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Chinese Cinderella - The True Story of An Unwanted Daughter
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Page 2After a while I said, “When did my
mama die?”
“Your mama came down with a high
fever three days after you were born.
She died when you were two weeks old.
…”
Though I was only four years old, I
understood I should not ask Aunt Baba
too many questions about my dead
mama. Big Sister once told me, “Aunt
Baba and Mama used to be best
friends. A long time ago, they worked
together in a bank in Shanghai owned
by our grandaunt, the youngest sister
of Grandfather Ye Ye. But then Mama
died giving birth to you. If you had not
been born, Mama would still be alive.
She died because of you. You are bad
luck.”
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THE HERMIT THRUSH SINGS,
Susan Butler
BURNING UP, Caroline B. Cooney
ONE THOUSAND PAPER CRANES,
Takayuki Ishii
WHO ARE YOU?, Joan Lowery Nixon
HALINKA, Mirjam Pressler
TIME ENOUGH FOR DRUMS, Ann
Rinaldi
CHECKERS, John Marsden
NOBODY ELSE HAS TO KNOW, In
grid Tomey
TIES THAT BIND, TIES THAT
BREAK, Lensey Namioka
CONDITIONS OF LOVE, Ruth
Pennebaker
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I have always cherished this dream of
creating something unique and imper
ishable, so that the past should not
fade away forever. I know one day I
shall die and vanish into the void, but
hope to preserve my memories
through my writing. Perhaps others
who were also unwanted children may
see them a hundred years from now,
and be encouraged. I imagine them
opening the pages of my book and
meeting me (as a tenyearold) in
Shanghai, without actually having left
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Page 6their own homes in Sydney, Tokyo,
London, Hong Kong or Los Angeles.
And I shall welcome each and every
one of them with a smile and say,
“How splendid of you to visit me!
Come in and let me share with you my
story … because I understand only too
well the rankling in your heart and
what you are going through.”
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Author’s Note
Preface
1. Top of the Class
2. A Tianjin Family
3. Nai Nai’s Bound Feet
4. Life in Tianjin
5. Arrival in Shanghai
6. First Day at School
7. Family Reunion
8. Tram Fare
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9. Chinese New Year
10. Shanghai School Days
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11. PLT
12. Big Sister’s Wedding
13. A Birthday Party
14. Class President
15. Boarding School in Tianjin
16. Hong Kong
17. Boarding School in Hong Kong
18. Miserable Sunday
19. End of Term
20. Pneumonia
21. Playwriting Competition
22. Letter from Aunt Baba
The Story of Ye Xian :
The Original Chinese Cinderella
Historical Note
Author’s Postscript
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About the Author
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Chinese is a pictorial language. Every
word is a different picture and has to
be memorized separately. There is no
alphabet and no connection between
the written and spoken language. A
person can learn to read and write
Chinese without knowing how to speak
one word. Because each word is a pic
tograph, Chinese calligraphy evokes a
greater emotional response than the
same word lettered in alphabet. The
art of calligraphy is highly revered in
China. Poetry written in calligraphy by
ancient masters is prized and passed
on from generation to generation.
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Through Chinese Cinderella, I hope
not only to intrigue you with the plight
of a little girl growing up in China, but
also to interest you in her language,
history and culture.
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Chinese Cinderella is the true story of
my childhood up to the age of fourteen.
It was difficult and painful to write, but
I felt compelled to do so. My family
considered me bad luck because my
mother died giving birth to me. They
discriminated against me and made
me feel unwanted all my life.
Though mine is a simple, personal
tale of the journey of one unloved little
Chinese girl growing up in Shanghai
and Hong Kong, please do not under
estimate the power of such stories. In
one way or another, every one of us has
been shaped by the stories we have
read and absorbed in the past. All
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stories, including fairy tales, present
elemental truths, which can sometimes
permeate your inner life and become
part of you.
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The fact that this story is true may
hold special appeal. Today the world is
very different from the place it was
when I was a child. Though many
Chinese parents still prefer sons,
daughters are not so much despised.
But the essential things have not
changed. It is still important to be
truthful and loyal, to do the best you
can, to make the most of your talents,
to be happy with the simple things in
life, and to believe deep down that you
will ultimately triumph if you try hard
enough to prove your worth.
For those who were neglected and
unloved as children, I have a particular
message. In spite of what your abusers
would have had you believe, please be
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convinced that each of you has within
you something precious and unique.
Chinese Cinderella is dedicated to you
with the fervent wish that you will per
sist in trying to do your best in the face
of hopelessness; to have faith in the
end your spirit will prevail; to tran
scend your abuse and transform it into
a source of courage, creativity and
compassion.
Although Chinese Cinderella was
written when I was in my late fifties,
inside I am still the same little five
yearold yearning for the love of my
parents.
Mother Teresa once said, “Loneli
ness and the feeling of being unwanted
are the greatest poverty.” To this I will
add: Please believe that one single pos
itive dream is more important than a
thousand negative realities.
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Page 15 NAMES
In Chinese families, a child is called by
many names.
1. My father’s surname is Yen (
). My siblings and I inher
ited his surname. Chinese
surnames come at the begin
ning of a person’s name.
2. At birth, a baby is given a
name by his or her parents.
My given name is Junling.
Since my surname comes
first, my Chinese name is Yen
Junling. ( )
3. At home, a child is called by a
name dependent on the order
of his or her birth. The oldest
daughter is called Big Sister,
the second daughter Second
Sister and so on. There are
separate Chinese words for
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4. When the older generation
calls me Wu Mei ( ), the
word mei takes on the mean
ing of daughter. Wu Mei ( )
now means Fifth Daughter.
5. The same goes for the word
di. Er Di ( ) can mean Se
cond Younger Brother or Se
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cond Son.
6. Our stepmother gave us
European names when she
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Page 17 married my father. When my
brothers and I attended
schools in Hong Kong and
London where English was
the main language, my name
became Adeline Yen.
7. After I married, I adopted the
last name of my Chinese
American husband, Bob Mah,
and my name is now Adeline
Yen Mah.
8. Big Sister’s ( ) name is Ly
dia; Big Brother’s ( ) is
Gregory; Second Brother’s (
) is Edgar; Third Brother’s (
) is James; Fourth Younger
Brother’s ( ) name is Frank
lin; and Little Sister’s ( )
name is Susan.
NUMBERS
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Each chapter in Chinese Cinderella is
headed by a number. This number is
written in two ways.
CHAPTER 1 CHAPTER
CHAPTER 2 CHAPTER
CHAPTER 3 CHAPTER
CHAPTER 4 CHAPTER
CHAPTER 5 CHAPTER
CHAPTER 6 CHAPTER
CHAPTER 7 CHAPTER
CHAPTER 8 CHAPTER
CHAPTER 9 CHAPTER
CHAPTER 10CHAPTER
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As you read, you will gradually recog
nize the Chinese symbols for the num
bers one to ten.
Eleven (11) in Chinese
is written as (Ten next
to One)
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Page 19 Twelve (12) in Chinese
is written as (Ten next
to Two)
Twenty (20) in Chinese
is written as (Two next
to Ten)
Twentyone (21) in
Chinese is written as
(Two next to Ten next to
One)
Since there are only twentytwo
chapters in Chinese Cinderella, I have
written the rest of the numbers up to
one hundred. There is a different
Chinese word for “hundred.” It is ( ).
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80 is ( 90 is ( 100 is ( 110 is (
) ) ) )
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AUT UMN 1941
As soon as I got home from school, Aunt
Baba noticed the silver medal dangling
from the left breast pocket of my uni
form. She was combing her hair in front
of the mirror in our room when I rushed
in and plopped my schoolbag down
onto my bed.
“What’s that hanging on your dress?”
“It’s something special that Mother
Agnes gave me in front of the whole
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class this afternoon. She called it an
award.”
My aunt looked thrilled. “So soon?
You only started kindergarten a week
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ago. What is it for?”
“It’s for leading my class this week.
When Mother Agnes pinned it on my
dress, she said I could wear it for seven
days. Here, this certificate goes with it.”
I opened my schoolbag and handed her
an envelope as I climbed onto her lap.
She opened the envelope and took out
the certificate. “Why, it’s all written in
French or English or some other foreign
language. How do you expect me to
read this, my precious little treasure?” I
knew she was pleased because she was
smiling as she hugged me. “One day
soon,” she continued, “you’ll be able to
translate all this into Chinese for me.
Until then, we’ll just write today’s date
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on the envelope and put it away some
where safe. Go close the door properly
and put on the latch so no one will come
in.”
I watched her open her closet door
and take out her safedeposit box. She
took the key from a gold chain around
her neck and placed my certificate un
derneath her jade bracelet, pearl neck
lace and diamond watch, as if my award
were also some precious jewel im
possible to replace.
As she closed the lid, an old photo
graph fell out. I picked up the faded pic
ture and saw a solemn young man and
woman, both dressed in oldfashioned
Chinese robes. The man looked rather
familiar.
“Is this a picture of my father and
dead mama?” I asked.
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“No. This is the wedding picture of
your grandparents. Your Ye Ye was
twentysix and your Nai Nai was only
fifteen.” She quickly took the photo
from me and locked it into her box.
“Do you have a picture of my dead
mama?”
She avoided my eyes. “No. But I have
wedding pictures of your father and
your stepmother, Niang. You were only
one year old when they married. Do you
want to see them?”
“No. I’ve seen those before. I just
want to see one of my own mama. Do I
look like her?” Aunt Baba did not reply,
but busied herself with putting the safe
deposit box back into her closet. After a
while I said, “When did my mama die?”
“Your mother came down with a high
fever three days after you were born.
She died when you were two weeks
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old.…” She hesitated for a moment, then
exclaimed suddenly, “How dirty your
hands are! Have you been playing in
that sandbox at school again? Go wash
them at once! Then come back and do
your homework!”
I did as I was told. Though I was only
four years old, I understood I should
not ask Aunt Baba too many questions
about my dead mama. Big Sister once
told me, “Aunt Baba and Mama used to
be best friends. A long time ago, they
worked together in a bank in Shanghai
owned by our grandaunt, the youngest
sister of Grandfather Ye Ye. But then
Mama died giving birth to you. If you
had not been born, Mama would still be
alive. She died because of you. You are
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bad luck.”
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At the time of my birth, Big Sister was
six and a half years old. My three broth
ers were five, four and three. They
blamed me for causing Mama’s death
and never forgave me.
A year later, Father remarried. Our
stepmother, whom we called Niang, was
a seventeenyearold Eurasian beauty
fourteen years his junior. Father always
introduced her to his friends as his
French wife, though she was actually
half French and half Chinese. Besides
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Chinese, she also spoke French and
English. She was almost as tall as Fath
er, stood very straight and dressed only
in French clothes, many of which came
from Paris. Her thick, wavy black hair
never had a curl out of place. Her large,
dark brown eyes were fringed with long,
thick lashes. She wore heavy makeup,
expensive French perfume and many
diamonds and pearls. Grandmother Nai
Nai told us to call her Niang, Chinese
term for mother.
One year after their wedding, they
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had a son (Fourth Brother), followed by
a daughter (Little Sister). There were
now seven of us, five children from
Father’s first wife and two from our
stepmother Niang.
Besides Father and Niang, we lived
with our Grandfather Ye Ye, Grand
mother Nai Nai and Aunt Baba in a big
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house in the French concession of Ti
anjin, a port city on the northeast coast
of China. Aunt Baba was the older sister
of our father. Because she was meek,
shy and unmarried and had no money
of her own, they ordered her to take
care of me. From an early age, I slept in
a crib in her room. This suited me well
because I grew to know her better and
better. Besides a room, we came to
share a life apart from the rest of our
family. Under the circumstances, per
haps it was inevitable that, in time, we
came to care for each other very deeply.
Many years before, China had lost a
war, known as the Opium War, against
England and France. As a result, many
coastal cities in China, such as Tianjin
and Shanghai, came to be occupied by
foreign soldiers.
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The conquerors parceled out the best
areas of these treaty ports for them
selves, claiming them as their own “ter
ritories” or “concessions.” Tianjin’s
French concession was like a little piece
of Paris transplanted into the center of
this big Chinese city. Our house was
built in the French style and looked as if
it had been lifted from a treeshaded av
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enue near the Eiffel Tower. Surrounded
by a charming garden, it had porches,
balconies, bow windows, awnings and a
slanting tile roof. Across the street was
St. Louis Catholic Boys’ School, where
the teachers were French missionaries.
In December 1941, when the Japan
ese bombed Pearl Harbor, the United
States became involved in the Second
World War. Though Tianjin was occu
pied by the Japanese, the French con
cession was still being governed by
French officials. French policemen
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strutted about looking important and
barking out orders in their own lan
guage, which they expected everyone to
understand and obey.
At my school, Mother Agnes taught us
the alphabet and how to count in
French. Many of the streets around our
house were named after dead French
heroes or Catholic saints. When trans
lated into Chinese, these street names
became so complicated that Ye Ye and
Nai Nai often had trouble remembering
them. Bilingual store signs were com
mon, but the most exclusive shops
painted their signs only in French. Nai
Nai told us this was the foreigners’ way
of announcing that no Chinese were al
lowed there except for maids in charge
of white children.
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The evening of the day when I brought
home my silver school medal, the din
ner bell rang at seven. Aunt Baba took
my hand and led me into the dining
room.
My grandparents were just ahead of
us. Aunt Baba told me to run quickly to
the head of the big round dining table
and pull out Grandmother Nai Nai’s
chair for her. Nai Nai walked very
slowly because of her bound feet. I
watched her as she inched her way
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toward me, hobbling and swaying as if
her toes had been partly cut off. As she
sat down with a sigh of relief, I placed
my foot next to her embroidered black
silk shoe to compare sizes.
“Nai Nai, how come your feet are so
tiny?” I asked.
“When I was three years old, a tight
bandage was wound around my feet,
bending the toes under the sole and
crushing the arch so that my feet would
remain small all my life. This has been
the custom in China for over a thousand
years, ever since the Tang dynasty. In
my day, small feet were considered fem
inine and beautiful. If you had large,
unbound feet, no man would marry you.
This was the custom.”
“Did it hurt?”
“Of course! It hurt so badly I couldn’t
sleep. I screamed with pain and begged
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my mother to free my feet, but she
wouldn’t. In fact, the pain has never
gone away. My feet have hurt every day
since they were bound and continue to
hurt today. I had a pair of perfectly nor
mal feet when I was born, but they
maimed me on purpose and gave me
lifelong arthritis so I would be attract
ive. Just be thankful this horrible cus
tom was done away with thirty years
ago. Otherwise your feet would be
crippled and you wouldn’t be able to
run or jump either.”
I went to the foot of the table and sat
in my assigned seat between Second
Brother and Third Brother as my three
brothers ran in, laughing and jostling
each other. I cringed as Second Brother
sat down on my right. He was always
grabbing my share of goodies when
nobody was looking and saying mean
things to me.
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Second Brother used to sit next to Big
Brother, but the two of them fought a
lot. Father finally separated them when
they broke a fruit bowl fighting over a
pear.
Big Brother winked at me as he sat
down. He had a twinkle in his eyes and
was whistling a tune. The day before,
he’d tried to teach me how to whistle,
but no matter how hard I tried I
couldn’t make it work. Was Big Brother
up to some new mischief today?
The previous Sunday afternoon, I had
come across him crouched by Grand
father Ye Ye’s bed, watching Ye Ye like a
cat while he took his nap. A long black
hair from Ye Ye’s right nostril was being
blown out and drawn in with every
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snore. Silently but swiftly, Big Brother
suddenly approached Ye Ye and care
fully pinched the nasal hair between his
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forefinger and thumb. There was a tan
talizing pause as Ye Ye exhaled with a
long, contented wheeze. Meanwhile I
held my breath, mesmerized and not
daring to make a sound.
Finally Ye Ye inhaled deeply. Dog
gedly Big Brother hung on. The hair was
wrenched from its root. Ye Ye woke up
with a yell, jumped from his bed, took in
the situation with one glance and went
after Big Brother with a feather duster.
Laughing hysterically, Big Brother
rushed out of the room, slid down the
banister and made a clean getaway into
the garden, all the time holding Ye Ye’s
hair aloft like a trophy.
Third Brother took his seat on my
left. He had his lips pursed and was try
ing unsuccessfully to whistle. Seeing the
medal on my uniform, he raised his
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eyebrow and smiled at me. “What’s
that?” he asked in his quiet, thoughtful
way.
“It’s an award for leading my class.
My teacher says I can wear it for seven
days.”
“Congratulations! First week at
school and you get a medal! Not bad!”
While I was basking in Third Broth
er’s praise, I suddenly felt a hard blow
across the back of my head. I turned
around to see Second Brother glowering
at me.
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“What did you do that for?” I asked
angrily.
Deliberately he took my right arm un
der the table and gave it a quick, hard
twist while no one was looking. “Be
cause I feel like it! That’s why, you ugly
little squirt! This’ll teach you to show off
your medal!”
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I turned for help from Third Brother,
but he was looking straight ahead, obvi
ously not wishing to be involved. At that
moment, Father, Niang and Big Sister
came in together and Second Brother
immediately let go of my arm.
Niang was speaking to Big Sister in
English and Big Sister was nodding as
sent. She glanced at all of us smugly as
she took her seat between Second
Brother and Niang, full of her own self
importance at being so favored by our
stepmother. Because her left arm had
been paralyzed by a birth injury, her
movements were slow and awkward and
she liked to order me or Third Brother
to carry out her chores.
“Wu Mei (Fifth Younger Sister)!” she
now said. “Go fetch my EnglishChinese
dictionary. It’s on my bed in my room.
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Niang wants me to translate
something.”
I was halfway off my chair when Nai
Nai said, “Do the translation later! Sit
down, Wu Mei. Let’s have dinner before
the dishes get cold. Here, let me first
pick a selection of soft foods to send up
to the nursery so the wet nurse can feed
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the two youngest.” She turned to Niang
with a smile. “Another two years and all
seven grandchildren will be sitting
around this table. Won’t that be
wonderful?”
