpsychology. Its obvious that theres something
missing in humanitys approach to relationship problems. Access-
ing the intuition through deep heart connection leads to the devel-
opment of inner strength, and that is a serious missing ingredient
for efficient and harmonious living in our society. As people indi-
vidually realize this, theyll be onto one of the highest intuitive
breakthroughs ever on the planet.
Most people are only vaguely aware of their intuition. They
mechanically seek outside answers for problems that develop
within, rather than accessing the capabilities of their own heart
computer. The heart is similar to a mainframe computer and has
unexplored potentials of power and high-speed efficiency.
The human system was designed for efficient operation and
the capacity for self-empowerment. View your heart as your cen-
ter of control (mainframe) and your head (mind) as a sub-terminal
used to help manifest the intuitive directives from the heart. The
mind was designed as a helper, not as a leader. As this is under-
stood, we will be halfway to victory in the stress war.
We, at the Intui-Tech center (a division of the Institute of
HeartMath), have proven the intuition/heart connection to our-
selves over the last several years as a result of searching for a self-
responsible process of energy management. Please reserve your
opinions of the heart/intuition theory until you have sincerely
tried it, or you may be denying yourself a chance to learn an
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will only provide patchwork solutions for the whole, until we apply
management to relationship and communication problems as well.
As people realize the efficiency in care and cooperation, this will
magnetize techno-biological advancement according to the need of
the now. First things first.
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some, the heart sounds too simple to explore, and doesnt seem to
offer the same intrigue as brain/mind research. But hidden within
the simplicity of the heart lies a new doorway to understanding
the mind and brain.
Your heart intuition has the capacity to engage your mind in
producing subtle electrical frequencies which bring balance to the
left and right hemispheres of the brain*. These encoded electrical
patterns regulate the brain chemistry to increase the efficiency,
integrity, and effectiveness of the brain and its functions. The
balance of the two brain hemispheres creates one unified electri-
cal signal. This signal then integrates with the heart and mind
frequencies creating a triangulation of electrical resonance. As
these three frequencies build in resonance, they form an energy
field of intelligence that for all practical purposes translates into a
third brain (which is electrical in nature, not physical). This third
brain is designed to transmit and receive quantum intelligence
and to differentiate it down through your physical brain network
for practical use in day-to-day life. As the electrical triplicity
between the heart, mind and brain builds into a standing wave of
resonance, it creates a unified field of energy within the individual
human mind that widens your perception. This electrical integra-
tion progressively activates the unused percentage of brain poten-
tials that science acknowledges is dormant. Who would dare to
believe that this can be achieved by learning how to follow your
heart intuition and become your true self? Probably not science
yet.
The electrical third brain sounds like unsubstantiated theory,
but so did acupuncture or the healing effects of prayer. The fact
that acupuncture, prayer and other healing methods have worked
on so many people is pressuring scientists to discover why, so that
they can render their authoritative blessings and permission to
believe in their effectiveness. A recent rigidly controlled scientific
study by cardiologist Randolph Byrd, has shown that prayer is
*In his book Vibrational Medicine, (Bear & Company, 1988) Richard Gerber,
M.D., describes scientific researcher Bentov's discoveries on heart-brain resonance.
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An Intui-technique
Intui-Technology starts with becoming more consciously sen-
sitive to your inner structureyour mental, emotional and intui-
tive natures. These aspects operate within you automatically, but
there is an advantage if you can isolate them objectively. A tech-
nique for this is what we call Freeze-Frame.
Freeze-Frame means taking the time to stop and be still
inside for a few minutes. You can do it any time, but it is especially
useful when you feel overloaded or emotionally cloudy. When
people are distressed, you often hear them say, Ive got to stop for
a moment and get a hold of myself. That is an attempt at Freeze-
Framing but often it doesnt work unless done from the heart.
When you Freeze-Frame, first attune to your heart, then
make a gentle effort to still your emotions and quiet your racing
mind. Its like turning an inner radio dial. You switch your focus of
attention to a heart frequencylove, compassion, care, patience,
appreciation, etc. Feel compassion for yourself or send thoughts of
love or appreciation to someone. Doing this changes the quality of
your energy and activates your heart power, making it easier to
quiet the inner noise and static. Heart attunement often brings
clear, unclouded perspectives that result in practical solutions.
(This comes from your heart intelligenceits a feeling of
knowingness.)