Niang’s twoyearold son, Fourth
Brother, and her infant daughter, Little
Sister, were still too young to eat with
us. However, they were already
“special” from the moment of their
birth. Though nobody actually said so, it
was simply understood that everyone
considered Niang’s “real” children
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betterlooking and smarter than her
stepchildren—simply superior in every
way. Who dared disagree?
For dessert, the maids brought in a
huge bowl of my favorite fruit, dragon’s
eyes! I was so happy I couldn’t help
laughing out loud.
Nai Nai gave us each a small bowl of
fruit, and I counted seven dragon’s eyes
in mine. I peeled off the leathery brown
skin and was savoring its delicate white
flesh when Father suddenly pointed to
my medal.
“Is this medal for leading your class?”
he asked.
I nodded eagerly, too excited to
speak. A hush fell upon the table. This
was the first time anyone could remem
ber Father singling me out or saying
anything to me. Everyone looked at my
medal.
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“Is the left side of your chest heav
ier?” Father continued, beaming with
pride. “Are you tilting?”
I flushed with pleasure and could
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barely swallow. My big Dia Dia was ac
tually teasing me! On his way out, he
even patted me on my head. Then he
said, “Continue studying hard and bring
honor to our Yen family name so we can
be proud of you.”
All the grownups beamed at me as
they followed Father out of the room.
How wonderful! My triumph had be
come Father’s triumph! I must study
harder and keep wearing this medal so
I can go on pleasing Father.
But what was this? Big Sister was
coming toward me with a scowl.
Without a word, she reached over and
snatched two dragon’s eyes from my
bowl as she left the room. My three
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brothers followed her example. Then
they all ran out, leaving me quite alone
with my silver medal, staring at my
empty bowl.
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When I started kindergarten at St.
Joseph’s French Convent School, Big
Sister had been going there for years
and years and was already in the fifth
grade. She complained so much about
having to walk me to and from school
that Grandmother Nai Nai finally told
Ah Mao, the rickshaw puller, to pull us
there and back.
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Father had bought the shiny black
rickshaw three years earlier as a fiftieth
birthday present so that Nai Nai could
visit her friends and play mahjongg. It
had inflatable rubber tires, a brass lamp
on each side and a bell operable by foot
as well as by hand. Every morning, Ah
Mao could be seen sweeping the seat,
washing the sides, brushing the canopy
and polishing the brass. My brothers
were forever begging him to let them
pull each other back and forth in the
garden, but Ah Mao was fiercely pro
tective and would scatter them away.
Outside our garden, an old, blind and
crippled beggar woman often sat on the
pavement. As soon as Ah Mao opened
the gate, she would bang her tin plate,
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tilt back her head and wail in a loud
voice, “Have pity on me!” Big Sister (Da
Jie, ) and I were both a little
frightened of her. “Run faster!” Big
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Sister (Da Jie, ) would urge Ah Mao.
“Get away from her as fast as you can!”
I was always happy when our rickshaw
approached the imposing red brick
building of St. Joseph’s. I loved
everything about my school: all the oth
er little girls dressed in identical
starched white uniforms just like mine;
the French Franciscan nuns in black
andwhite habits with big metal crosses
dangling from their necks; learning
numbers, catechism and the alphabet;
playing hopscotch and skipping rope at
recess. My classmates made me feel as if
I “belonged.” Unlike my siblings,
nobody looked down on me.
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The school bell rang and it was time to
go home. I rushed out of the classroom
and ran straight toward Ah Mao, who
was squatting on his haunches between
the handlebars of his rickshaw, smoking
a cigarette on the pavement by the
school gate. He smiled as I approached
and waved me onto his cab.
“I wonder how long we’re going to
have to wait today,” he grumbled as he
lit a fresh cigarette.
I said nothing but I knew what he
meant. It was annoying. Big Sister was
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always among the last to leave when
school finished. She seemed to enjoy
having her friends notice that her rick
shaw puller and younger sister could be
found waiting for her every afternoon
while she took her own sweet time.
Today we waited for her even longer
than usual. It was beastly cold and there
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was a sharp northwesterly wind blow
ing. After a while Ah Mao wandered off
to chat with a tea peddler on the corner
and warm his hands against the ped
dler’s steaming kettle. My face, fingers
and toes were numb with cold.
Finally, I saw her appear in the play
ground, laughing and joking with a few
big girls from her class until the nuns
shooed them out and locked the gate
behind them. Big Sister scowled as she
climbed in while I shrank into my
corner. She jabbed the bell angrily sev
eral times with her foot and called
sharply. Ah Mao ran back, stepped
between the shafts and off we went.
“What did the nuns teach you today?”
Big Sister suddenly asked imperiously.
“They taught us about God,” I replied
proudly.
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“I’m going to test you. Who made
you?”
I was happy because I knew the an
swer. “God made me.”
“Why did God make you?”
“I don’t know because Teacher hasn’t
told us yet.” “
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“That’s just an excuse!” Big Sister
screamed, “You don’t know because you
are stupid! And you don’t deserve to
wear this!” Suddenly, she grabbed my
medal and jerked it, becoming enraged
because I was pushing her away. “Take
that! Medal winner! Teacher’s pet! Who
do you think you are? Showing off week
after week!” Big Sister cried as she
slapped me with her strong right hand.
Ah Mao, who had stopped at a red
light, turned around to look when he
heard the slap. Big Sister nonchalantly
straightened her uniform and ordered
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him to run faster because she was
hungry. She told Ah Mao that Cook was
making potstickers and they were her
favorite afternoon snack. As soon as we
were home, Big Sister jumped down and
ran off. Ah Mao helped me alight, poin
ted to my medal, smiled broadly and
gave me the thumbsup sign, shaking
his fist up and down to signal his
admiration.
I was winning the medal every week and
wearing it constantly. I knew this dis
pleased my siblings, especially Big
Sister and Second Brother, but it was
the only way to make Father take notice
and be proud of me. Besides, my teach
ers and schoolmates seemed to be
happy for me. I loved my school more
and more.
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Finally, it was the end of term. Our
whole school was assembled in the aud
itorium for prizegiving. The French
monsignor himself was waiting on the
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stage to present us with our awards.
Mother Agnes suddenly called my name
in front of everyone. She announced
that I had won a special award for wear
ing the weekly medal for more weeks
than any other student. My heart beat
wildly as I approached the stage, but the
steps leading up to the Monsignor were
too high and steep for my short little
legs. What should I do? Finally, I had no
choice but to climb up to the stage on
my hands and knees. Everyone was
hooting with laughter and clapping
wildly. Were they applauding me?
On my way back to my seat, I couldn’t
help noticing that of all the prizewin
ners, I was the only one unaccompanied
by anyone from my family. Nobody was
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there to pat my head or congratulate
me, not even my Aunt Baba. As for Big
Sister, she had refused to go to school
that day. She’d said she had a
stomachache.
Aunt Baba told me that Japan was a
strong country that had conquered most
of China, including the city of Tianjin,
where we lived. My three brothers were
always grumbling about the Japanese
classes they were required to take at
school. We children were supposed to
show our respect and bow whenever we
ran past Japanese soldiers. Otherwise
they would punish us or even kill us.
Once Big Brother’s best friend was
kicked and slapped by a Japanese sol
dier because he forgot to bow when he
ran past. That morning, Ye Ye had
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stopped Third Brother from kicking a
paper ball made of old newspapers be
cause a photo of the Japanese emperor
was visible on its surface. Everyone
hated the Japanese, but even the
grownups were scared of them. Now
there was talk that the Japanese were
demanding to become Father’s business
partners.
Father looked terribly worried and
his hair started to fall out. Many Japan
ese men in business suits came to the
house looking for him, even on
Sundays. They came with Japanese
bodyguards who wore surgical masks on
their faces and carried scarylooking
bayonets with big sharp knives at the
tips. It was a great nuisance because we
had to bow and show respect to anyone
who looked Japanese. After their depar
ture, Father would talk to Ye Ye alone
for hours and hours in their office.
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One morning, Father left the house to
buy stamps at the post office down the
road. He never came home.
Ye Ye reported Father’s disappear
ance to the police. He put up posters
and placed advertisements in the news
papers offering a reward for news of
Father’s whereabouts, alive or dead.
The Japanese came back a few times
looking for Father but soon lost interest.
With Father absent, his business
ground to a halt. There was no more
money to be made and the Japanese
dropped their demands.
A few months later, our stepmother,
Niang, took our younger brother
(Fourth Brother) and also left the
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house. Nobody knew where they went.
It was all rather frightening and very
mysterious.
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Ye Ye told us that Father, Niang and
Fourth Brother had gone away for a
while. After the strangeness wore off,
we weren’t particularly bothered be
cause Father traveled often on business.
Besides, Ye Ye, Nai Nai and Aunt Baba
were still home. The Japanese stopped
bothering us. Life settled down and be
came tranquil, even happy.
Ye Ye employed seven maids, a cook,
a chauffeur and Ah Mao, the rickshaw
puller. The grownups held frequent
mahjongg parties. We children could
invite our friends home to play. On
Sundays, Ye Ye took everyone out for
drives in Father’s big black motorcar.
We lunched at different restaurants in
the foreign concessions— French, Rus
sian, German, Italian and Japanese. So
metimes, we even got to go to movies
suitable for children! Life seemed better
than ever!
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Father, Niang and Fourth Brother had
been gone for well over a year and I had
almost forgotten them. There was a heat
wave and we were all in the parlor dis
cussing the next day’s dinner menu.
Aunt Baba suggested to Cook that we
should have dumplings instead of rice
for a change. These yummy dumplings
were stuffed with pork, chives and
spring onions and were absolutely deli
cious! Big Brother shouted that he could
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eat fifty of them at one sitting. Second
Brother immediately claimed sixty and
Third Brother wanted sixty also. Big
Sister ordered seventy. Big Brother told
her she was already too fat. She
screamed at him to shut up and they
started to argue.
Nai Nai said, “What a racket! I’m get
ting a headache from all this
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commotion. It’s getting late. I’m going
to my room to soak my aching feet.” She
turned to me. “Wu Mei! Run down to
the kitchen and tell them to bring me a
pan of hot water.”
I watched the maid pour the steaming
hot water from a Thermos flask into an
enamel basin and followed her into Nai
Nai’s bedroom. Nai Nai was sitting on
the edge of her bed and slowly unwind
ing the filmy silk bindings from her feet.
“Are you sure you want to stay here?”
she asked me. “Your Nai Nai’s feet are
going to stink up this room as soon as I
take these bindings off.”
“Please let me stay!” I begged as I
squatted beside her on the floor. The
truth was that I was fascinated by her
tiny feet. It was like watching a horror
movie: you want to see it and don’t want
to see it at the same time.
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I stared at Nai Nai’s toes, all de
formed and twisted grotesquely beneath
her soles. Slowly she immersed them in
the pan of hot water, sighing with relief
and contentment. She then rubbed
them gently with a bar of sweet
smelling soap until the whole basin was
covered with lather. Aunt Baba came in
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and helped Nai Nai trim her thick toe
nails and cut off pieces of dead skin.
“See how lucky you are?” Nai Nai said to
me. “By being born at the right time,
both you and your Aunt Baba didn’t
have to go through the torture I went
through in having my feet bound. How I
wish I could have just one day when my
feet didn’t hurt!”
“When Nai Nai was your age, she
couldn’t run or jump anymore!” Aunt
Baba said to me. “And here you even get
to go to school every day just like your
brothers. You’d better run along now
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and get to bed! It’s way after your
bedtime.”
After I left, Aunt Baba talked to Nai
Nai for a little while longer. She then
went to take her bath.
Fifteen minutes later, Ye Ye was
pounding on her bathroom door. Nai
Nai had fainted and was frothing at the
mouth. Aunt Baba telephoned the doc
tor but it was already too late. Nai Nai
had died from a massive stroke.
I woke up from a sound sleep and saw
Aunt Baba sitting by herself at the
dressing table and crying. I crawled into
her lap and put my arms around her to
comfort her. Aunt Baba told me that Nai
Nai’s life had evaporated like an episode
in a spring dream. Outside, I could hear
crickets humming in the summer heat
and hawkers shouting their wares on
the pavement below. How could
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everything remain so much the same
when Nai Nai was no longer with us?
Nai Nai’s body was placed in a tightly
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sealed coffin in the parlor. Buddhist
monks dressed in long robes chanted
mantras. Ye Ye ordered us children to
spend the night and sleep on the floor in
the same room to keep Nai Nai com
pany. Third Brother whispered in my
ear that Nai Nai was going to push open
the coffin lid and wander out at mid
night. I was scared and couldn’t sleep.
All night, while listening to the monks
praying and watching their shining bald
heads in the flickering candlelight, I half
yearned and half feared that Nai Nai
would crawl out and resume her place
among us.
Next day, there was a grand funeral.
Nai Nai’s coffin was draped with white
sheets and placed on a hearse pulled by
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four men. We all dressed in white robes
with white headbands for the boys and
white ribbons for the girls. Big Brother
acted as chief mourner in Father’s ab
sence. Hired musicians extolled Nai
Nai’s virtues. They tossed white paper
coins into the air while making music
and singing prayers. The hearse stopped
six times so Big Brother could fall to his
knees, kowtow and bewail Nai Nai’s loss
in a loud voice.
At the Buddhist temple, the monks
held a solemn ceremony. Amid hymns
and the scent of incense, we burned art
icles made of paper or cardboard for
Nai Nai’s needs in the next world. There
were cardboard beds, tables, chairs,
pots and pans and even a mahjongg
set. My brothers fought over a large pa
per car covered with bright tinfoil. I
watched the smoke curl up from the
sacrificial urn and believed with all my
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heart that it would regroup somewhere
into household utensils for the exclusive
use of our Nai Nai in heaven.
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Six weeks after Nai Nai’s funeral, Ye Ye
took Big Sister, Big Brother, Second
Brother and me for an outing. To our
surprise, our car stopped first at the
railroad station. After instructing our
chauffeur to wait outside in the car, Ye
Ye marched the four of us onto a
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crowded platform marked with a sign:
T O SHANGHAI . There, in a firstclass com
partment, we came face to face with
Father, sitting by himself. He was
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dressed in a black suit and black tie. His
eyes were red and he had been crying.
We were delighted and astonished!
Big Sister asked, “How long have you
been back, Father?” He told her he had
just arrived a few hours ago but was
planning to leave again almost immedi
ately. He said he missed us and was in
Tianjin specially to escort us south to
Shanghai. Where was Shanghai? It was
a large port city a thousand miles away,
and our grandaunt owned a big bank
there. He, Niang and Fourth Brother
had been living there a year and a half.
Since Third Brother was still recuperat
ing from measles, he would join us later
with Little Sister, Ye Ye and Aunt Baba.
Being devout Buddhists, Ye Ye and Aunt
Baba wished to observe the traditional
hundredday religious mourning period
for Nai Nai before leaving Tianjin.
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“What about our clothes?” Big Broth
er asked.
“Aunt Baba is arranging to have them
delivered separately,” Father replied. “If
you had taken too much luggage with
you, the servants would have become
suspicious. It’s important that the ser
vants know nothing about my where
abouts. Otherwise, the Japanese might
arrest me. During the train journey, talk
to each other as little as possible so
you’ll give nothing away. Now say good
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bye to your Ye Ye! The train is leaving in
five minutes!”
Father’s Shanghai house was on Avenue
Joffre, deep in the heart of the French
concession. It was a big, square, dark
gray concrete building, just like all the
other sixtynine houses within the same
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“long tang,” a cluster of houses surroun
ded by a communal wall. Father’s
chauffeur drove us from the station
through the main lane of our long tang,
turned left into a narrower alleyway,
and stopped in front of a wroughtiron
gate. Father led us into a charming
garden, with a small lawn lined by
clipped camellia bushes, a magnolia
tree with wonderfully fragrant blooms,
and a wishing well next to a wooden
doghouse. A large, ferocious German
shepherd rushed out and jumped ex
citedly at the sight of Father but barked
at us. I glanced briefly at the fierce, bru
tish animal, with its sharp teeth and
pointed ears. Father noticed and said to
me, “His name is Jackie. Don’t be afraid
of him. Just behave naturally. He is get
ting obedience training lessons every
week from a German dog trainer. He
won’t dare bite you.”
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All the same, I was nervous. I got
away and followed Big Brother up three
stone steps through tall French doors
into the formal living room.
“Here we are!” Father said, looking
around proudly as we gawked in open
mouthed wonder at the burgundy velvet
couches, matching velvet curtains and
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thick woolen carpet partially covering a
teak parquet floor. The wallpaper had
long strips of raised velvet napping that
matched the curtains. Beautiful white
orchids in an antique Ming dynasty vase
rested on an elegant imitation Louis
XVI coffee table. Everything was ornate,
formal, polished and hard.
Niang entered, holding Fourth Broth
er’s hand. We greeted her timidly. Like
the room, our stepmother was also styl
ish and flawless, with her large, piercing
eyes, long shapely nails painted bright
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red, and enormous flashing diamonds
at her throat, wrist and ears. Standing
opposite her made me feel quite shabby
and ill at ease.
“Sit down, all of you! And welcome to
our Shanghai home!” Niang announced
in a loud, clear voice. “The maids will
show you to your rooms. This house
consists of three floors. On the ground
floor, the living room and dining room
are in front. The kitchen, garage and
servants’ quarters are in the back. You
are to enter and leave the house by the
back door only. The front gate leading
out of the garden is reserved for Fath
er’s guests. So is the living room. You
are not to invite any of your friends
home, or to visit them in their houses.
“The second floor is where your fath
er and I, and your younger brother and
sister, have our rooms. You are not
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allowed to enter any of the rooms on
our floor without our permission.
“All of you will live on the third floor.
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You three boys will sleep in the same
room. Wu Mei (Fifth Daughter) will
share a room with Aunt Baba. Ye Ye and
Big Sister will each have a private room.
Keep your rooms tidy because your
father and I might come up and make
an inspection at any time.
“We have enrolled all of you at very
expensive private missionary schools.
School starts next Monday. Now go with
the maids to your rooms and wash
yourselves. In half an hour, Cook will
ring the dinner bell. As soon as you hear
it, all of you will come down at once. Do
you understand?”
We nodded solemnly. As we climbed
the stairs, Big Brother muttered, “To
her, we are not separate people. Here
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we have become one single unit known
as all of you. Seems like this is how it’s
going to be from now on.”
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On Monday morning, with Aunt Baba
still in Tianjin, a maid helped me put on
my brandnew school uniform. It was
white, a little too long, stiff with starch,
and had the name of my new school,
Sacred Heart (Sheng Xin, ), in bright
red Chinese characters embroidered on
the left breast pocket.
After breakfast, I stayed in the hall
way for what seemed like a very long
time waiting for someone to take me to
school, wondering who it was going to
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be. I was excited to be starting first
grade in my new primary school, which
was next door to Big Sister’s Aurora
Middle School. Big Sister, however, was
still in bed. Her classes were scheduled
to begin an hour later than mine. The
chauffeur had already left to drive my
brothers to St. John’s Academy, which
was in the opposite direction.
I saw Cook wheeling his bicycle
through the hallway to go to market. He
spotted me watching him.
“Who is taking you to school?” he
asked.
“I don’t know.” I was nervous and
couldn’t help shooting a wistful glance
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at the big clock ticking away on the wall.
It was getting late, and everyone had
forgotten about me. What should I do? I
was panicstricken and felt tears rolling
down my cheeks.
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Cook shrugged. “It’s certainly not my
job. No one mentioned anything to me
about you.” He was about to mount his
bike and ride away when he noticed my
tears. “Now, now! Don’t cry! Being late
for school isn’t the end of the world…
oh, all right! Come along then!” he
mumbled gruffly as he lifted me onto
the handlebars of his bicycle. “Your
Sheng Xin Primary School happens to
be right next to the market. Sit here
quietly and don’t squirm. We’ll be there
in no time at all.”
After school was let out in the early
afternoon, I waited with all the other
firstgraders by the school gate. One by
one they were greeted and led away by
their anxiously hovering mothers. Even
tually, I was the only one left. Nobody
had come for me. The metal gate slowly
clanged shut behind me as I watched
my classmates disperse, each clutching
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her mother’s hand and eagerly recount
ing the adventures of her first day at
school. After a long time, I peered
through a crack into the deserted play
ground. Not a person was in sight. Cau
tiously, I pushed against the massive
iron doorway. It was firmly locked.
Trembling with fear, I realized that no
one was coming to pick me up. Too em
barassed to knock or draw attention to
myself, I walked tentatively out into the
Shanghai streets. Surely, if I tried hard
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enough, I would remember the way
home.
It was a beautiful, sunny afternoon.
At first I wandered along a wide,
straight road lined with tall, leafy trees.
Motorcars, trams, rickshaws, pedicabs
and bicycles whizzed by. I kept walking
but dared not cross the road, glancing
briefly at the openfronted stores over
hung with colorful, upright bilingual
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signboards. I turned a corner and now
the sidewalks seethed with people and
noise and commotion: coolies shoulder
ing heavy loads on bamboo poles;
hawkers selling toys, crickets in cages,
fans, cold tea, candies, meatfilled buns,
spring rolls, tea eggs and fermented
bean curd; stalls and booths offering
services such as haircuts, shaves, dental
care, letterwriting, extraction of ear
wax; beggars banging tin cups and
chanting for a handout. Except for me,
everyone was striding purposefully
along, going somewhere. Everyone had
a destination. I must have walked for
miles and miles. But where was I?
Should I enter a shop and ask
for directions? But I didn’t know
my home address. What should I
say? Should I approach that
kindly old storekeeper smiling at
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tique shop and tell him, “Please
sir, I want to go home”? But
where was my home?
It was getting dark. Bright neon signs
in blue, yellow, red and orange came on
and blinked at me. Had anyone at home
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missed me? Did they think I was still at
school? Were they looking for me?
What should I do?
I walked past a bustling, brightly lit
dim sum shop. Such a wonderful aroma
was wafting through the door! Through
the plateglass window, I saw roast
ducks, soysauce chickens, and hunks of
glistening roast pork hanging from
hooks. There was a young chef wielding
his cleaver and deftly chopping a duck
into bitesize pieces on a wooden block.
Wouldn’t it be heavenly to be given a
slice of meat? But that might be too
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much to hope for. I would be quite con
tent with a piece of bone to chew on. As
I salivated, I imagined the taste of the
food sliding down my throat. Breakfast
seemed such a long time ago!
Someone was touching my shoulder!
I started and looked up. A large, red
faced woman whom I had just seen
bustling around the tables in the res
taurant was speaking to me. “You have
been standing here for almost half an
hour. What’s your mother doing that
she would leave you waiting out here all
by yourself? Doesn’t she know it’s dan
gerous for a little girl your age to be
hanging around on the street like this?
Are you supposed to have dinner with
her here?”
Terrified, I lowered my head and
shuffled my feet.
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“Come and wait for her inside,” she
commanded as she glanced at my
brandnew school uniform. “My daugh
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ter started school today too.”
Inside, it was hot and noisy. I stood
hesitantly by the door. Suddenly, I no
ticed a black telephone next to the cash
register! Why, just the day before, Big
Brother and I had been playing and he
had taught me a new “numbers” game
he had just invented. “Take any number
and add, subtract, multiply, or divide it.
The one who comes up with the number
thirteen first wins!”
“What number should we use, Big
Brother (Da Ge, )?” I had asked.
“Run downstairs and get our tele
phone number. It’s marked on the front
of the telephone in the stairway.”
I’d rushed down for the number and
we’d played with it all afternoon:
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backward and forward, breaking it
down and building it up again. 79281!
That was it! 79281!
Finally, Big Brother had won! He’d
broken 79281 into 9, 8, 21, and 7:
9 − 8 = 1
21 ÷ 7 = 3
He then placed the number three to the
right of the number one and got thir
teen, thereby winning the game. I
clapped my hands in glee and admira
tion. I felt honored that Big Brother had
deigned to play with me all afternoon.
No one was looking when I picked up
the phone and dialed. Father answered
on the third ring.
“Speak up!” he shouted. “There is so
much background noise. Who is it?”
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“It’s your daughter, Fifth Daughter
(Wu Mei, ).”
“Where are you?” Father asked in an
even voice, quite calmly, and, suddenly,
with a pang, I realized nobody had
missed me. They didn’t even know I
wasn’t home.
“I’m in a restaurant. I got lost when I
tried to walk home from school.”
“Let me speak to the proprietor. You
stay right there and I’ll come and pick
you up.”
Soon afterward, Father arrived and
drove me home in his big black Buick.
Traffic was light and he drove in silence.
When we arrived, he patted me on my
head. “Next time you go anywhere for
the first time,” he admonished as he
handed me a map of Shanghai from the
glove compartment of his car, “read this
map and find where you are and where
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you wish to go. This way you’ll never get
lost again.”
That’s exactly what I’ll do, I thought
to myself. After dinner, I’m going to ask
Big Brother to teach me how to read
this map. With Aunt Baba still in Ti
anjin, there’s obviously nobody looking
out for me. I’ll just have to find my own
way.
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Big Brother told me that Ye Ye, Aunt
Baba, Third Brother and Little Sister
were scheduled to arrive in Shanghai on
the last Sunday in October. I started
counting the days. Little Sister had been
separated from her mother, Niang,
since she was just six months old. Now
she was almost two, and Aunt Baba had
mentioned in her last letter that Little
Sister was starting to jabber away in
Mandarin with a strong Tianjin accent.
How adorable!
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On the morning of their arrival, Fath
er and the chauffeur met them at the
station. I was overjoyed to see my be
loved Aunt Baba and Ye Ye again. Third
Brother looked taller and thinner, but
Little Sister had changed the most. Aunt
Baba had dressed her in pretty pink silk
trousers with a matching jacket and
pink cloth shoes. Her hair was neatly
combed into two little beribboned
braids that stood up on each side, bob
bing as she walked. She looked like a big
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doll with her large round eyes and
chubby pink cheeks, rushing around the
sitting room, examining the dishes of
candy, melon seeds, peanuts, ginger
slices and salted plums laid out on the
coffee table, and then running back to
Aunt Baba. All of us beckoned to her
and vied for her attention as she teased
us by half advancing and then quickly
retreating to Aunt Baba’s side.
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Repeatedly Niang signaled her baby
to come to her. But, to Little Sister, her
mother was a stranger and she ignored
her. Niang was dressed in a dark brown
Parisian silk dress, with dangling pearl
earrings and a string of large pearls
around her neck. Fifteen feet away, I
could still smell the cloying aroma of
her perfume.
Trying to help, Aunt Baba unwrapped
a piece of candy and waved it. Little
Sister ran eagerly toward our aunt. Aunt
Baba handed the candy to Niang, who
waved it back and forth, attempting to
entice her daughter to go to her. Reject
ing the bribe and becoming annoyed,
Little Sister ran to the candy dish in
stead and tipped all the candies onto the
carpet.
Growing visibly impatient, Niang ap
proached Little Sister while we
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scrambled to pick up the candies. “Bad
girl!” fouryearold Fourth Brother
screamed at his baby sister.
“You shouldn’t have done that!” Big
Sister added in a stern voice, trying to
curry favor with Niang. The rest of us
remained silent.
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“Don’t want you!” Little Sister said
directly to Niang in a distinct voice.
“Don’t like you. Go away!”
Surprised and hurt, Niang bent down
to pick up her baby, who was wriggling
and resisting with all her might. An un
natural hush fell upon the room. All
eyes were on them as mother and
daughter struggled. Little Sister was
now howling at the top of her voice
while tears rolled down her little cheeks.
“Don’t want you!” she repeated loudly.
“Aunt Baba! Aunt Baba! Tell her to go
away! Go away!”
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No one said a word as Niang carried
her weeping and kicking child and
placed her firmly on the couch next to
her. Little Sister was pushing blindly
against her mother’s neck and face, now
red and contorted with frustration.
“Keep still!” Niang screamed futilely
again and again in a piercing voice. In
the melee, the string holding her pearls
broke and the precious gems tumbled
one by one, rolling across the carpet,
onto the wooden floor.
This proved simply too much for Ni
ang. Thoroughly exasperated, she gave
her baby’s face a stinging slap. Little
Sister only cried more loudly. Deliber
ately and viciously, Niang now set about
beating her daughter in earnest. Her
blows landed indiscriminately on Little
Sister’s ears, cheeks, neck and head.
Everyone cowered as the punishment
went on and on. The grownups avoided
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looking at each other, while we children
shrank into our seats.
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I couldn’t understand why Father, Ye
Ye and Aunt Baba were making no at
tempt to stop the assault. Why wasn’t
anyone objecting? I wanted to run away
but dared not move. I knew I should re
main silent but words choked me and I
felt compelled to spit them out. Finally I
could bear it no longer. Quaking with
terror, I blurted out, “Don’t beat her
anymore. She is only a baby!”
My protest seemed to halt Niang in
the midst of her frenzy. Little Sister’s
screams also simmered down to a
whimper. Niang glared at me. Her large,
prominent eyes appeared to be popping
out of their orbits with fury.
“How dare you?” she said through
her teeth. For a few seconds, I was fear
ful she was going to pounce on me
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instead. Across the room, Aunt Baba
gave me a warning look and a slight
shake of her head, telling me to say no
more.
In those few moments, we had under
stood everything. Not only about Niang,
but also about all the grownups. Now
that Nai Nai was dead, there was no
doubt who was in charge.
Fuming with rage, Niang slowly ex
tended her right arm and pointed her
index finger at me. I felt panicstricken
and saw only my stepmother’s long, red,
perfectly manicured fingernail aimed
straight at me. Then I heard her words,
loaded with malice, which made my
heart jump and the hair stand up on the
back of my neck. “Get out!” she snarled
in a cold, distinctive voice. “I shall never
forgive you! Never! Never! Never! You’d
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better watch out from now on! You will
pay for your arrogance!”
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Though Father sent us to expensive
missionary schools, he and Niang insti
tuted an austerity program to teach us
the value of money. To begin with, we
were given no pocket money whatso
ever, not even the tram fare. We had
nothing to wear except our school uni
forms. Big Sister and I were ordered to
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keep our haircuts short, straight and
oldfashioned. For my three brothers, it
was much worse. Their heads were
shaved bald in the style of Buddhist
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monks, and they were teased merci
lessly by their peers.
My school was a mile and a half from
home, immediately adjacent to Big
Sister’s school. The number eight tram
ran directly from door to door. St.
John’s Academy was three miles away
and could be reached by the same num
ber eight tram traveling in the opposite
direction.
When Ye Ye first arrived in Shanghai,
we begged him for money and he gave
us our tram fare to go to school. Two
months later, Ye Ye had spent all his
money and he brought up the subject
one evening. Dinner was almost over
and everyone was eating fruit when
Aunt Baba mentioned that she had de
cided to go back to work as a bank teller
at Grand Aunt’s bank. This was prob
ably her way of reminding Father that
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she and Ye Ye had run out of money for
their daily needs. We were holding our
breath on their behalf.
Father and Niang looked annoyed.
“You don’t need to work like a common
er,” Father said. “You have everything
you need here. Besides, Ye Ye enjoys
your companionship at home. If either
of you needs money, why don’t you
come to us and ask? I’ve told you both
before that if I’m busy or in the office,
all you have to do is to speak to Jeanne
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[Niang] here and she’ll give it to you.”
“How is this possible?” I asked my
self. “Where is Ye Ye’s own money? Is
he no longer head of our family? Why
is he suddenly and mysteriously de
pendent on Father and Niang for pock
et money?” It made me cringe to think
of my gentle and dignified grandfather
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begging for pocket money from my
haughty stepmother.
“You are both so generous and em
ploy so many servants that I find little I
can do to help,” Aunt Baba replied po
litely. “The children are away all day at
school. Going out to work every day will
get me out of the house and give me
something to do.”
Father now appealed to Ye Ye. “What
do you think? Won’t you miss her?”
“Let her work if that’s what she en
joys,” Ye Ye answered. “She likes to
spend her salary on playing mahjongg
and buying treats for the children. By
the way, I meant to mention this to you
before. The children should be given a
regular weekly allowance.”
“What for?” Father asked, turning to
us. “Hasn’t everything been provided
for you?”
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“Well, for one thing,” replied Big
Sister, speaking on behalf of all of us,
“we need the tram fare daily to go to
school.”
“Tram fare?” Niang interjected
sharply. “Who told you you could ride
the tram? Why can’t you walk? Exercise
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is good for you.”
“It’s too far to walk to St. John’s. By
the time we get there, it’ll be time to
turn around and go home again,” Big
Brother said.
“Nonsense!” Father exclaimed.
“Walking is good for growing children
like you.”
“I loathe walking!” Big Brother
grumbled. “Especially first thing in the
morning.”
“How dare you contradict your fath
er!” Niang threatened. “If he orders you
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to walk to school, then it’s your duty to
obey him. Do you hear?”
We were cowed into silence and
looked toward Ye Ye, expecting him to
come to our defense, but he kept his
eyes on his plate and went on peeling
his apple. Big Sister suddenly took the
plunge. “Ye Ye has always given us
pocket money. We’re used to going to
school by tram. Nobody in my class
walks to school. Most of my classmates
are driven there in private cars.”
Niang became enraged. “Your father
works so hard to support everyone un
der this roof!” she exclaimed in a loud,
angry voice, shooting a quick glance at
Ye Ye and Aunt Baba. “How sneaky you
all are to get money from Ye Ye without
your father’s knowledge! We send you
to expensive schools so you’ll grow up
correctly. We certainly don’t want you
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to be coddled into becoming idle lay
abouts. From now on, all of you are for
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bidden to go behind our backs to
trouble Ye Ye or Aunt Baba for money.
Do you hear?”
Though her remarks were addressed
to us, they were obviously meant for Ye
Ye and Aunt Baba as well. She paused
briefly and then continued, “We’re not
saying you’re never to ride the tram
again. We merely want you to acknow
ledge your past errors. Admit you’ve
been wrong. Promise you’ll change for
the better. Come to us and apologize.
Tell us from now on you will behave dif
ferently. We’ll give you the tram fare
only if you’re truly contrite.”
The room was completely still. The
only sound I heard was that of Ye Ye
chomping on his apple. Surely he was
going to say something to put Niang in
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her place! The maids hustled around
with hot, moist towels for us to wipe our
fingers and mouths. Then Niang spoke
again in a sugary tone, looking directly
at Ye Ye with a smile, “These tangerines
are so juicy and sweet. Here, do have
one! Let me peel it for you.”
At first we were all mad! The whole
tramfare issue was obviously somehow
tied up with the establishment of a new
hierarchy within our family. Now that
Nai Nai was dead, was Niang going to
take over? We told each other we would
always be loyal to Ye Ye. If necessary,
we in tended to walk to school forever
(or at least until graduation) to show
our allegiance to him.
Ten days later, I spotted Big Sister
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getting off the tram at the stop closest to
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our lane. Though she ignored me and I
dared not say anything to her, she had
obviously given in.
My three brothers held out week after
week. St. John’s was so far from home!
The weather turned cold and nasty.
They were getting up in the dark and re
turning home exhausted. One after an
other, they gradually knuckled under.
Though Ye Ye and Aunt Baba both
kept urging me to go downstairs and
beg for my tram fare, I just couldn’t do
it. Why? I hardly knew myself. So
mething to do with loyalty, fair play and
a sense of obligation. I did not discuss
this with anyone, not even Aunt Baba. I
simply couldn’t force myself to go to Ni
ang and admit that I (and therefore Ye
Ye) had erred in the past. Besides, it just
didn’t seem right to betray him,
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especially when I had begged for the
money from him in the first place.
When the rain pelted down in sheets,
and gales howled through the streets, I
would grit my teeth as I set about the
seemingly endless journey along Aven
ue Joffre. Arriving drenched at the
school gates, I tried not to look at my
schoolmates stepping daintily out of
rickshaws, pedicabs, and chauffeur
driven cars. I knew some of them
laughed at me behind my back and
whispered to each other that I took my
own number 11 Private Tram to school
daily, meaning that my legs carried me.