Freeze-Frame is not only useful for solving problems. Its also
good for creative inspiration. Freeze-Framing is not meditation or
a mystical practice. Its just a deliberate inner stillness so that the
dust from the mind and the emotions can settle. Then its easier to
see a different reality without distortion.
Freeze-Framing works especially well for anxiety. It gives
your mind the equivalent of a back massage. When the mind is
slowed down, then the heart intuition can more easily manifest
into your conscious awareness. That starts to eliminate fears,
anxieties, anger and the poor mes from your catalog of attitudes.
For example, if youre responsible for a new employee who
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makes a large error, you can feel a reaction of anger arise; but if
you Freeze-Frame and activate heart energy it balances your
perspective. You may remember hes having a problem with his
marriage as well as learning the new job. By activating your heart
potential, you gain intuitive discrimination on how to best re-
spond. You still take care of business, but with sensitivity and
balance.
Practice Freeze-Framing and becoming more sensitive to your
inner heart feelings. You will soon gain clarity on what is the
heart and what is the head. Believe me, its a worthy investment of
your time and attention. Remember, having a good head on your
shoulders is practical, but the head serves best as a right-hand
helper to the heart. Intuitional manifestation is a joint venture
between the heart and the head.
Its your heart-powered actions that give strength and comple-
tion to your intentions. Thats why in sports people say play from
the heart, and kids are told to tell the truth from the heart.
Humanity is full of adages and references to the power and
strength of the heart. My heart didnt feel right about it. His
work is from the heart. Lets get to the heart of the matter. I
could go on.
Simplify it all by learning to live from the heart, staying
self-empowered and energy-efficient. Life is an economy game and
managing from the heart yields to you more assets than deficits at
the end of a day, week or year. Its worth intelligent consideration.
Practice assessing things from a deeper point of truth within
yourself.
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Overlooked
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The One With Yourself
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Judgments
Have you ever noticed how it feels when someone judges you,
and the stress that it can create if you let it? Yet its so mechanical
and natural for people to judge each other without even thinking
twice. Well, its really not natural to judge people. Nature doesnt
judge. It allows. Judging is the opposite of allowing people to be.
Your true nature is to live and let live, while attending to your own
turf. Thats the most efficient thing you can do for yourself and for
the people you would judge.
Many people cleverly dismiss their judgments as assessments.
That approach isnt so clever if you realize almost everyone else
does the same. Lets say your boss has made a decision which you
think is unwise. Your head quickly assesses how you would do it
differently. Then you assess him as lacking in intelligence and
understanding. You mentally list his other faults and wonder how
he made it to the top. You feel separate from him and keep your
distance at the office. Without realizing it, your assessments have
turned into judgments.
Its comfortable to pass judgments off as assessments until
they are directed at you. Then you keenly realize that peoples
assessments of you are often judgments in disguise. In life, we
need to make assessments and discernments, and use discrimina-
tion. These processes of evaluation facilitate when done from the
heart. When done from the head, without care and latitude from
the heart, these evaluations create separatism, condescension,
self-righteousness and hurt. Until people learn to assess, discern
and discriminate with the heart, these words will remain hiding
places for outright judgments.
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There are possibly people who have crossed your path in life
who could have (because of their nature) become your best friends.
You may never have gotten to know them because of conditioned
judgmental attitudes such as: He works for PEPSI, when you
work for COCA-COLA; they eat meat, when youre a vegetarian;
hes a truck driver, but youre an executive; shes pro-choice,
and youre not. These are only a few examples of pre-set judgmen-
tal attitudes that hold people back from deeper communication
and potential fun in relationships. I didnt even mention the
separatism caused by religious differences or political issues. That
would require a whole book.
Its natural to resonate more with certain types of people, but
its still important to be free from judgmental mind-sets so you
dont limit your possibilities for richer relationships. You can free
yourself from mind-sets and pre-judgments by the practice of
relating to all people from the sincere heart. Then your heart
intuition will allow you to experience the real essence in people
and not miss it because of judgments or pre-conditioned opinions.
Heres a fun hands-on exercise: As you are reading this book,
try to at least neutralize any tendency to judge or get upset if I say
things that rub you the wrong way. Doing this will help you
remember the points that you do resonate with and can use. Use
what you like and try not to over-react to what you dont. Thats
allowing. In this way, youre practicing heart discrimination rather
than reactive head judgment. If you apply this exercise to other
issues and other people as well, then youre demonstrating self-
security and youre on your way to self-empowerment. (But, if you
find yourself slipping into judgments while reading, no big deal. I
realize the book deals with some sensitive and volatile issues. So,
with understanding, Ill respect your differences of opinion.)