On Sunday afternoons, Niang fre
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quently called out for my siblings to
come downstairs to her bedroom
(which Third Brother had nicknamed
the Holy of Holies) and pick up their
tram fares. Hearing this, I’d feel a stab
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of anguish because I was the only one
always excluded. Big Sister sometimes
came back upstairs to show off by laying
her coins in a row on my bed and count
ing them aloud one by one in front of
me.
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We had been looking forward to
Chinese New Year for weeks. It was a
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holiday not only for all the schoolchil
dren in China, but for all the grownups
as well. Even Father was taking off three
whole days from work to celebrate. For
the first time since our departure from
Tianjin, a tailor had come to our house
to measure everyone for new outfits. In
China, new clothes were worn on New
Year’s Day to signal a new beginning.
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On New Year’s Eve, Father and Niang
summoned us down to the Holy of Hol
ies and gave us our new clothes. My
three brothers were terribly disappoin
ted to find three identical, loosefitting
long Chinese gowns made of dark blue
wool, with traditional mandarin collars
and cloth buttons. Big Sister was
handed a padded silk Chinese qipao. I
got a basic brown smock made of ma
terial left over from one of Big Sister’s
garments. Fourth Brother, however, re
ceived a stylish Western outfit with a
Peter Pan collar and matching tie and
belt, while Little Sister acquired a fash
ionable knitted pink dress bedecked
with ribbons and bows.
We five stepchildren trooped back
upstairs in disgust. My brothers threw
their robes on their beds contemptu
ously. They had been looking forward to
Westernstyle suits, shirts and ties. That
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was what their trendsetting school
mates were wearing at St. John’s.
“Trash!” Big Brother declared, tossing
his new garment in the air and kicking
it. “Who wants junk like this? You’d
think we’re still living in the Qing dyn
asty! As if it’s not bad enough to be
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called the three Buddhist monks! If they
see us dressed in these outdated antique
clothes, we might as well forget about
going to school altogether!”
“The other day,” Third Brother com
plained bitterly, “my desk partner asked
me when I was going to start growing a
pigtail and shaving my brow. ‘Maybe
you’re planning to be the new Emperor
Pu Yi and live in the Forbidden Palace!’
he told me.”
“What gets me,” Big Sister said, “is
the blatant inequality between her chil
dren and us. I wouldn’t mind if all seven
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of us were treated the same way. If they
really believed in traditional clothes,
then all seven children should be wear
ing them, not just the five of us.”
“Aside from the clothes,” Second
Brother interrupted, “what about our
shaved heads? I don’t see Fourth Broth
er sporting a Buddhist Monk Special!
Why, the little princeling has his hair
cut at the most fashionable children’s
hairstylist on Nanjing Lu. When he
stands next to us, it’s like we’ve stepped
out of two different centuries!”
“Here Father wants to teach us the
value of money,” Big Brother added,
“yet her children can order whatever
they desire from the kitchen at any hour
of the day or night. We’re supposed to
eat only three meals a day with congee
and preserved vegetables for breakfast
every morning, but I see Cook preparing
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bacon, eggs and toast, fresh berries and
melon for their breakfast. Last Sunday,
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I went into the kitchen and told Cook I
wanted a slice of bacon. The idiot won’t
even give me a straight answer. ‘I have
my orders,’ he told me. ‘Bacon is re
served for the first floor.’ One day, I’m
going to sock him in the mouth!”
“It’s really getting intolerable!” Big
Sister complained, lowering her voice
and motioning me to close the door. I
obeyed with alacrity, happy to be in
cluded. “We should be careful, though.
Niang has her spies. That new tutor
nanny she’s employed for her two chil
dren, that Miss Chien, she gives me the
creeps. She is so slimy and obsequious,
smiling and bowing all the time. Yester
day, she cornered me and invited me to
have afternoon tea with Fourth Brother
and Little Sister in their nursery. I never
saw such a spread—finger sandwiches,
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toasted buns, chestnut cream cake,
sausage rolls. Here we are restricted to
breakfast, lunch and dinner and
starving between meals, while our half
siblings are throwing their leftovers
from their balcony to Jackie in the
garden. It’s so unfair! Anyway, Miss
Chien kept quizzing me about Ye Ye,
Aunt Baba, all of you and what we think
of Niang. Of course I didn’t reveal any
thing. I’m sure whatever I’d have said
would have been reported straight back
to our stepmother.”
“I simply detest that sneaky stool pi
geon Miss Chien.” Big Brother con
fessed, “Day before yesterday, Father
calls the three of us down to the Holy of
Holies. Big lecture! ‘Miss Chien says
that one of you was playing with the tap
of the filtered water tank on the stair
way. How many times have I told you
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not to drink out of that tank? It’s
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permanently out of bounds to you, do
you hear? If you want drinking water,
you get it from the hotwater Thermos
flask in the kitchen. Otherwise you boys
have a habit of leaving the tap turned on
when there is temporarily no water.
Later on, when the tap water percolates
through the filter, there is a big pool of
water on the stairs. Your mother has
had enough of it!’ So we deny that we
even touched the tap. Does he believe
us? Of course not! I told Father that I
personally observed Miss Chien fiddling
around with the tap early that morning.
Probably nobody ever warned her about
how finicky the water tank is. What’s
the end result? Father chooses to be
lieve her and we each got two lashes
from the dog whip! The liar! I hate her!”
“This just can’t go on,” Big Sister de
clared. “Let’s get organized! If we unite
together and protest in one voice, they
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won’t ignore us. What about a hunger
strike? That’s sure to get their attention!
Are you ready to join us, Fifth Younger
Sister (Wu Mei, )?”
I was thrilled that Big Sister was ad
dressing me personally. “Of course I
am!” I exclaimed ardently. “But I don’t
think a hunger strike will work. They’ll
probably be very happy that we’re not
eating. Five less mouths to feed, that’s
all. For a hunger strike to succeed,
they’ve got to care whether we live or
die.”
“I’m for a revolution!” Second Broth
er exclaimed. “Outandout war! We go
to the kitchen, open the refrigerator, eat
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what we want and face the con
sequences. What can they do? The
food’s already in our stomachs being di
gested. Won’t be so easy to get it back
out.”
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“You’re always so impulsive and
volatile!” Big Brother exclaimed critic
ally. “Just like that rash general Zhang
Fei ( ) in the Three Countries War.
We’ve got to be more subtle and patient.
Diplomacy and subterfuge are always
superior to confrontation. Let’s ask for a
private conference with Father and
point out the inequities in a calm, logic
al fashion.”
“It won’t work!” Third Brother
counseled. “Father’ll never come to the
table without Niang. What about an an
onymous letter written in Chinese sent
to Father through the mail? Niang
doesn’t read any Chinese. Big Sister
could write it with brush and ink. Her
handwriting is excellent and can pass
for that of an adult!”
“Brilliant idea!” exclaimed Big Sister.
“Let’s draft the letter now!” We hunched
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over the table muttering suggestions,
becoming more and more excited at our
escapade. Third Brother decided he
might as well go to the bathroom and
relieve himself while the letter was be
ing written. He yanked open the door,
stepped outside and, to his horror, al
most collided with Niang, who was
standing immediately behind the portal
with her ear glued against it.
Ashenfaced and petrified, he stared
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dumbly at our stepmother without fully
closing the door while she looked down
at him disdainfully. There was a deathly
silence as they regarded each other.
Third Brother started to tremble with
terror.
Slowly, Niang raised her right index
finger against her lips, warning him not
to make a sound. She then waved him
on with her open left hand.
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In the bathroom (as he told us a few
moments later), Third Brother locked
the door carefully behind him. Recalling
Niang’s intimidating stare, sphinxlike
immobility and expression of distinctive
menace, he was seized by a surge of
nausea. How long had she been listen
ing? What had she heard? Was every
one still plotting? Would they send him
away from home? Where could he go?
He vomited again and again, rinsing his
mouth out over and over at the tap,
dreading the moment of truth. If only
he could postpone his return indefin
itely and stay here forever! Alone. Unin
volved. Away from everyone. Behind a
locked door…
A thought suddenly hit him like a
blow. What if Niang was still waiting for
him to go back? Could his absence be
construed as a deliberate warning to the
others that something was afoot? How
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long had he been away? He felt his
mouth go dry as he quickly flushed the
toilet and stumbled out. His legs
seemed to keep buckling under in an ex
traordinary way.
He hurried back and noticed at once
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that no one was standing outside his
bedroom door. A wave of relief washed
over him. True, the door was still
slightly ajar, the way he’d left it. But Ni
ang was no longer there. He could
clearly hear the murmur of Big Sister’s
voice, tinged with purpose and excite
ment, drifting down the corridor. Niang
must have caught every word.
He returned and collapsed in his seat,
absolutely drained. “It’s over! We’re
doomed!” he cried tremulously, quaking
with fear. In a leaden voice, he related
his encounter with Niang outside the
bedroom door.
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A profound and uneasy silence came
over us. We stared at each other, dumb
founded. Slowly but methodically, we
set about destroying all the draft copies
of the incriminating “anonymous” letter
of appeal to Father. Big Sister tore the
paper into shreds while muttering,
“Deny everything!” over and over. Big
Brother lit a match and reduced the
whole lot to ashes, which we scattered
outside the window. When the dinner
bell rang, we trooped downstairs stoic
ally to face the music, telling each other
we were in this together and would res
ist with a united front.
We were prepared for confrontation,
but dinner came and went without in
cident. In fact, Niang seemed more cor
dial than usual, reminding us that the
next day was Chinese New Year. We
should dress in our new clothes. As a
special treat, we would be served a
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salted duck egg for breakfast; then
Father would take us for a drive in his
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motorcar along the Bund (the grand
embankment along the river), ending
with a visit to Grand Aunt’s bank at 480
Nanjing Lu, where we had all been in
vited to lunch.
When we returned upstairs after din
ner and still nothing had been men
tioned, we could hardly believe our
good luck. We began to question Third
Brother’s sanity—had he imagined that
Niang had overheard us?—but he stuck
to his story. “Perhaps,” he suggested
darkly, “we’re being kept deliberately in
a state of uncertainty because that’s
what Niang most enjoys. The catand
mouse game.” Once again, we began to
feel sick with apprehension, but there
was nothing we could do but wait.
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What Niang decided to do was divide
our loyalty by recruiting our leader, Big
Sister, over to “their” side.
The next day, as we rose from the
table after a festive New Year’s dinner,
Niang smiled at Big Sister and invited
her to move downstairs into a spare
bedroom on the second floor, their
floor.
Her offer aroused a number of dis
turbing emotions among us.
After Big Sister (Da Jie, ) moved
down to the second floor, she started as
suming airs and distancing herself from
those of us left on the floor above. She
yearned to gain Niang’s ( ) favor and
gradually came to realize the import
ance of being on good terms with Miss
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Chien. The latter shared a room with
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Niang’s ( ) two children and catered to
their every wish, particularly those of
Fourth Brother ( ), Niang’s ( ) favor
ite darling. As the days went by, Big
Sister’s (Da Jie, ) attitude toward
Miss Chien underwent a profound
change. The two became friends, bound
by a mutual aptitude and appetite for
intrigue. Big Sister (Da Jie, ) would
scurry around to Niang ( ) at every op
portunity to list her grievances against
her former allies, fawning on those in
favor and gossiping about those fallen
from grace. She vaunted her newfound
power to instill fear, and Niang ( ) re
warded her with special favors: gifts,
pocket money, outings with friends.
There were no more private gather
ings among the five of us, let alone an
onymous letters to Father.
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Full of envy and discontent, we four
met to discuss the situation.
“Why is she being so favored?” Big
Brother asked. “This has been especially
noticeable since Niang eaves dropped
on us on New Year’s Eve. Niang must
have learned then that Big Sister is our
socalled leader. She is the only one
capable of disguising her handwriting to
write a credible anonymous letter to
Father in Chinese. What’s going on
between her and Niang? I don’t trust
either of them. They are two of a kind
and will hatch up something horrible
when they team up like this.”
“She has allegiance to Niang written
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all over her face,” Second Brother ad
ded. “She makes me sick.”
“She probably makes up outrageous
lies about us and adds oil and soy sauce
to everything Niang likes to hear,”
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agreed Third Brother. “Her method of
getting ahead is to inform on everyone
up here.”
“The maids were moving furniture in
to her room yesterday. The door was
open so I went in,” confided Big Broth
er. “Do you know she now has her own
writing desk and chest of drawers? Here
the three of us have to share a room, but
she not only has a room to herself but a
lacy white bedspread and curtains to
match! While I was looking around she
sneaked behind me and tapped me on
the shoulder. ‘In future, knock and ask
permission before coming in here!’ she
commanded. I almost threw up when I
heard her aggressive and overbearing
voice! You’d think she had turned into
Niang herself!”
“She has obviously defected,” Third
Brother related. “The way she struts
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around! Yesterday I was coming up the
stairs when I saw Big Sister at the door
way of Fourth Brother’s bedroom, beg
ging him for a ‘teenyweeny’ piece of
chocolate cake to tide her over until din
ner. It made me ill to watch her sucking
up to the wily little squirt! Groveling
and demeaning herself like that! What
sort of leader is she anyway? Whose
side is she on? I’d rather starve to death
than lick the boots of Fourth Brother.”
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Big Brother turned to me. “I saw Big
Sister with her arm around you yester
day asking you questions. Beware of
her! She is an expert at feigning affec
tion. Don’t trust her or tell her any
thing! Otherwise you’ll get hurt. Just re
member, she is not like other people’s
big sisters! She doesn’t love anyone, cer
tainly not you. If she can, she will do
you in!”
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There was no doubt about it. In no
time at all, Big Sister had completely
gone over to the other side.
I grew even closer to my aunt. Our room
became my refuge. Coming home from
school every afternoon, I was ever so
glad to cross its threshold, close the
door and spread out my books. Doing
homework was the only way to cushion
myself from the harrowing uncertain
ties all around.
I knew Niang loathed me and des
pised my aunt. It saddened me that
Aunt Baba seemed to be under a life
sentence of subordination. Though I
was little, I understood the awkward
ness of her position: how Niang’s wishes
always took precedence, how she had to
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demonstrate caution, submission and
humility at every turn.
I found it impossible to speak of this
to anyone. It was simply too painful. In
stead, I tried to make it up to my aunt
by studying hard and getting perfect re
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port cards. Besides, that seemed to be
the only way to please my father or get
any attention from him whatsoever.
I was seven years old and in the second
grade. The girls in my class nicknamed
me Genius, partly because of my perfect
scholastic record, but also because of
my compositions and short stories.
I started writing by accident. Mrs.
Lin, my Chinese literature teacher,
whose daughter Lin Taotao was my
classmate, once gave our class a home
work assignment to write a composition
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titled “My Best Friend.” Most girls
wrote about their mothers. I didn’t
know mine so I wrote of my aunt.
My aunt and I share a room.
She is my best friend and cares
about me in every way. Not only
about my hair, my clothes and
how I look; but also about my
studies, my thoughts and what I
am. Though I am really nothing,
she makes me believe I am special.
When I get a good report card, she
locks it in her safedeposit box,
and wears the key around her neck
even when she sleeps, as if my
grades were her most cherished
treasures.
My mama and my aunt used to
be best friends. Sometimes I
dream of my mama on my walks
to and from school. I think Mama
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magic castle. One day, if I am
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really good and study very hard,
she will ride down on a cloud to
rescue me and take me to live with
her. Nothing in Shanghai can
compare with her place. It’s a
fairyland full of fragrant flowers,
towering pines, lovely rocks, soar
ing bamboos and chirping birds.
Every child can enter without a
ticket and girls are treated the
same as boys. No one is sneered at
or scolded without a reason. It’s
called Paradise.
Mrs. Lin gave me a high mark and
pinned my composition on the bulletin
board. From then on, I wrote whenever
I had a spare moment. It thrilled me to
bring my literary efforts to school, and
to see my classmates pass them illicitly
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from desk to desk. Groups of girls
would gather around me during recess
to discuss my stories, or to hear me read
aloud the latest escapades of my ima
ginary heroines.
To me, writing was pure pleasure. It
thrilled me to be able to escape the hor
rors of my daily life in such a simple
way. When I wrote, I forgot that I was
an unwanted daughter who had caused
her mother’s death. Instead, I could be
anybody I wished to be. In my narrat
ives, I poured out everything that I
dared not say out loud. I was friends
with the beautiful princesses and dash
ing knights who lived in my imagina
tion. I was no longer the lonely little girl
bullied by her siblings. Instead I was the
female warrior Mulan, who would res
cue her aunt and Ye Ye from harm.
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In time, my stories became real to my
schoolmates also. Once I used the sur
name Lin ( ) to portray a villain. Lin
Taotao read the tale, angrily erased Lin
and scribbled Yen ( , my family name)
in its place. A quarrel ensued between
us, each one enraged because the other
had used her name in such a fashion.
When I tried to erase my name and re
insert hers, Lin Taotao suddenly burst
into tears.
“It’s only makebelieve!” I protested,
feeling ashamed for having made her
cry.
“No! It isn’t! You know it isn’t! Look,
you’re rubbing so hard, you’ve made a
hole in the paper!”
We both stared at the hole—and sud
denly it struck me that we were arguing
over nothing. I pointed to the hole and
started to giggle. “We’re quarreling over
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a hole,” I told her. “A hole is nothing!
We’re fighting about nothing!”
Soon she was laughing too. “How
about calling your villain Wuming ( ,
No Name)?” she suggested. “That way,
nothing becomes No Name and nobody
gets mad at anybody!”
“Brilliant! Let’s shake hands on that!”
So the title of my story became “The
Villain with No Name.”
In spite of my writing and academic re
cord, my classmates probably suspected
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there was something pathetic about me.
I never spoke of my family, neither is
sued nor accepted any invitations out
side school, and always refused to eat
the candies and snacks brought by my
friends. My hairstyle, shoes, socks and
book bag did not inspire envy. No one
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from home ever came to be with me on
prizegiving day, regardless of how
many awards I had won.