Now that weve discussed judgments, lets look at other en-
ergy deficits and some ideas on how to turn them into assets.
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self-energy management.
I dont expect you to actually write down all your good and bad
times throughout an entire year. Your own heart can give you
feedback on the difference between your assets and deficits if you
are sincere in wanting to know. Ask your true self-intuition for
illumination concerning your inefficiencies in relationships. As-
sess if you are creating negative feedback loops that drain your life
force daily. Are you complaining about the painful results of
something that you are causing, by constantly setting yourself up
to be hurt?
Even if you think youve had a good year, consider how much
better it could have been if youd managed your energies more
efficiently and prevented the drain from those out-of-sync rela-
tionships. Many say theyve had a good year, not because it was so
good, but because they know it could have been worseconsider-
ing. Sure, thats thinking positive (sort of), but its a spirit-wearied
way to conclude that it was a good year. Each tough year can be
made a better year by learning to adapt or make productive
changes. Each good year can be made a great yearif you learn to
follow your heart intuition and get the excess stress out of your
face.
Youll recognize the advancement of planetary intelligence
when people start to spend even one-tenth the time doing budget
assessments on energy expenditures as they now spend on their
financial budgets. Societys intelligence did increase in the last
ten years as people started to become more conscious of their
physical health. Many people began to realize that they could
accumulate and maintain more physical energy by exercising and
being conscious of their diets. Thats important, but still, the
physical is only one aspect to consider when you talk about energy
management, self-maintenance and quality control. You can have
perfect health and still be extremely unhappy and stressed be-
cause of emotional distortions over relationships, job loss, insecu-
rities, etc.
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You cant see the mind or emotions, but rest assured they are
there and are forces to be reckoned with. These two forces drag
society around the block time and time again, year after year.
Management and balance of these two aspects of your nature is
laying the foundation for future peace and efficient communica-
tion between people.
People want an overnight cure for stress, but its only they
who can bring it about. As each one of us takes the steps towards
self-responsibility, it helps others do the same. Almost everybody
is waiting for someone else to do something, while complaining
about stress and blaming it on other people or other issues.
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this before, but its obvious they havent really heard it at a deep
level. You can hear it from the head level and fall into the same
trap tomorrow. When you hear something from the heart, then
you draw more strength to start acting on the wisdom of it.
Improving Self-Relationship
Many people separate or get divorced when they really are (or
were) compatible. Because of a lack of individual management,
their compatibility didnt get a chance to gel. So, if you really want
to help a troubled relationship, assess yourself at a deeper heart
level. As you re-balance your own self through heart management,
you begin to see others from a different perspective and under-
stand them through different feelings. If people do that, theyll
have a good chance of saving a relationship or at least maturely
separating.
Lack of self-maturity is the leading cause of relationship
problems. Becoming your true self progressively develops that
maturity. Start by performing spring cleaning on your own inner
junk, while at the same time becoming more sensitive to the other
persons needs. Watch for self-centeredness. It clogs the pipes of
your sensitivity to others. Its a mechanical habit of the mind that
causes people to think its others who always need to change. You
can drain yourself trying to arrange people to suit your mental
and emotional needs. Rearranging your own attitudes puts you on
the fast track to self-security and peace.
Build a heart-secure relationship with yourself, so you can
enjoy relationships with others without crossing the line into over-
dependency. Remember, over-dependency is an invitation for pain.
Sure, people often have to depend on each other to help them
through situations. Thats a shared warmth in life. However,
when you cross the line into over-dependency on mental and
emotional levels, you lose the ability to connect with your own self-
supporting inner strength. Im not denying the importance of
supportive intimacy, Im just hinting at keeping a mature, bal-
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The family concept is like a tree trunk; trends are like the
limbs of a tree which set out to explore their own growth and
creativity, while wisely connecting back to the trunk for strength
and security. As people get lost in the glamour and stimulation of
trends, they cut themselves off from the trunk of the family
concept. The head is the part of you that explores stimulation and
potential, yet often forgets its connection to the heart, which is the
family caretakerthe trunk of your real security.
The family frequency bands are the feelings and intuition
contained within your heart. They give you access to love, care,
security, nurturing, bonding, family interaction, relationship fre-
quencies, and more. As head frequencies of ambition and fast-lane
living began to dominate society, the value system of the family
unit became distorted and weakened. As people ambitiously
pursued the glitter of high-tech and tempting opportunism, the
family concept was reduced to a mere pilot light rather than a fire
to warm by.
Many families today are united in namesake but are missing
the sensitivities and care that foster family fulfillment. Basic
survival is getting tougher and requiring much more energy
both parents needing to work, children being raised at day care,
the cost of living increasing, unemployment risingthese are all
survival issues with no efficient solutions being offered. The accu-
mulated stress has to be dealt withand soon. For social intelli-
gence to progress, we will first have to drop back a few notches and
fill in the unattended holes. Yes, back to basicsthe family
concept. (The social heart.)
The caring in business, the caring in politics, the caring in
education, the caring about the ecology, the caring in all major
people departments has taken a beating like an un-recouped stock
market crash. When care is revitalized in the social system, the
stock market of life will flourish. If CARE were a stock being
offered on the market, it would be a wise commodity to invest in at
this time on the planet. Care will soon be on the rise because
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Nurturing
When men and women stop nurturing each other in relation-
ships, life gets dry, problems breed. A lack of nurturing is like
having a vitamin deficiency in your mental and emotional nature.
Its a serious necessity and often goes unattended.
Nurturing starts as care reaches heightened sensitivity. As
people become truly cared for, they have a better chance of devel-
oping their self-security in lifes maturing process. Women have a
more natural tendency towards nurturing because of child-birthing
capabilities which enable them to generate the securities de-
manded by a new life form. Single-parent men usually proceed
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nurturing side.
Like many men, I expected women in my life to be sensitive to
my needs, since I thought I was sensitive to theirs. Yet, they would
tell me they often felt unheard and would accuse me of not caring.
After several stress-producing relationships, I started sincerely
searching for answers and realized that I was the one who needed
refining.
One of the most helpful things I discovered was that I needed
to develop a deeper hearing ability. When dealing with women, I
tended to know all the answers before they even stopped talking.
This doesnt work. It creates out-of-phase communication. The
less aggressive person usually ends up misunderstood or stifled in
these situations. By listening more sincerely, my sensitivity in-
creased. That brought my nurturing side into balance with my
assertive male nature. Sincere listening and care can nurture
male/female communication and understanding into a new level
of awareness.
As men and women become more balanced within them-
selves, they will naturally develop the understanding and sensi-
tivity that they demand or expect. Then, theyll be able to give
children the understanding and nurturing needed for future self-
security.
Self-Security in Children
Many single-parent women fear that their children wont get
enough male influence in their growth and development. Single-
parent men face this question in reverse. The answer can depend
on how balanced your own male /female nature is as an individual.
If you are unbalanced in your male or female nature, it often
affects your childrens personality development, creating patterns
of insecurity that plague them into adulthood. (Children are resil-
ient, so this isnt always the case.) Here are some home remedies
to help prevent this.
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your heart again. Reaffirm to them, Slow down and get back in
your heart before you speak. Ask them, Cant you hear the
difference in your voice when youre speaking from your heart and
when youre whining from the head? With coaching, they will
soon recognize that difference.
Tell them, Its easier to fix the problem if youre in the heart.
(If theyre in the heart, then youngsters can understand and adapt
more easily when things dont always go the way they want. Once
children shift to their heart feelings, their problems tend to re-
solve much faster.) After they get familiar with this game, you
dont have to go through the whole process. You can just tell them,
Get back in your heart, and youll often notice them arriving at
their own stress-free solutions.
This simple technique gets children started in managing
their energies from the heart. Once they learn this at home, it can
carry over into other relationships at school and all other environ-
ments. Its a building block for self-responsibility. When children
learn the knack for heart management, they build confidence,
inner security and true esteem at an early age.
As you practice with them, it gets easier to identify the times
when children are not connected in the heart. Soon youll auto-
matically know the difference. Remember, if you want this game
to be effective, then be in your own heart while teaching children.
This technique helps to create a deeper and lasting bond between
parent and child because its building a solid bottom-line for a true
relationship. Youll especially learn a lot about your own heart
directives in the processthats the bonus point. Realize that its
easy for parents to see when children are out of the heart. But,
after the kids learn the heart game, theyre very quick to notice
when parents are out of their heartsand theyll let you know it!
When sincerely helping children, life will always reward you with
a deeper awareness of yourself. The heart games can help sustain,
right into adulthood, the natural heart bonding that a parent and
child have from birth through the first few years.