They didn’t know that in front of
them, I was desperate to keep up the
pretense that I came from a normal,
loving family. I couldn’t possibly tell
anyone the truth: how worthless and
ugly Niang made me feel most of the
time; how I was held responsible for
any misfortune and was resented for
simply being around; how my mind was
racked with anxiety and constantly
burdened by an impending sense of
doom. How I simply loathed myself and
wished I could disappear, especially
when I was in front of my parents.
The worst of it was that I could see no
way out. That was why I found it hard to
fall asleep and sometimes still wet my
bed. But if I tried to be really good and
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studied very very hard, perhaps things
would become different one day, I
would think. Meanwhile, I must not tell
anyone how bad it really was. I should
just go to school every day and carry in
side me this dreadful loneliness, a secret
I could never share. Otherwise it would
be over, and Father and Niang would
never come to love me.
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Of all the girls in my class at Sheng Xin
( ), Wu Chunmei was the most ath
letic. She came from one of Shanghai’s
wealthiest merchant families and lived
in an imposing mansion near the
French Club, which I passed daily on
my way to and from school. Her father
had spurned commerce for medicine
and attended medical school in the Un
ited States, where Chunmei was born.
Her mother was a wellknown artist and
book illustrator. Being an only
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daughter, Chunmei was privileged in
many ways.
I first noticed Wu Chunmei when we
played shuttlecock against each other
one day during recess. A shuttlecock
was a rounded piece of cork with feath
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ers stuck on top. When the shuttlecock
was hit to and fro with a racket across a
net, the game was called badminton. At
Sheng Xin, we sometimes used the
shuttlecock to play a different game. We
would kick it up and down and add up
the number of kicks made without in
terruption. The girl with the highest
number of kicks was the winner.
I had always considered myself a
skillful player, but my first game against
Wu Chunmei turned into an exhibition
featuring my opponent’s talent. Unlike
the rest of us, who counted ourselves
pretty lucky if we could kick the
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shuttlecock fifteen times in a row, Wu
Chunmei could go on indefinitely.
While kicking the shuttlecock front
ways, sideways and behind her, she
could also clap her hands, twist her legs
and even turn her body all the way
around.
In due course, I became more and
more impressed by Wu Chunmei’s ath
letic skills. She had strength, agility, co
ordination and amazing prowess at all
types of physical games, especially Ping
Pong, badminton and volleyball. Best of
all, she possessed a singleminded
fierceness, a fearless loyalty toward her
teammates. Like me, she also loved to
read. Unlike me, she was able to bring
to school an incredible variety of chil
dren’s books—many translated from
foreign languages—which she gener
ously lent to everyone.
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One morning, on her way to school in
her father’s chauffeurdriven car, she
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saw me plodding along, carrying my
heavy schoolbag. She asked her driver
to stop and offered me a lift. Though
sorely tempted, I had no choice but to
refuse, saying with a laugh that I en
joyed walking. Chunmei made nothing
of it until two weeks later. It had been
raining very hard, and the streets were
flooded. There were typhoon warnings,
and school had been let out early. Many
of the girls were stranded, waiting to be
picked up by their families. Chunmei
had phoned her father, who came at
once in his car to fetch her. On their
way home they saw me sloshing
through ankledeep water. Wu Chun
mei stopped the car and rolled down the
window. “Who’s this lone small figure
struggling along deserted Avenue Joffre
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braving the elements?” her father asked.
“How about a ride?”
“No, no thank you!” I began, desper
ately clutching my schoolbag with one
hand and my umbrella with the other.
“It’s fun to walk in a big storm like
this—” As I spoke, a gust of wind almost
lifted me off the pavement. My umbrella
turned inside out and I was blown side
ways against a lamppost.
Dr. Wu got out of his car and stood in
the pouring rain, looking almost angry.
“Don’t you know it’s dangerous to walk
in weather like this?” he asked. Then he
bundled me into the backseat. I was
drenched from head to toe. The water in
my shoes made a puddle on the car mat.
Rivulets of water dripped from my hair,
which was plastered against my head. I
had no raincoat. My uniform stuck to
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me, and I was shivering. I knew I looked
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awful but felt I must keep up appear
ances. So I smiled and spoke of the
storm as if it were a great adventure. At
the entrance to my lane, I insisted on
getting out and walking to my house be
cause I was terrified of getting into
trouble for having accepted a lift. I
simply could not run the risk of having
Niang see me being driven to the front
door in a car. They must have thought I
was mad when I stepped back into the
storm.
Wu Chunmei and I became friends and
partnered each other when we played
doubles in PingPong or badminton.
She lent me her books, and I helped her
with arithmetic. Though Chunmei ex
celled in English and spoke it without
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an accent, she was hopeless at math and
often came under the teacher’s fire.
Though her chauffeured car invari
ably awaited her when school finished,
she often chose to walk with me until we
reached her house, with her driver trail
ing behind at a snail’s pace. In the
morning, if she happened upon me
trudging along, she would order her
driver to stop and would hop out and
accompany me all the way.
In August 1945, when I was almost
eight years old, America dropped the
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atom bomb on Japan. This ended the
Second World War. America was the
new conqueror.
At school, we were given surplus C ra
tions for our lunch, left by China’s new
heroes, the U.S. marines. We ate hard
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biscuits, canned meat and chunks of
bittersweet chocolate. After each meal,
we prayed and thanked our American
allies for winning the war.
Hollywood movies swept into Shang
hai like a tidal wave. There was a craze
for everything American. One day in
September 1945, all the children in my
school were bused to the Bund to wel
come the American soldiers. Along with
my schoolmates, I cheered, waved wel
coming flags, curtsied and presented
bouquets. American minesweepers,
cruisers and flagships clogged the
muddy waters of the Huangpu River.
Hotels and office buildings on the Bund
were taken over by the U.S. Navy and
other American servicemen.
Photographs of American movie stars
adorned bill boards and magazine cov
ers. Clark Gable, Vivien Leigh, Lana
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Turner and Errol Flynn became house
hold names. Their popularity soared.
One schoolmate two years ahead of us
in form five actually received an auto
graphed photo from Clark Gable, sent
all the way to Shanghai from Holly
wood, California. She was surrounded
by half the school at recess. We were
borne on a frenzy of excitement at the
sight of the picture of the handsome
actor, each of us clamoring to hold him
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in our hands and gaze into his dreamy
eyes—even if just for a few seconds.
About then, Wu Chunmei lent me a
book titled A Little Princess, translated
from English into Chinese. She told me
it was one of her favorites and had been
written by an English author named
Frances Hodgson Burnett. This fairy
tale of sevenyearold, motherless Sara
Crewe, who started life as an heiress,
turned overnight into a penniless
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servant girl and eventually changed her
life through her own efforts gripped my
imagination as no other book had ever
done before. I read it again and again,
suffered Sara’s humiliation, cried over
her despair, mourned the loss of her
father and savored her final triumph. I
kept it so long that Wu Chunmei be
came impatient and demanded its re
turn. Coming from a secure and happy
home, Wu Chunmei could not grasp
the impact this message of hope had
upon me. For the first time, I realized
that adults could be wrong in their judg
ment of a child. If I tried hard enough to
become a princess inside, like Sara
Crewe, perhaps I too might one day re
verse everyone’s poor opinion of me.
Reluctant to relinquish my newfound
treasure, I begged to keep it for another
two weeks. Laboriously and doggedly, I
copied the book word for word into two
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exercise books during this grace period,
committed parts of it to memory, and
slept with it under my pillow until the
manuscript became tattered.
Though Wu Chunmei and I spent
numerous school hours together, not
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once did I mention my family or hint at
the presence of a stepmother. In many
ways, I envied my friend. As much as
possible, in front of her, I pretended
that I had loving parents too. It was
simply too painful to admit the truth be
cause then the dream would vanish
forever.
During the spring term of 1946, when I
was eight years old and in the third
grade, Father took Niang, Big Sister,
Fourth Brother and Little Sister north
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to reclaim his Tianjin properties. They
stayed away for three months.
It was a glorious spring and early
summer. Though outwardly everything
remained the same while my parents
were away, in reality nothing was the
same. The four of us left behind stepped
back through time into a cheerful, buoy
ant and lighthearted era that we had al
most forgotten.
My two oldest brothers started stay
ing late after school to play with their
friends. They refused to submit any
more to having their heads shaved, in
sisting on crew cuts as a compromise.
They raided the refrigerator at will and
ate whatever they fancied. They started
taking an interest in girls, whistling
after pretty ones the way the American
boys did in Hollywood movies.
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One Sunday morning at breakfast,
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Big Brother pushed aside his usual con
gee and preserved vegetables and told
the maid his palate needed a change.
“Seeing it’s Sunday, how about a nice
hardboiled salted duck egg?” the maid
suggested.
“What does Sunday have to do with
anything? I’m tired of preserved veget
ables and salted duck eggs. Bring me a
big omelette, made with lots of chicken
eggs! Put some ham in it! That’s what I
feel like eating.”
“Young Master (Shao Ye, )! You
know that chicken eggs are not allowed.
Cook has orders from above. You’ll get
us all in trouble.”
“If you’re too cowardly to talk to
Cook, I’ll tackle the brute myself!” Big
Brother sprang up and stomped into the
kitchen. Relishing his new role as Young
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Master (Shao Ye, ) of the house in the
absence of Father, he ordered Cook to
make him the “biggest omelette of his
life,” with loads of ham and plenty of
scallions. A battle ensued.
“We have specific instructions from
your mother that chicken eggs are in
tended only for those on the first floor,”
announced Cook haughtily, his whole
posture oozing righteous indignation.
“Besides, there are not enough eggs on
hand to make such an omelette as you
have in mind.”
“Not enough eggs, eh?” challenged
Big Brother. “We shall see about that!”
He started a systematic search, begin
ning with the refrigerator and ending in
the larder, retrieving every egg he could
find. He then methodically broke them
one by one into a giant bowl.
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Meanwhile, offended by Big Brother’s
trespass into his domain and violation
of his “orders from above,” Cook was
saying frostily, “I’ll have to report this
egg hunt of yours. Just as I am going to
mention to your parents about your ‘air
mail letters.’”
He was referring to messages sent to
two pretty sisters who lived immedi
ately behind us. Their thirdfloor bed
room window faced the rear window of
my brothers’ room, separated only by
an alleyway. The boys amused them
selves by wrapping scribbled notes
around hard candies, then using
rubberband slings to catapult them
across. The day before, an errant missile
had unfortunately landed on the bald
head of our neighbors’ cook, who had
rushed over to our house to complain
loudly to his counterpart.
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Chagrined but defiant, Big Brother
blithely whipped up all the eggs, added
ham and scallions, and made himself a
kingsize sixteenegg omelette. “You can
inform on me all you want! But first I’m
going to treat myself to a decent break
fast for once, whether they approve or
not! As for your buddy, the thump to his
head will probably stimulate his conk to
sprout a full head of hair again! He
should thank me for doing him the fa
vor!” With that, he sailed into the dining
room with his omelette and emptied his
plate with relish.
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Aunt Baba, who had been working full
time as a bank teller, felt freer during
this period to spend most evenings and
weekends after work playing mahjongg
with her friends. Ye Ye grew close to
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Third Brother and me and often escor
ted the two of us to picnics at Du Mei
Gardens, a public park one tram stop
from home.
Cook would prepare wonderful sand
wiches for us: thick layers of eggs
flavored with mushrooms and ham,
pocketed into loaves of fresh, crusty
French baguettes. I used to chase Third
Brother along the winding paths of the
meticulously manicured arbor, hide be
hind giant sycamore trees and roll
across the lush green lawn, which
spread out as far as my eyes could see.
Feeling happy and relaxed, I would
watch Third Brother imitating Ye Ye in
his Tai Chi exercises; stand on tiptoe
and crane my neck to catch a glimpse of
famous players competing in Chinese
chess; and listen to professional
storytellers spinning yarns about kung
fu heroes. Sometimes, if we were lucky,
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a band would be playing music from the
domed pavilion in the center of the
park.
We would play for hours, pretending
to be wellknown characters from
Chinese folklore, taking turns as the
hero or villain. When Third Brother was
away from our two oldest brothers and
Big Sister, he seemed to turn into a dif
ferent person.
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“I like you much better when I play
only with you,” I confided one day. “You
don’t order me around or make me be
the bad person all the time when we
play Three Countries War. You are fair,
while the others despise me.”
“It all stems from our mama dying
when you were born. Big Sister and our
two older brothers knew her better than
I did. I only remember her a little.
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Things were much nicer when she was
alive. You made her go away.”
“We all live in our big house and it’s
full of people, but it’s a lonely place,” I
said. “I can’t wait to grow up and get
away. I’ll take Ye Ye and Aunt Baba with
me. You can come too if you like. It’s
not only Niang. Big Sister and Second
Brother are always picking on me too.
They hate it when I lead my class and
Father praises me. Then they’re espe
cially mean. They think I don’t know,
but I do.”
“It’s pretty bad for me too, sharing a
room with our two big brothers. When
things don’t go well, they take it out on
me. Big Brother yells at me and Second
Brother beats me up and grabs my
stuff.”
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“How were things different when our
own mama was still alive? Do you some
times think of her too?”
“Of course! When she was with us,
everything was just nicer, and I remem
ber feeling safe all the time. Wouldn’t it
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be splendid if we could go visit her
where she is now? Away from our real
home, where I have to be careful not to
say the wrong thing.”
“But we can go visit her!” I said. “All
you have to do is close your eyes and
imagine it. I’ve seen her place before.
It’s so real I find it hard to tell whether I
saw it or dreamed it. She lives in a ma
gic garden high up in the clouds. Noth
ing in Shanghai can compare. It’s full of
trees, flowers, rocks and birds. All chil
dren are welcome. If no one knows
about her place and we keep it a secret,
then they can never find us. I wrote it all
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down once and showed it to Big Sister. I
asked her what our mama looked like,
because I couldn’t picture her face. Big
Sister said she didn’t remember.”
“Big Sister! How can you confide your
real feelings to Big Sister! How stupid
you are! If you want to know about our
mama, why don’t you ask Aunt Baba?
As for Big Sister, don’t trust her! Don’t
trust anyone! Be a cold fish, just like
me. Never get involved. That’s my
motto. I hurt no one. And no one can
hurt me.”
I thought over his advice. That even
ing, I broached the subject with my
aunt. “Tell me what my real mama
looked like. I have this key in my head
which enables me to enter the secret
kingdom where she lives, but I would
like to see her photograph. I can’t pic
ture her face.”
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“Your father has instructed me not to
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talk to you children about your dead
mother.” It seemed hard for Aunt Baba
to utter the words your dead mother.
“But I suppose you’re old enough now
to understand. There are no photo
graphs of her. Shortly after your grand
mother’s funeral three years ago, your
Father ordered all your mother’s photo
graphs destroyed.”
A week later, Shanghai was gripped by a
relentless, blistering heat wave. Finally,
Sunday came and there was no school.
Ye Ye and Aunt Baba had gone to the
Buddhist temple. It was early afternoon
and a heavy drowsiness shrouded the
entire house. I had just completed my
homework and was rereading my latest
report card while relaxing on my bed
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under the mosquito net. Though the
windows were open, there was no
breeze.
I was recalling the excitement in my
classroom two days before, when the
midterm exam grades were read out.
My classmates sat in rapt attention as
Teacher Lin rustled some papers and
looked for her glasses. I relived the tri
umph of hearing Teacher Lin announce,
“Yen Junling (my name outside the
family) has led the class again in every
subject except art. I commend her for
her hard work. Earlier this year the
school submitted one of her composi
tions to the Children’s Writing Competi
tion held by the Shanghai Newspaper
Association. I am glad to report that she
has won first prize for her age group
among all the primaryschool students
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in Shanghai. Yen Junling has brought
recognition to our Sheng Xin school.”
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Amidst loud clapping and the admira
tion of my peers, I stepped forward to
shake hands with Teacher Lin. She
handed me a special gold star to paste
on my report card, as well as a copy of
the newspaper in which my composition
had been published.
To everyone’s surprise and my de
light, my PingPong partner, Wu Chun
mei, received two special prizes: a
medal for being the outstanding athlete
of the whole school and a certificate for
showing the most improvement in
arithmetic. Wu Chunmei blushed with
pleasure when Teacher Lin pinned the
medal on her uniform. I whispered
“Champion” and patted her on the back
when she returned to her seat.
How wonderful life is at this mo
ment! I thought as I fanned myself and
wriggled my toes. With Father and
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Niang gone, the whole house seemed re
laxed and carefree. If only it weren’t so
hot!
I was scanning the other children’s
winning entries in the newspaper when
the maid came in and announced, “Your
brothers want you to go downstairs and
play with them in the dining room. They
have a treat for you!”
I was dizzy with excitement as I
crawled out from under my mosquito
net and slipped on my shoes. “Are all
three of my brothers playing in the din
ing room? Is Third Brother down there
too?”
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“Yes, they’re all there.”
How mysterious and delightful! My
three big brothers beckoning me to join
them! I ran downstairs eagerly, taking
the steps two at a time, then sliding
down the banister from the first floor to
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the ground floor. I burst in, panting for
breath.
They had been drinking orange juice
and put their glasses down when I
entered. On the dining table was a large
jug of juice and four glasses. Three were
empty and one was full.
“What a hot day!” Second Brother
began, bubbling with laughter. “I see
you’re sweating! We thought you’d like
a glass of juice to cool you down. Here,
this one’s for you!”
Something in his manner caused me
to hesitate. To be summoned by Second
Brother out of the blue and be treated
so royally was cause for suspicion. “Why
are you so nice to me all of a sudden?” I
asked.
At this he took offense. Moving
closer, he jostled me. “It’s because you
are again top of your class. In addition,
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you won that writing competition held
by the Shanghai Newspaper Associ
ation. Seeing Father isn’t here, we de
cided to reward you ourselves.”
“I don’t want it!” I cried as I pushed
the glass away.
“We even put ice in it so you’ll cool
down at once.” He picked up the glass
and the ice cubes tinkled. A film of
moisture had condensed on the glass’s
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cool surface.
Tempted, I turned to Big Brother.
“Did you make it specially for me?”
“We mixed it from this bottle of or
ange concentrate here. This is your
prize for being top of your class.
Custommade just for you!” My three
brothers could hardly contain them
selves with suppressed merriment.
I could feel the humid, oppressive
heat seeping through the walls. I eyed
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the cool glass of juice with its ice cubes
rapidly melting in a shaft of sunlight
slanting across the table. I lifted the
glass and turned to Third Brother, my
ally, knowing that he would never fail
me. “Can I drink this?” I asked, confid
ent he could be relied upon.
“Of course! Congratulations! We’re
proud of you!”
Convinced, I took a generous sip of
the icecold drink. The disgusting smell
of urine hit me like a mighty blow. My
brothers had mixed their urine with the
juice. Through the mirror hanging on
the wall, I could see them rolling on the
floor with hysterical laughter.
I ran upstairs to the bathroom to
wash out my mouth, knowing I had
been duped. Sweat poured down my
face and mingled with my tears as I
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sobbed quietly into the sink. In the suf
focating heat, I was shivering.
Meanwhile, my brothers had already
forgotten all about me. I could hear
them in the garden playing with Jackie
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and kicking a ball against the wall.
Pong! Pong! Pong! Woof! Woof! The
raucous sound of their laughter came
drifting up through the window.
Why was I crying? Surely, I was in
ured by now to their malice. What was it
that really bothered me? Their treach
ery and betrayal of my trust? No, not
quite, it was more complicated. Did
Third Brother truly understand what he
was up against? By wanting to have
things both ways and straddling the
fence, was he aware that each com
promise would chip away at his integ
rity? Yes! It was the loss of the nicest
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parts of Third Brother that saddened
me.
Next morning, on my way to school, Wu
Chunmei came out of her garden as
soon as she saw me. She challenged me
to a numbers game played with our fin
gers as we walked along, trailed as usual
by her chauffered car.
At a red light, an American Jeep
stopped beside us. Two tall, blond U.S.
sailors in smart, sharply creased white
uniforms shouted out in English, “Little
girls, do you know how to get to Avenue
Joffre?”
I said nothing because my English
was poor and I was shy. But Wu Chun
mei answered in her best American
English, “Actually, you’re on Avenue
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Joffre. It’s a very long street that goes
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on and on.”
They were delighted and astonished.
“Gee, thanks!” they said. One of them
added, “Here, you two, take this!” And
he handed Wu Chunmei a large basket
of luscious red persimmons.
During recess, we examined our
windfall and shared the fruit among our
friends. Though my classmates often
brought snacks, I never dared accept
because I knew I could never reciproc
ate in kind. This time, however, things
were different. Half the fruit had been
given to me.
Though bright red and perfectly
formed, the persimmons felt hard and
unripe. “Maybe we should keep them in
our desks and let them ripen before we
eat them,” I advised. “Raw persimmons
are so puckery on the tongue.”
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“You’re too cautious!” Wu Chunmei
said. “There are two types of persim
mons. The Fuyu persimmon is sup
posed to be eaten when it’s like this.
They’re crispy and sweet, just like
apples.”
“All right!” Lin Taotao said. “You
take a bite first, Wu Chunmei!”
Wu Chunmei took a big bite. “Deli
cious!” she exclaimed. “Just as I
thought!”
Reassured, we each bit into our
fruit—only to pucker up in total disgust.
But Wu Chunmei looked so impish and
mischievous that we soon all burst out
laughing.
During English class later that after
noon, we had a special visitor. An
impressivelooking middleaged Amer
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ican officer came in uniform to give us a
talk on Pearl Harbor. He was a chain
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smoker and our whole class was fascin
ated as we watched him. While his sen
tences were being translated by our
English teacher, he would take a deep
drag on his cigarette and, after an inter
val, let the smoke slowly escape from
his nostrils.
At the end of his speech, we clapped
politely. He then asked if there were any
questions. There was a pause.
“Surely,” he coaxed, “one of you
young ladies must be curious about
something!” He took another drag on
his cigarette. We stared at the tendrils
of smoke coming out of his nose.
Finally, after another embarassing
lull, Wu Chunmei raised her hand.
“Now, here is a brave young girl!” he
exclaimed. “What is your question, my
dear?”
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“I hope you don’t mind,” Wu Chun
mei asked in her flawless English. “But
can you make the smoke come out of
your ears too?”
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Not long after Father and Niang re
turned from Tianjin, Mr. and Mrs.
Huang came to visit. They brought gifts
for all seven of us children in a large
cardboard box with several holes
punched in the lid. Before her marriage,
Mrs. Huang had worked for a few years
at Grand Aunt’s bank, sharing a booth
with Aunt Baba and our real mama. The
Huangs therefore knew of Father’s first
marriage and the existence of all seven
children.
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This was highly unusual. Most of Ni
ang’s friends were unaware that she had
five stepchildren. Being only eleven
years older than Big Sister, Niang was
reluctant to admit she was a stepmoth
er. When asked, she often gave the im
pression that Father had only two chil
dren—Fourth Brother and Little Sister.
When we opened the gift box from
the Huangs, we were delighted to find
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seven baby ducklings. As usual, Fourth
Brother picked first, followed by Little
Sister, Big Sister, Big Brother, Second
Brother and Third Brother. By the time
my turn arrived, I was left with the tini
est, scrawniest baby bird. I picked her
up, cupped her in my hand and carried
her gingerly into my room. The little
duckling cocked her head to one side
and looked at me with dark, dewy round
eyes. She waddled unsteadily and
pecked the floor, looking for worms and
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seeds. She seemed so helpless with her
soft yellow feathers, slender twiggy legs
and small webbed feet. One gust of
wind and she would be blown away. I
felt very protective.
From that moment, I took the duck
ling to my heart. For the first time, I had
a pet of my very own. At school, I
proudly described my duckling to my
classmates. As I spoke, I felt a warm,
tender glow spreading all through me. I
named my duckling Precious Little
Treasure (Xiao Baobei, ). Wu Chun
mei advised me to call it PLT for short. I
couldn’t wait to rush home from school,
carry PLT to my room, bathe and feed
her, and do my homework with PLT
wandering between the beds and my
desk. It comforted me to know I was
needed.
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I told Wu Chunmei, “When I pick
PLT up from her pen on the roof ter
race, she cocks her head to one side and
chirps as if she recognizes me. As soon
as she sees me, she hurries over. I speak
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to her all the time and I think she’s be
ginning to understand. Can ducklings
learn to quack in the Shanghai dialect?
Would that sound different from
Mandarin quacks or English quacks?”
Wu Chunmei laughed. “I believe an
imals do understand us,” she replied.
“Perhaps not exactly your words but a
special language not made of words.
Maybe it’s the way you stand or how
you hold her. She knows she belongs to
you and you’ll look after her.”
As time went on, the friendship
between PLT and me deepened. When
Aunt Baba came home from the bank
one Friday, she overheard me talking.
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“Here are two worms I dug up from the
garden! Risked life and limb for you, my
friend! Jackie barked at me but I didn’t
stop. You’d better eat it all!”
Aunt Baba was both startled and
amused. “I just heard you speaking to
PLT as if she were your baby sister, in a
tone both proud and loving. Do you
think PLT understands what you’re say
ing?” she asked.
I nodded solemnly. “She likes me to
talk to her and feed her worms. She
knows I dug them up especially for her.
When she hears Jackie barking, she
scampers away from the window as if
she is afraid. When I get involved with
homework and ignore her, she comes
over to see what I’m doing. She knows a
lot! See, she is gazing at me now, want
ing to find out what we’re talking about.
She is a very curious bird indeed!”
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I crouched down and faced my pet.
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PLT’s body twittered and she chirped as
if she were chatting to a playmate. She
looked up and two round dark eyes
gazed out at me from her small yellow
head. “Look! Look! Aunt Baba! She has
eaten the worms! She lets me come so
close! Do you think she likes me too?
She senses she is safe and I’ll never
frighten her. She’s all mine. Tomorrow
is Saturday and I can dig for worms all
afternoon. Hooray!”
It was a glorious Saturday afternoon
when I set foot in the garden. A faint
cool breeze was blowing in from the
river, sweeping away the mist and
clouds. Magnolia blossoms were in full
bloom, dotting the tree like giant white
ribbon bows fringed by dark green
leaves, and scenting the air with a fresh,
delightful fragrance. Never had the sky
looked so blue.
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I squatted in the corner farthest from
Jackie’s doghouse and dug away with an
old iron spoon that Cook had discarded,
wishing I had a spade. I kept a wary eye
on Jackie, who was lying half in and half
out of his doghouse, watching me. His
mouth was open and he was panting
with his large tongue hanging out
between two rows of giant, sharp teeth.
Just as I knew PLT was my friend, I was
equally certain Jackie was not. He
would probably attack me if I rubbed
him the wrong way. I glanced at the
large, wolflike dog and shivered
involuntarily.
Soon I came upon a worm. I freed it
from the clumps of weeds, wet leaves
and mud and placed it in a paper bag.
PLT would be pleased. Everything
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smelled sweet, fresh and damp. Jackie
had not stirred. His eyes were half
closed and he was breathing regularly,
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about to fall asleep. I tiptoed away so as
not to wake him and ran upstairs dir
ectly to the duck pen on the roof terrace.
All seven ducklings scampered
around to greet me joyously. Though
the maids were supposed to feed them
and sweep out the pen, they didn’t rel
ish the task and often neglected it. I no
ticed that their food bowl and water pan
were both empty. Since I was eager to
give PLT her treat, I decided to alert the
maids later.
I knelt and placed my worm in the
food bowl. The entire flock crowded
around, jockeying for position. Though
they looked identical to the grownups,
each was distinct and unique to us chil
dren. I was pleased to note that PLT had
grown quite big and strong and was
holding her own against the rest. Little
Sister’s and Second Brother’s ducklings
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were aggressively jostling PLT. I tried
gently to shoo them away so that PLT
could eat her worm in peace. I felt quite
guilty about my favoritism and couldn’t
help blaming myself for not having got
ten more worms so that each duckling
could have its own.
Suddenly, I felt a painful blow against
the back of my head. It was so hard I
was knocked sideways to the ground.
The ducklings scurried off in fright. I
looked up to see Second Brother scowl
ing down, arms akimbo. Apparently, he
had been watching me stealthily from
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the landing for some time. “This will
teach you to favor your duck over
mine!” he shouted. He hit me again,
picked up the food bowl and ordered me
to get lost as he fed my worm to his own
duckling.
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I got up and turned to go. It was then
I noticed PLT. Unlike the rest, my pet
had not run away but was standing
faithfully by my side. Despite the pain
and commotion caused by my brother’s
blows, I found immense consolation in
the knowledge that PLT was staying
right by me. I picked up my bird lov
ingly and for a moment seemed to see
my grief reflected in its round dark eyes.
Back in my room I busied myself get
ting some grains of rice and water for
PLT. It was still early, and Aunt Baba
hadn’t come home from the bank. PLT
waddled about, busily pecking the floor,
now and then coming over to look at
me. “Apart from Aunt Baba, you’re the
only one who’s always here for me, the
only one who understands. Are you re
minding me that I promised you a tasty
worm yesterday?” I asked in the coaxing
tone I reserved for my pet. PLT looked
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back wistfully with her round eyes,
which resembled two black gumdrops. I
felt sure she understood every word. “I
bet you wish you could talk and tell me
all sorts of things,” I said to her.
“Though Second Brother robbed you of
your worm, it’s not the end of the world.
I’ll just have to go downstairs and get
you another. Wait here!”
I returned to the garden. Jackie was
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now wide awake and pacing the ground
aggressively. Back and forth. Back and
forth. He had awakened from his nap in
a bad mood and was growling at me.
With his long, pointed ears, triangular
eyes, prominent jaws and sharp teeth,
he resembled a ferocious wolf more
than ever. I was quite fearful as I started
to dig up a patch of earth at the foot of
the magnolia tree.
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Jackie fidgeted, pawed the ground,
and started to bark at me. I could see
the tail end of a worm burrowing rap
idly beneath a clump of roots. Though I
knew I had incurred Jackie’s displeas
ure in some way, I was reluctant to
leave emptyhanded. Keeping one eye
on the worm, I half turned toward Jack
ie, who was baring his teeth in a most
menacing manner. Tentatively, I
stretched out my left hand to calm him
while clutching the spoon in my right.
Suddenly, Jackie lunged at me and sank
his teeth into my outstretched wrist.
Abandoning my spoon, I hurried
away. PLT greeted me expectantly at the
door, but I rushed past into the bath
room to wash away the blood trickling
down my arm. Footsteps sounded from
the landing. Aunt Baba had finally come
home from the bank.
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“What happened to you?” she asked
in alarm, and something in her voice
made the tears well up in my eyes. Baba
hurried over, held out her arms and
rocked me back and forth. She dried my
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tears and asked, “Are you hurt? Is it
bad?” She wiped away the blood,
washed my wrist, dressed the wound
with Mercurochrome, cotton and a
small bandage. She then walked over
and locked our bedroom door, followed
and watched by PLT every step of the
way. She seated me on my bed and
smoothed my hair. “It’s better not to
mention any of this at dinner tonight
unless you are asked directly,” she ad
vised. “Jackie is their pet. Don’t make
any waves. I tell you what. Let’s open
my safedeposit box and take a look.
That’ll make us both feel much better.”
Aunt Baba rummaged through a pile
of folded towels in her cupboard,
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underneath which she had hidden her
safedeposit box. She unlocked it with
the key on the gold chain she wore
around her neck. This was where she
kept her scanty collection of precious
jewels, some American dollar bills, a
sheaf of yellowed letters and all my re
port cards, from kindergarten till the
most recent.
We gazed first at those reports writ
ten in French from St. Joseph’s for
kindergarten in Tianjin; then the ones
for the first and second grades written
in Chinese from Sheng Xin ( )
Primary School in Shanghai. Even PLT
stopped her wandering to sit conten
tedly at our feet, looking up occasionally
as if wishing to participate.
“See this one?” Aunt Baba exclaimed
with pride. “Six years old, all of first
grade and already the top in Chinese,
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English and arithmetic. At this rate
nobody going to college can have a bet
ter foundation. When you get to be
twelve you should sit for the examina
tion to enter McTyeire where your
grandaunt went. Then go on to college.
You can be anything you set your mind
to be. Why, you might even become the
president of your own bank one day!”
“Will you come and live with me if
I’m president?” I asked wistfully. “I
wouldn’t want to own a bank without
you.”
“Of course I will! We’ll set up house
on our own and take PLT with us. We’ll
work together in our own bank, side by
side. Mark my words, if you study hard,
anything is possible!”
“I will study hard! I promise!”
The truth was that as soon as I had
heard Aunt Baba’s footsteps, I had
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started feeling better immediately.
Knowing there was someone who cared
for and believed in me had revived my
spirit. So we chattered happily about
this and that until dinnertime.
The breeze died down and it became
very warm as the evening meal pro
gressed. As usual, all the dishes were
served at once: cold cucumber chunks
marinated in vinegar and sugar, tofu
with minced pork and chopped peanuts,
sautéed shrimp with fresh green peas,
steamed stuffed winter melon, sweet
andsour pork with pineapple slices,
stewed duck with leeks. After the
grownups were served, we children
were each handed a bowl of steamed
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rice and an assortment of the day’s
dishes. We were expected to consume
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every morsel of food on our plates. It
was frowned upon to leave any scraps
behind, even one grain of rice.
Ever since the arrival of PLT, I had
hated eating duck in any form or shape.
It seemed wrong to eat an animal of the
same species as my darling pet. Aside
from duck, Third Brother and I shared
an aversion to fatty meat, taking great
pains to hide or discard any fat on our
plates. I now looked with revulsion at
my portion of duck meat with its under
lying layer of soft yellow fat. Apparently
Third Brother felt the same because I
saw him extract his piece of duck when
no one was looking and slip it into his
trousers pocket.
I had eaten everything except my
duck. Slowly, I lifted the duck with my
chopsticks and let it drop to the table as
if by accident. Father was complaining
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of the heat. I watched the beads of
sweat glistening on his forehead and
wondered why he didn’t remove his
jacket and tie. Every night he and Niang
came down to dinner dressed to the
nines: he in a stiff white shirt, knotted
black tie, long pants and matching jack
et; she in a stylish dress with all her
makeup and not a hair out of place.
Wouldn’t he be more comfortable in a
tennisshirt and shorts and she in a
loose housedress?
I was thinking of sticking the piece of
duck to the bottom of the dining table
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when I saw Niang glancing at me suspi
ciously. Quickly, I popped the revolting
morsel into my mouth and held it there
without chewing or swallowing. Niang
was instructing the maid to bring in a
fan.
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Muttering about having to go to the
bathroom, I rushed out, spat my mouth
ful into the toilet and flushed it down.
When I returned, Niang was describ
ing the dogobedience lesson she had
received with Jackie from Hans Herzog
that morning. Mr. Herzog was a
renowned German dog trainer. His les
sons were highly selective; Jackie was
being taught to obey only Father, Niang
and Fourth Brother, who took turns at
tending Mr. Herzog’s sessions with
Jackie.
“Is Jackie making any progress?”
Father asked.
“It’s hard to judge because I see Jack
ie every day,” Niang answered. “I cer
tainly hope Jackie is learning something
because Mr. Herzog has raised his fees
again! My driving lessons are now
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cheaper than Jackie’s obedience
lessons.”
“Since it’s so hot tonight,” Father sug
gested, “why don’t we all cool off in the
garden after dinner? It will also give us
a chance to test Jackie’s obedience.” He
turned to Big Brother. “Go fetch one of
those ducklings the Huangs brought.
We’ll have some fun tonight!”
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There was a momentary silence. To us
children, Father’s announcement was
like a death sentence. Immediately, I
had a picture in my mind of my pet be
ing torn to pieces between Jackie’s
frothing, ravenous jaws. I felt as if my
heart had stopped beating. I held myself
rigid, in a world full of dread, knowing
with absolute certainty that the doomed
duckling would be mine.