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Sexual Nurturing
As you balance your masculine and feminine energies, your
electromagnetism increases. This brings heightened awareness
and deepens your experience with all people and with life. As a
man or woman balances the male and female aspects within their
own system, they not only become more sensitive to their partners
deeper needs but also to their own. It results in a more comprehen-
sive sensitivity to people and nature. This will increase the appeal
of the future man and womanmentally, emotionally, sexually,
etc. Lets talk about that.
Male/female balance within yourself expands your sexual
intelligence. Your increased sensitivity allows you to understand
the heart essence of sexual involvement,beyond the form and the
*This book was originally entitled Heart Smarts: Teenage Guide for the Puzzle of
Life, first edition published in June 1991.
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tivity and care that ring the loudest bell. The man of the future will
go for the whole packagenurturing includedtherefore yielding
more meaningful fulfillment and completion. Most men and women
are not purposefully insensitive to each others needs; its just that
learning deeper respect and attunement is an unfolding growth
process. With conscious effort, relationships can be brought into
balance and maturity. Its worth the energy it takes because of the
energy it saves.
Im only sharing knowledge from my own experience that can
speed up personal self-empowerment. It helped me tremendously.
Im not trying to dilute the invigoration of the male thrust in life.
Im just trying to add some sensitivity and texture to the process.
Probably (possibly intentionally), theres a dash or two of macho in
me; but Ive also learned to be more sensitive and understanding
(though I paid some dues in the learning process). Im into the
balance and empowerment of the complete man, not the steriliza-
tion of the male drive.
Soon, men and women will be pursuing information regard-
ing the transformational power of balancing their individual male/
female polarities. It has been talked about for years, but is just
beginning to be put in streetsense terms that can translate into
efficient results. People move fast when they realize there is
power and efficiency to be gained by a new intelligence
innovation...well, some do. All I am really referring to is the
development of the total inner nature, which would have to in-
crease the fun and quality in your co-creative experiences in life.
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Love
LOVE is the creme essence of efficient and caring action. As
you make efforts to balance your personal energy by following
your heart, then more love is released through all aspects of your
nature. Love acts as a solvent that dissolves the negative, while
acting as a tonic to accent your positivethereby increasing your
overall quality of experience. In the future, people will practice
loving more because they will wake up to the smarts that prove:
By loving and caring more, its your own tail youre saving.
Thats an efficient reason to love, but its not selfish as it could
seem. Love going out and coming back takes care of the whole and
you are part of that.
Love is the most effective energy expenditure known to people,
yet people know it not.When love goes out, it comes backperiod.
Mass consciousness has only explored the surface levels of intelli-
gence that are hidden within the power of love. Humans have
tried everything to solve the stress overload, except to practice
loving morea deeper active caring, in all business and relation-
ships.
Many people are now starting to experience a new energy
filtering down through the density of mass consciousness. This
energy stirs your spirit to find freedom of expression and amplifies
the voice within your heart. This new planetary energy facilitates
people in thinking more about the heart and its potentials in all
human affairs. At the same time, it can also accentuate the stress
levels for people who continue to control their lives from the
unmanaged head. Some have greater sensitivity to this energy
influx than othersbut give it time. You will see more people
waking up to heart awareness than youve ever seen before. Its a
time when humanity will get into the people business with more
sincerity. This isnt a fairy tale promise. Sure, Im aware of how
tough it is out there, but heart intelligence is not an unapproach-
able reality.
People can find much stress release in the family feeling
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Sexual Harassment
A General Commentary
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Sexual Harassment:
A Deeper Look for Both Sides
The balancing of female and male sexual issues in the work-
place and in other social settings is an enlightening experience for
both women and men in our society. It needs to be approached
with more compassion and sensitivity from both sides.
Lets take an inside look at the male involvement in sexual
harassment. Men say they didnt intend to cause sexual harass-
ment in many accused situations. Often, men dont really know
the depths of intimidation and inner anguish that certain com-
ments and gestures put women through. As men develop the
sensitive (feminine) side of their nature, they will no longer conve-
niently write off the harassment issues with: Whats the big
deal, or Whats all the fuss about! The intimidation and emo-
tional anguish that women experience are a lot to fuss about and
to be tired of.
The increase in media attention on workplace harassment,
domestic abuse, date rape, etc., will force both sexes to grow up
and balance both female and male qualities within their own
individual natures. This will create the next level of power for men
(and women) in business, politics and personal magnetics. Having
a deeper hearing ability and more consideration does not diminish
the male constitution of strength: It empowers it many times
more! Im not suggesting that men become submissive; nor do I
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mean that men have to think like women in order to bring their
female polarity in balance with their male nature. Its no threat.
Its future smartsthe emerging of the complete man.
Once men really start to understand that deeper sensitivity is
an add-on to overall male magnetism, theyll be quick to get the
feminine aspects of their nature in balance. Self-empowerment
increases when: the nurturing aspect of a man is brought into
balance with the boys-will-be-boys side of his nature.
Many men are now reluctant to make advances towards
women, for fear that it will be labeled sexual harassment. If youre
not sure how a woman is taking your advances, go deeper into
your heart truth and try to change places (as best you can) with
the female involved in the situation (without projecting the male
sexual libido in the trade-off). As you make the effort to change
places with the female, you might still tend to project how you
think a woman should respond. Shift your focus from your head
thoughts and emotions to your source of strength and care in the
heart. Then sincerely ask your own heart intelligence to guide
you. With practice, you will be able to place yourself in a womans
shoes with more sensitivity and understanding of how she really
feels in those situations. Realize that if women are different from
men on the outside, theyre probably somewhat different in their
inner responses as well.
If women and men both go to their hearts when assessing
each other, they will get a sensitive and truer read-out of the
others nature. This could sound complex, but, with a sincere care
and desire to know, new understandings will unfold as you make
efforts. The increase of social intelligence is a growth and matur-
ing process, no different from children growing through adoles-
cence into adulthood. As people practice living more in their
hearts, we will see true respect develop between the sexes and the
issue of sex superiority will become nonexistent. The solutions
will come in the shaping up of the individual self, and in learning
to use care and compassion while communicating about female
and male differences.
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issues from the head, they will only be trying to get even or prove
a point, which is like adding gasoline to fireit ignites the male
reactive ego nature.
Women, more and more, will realize their security has to
come from their own hearts. You cant wait for men, jobs or issues
to change before you get security inside. Self-security doesnt
mean that you act as if sexual harassment and male intimidation
dont exist. It does mean that you can keep yourself from being
drained on the mental and emotional levels until you can change
those uncomfortable situations.
People accept the fact that females and males are different
physically. Because of hormonal differences they also have differ-
ent psychological perspectives. After theres mutual understand-
ing of the basic differences, then the next level of cooperative
respect can be developed. This next level is sensitive because it
involves giving, rather than just looking for stimulation or atten-
tion from the other. This means giving time and care while culti-
vating a more sincere listening ability. True giving doesnt require
stimulation in return or pat itself on the back for having endured
a conversation. If you attempt to give while pre-occupied with
having to endure, you dilute your good intentions.
Many women feel they make sincere efforts to listen to men
even when the topic of conversation is not their cup of tea or their
flavor of stimulation. Yet women often feel restricted in sharing
whats important to them. With a wave of the hand or a few
dismissing words like, Hush, the ball game scores coming on,
women are often silenced. Then, what makes it worse is women
know that if they ever used power dismissals in communicating
to men, it would be a natural invitation to World War IIIor
something formidable. Knowing this can create repression and a
form of psychic imprisonment.
Men are not always deliberately trying to repress women,
theyre just being traditionally male. Understand that theres an
innocent insensitivity involved which can be educated as men
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intelligence of the planetary whole. Its really all one group any-
how. Women and men just have their own ways of breaking
through crystallized patterns into new levels of self-awareness.
Even after breaking through old patterns, men and women will
still find it beneficial and empowering to meet separately to
deepen their bond of mutual resonating support.
Learning the hard way is not always the most productive way,
though some believe that it is. Becoming heart smart keeps you
from always having to learn the hard way. When people learn to
operate from heart discrimination and govern their own energies,
most of the female/male problems will wilt along with the out-
dated structures of business and society in general. Both women
and men have seriously unexplored potentials that wont ever
manifest until they blend together to form a third forcehigher
creative manifestation and a gateway into Intui-Technology. Our
social systems will then move into a new dimension of effective-
ness. Lets explore the new forthcoming vitality of equality and co-
creation, while putting outdated, non-efficient structures to rest.
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Ego-Economics
So whats Ego-Economics? Im glad youre curious. Ego-Eco-
nomics is what you experience when your ego gets to have fun
yet you dont lose heart direction or self-management in the
process. There are various related terms for the concept of ego
economy which are already in use. Faith Popcorn calls it
Egonomics in her book The Popcorn Reporta fun and insight-
ful perspective into the forthcoming changes in the people busi-
ness.