Big Brother scraped back his chair,
ran upstairs and came down with PLT.
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Everyone avoided looking at me. Even
Aunt Baba could not bear to meet my
eyes. Father strode into the garden with
PLT on his palm and sat down on a
lounge chair, flanked by all the grown
ups. We children sprawled in a semi
circle on the grass. Jackie greeted his
master joyfully, wagging his tail and
jumping up and down with happiness.
Father released PLT and placed her in
the center of the lawn. My little pet ap
peared bewildered by all the commo
tion. She stood quite still for a few mo
ments, trying to get her bearings: a
small, yellow, defenseless creature beset
with perils, surrounded by humans
wanting to test their dog in a gamble
with her life. I sat stiffly with downcast
eyes. For a moment, I was unable to fo
cus properly. Don’t move, PLT! Please
don’t move! I prayed silently. As long as
you keep still, you have a chance!
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Jackie was ordered to sit about six
feet away. He sat on his hind legs with
his large tongue hanging out, panting
away. His fierce eyes were riveted on his
prey. Father kept two fingers on his col
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lar while the German shepherd fidgeted
and strained restlessly.
The tension seemed palpable while I
hoped against hope that fate could be
sidestepped in some way. Then PLT
cocked her head in that achingly famili
ar way of hers and spotted me. Chirping
happily, she waddled unsteadily to
ward me. Tempted beyond endurance,
Jackie sprang forward. In one powerful
leap, he broke away from Father’s re
straint and pounced on PLT, who
looked up at me pleadingly, as if I
should have an answer to all her terror.
Father dashed over, enraged by Jack
ie’s defiance. Immediately, Jackie
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released the bird from his jaws, but with
a pang I saw PLT’s left leg dangling life
lessly and her tiny webbed foot twisted
at a grotesque angle. Blood spurted
from an open wound.
I was overwhelmed with horror. My
whole world turned desolate. I ran over
without a word, cradled PLT tenderly in
my arms and carried her upstairs. Pla
cing her on my bed, I wrapped my mor
tally wounded pet in my best school
scarf and lay down next to her. It was a
night of grief I have never forgotten.
I lay there with my eyes closed, pre
tending to be asleep, but was actually
hopelessly awake. Surely everything
would remain the same as long as I kept
my eyes shut and did not look at PLT.
Perhaps, when I finally opened them
again after wishing very hard all night,
PLT’s leg would miraculously be healed.
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Though it was the height of summer
and Aunt Baba had lowered the mos
quito net over my bed, I was deathly
cold, thinking over and over, When to
morrow comes, will PLT be all right?
In spite of everything, I must have
dozed off because at dawn, I woke up
with a jerk. Beside me, PLT was now
completely still. The horrors of the pre
vious evening flooded back and
everything was as bad as before. Worse,
because PLT was now irrevocably dead.
Gone forever.
Almost immediately, I heard Father
calling Jackie in the garden. He was
preparing to take his dog for their
customary Sundaymorning walk. At
the sound of Jackie’s bark, Aunt Baba
suddenly sat up in her bed. “Quick!
Take this opportunity while Jackie’s
away! Run down and bury your pet in
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the garden. Get the big spade from the
toolshed at the back and dig a proper
hole.” She handed me an old sewing
box, placed PLT’s little body inside and
closed the lid.
I dashed out of my room and almost
collided with Big Brother, who had just
come out of the bathroom in the hall.
“Where are you going?” he asked, full
of curiosity. “And what’s that you’re
carrying?”
“I’m going to the garden to bury
PLT.”
“Bury her! Why don’t you give her to
Cook and ask him to stew her for break
fast instead? Stewed duck in the even
ing and stewed duck in the morning! I
love the taste of duck, don’t you?” He
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saw the look on my face and knew he
had gone too far. “Look, that was a joke.
I didn’t really mean it. I’m sorry about
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last night too. I didn’t know which
duckling to pick when Father gave me
that order. I only took yours because
you’re the one least likely to give me
trouble afterward. It wasn’t anything
against you personally, understand?”
“She was my best friend in the whole
world,” I began, tears welling up in spite
of me. “Now I’ve lost her forever.”
Halfway down the stairs, I heard
Third Brother calling me from the land
ing. “I’ve been waiting to go to the bath
room but I’ll be down in the garden as
soon as I can. Don’t start without me.”
The two of us stood side by side, dug
a hole and buried PLT under the
magnolia tree with all its flowers in
bloom. After that day, I was never again
able to smell the fragrance of magnolia
blossoms without the same aching
sense of loss. We placed some grains of
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rice, a few worms and a little water in a
shallow dish, along with a bouquet of
flowers in a milk bottle by PLT’s grave.
We bowed three times to show our re
spect. I cried throughout the ceremony.
Third Brother tried to comfort me. “It
won’t be like this forever. Suan le! ( )
Let it be! Things are bound to get better.
You’ll see. Sometimes I can’t wait to
grow up so I can find out what we’ll all
become in twenty years’ time.”
“Thanks for attending PLT’s funeral
so early in the morning,” I murmured as
I looked down at the bandage on my left
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wrist. So much had happened since
Jackie bit me yesterday. “It’s Sunday
and everyone in the house is still sleep
ing. I don’t know why, but I feel as if it’s
the two of us against the world.
Whatever happens, we must never let
them win.”
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Father and Niang continued to travel to
Tianjin on business. Sometimes they
took Big Sister out of school to accom
pany them. Everyone wondered why.
Did Father need Big Sister’s translation
skills? It soon turned out Niang had
other ideas.
During the Chinese New Year holi
days in 1948, Niang’s plans came to
light. On Sunday afternoon, Big Sister
came into my room after lunch. Aunt
Baba, Ye Ye and I were playing cards.
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Big Sister sat down on Aunt Baba’s bed
and told us that Father and Niang were
lunching at the posh Cathay Hotel with
guests from Tianjin. Dr. Sung was Nai
Nai’s doctor and used to live next door
to us. His son, Samuel, had recently re
turned from America and was looking
for a job. Big Sister wouldn’t play with
us but kept doodling Chinese and Eng
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lish words on a sheet of paper. I leaned
over and saw that she had scribbled
Mrs. Samuel Sung in English and
Chinese over and over about thirty
times. Then she told us Father and Ni
ang had introduced Samuel to her, and
she had agreed to marry him. She was
smiling as she related this and appeared
quite pleased, but I felt sad and
frightened for her.
I thought, Big Sister is only seventeen
years old and Samuel is already thirty
one, almost twice her age. When I get
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to be seventeen, I sure don’t want to be
taken out of school to marry someone
whom I’ve just met! Especially when he
is so much older!
How can Big Sister remain so cheer
ful when her life is about to take such a
ghastly turn? To be taken out of school
and thrust into the arms of a stranger!
No more classes! No more schoolmates!
No possibility of ever going to college!
Not even a highschool diploma! How
devastating! What did Niang say to in
duce Big Sister to agree to such a fate?
Why is she going along with it?
Is this going to happen to me too? I’ll
simply have to run away from home if
Niang ever threatens to force me into
an arranged marriage. But where can
I go? Who will take me in? There must
be millions of unwanted Chinese girls
like me in Shanghai!
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I imagined Niang introducing me to a
strange man and ordering me to marry
him. The thought filled me with horror
and fear.
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Weeks before Big Sister’s wedding, gifts
started arriving at our house. Niang
carefully sorted them out and kept the
best ones for herself.
Three days before the wedding,
Grand Aunt personally entrusted a spe
cial small package wrapped in gold foil
to Aunt Baba to hand to Big Sister. On
opening the elegant leather case in Aunt
Baba’s room, Big Sister found a lovely
pendant made of antique imperial green
jade hanging from a heavy gold chain.
She immediately put it on and gasped
with pleasure while she admired herself
in the mirror. Then she begged Aunt
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Baba and me not to mention Grand
Aunt’s gift to a soul, obviously intending
to keep the pendant without telling
Niang.
The wedding was a formal and bril
liant affair with a banquet for five hun
dred in the grand ballroom on the ninth
floor of the Cathay Hotel, at the junc
tion of the Bund and fashionable
Nanjing Lu and overlooking the Huang
pu River. The room was filled with
masses of fresh flowers, and the Chinese
character for double happiness was out
lined in red blooms against the wall. Big
Sister was elegantly dressed in a beauti
ful pink qipao and silver shoes, while
Samuel wore a tuxedo. Two professional
radio comedians acted as masters of
ceremonies.
I had nothing to wear but an old pink
qipao that had been handed down by
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Big Sister when she grew out of it.
Though I didn’t look particularly nice,
at least I didn’t stand out, and no one
noticed me. My three older brothers,
however, were having a horrible time.
For this special occasion, Father had
ordered them to have fresh haircuts. My
brothers’ heads were shaved cleanly so
that not a trace of hair remained. They
were wearing identical dark blue tradi
tional long Chinese robes with high col
lars and cloth buttons. As soon as they
stepped into the foyer, I saw some boys
their age pointing at them and snicker
ing behind their backs. When they
entered the main ballroom, one of the
boy guests who recognized them from
St. John’s immediately called out to an
other across the room. “Hey! It’s kind of
dark in here. Thank goodness three
lightbulbs have just walked in. With
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them around, there’s no need for
lamps.”
“Naw! Those aren’t lightbulbs!
They’re enlightened, that’s all! These
are three new monks who have seen the
light! They’ve taken the vow of chastity
and abstinence. From now on, they’ll
eat tofu only.”
Everyone doubled up with laughter. I
cringed on behalf of my brothers.
Their dilemma was compounded be
cause all the other guests were very
fashionably dressed. Men and boys
wore dark Western suits. Women were
bejeweled and in silk qipaos or formal
Western gowns. Fourth Brother had his
hair cut in the latest pageboy manner.
He looked very smart in a brandnew
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navy jacket with sharply creased match
ing trousers, white shirt and necktie.
Little Sister wore a frilly red satin dress
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and had ribbons in her hair and jade
bracelets on her wrists.
Toward the end of the banquet, I
went to the bathroom. While I was in
side one of the stalls, I heard one wo
man remark to another about the differ
ent treatment received by Father’s two
sets of children from his two wives. Im
mediately afterward, two other women
entered. They were chatting and laugh
ing and I recognized Grand Aunt’s dis
tinct Ningpo accent. I was about to
emerge and greet her when I heard the
other woman answer. It was Niang.
A chill went down my spine. I felt
guilty, though I had done nothing. I
kept as still as a mouse and dared not
move. The longer I stayed, the more im
possible it became to come out.
Grand Aunt was complimenting Ni
ang on her jade ring, telling her it had
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the same translucency as the jade
pendant she had asked Aunt Baba to
hand to Big Sister as a wedding present.
In a few sentences, Niang already found
out everything without revealing that
she had been kept in the dark about the
gift. Hearing this, I was more nervous
than ever and stayed motionless in my
stall until long after they had left.
I knew my sister would get into big
trouble if I didn’t warn her, so I waited
until I saw her going by herself into her
dressing room, which was a storeroom
that had been emptied out and set aside
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for her to change her clothes. I told her
of the conversation I had overheard
between Grand Aunt and Niang. Tears
came to her eyes and she patted me
fondly on my head. “I’ll never forget this
kindness on your part. Thanks for the
tipoff. You’re the best sister in the
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world and I’ll always be indebted to
you.”
For the first time she was kind to me,
and I felt very close to her. Later, I saw
Big Sister and Niang walking toward the
balcony and talking privately just before
she and Samuel left for their honey
moon. Was she able to explain it all
away? I hoped so. I only wished I could
have helped her more.
Next morning, Third Brother told me he
had been playing hideandseek on the
balcony of the Cathay Hotel after the
wedding banquet when he overheard
Big Sister and Niang talking. He had
been hiding behind a large potted plant
and could hear them very plainly.
In a tone full of regret and selfre
proach, Big Sister was confessing about
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“something on her conscience” which
did not permit her to remain silent any
longer. Although Aunt Baba had sworn
her to secrecy and advised her not to re
veal to Niang Grand Aunt’s wedding gift
of a jade pendant, she had decided to ig
nore Baba’s instruction because our
aunt was being selfish and dishonest.
Besides, the piece of jade would be a
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perfect match for Niang’s favorite jade
ring, and she begged Niang to accept it.
In one stroke, Big Sister had endeared
herself to Niang while simultaneously
denouncing Aunt Baba.
Touched by Big Sister’s honesty and
generosity, Niang immediately allowed
her to keep the jade pendant. Promising
to be forever loyal to Niang regardless
of Baba’s sedition, Big Sister swore Ni
ang to secrecy, thus remaining in the
good graces of both while driving the
wedge ever deeper between Niang and
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Aunt Baba. She then left on her honey
moon in an excellent mood, wearing her
beautiful jade with a clear conscience.
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As soon as we went back to school after
the summer holidays in September
1948, Wu Chunmei began begging me
to go to her house to celebrate her
birthday.
“Remember the duckling you used to
have a long time ago that we nicknamed
PLT?” she reminded me. “Whatever
happened to it?”
“She died,” I replied rather brusquely.
PLT’s tragic fate was a secret locked in
my heart, together with all the other
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unspeakable things I hated to think
about. It was certainly not something I
wished to share, let alone with someone
as nice as Wu Chunmei. She would
never be able to understand. I thought
of Big Sister’s jade pendant and her lies
about Aunt Baba, and longed to disclose
to my friend all that was buried within.
What if I were to suddenly blurt out, “If
my stepmother forces me into an ar
ranged marriage like my sister’s and I
run away from home, will you take me
in?” Would she be shocked?
Meanwhile Wu Chunmei was saying,
“No wonder you don’t speak of PLT
anymore. Well, for my birthday, my
parents said they’ll give me a pet of my
very own if I promise to take care of it.
They took me to the pet shop last week
and I saw the most adorable puppy—”
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“For me, no other pet can ever replace
PLT.” I interrupted rudely because, for
a moment, I thought I was going to cry.
“Besides,” I continued with a shrug as if
I had not a care in the world, “I’m
scared of dogs. They bite!”
“This one won’t! It’s a little pug with
big eyes and a tail that stands up. Oh,
do come and see it! Mama says you can
come anytime that’s convenient to you.
It doesn’t have to be on the day of my
birthday. Just give her a few days’ no
tice. You’ve never been to my house be
fore, and I have so many dolls and
books to show you. Please say you’ll
come!”
I couldn’t very well tell her I was for
bidden to visit any of my friends, ever.
For a whole week I kept making all sorts
of excuses, but she was persistent. It
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became increasingly difficult because,
inside, I was simply dying to go.
Suddenly, Teacher Wong informed us
that next Tuesday would be a special
school holiday because it was the name
day of our new mother superior. Teach
er Wong said we were lucky because all
the other schoolchildren in Shanghai
would still have to go to school that day.
At first I was disappointed because I’d
much rather go to school than stay
home. Then Wu Chunmei asked me
again at recess to go play at her house.
On a whim I told her, “How about next
Tuesday? Instead of going to school, I’ll
go to your house and celebrate your
birthday!”
As soon as I said this, I felt scared and
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wanted to back out, but Wu Chunmei
was already jumping up and down with
glee. The next day, it became even more
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impossible to change my mind, because
her birthday party had grown to include
six other girls. “They’re all coming be
cause you said you’d come!” Wu Chun
mei exclaimed. “It’s going to be a very
special occasion starting at eightthirty
and ending at threethirty. My mama
says she’ll get out of the house so we can
play in the living room by ourselves! I
can’t wait to show you my new puppy
and my doll collection! Papa bought me
a doll at every city he visited when he
was studying in America.”
The eight of us held a council and
carefully made our plans. We’d all dress
in our school uniforms and gather in
front of our school at eight. Wu Chun
mei’s driver would meet us there and
drive us to her home. We felt very
grownup and conspiratorial.
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I could hardly sleep the night before
the party. On Tuesday morning, I put
the silver dollar Aunt Baba had given
me for leading my class the previous
term in my pocket and walked to school
with my schoolbag as quickly as pos
sible. Wu Chunmei’s chauffeur was
already there. We piled into Dr. Wu’s
big American car, giggling all the way,
and spent a wonderful morning playing
with dolls, admiring Wu Chunmei’s
puppy, eating watermelon seeds, skip
ping rope and shooting basketballs into
a hoop erected by Dr. Wu in his garden.
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I was watching Wu Chunmei dribble
the ball and admiring her shot sailing
through the air into the net when her
maid came out to summon us for lunch.
It was twelve o’clock. I remembered
with a sudden lurch who I was and
where I was. For a few hours I had been
a normal little girl attending a birthday
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party at her class mate’s house. This
was strictly prohibited, and I had
broken Niang’s rules. If she found out,
the consequences would be disastrous.
We walked toward the dining room
and everyone rushed off to the bath
room to wash. I placed a restraining
hand on Wu Chunmei’s arm and
whispered, “I have to go home for
lunch. They’re expecting me. I’ll be right
back.” By 1948, American C rations had
run out and I was to go home for lunch.
I was given tram fare for the round trip
at noon.
Wu Chunmei protested. “Look what
Mama has ordered the cook to make!
You can’t go now!” she murmured. Laid
out on the dining table were steaming
baskets of meatfilled dumplings and
bowls of noodles topped with barbecued
pork and scallions. In the center was an
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enormous birthday cake, colorfully dec
orated and piled high with whipped
cream and eleven red candles.
“I really can’t stay, but I’ll be back as
soon as I can.”
“All right! What’s your phone
number?”
Without thinking, I replied, “It’s
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79281. Don’t look so disappointed. I’ll
be back before you cut your cake.”
“We’ll wait for you!”
I ran home as fast as I could. The hall
clock showed 12:09 as I dashed upstairs
to use the bathroom. Normally, I would
have arrived home at around 12:30. Wu
Chunmei’s house was much closer than
my school, and I had overestimated the
time. Never mind, better too early than
too late. It just meant I’d have some
time afterward to buy her a birthday
present with my silver dollar.
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Bursting into my room in the highest
spirits, I came face to face with Niang.
She was standing by my desk in the
bright sunshine, sleek and flawless in a
brown dress covered with black spots.
Her appearance reminded me of a leo
pard lying in wait.