To experience ego-economics, you dont repress your ego en-
joyment; you learn to balance and manage it. Without balance, the
ego drive often causes tremendous amounts of non-efficient en-
ergy expenditure. It can cause you energy deficits as it plunges
ahead with unbridled assertion. Your heart intelligence has the
capacity to balance and fulfill your ego nature. As you practice
managing your attitudes from the heart, you unfold a harmonious
synthesis between your ego and the rest of your inner nature.
I realize that different philosophies have various interpreta-
tions of what is called ego. Most definitions represent the ego
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By following your heart and being true to yourself, you will draw
to yourself your balanced fulfillment.
People are often so identified with money and glitter that they
cant discern what would be their most fulfilling ego expression
and fun. Money and luxury are not negative. They are neutrals
which people qualify either as negative or positive, depending on
their heart motives and personal energy management. Poor people
can be as out of touch with their hearts as rich people. Your inner
peace is based on your self-management and adaptabilitynot
your monetary gain. People either have self-management or they
dont; neither their riches nor their poverty is the issue. Heart
intuition can unravel your ego complexities and unfold the direc-
tion in life that would be the most rewarding.
If youre a big dreamer and like big productions, then go for
the whole farm. Theres nothing wrong with enjoying your cre-
ations and achievements without feeling guilty. Dont let the envy
of others drag you down; they have their own growing up to do. Its
okay to go-for-itjust stay heart-managed in the process. Learn
to think in a limitless waymeaning dont box yourself in with
thoughts of what you cant do and cant have.
An efficient move in the chess game of life is to first make
peace with your existing conditionsrich or poor, overweight or
underweight, etc., etc. As the heart adapts to what is, it releases
the intuition that can help you better understand your situation.
By adapting, Im not saying you shouldnt try to improve your
conditions. Im just saying your heart smarts give you more effi-
cient directions for making wise changes than an unmanaged
head approach. If you go against the grain of your heart feelings
while trying to better your life, your head can lead you deeper into
the abyss. Heart energy magnetizes what would truly be better for
you.
The head often fools people into thinking that ungoverned ego
satisfaction is the highest of human treats (with the attitude of
eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow you may die). Societys
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stress overloads prove thats not the most sensible attitude. In the
name of fun and stimulation, people carelessly make fun of others
with slant humor and judgmental gestures. If ego-stimulation
isnt governed by the heart, you create stress and shallow relation-
ships.
You can accuse powerful personalities of being on an ego trip,
while being on as big a one yourself but in less public settings.
Jealousies cause heavy-handed judgments towards famous people
and influential figures. Its time to allow and appreciate all. One of
the most efficient things you can do in the ego-economy business is
to leave people alone and clean up your own backyard. Let that be
your first good deed for the whole, if youre interested in helping.
Most people dont care to live for the good of the whole unless
they can have fun doing it. When applying ego-economy, you get
your true fun without losing your heart connection and balance in
the process. This true, complete fun I speak of originates from
your heart and is largely experienced and expressed in your ego
nature. Heart-inspired fun uses the ego to express your love and
care. Then you can freely enjoy the adventure of life without
getting over-stressed in return. Your ego-enjoyment gets nurtured
along with your inner spiritual aspirations. They all become one
and the same; theres no separation. Infuse your ego with spirit
and become your complete self. Its self-balance and simply learn-
ing to be yourself that makes this possible.
Being Yourself
Many people are locked out from being themselves because of
having to live up to vanity standards imposed by the social pres-
sures of society. For instance, certain people tend to be overweight
due to the biological make-up of their particular glandular sys-
tem. Because of social pressure concerning diet, they spend their
lives trying to live up to other peoples measurements of approval.
In being yourself, you have to first adjust to whatever cards you
were dealt in life and attempt to make peace with that. Then, if
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knowledge facilitates but doesnt really draw forth your full spec-
trum of creative potentials. Only you can discover whats right for
you.
Being yourself deeply connects you with a steady source of
confidence and power to achieve. The more you are true to your-
self, the more stress-free life you live. Thats ego-economics.
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Summary:
Important Points to
Remember and
Practice
This book can affect people in different ways because people
have their own individual frequencies of perception. You can know
something and categorize it in your mind with the intention of
acting on it, but then go for months forgetting to bring those
intentions into practical reality. Remember, remedies to prob-
lems may appear idealistic to one, yet be realistic to another.
Practice can bring an ideal into reality.
Considering that the heart has intelligence could seem as
unrealistic to some people today as the idea of a BIC lighter
would have been to a caveman rubbing sticks to start a fire. If
following the heart sounds too simple and easyit is, once you
know how. People who ride bikes know its easy, but beginners
perceive it as difficult. Though the concepts are simple, this book
stands to become more useful to people as stress increases.
There are many people who already are successfully practic-
ing following their heart. Its effective for them, but no more
effective than you can make it for yourself. HeartMath organizes
the how-to-dos and helps you remember what you intended to
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do. Because of survival living, many people often dont apply what
they already know inside to their day-to-day interactions with
others and the environment. My experience is that if people apply
even a fourth of what they know, theyll discover a new level of
freedom and quality in life.
You can benefit from practicing and discussing the deeper
understandings of heart potentials in a supportive group setting.
As people support each other and bond at the heart level, it creates
a nurturing environment. This is regenerative and can facilitate
mental, emotional and physical healing. Sincere sharing prevents
static buildup in an individuals system. Heart-to-heart communi-
cation is effective therapy and serves as preventive maintenance.
If you decide to practice the suggestions in this book by
yourself, then re-read portions at a time as your intuition elects.
Re-reading will help you remember to apply, and sincere applica-
tion is what yields the benefits. The quality of your life is deter-
mined by what you do, not by what you know.
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joint venture between your head and your heart. The balance
between the two can eliminate tremendous amounts of stress in
your day-to-day environment.
5. The energy that you save from not overcaring can be used
to overcome obstacles that before you couldnt. Learn not to cry
over spilt-milk of the past. You cant bring back the crop that
was killed by rain or drought. You can start anew, because what
else is there. Youve heard of release-and-let-go. Its facing life
from the heart perspective that gives people the power to do that.
Practice approaching people, places and issues from the heart and
avoid unnecessary stress. If you sincerely practice the manage-
ment of overcare, youll start saving energy right in the moment.
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tion that often wouldnt have seemed possible. Its time to stop
blaming other people for your problems. The balance of the head
and heart energies gives you the power to change your perspective
to gain a clear view. Its your perspective of a situation that holds
you back and creates much of your excess stress. Its not the people
or circumstances as much as you may think.
effort, more gain. Realize that intelligent solutions can often pop
up quickly. Intuition works at a much faster speed than deduction
when you are inwardly still enough for it to translate into your
consciousness. Use an Intui-techniquepractice Freeze-Framing
before you make any major decision and you will develop the
capacity to make wiser choices in all areas of life. Many times, the
application of one Freeze-Framing can save you days and weeks
worth of mental and emotional misery. It gives you a chance to see
and act rather than just react, resulting in more efficient deci-
sions.
Dont be discouraged in your first attempts; be gently persis-
tent. Unmanaged thoughts and emotions can be the most exhaus-
tive predators that you ever have to face in life. People already age
fast enough without rushing it due to the lack of mental and
emotional management. Managing these areas will be realized in
the future as a most practical approach to the fountain of youth.
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14. As more men and women learn to balance the male and
female aspects within their individual natures, it will increase our
ability to understand and respect each other. That will help bring
about the natural realization of equality. Its the blending of the
male and female energies in the planning rooms that results in
the best for the wholewhether in family, business or social
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To Sum Up:
Caring more sincerely will help to regenerate all people sys-
tems. Its a recipe for productive living that is yet to be taken
seriously by most people. If it seems like a long-range plan, then
realize there are no short-range plans to bail out planetary stress.
Care oils your system and prevents spark-knocks and friction. Its
the most efficient cosmetic that you may ever invest in.
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In Closing
The basic message here is that stress is on the increase but
you have a built-in system of stress reliefSelf Empowerment.
This can be achieved by learning to follow your heart with sincer-
ity. People can try all kinds of exercise programs to get fit but the
one that usually works is the one they practice sincerely. Being
sincere in your efforts brings the truly effective results. Notice the
deeper response and facilitation that you give to people when they
approach you with sincerityas in a sincere apology or request. If
it works on you, it will work for you.
No book or system is going to give a quick fix for stress that
doesnt require an exercise of effort. People know this inside, yet
they still search for that one book or tape which will instantly
make everything all right. The power to make things all right can
be found within the heart of each person and this book is an effort
to facilitate that realization. You already experience heart feel-
ings and head thoughts throughout the day. Its just a matter of
identifying them and bringing them into harmony and coopera-
tion with each other. People experience head/heart balance natu-
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Sincerely,
The Doc
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