My heart was pounding and blood
was rushing into my temples and ears,
beating over me in waves. A voice inside
my head kept repeating, “Be careful! Be
careful!”
“Good morning, Niang!” I greeted her
tremulously, fingering the silver coin in
my pocket and wondering where to hide
it. My tongue stuck to the roof of my
mouth and I could hardly swallow.
“Why are you home so early?” she
asked suspiciously.
“They let us out a little early,” I
answered. She said nothing but
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continued to look at me unblinkingly,
obviously expecting more of an explana
tion. “From school, I mean,” I added
stupidly, flipping the coin from one side
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to the other in my sweaty palm.
“What’s that in your pocket?” she de
manded, as if she could see through my
uniform.
“Nothing!” I lied, squirming like a
worm and wishing I could disappear.
“Come here!” she commanded. I ap
proached her slowly, shaking like a leaf.
She patted my body to search me, put
her hand in my pocket and extracted the
silver coin.
“Who gave you this?”
There was a prolonged silence. As I
desperately searched for a plausible
reply, all I heard was the buzz of a fly
banging persistently against a
windowpane.
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“I am asking you a question!” she re
minded me angrily. “Where does this
come from? I order you to answer me
now !”
My brain was whirring, but nothing
came to mind. I looked dumbly at her
cold, beautiful face. What could I tell
her without implicating my aunt? I felt
as trapped as the fly whizzing around
from pane to pane.
“Why are you home so early, you
sneaky little liar? And where did you get
this money?”
My silence was infuriating her. She
took it as a personal insult, as if I were
trying to provoke her. Her face suffused
with rage, she slapped me. I felt dizzy
and my ears hummed, but I continued
to stare at her in petrified silence.
“Until you give me the true explana
tion of what is going on,” she
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commanded, “you will have nothing to
eat or drink. I always knew no good
would come of you!”
I opened my mouth. “I… uh… I found
the coin somewhere,” I lied vaguely,
squirming around and hating myself.
Inside, I was in complete turmoil, with
but one thought. I must not betray Aunt
Baba.
“Did you steal something from the
house and pawn it, you little thief?”
I was considering admitting to theft
as a way out when we both noticed the
new maid, Ah Sun, standing timidly at
the door.
“Excuse me, Yen Taitai.” She cleared
her throat nervously. “There is a tele
phone call.” She nodded in my direc
tion. “For her.”
A new chasm had opened, and I felt
faint. I knew at once that Wu Chunmei
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must have become tired of waiting for
me to cut her cake. I kicked myself for
carelessly giving out my telephone
number.
Niang hurried down to answer the
phone in the stairway landing. With a
sickening feeling in the pit of my stom
ach, I heard her voice, now utterly
transformed.
“My daughter is busy right now. This
is her mother speaking. Who is calling,
please, and can I give her a message?”
There was a short pause.
“Waiting for her to cut your birthday
cake! How nice! Where is this celebra
tion taking place?”
Another pause.
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“But don’t all of you have to be at
school today?… Oh, I see!… A special
holiday!… How splendid for you!… I’m
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afraid my daughter will not be returning
to your party this afternoon. Don’t wait
anymore!”
She came back and glared at me with
scathing contempt. “Not only are you a
liar and a thief, but you are manipulat
ive as well. Nothing will ever come of
you. The problem is that you have bad
blood from your mother. You don’t de
serve to be housed and fed here. Girls
like you should be sent away. You don’t
belong in this house!”
A shiver of ice ran through me. I felt
my world crashing. “You are to stay in
your room without anything to eat until
your father comes home,” she
commanded.
Disgraced and miserable, I sat alone
in my room, looking down at Jackie
restlessly pacing the garden. Time went
by. I heard the sound of laughter and
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the clink of plates and cups drifting up.
Afternoon tea was being served to
Fourth Brother and Little Sister in their
room immediately below, which we had
nicknamed the antechamber. A while
later, Fourth Brother appeared on his
balcony, carrying a plate of assorted
goodies he no longer fancied. I watched
him toss sausage rolls, chicken sand
wiches and chestnut cake with nonchal
ance to a delighted Jackie, who jumped
to catch the morsels between his power
ful jaws. I drooled with hunger and
longing as I imagined the delicacies
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sliding down my throat. Finally, I sat
there with my eyes tightly shut, wishing
with all my heart that when I opened
them again, I would be Jackie and Jack
ie would be me.
Later, after Father returned home
from work, he came into my room in a
towering rage with the dog whip Hans
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the dog trainer had given him the past
Christmas looped around his arm.
When he questioned me I could not lie.
He ordered me to lie facedown on my
bed and he whipped me. As I lay there
trembling with pain and shame, I saw a
rat scurrying across the floor, its eyes
bright and alert and its long tail trailing
behind. I almost screamed out in terror
but bit my lip and remained silent
throughout the punishment.
“Unfortunately,” Father announced,
“your aunt is a bad influence. She gives
you money behind our backs and con
tinues to spoil you. I’m afraid you two
will have to be separated.”
I looked up at him in utter desolation.
The fabric of my life was about to be
torn apart. My heart felt heavy with the
most excruciating pain. But he merely
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relooped the whip over his arm and
walked out.
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“What happened to you yesterday?” Wu
Chunmei whispered as we took our
seats in the classroom to begin our les
sons. ‘We waited and waited for you to
cut the cake, only to find out from your
mother that you weren’t coming back.”
My face was still smarting from Ni
ang’s slaps. Was it my imagination or
was my friend looking at me strangely?
I couldn’t help wondering if my face was
bruised or swollen. Did she suspect
something?
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I opened my book and hid behind it
as I muttered, “Sorry. My mother
wanted me to help around the house.
You know how mothers are.” I was
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searching desperately for a plausible ex
cuse when Teacher Wong inadvertently
came to my rescue.
“Yen Junling ( ) Wu Chunmei!
Stop talking at once and start paying at
tention!” she commanded in a loud
voice. “Now, I want all of you to listen
carefully. Tomorrow is a very special
day because it is election day. Tomor
row is the day when you will cast your
votes to choose your class president. Do
you remember what your headmistress
told you at general assembly two weeks
ago? To refresh your memory, she has
instructed me to read that part of her
speech again.
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“‘Being class president of your grade,
the sixth form, is a rare honor. To begin
with, this year will be your final year at
Sheng Xin Primary School. On gradu
ation, most of you will go on to the first
form at Aurora Middle School next
door. Yours is the only class permitted
to elect its president democratically, the
same as in the United States of America.
The head girls of all the lower grades
are chosen by their form mistresses.
Only in your form, the sixth and highest
form, do we allow a free election to be
held. Instead of suggesting names to
you, we grant you the right to nominate
your own candidates. The winner will
be president not only of your class, but
the head girl of our entire school!’
“The election will be held in our
classroom during the first period to
morrow. I have brought some colored
balloons and large sheets of scrap
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paper. During recess and for one hour
after school today, you are permitted to
stay in your classroom and blow up bal
loons or work on your campaign posters
if you so desire. Let this be your first ex
perience of ‘democracy in action.’”
On hearing this, Wu Chunmei and I
looked at each other with dismay. When
our headmistress had first made the an
nouncement two weeks earlier, my
friend had immediately nominated me
as a candidate and volunteered to be my
campaign manager. However, her birth
day had driven all else from our minds,
and we had forgotten all about it.
Unfortunately Chen Leilei, our chief
rival, had not forgotten. Her father was
a military general in the Nationalist
army. She came to school every morn
ing in a chauffeured black Cadillac
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complete with bulletproof glass, escor
ted by an armed white Russian
bodyguard.
Between periods, Chen Leilei handed
out chocolate bars, beef jerky, pencils
and bookmarks to the whole class. I, of
course, had nothing to give to anybody,
not even to Wu Chunmei.
During recess Teacher Wong wrote
on the blackboard in big characters:
T OMORROW IS FREE ELECT ION DAY FOR CLASS
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stuck them to the walls. Our classroom
looked festive. We were proud when we
saw the lowerformers gawking envi
ously through the window.
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When the bell rang at the end of our
last class, Wu Chunmei said, “Yen Jun
ling! You’d better make a speech before
everyone goes home. Teacher Wong
said we could stay for one hour after
school. Now is your chance!”
I was nervous, but I knew I had to
seize the opportunity. So I said okay.
Wu Chunmei climbed onto her chair
and made an announcement. To our
amazement, everyone stayed to listen,
including Teacher Wong.
I tried to keep calm, but my mouth
felt dry and my heart was pounding as I
changed places with Wu Chunmei and
stood on her chair.
“Fellow classmates!” I began. “Wu
Chunmei has nominated me as a can
didate for class president. She doesn’t
know this, but I think she should be the
candidate instead of me. Not only is she
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a natural leader and a superb linguist,
she is also our school champion in
shuttlecock, PingPong and badminton.
Compared to her, I am truly a nobody.
My only attribute is that I have never
been absent from school in the five
years I’ve been coming here. The reason
for this is because I love my school and
prefer to be here than anywhere else in
the world. If Wu Chunmei is elected, I
shall try to persuade her to donate some
of her old books so that we can start a
school library where we can go and read
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if we feel like it.”
There was applause, and out of the
corner of my eye I saw Chen Leilei pre
paring to make her speech. I got down
from my chair and whispered to Wu
Chunmei, “I’m sorry, but I have to go
home now. I’ve already stayed longer
than I should. My mother will be very
angry if I’m late.”
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“What’s this about me being class
president all of a sudden?” Wu Chun
mei asked.
“I meant every word I said. You de
serve it more than anyone else.”
“We’ll see about that! But do you
really have to go? Can’t you stay for an
other half hour?”
“I wish I could! You have no idea how
much I would love to stay!” I had a sud
den vision of Niang in her brown leo
pard dress lying in wait for me in my
room and felt breathless with terror. “I
am so sorry. I simply can’t stay any
longer.”
Something in my voice touched her.
“All right!” she said. But as I hurried out
with my schoolbag, she added, “Don’t
worry! I’ll win this thing for you! After
ward, let’s have a party in my house to
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celebrate. Mama says we still have a lot
of cake left over from my birthday.”
I was so scared of being late, I ran all
the way home. On entering the back
door, I saw Ah Sun chopping vegetables
in the kitchen. She stopped when she
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saw me and asked me to bring a Ther
mos flask of hot water to my Aunt Baba.
“Is she home already?” I asked, de
lighted and surprised.
“Yes. She came back early. This water
has just boiled and is piping hot. Wait
here while I fill the flask so you can
bring it up to her for me.”
I crept upstairs with the Thermos
flask and my schoolbag. Aunt Baba was
sitting in an easy chair facing the
garden, knitting. I put everything down
quietly by the door, then tiptoed softly
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behind her and clapped my hands over
her eyes. “Boo!”
“Silly girl! I’ve been waiting for you.
Ye Ye and I have just been talking about
you. I came home so late last night we
didn’t have a proper talk. What did your
father say to you yesterday after he
whipped you?”
I looked at her lined, careworn face,
her kind eyes peering out from behind
thick glasses, and her straight black hair
combed back into a bun with white
strands above her ears. Somehow, I
found it difficult to tell her. Besides, I
didn’t really want to remember his
words.
“Nothing! He didn’t say much.” I
busied myself pouring us each a cup of
hot water.
“Close the door and come sit by me.”
“I have to do my homework.”
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She smoothed my hair as I sat down
at my writing table and set out my
books. “Tell me what your father said!”
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“I just told you! He said nothing!
Look! Leave me alone and let me do my
arithmetic! Okay? I must study. It’s
very, very important.”
“Why are you getting angry?”
“I don’t know!” I exclaimed in a loud,
agitated voice. “I want to forget about
everything that goes on here. I love my
school. There I have friends! There I
have fun! We sit together and discuss
books and things. My friends respect
me. My teachers like me. They’ve nom
inated me for class president! Tomor
row is election day! Please don’t ask any
more questions!”
There was a knock on our door and
Ye Ye entered. He regarded me with dis
may as I lowered my head in shame at
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my outburst. I thought he would scold
me, but instead he turned to Aunt Baba.
“Let her study! She won’t disappoint
you. When you’ve reached my age, you
know which children are weak and
which are strong. Don’t ask her too
many questions. Don’t criticize her or
tear her down. I don’t want her to grow
up like Big Sister. She is going to be
different!”
The next day started off with a bang. We
couldn’t wait to cast our votes! Although
Teacher Wong had written the names of
the five nominated candidates on the
blackboard, I knew my only true rival
was Chen Leilei. The others were
simply too disorganized.
Teacher Wong placed a large card
board box on her desk. She passed out
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small sheets of paper, on which we each
wrote the name of our chosen candid
ate. One by one, we walked up to insert
our ballots into a slit in the middle of
the box. After all the votes were cast,
Teacher Wong shook the box and read
out each name while we tallied the total
in our notebooks. Chen Leilei, who had
the best handwriting and led the class in
calligraphy, was ordered to write the
number of votes against each candid
ate’s name on the blackboard.
The results were close, but in the end
it was really Wu Chunmei who won the
election for me. Because of her athletic
ability, she was very popular. Everyone
wanted Wu Chunmei on her team. By
endorsing me instead of campaigning
for herself, she had been able to sway
many who were undecided. Because she
and I united and formed a team, we
consolidated our votes and won.
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All day we reveled in our success.
Though I was a little fearful that Wu
Chunmei would again mention the
party at her house after school, she said
nothing more about it. I walked home
as soon as school was let out.
It was a beautiful afternoon, sunny
and cool. Avenue Joffre bristled with
trams, cars, rickshaws and pedicabs.
The jagged leaves on the giant sycamore
trees lining the boulevard were turning
russet and golden brown in the autumn
sunshine. I felt on top of the world as I
bounced along the pavement, running
and skipping now and then from sheer
exuberance. What did it matter that I
was a disgrace to my parents? How
could anyone full of bad blood be elec
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ted class president? What was bad
blood anyway? Niang predicted a hope
less future for me. Father said nothing
would come of me. In spite of this, my
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classmates had chosen me as their chief
representative. In her speech, Teacher
Wong congratulated me on my triumph
in our first election—democratically and
honestly held, just like in America, the
greatest country in the world. As she
spoke, I thought, Though my parents
tell me I’m worthless, I’ve proved them
wrong! Of all the girls in my class, my
classmates chose me to be their class
president. I must forget about my
home. In my other life—my real
life—I’m not worthless. They respect
me.
As soon as I entered my house by the
back door, my happiness started to seep
away. Cook and Ah Sun were in the kit
chen cleaning a fish for dinner. They
hardly looked up when I walked by. I
greeted them with the news that I was
now the newly elected president of my
class. Their very posture reminded me
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that I was still in disgrace from the
birthdayparty fiasco two days earlier.
Cook waved me on impatiently, obvi
ously less than impressed by my victory.
“Can’t you see we’ve work to do?” he
asked brusquely.
I climbed the stairs and went into my
room. When I closed the door and laid
out my homework on my desk, the
weight of the rest of the house seemed
to slide off my heart. Shafts of sunlight
flooded in from the large windows, ex
posing tiny particles of dust dancing in
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its wake. I took out my exercise book
where the day’s votes were tallied, rel
ishing once more the thrill of the con
test and the triumph of my victory earli
er that morning. Head girl of Sheng
Xin! How sweet life was!
In a dreamy trance, I placed some wa
ter in the receptacle of my stone writing
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tablet, grinding a stick of charcoal
against its moistened flat surface to
make fresh ink. I lubricated my brush
and started on my calligraphy.…
There was a knock on the door and
Ah Sun entered at once without waiting,
looking flustered and fearful.
“A crowd of your little friends are
downstairs in the living room. They’re
asking for you,” she whispered.
Her words were like a thunderbolt
out of a clear blue sky. I stared at her
dumbfounded. “Is my mother home?” I
finally blurted out.
“I’m afraid she is. So is your father.”
“Tell my friends I’m not home. Please
send them away!” I begged her
desperately.
Ah Sun shook her head. “I tried, but
they know you’re here. Apparently they
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followed you home from school and saw
you enter the door. They want to give
you a surprise celebration party for win
ning the election for class president.
Everyone has brought a gift. They mean
well.”
“I know.” I felt panicstricken but had
no choice but to follow Ah Sun to the
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living room. As I crept down the stairs, I
could hear the giggles and screams of
my classmates resounding through the
entire house.
I bit my lower lip and forced myself to
go in and greet my friends. They sur
rounded me, shouting “Surprise! Con
gratulations! Victory!” singing and
chanting slogans, drunk with excite
ment. No one seemed to notice my
tonguetied silence. I shifted my eyes
away from everyone else’s, afraid that
my secret home life was about to be
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exposed. Inside, I was quaking with ter
ror, hoping against hope that Niang
would leave us alone until I could po
litely ask my friends to leave.
Ah Sun reappeared and touched me
on the arm. “Your mother wishes to see
you now!”
I fought against the panic surging
within and forced a stiff smile onto my
face. “I wonder what she wants!” I said
with a shrug, hating myself for the pre
tense. “Excuse me for a moment.”
My mind was blank when I knocked
on the door of the Holy of Holies. My
parents sat side by side, in a little alcove
overlooking the garden. I tried to close
the door after me, but Niang told me to
leave it open. I stood in front of them
with my head hanging and my eyes
fixed on Niang’s red silk slippers. I
could hear, indeed we could all hear, the
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gleeful squeals of a dozen merry ten
yearold girls echoing through the en
tire house.
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“Who are these little hooligans,” Ni
ang began, her voice seething with an
ger, “making such a racket in the living
room downstairs?”
“They’re my friends from school.”
“Who invited them here?”
“No one.”
“What are they doing here?”
“They came to celebrate my winning
the election for class president.”
“Is this party your idea?”
“No, Niang.” I shook my head. “They
came of their own accord. I didn’t know
anything about it.”
“Come here!” she screamed. I ap
proached her gingerly, trembling with
terror. She slapped my face so hard I
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almost fell. “Liar! You planned it, didn’t
you, to show off our house to your pen
niless classmates. How dare you!”
“No, I didn’t.” Tears streaked down
my cheeks, and I found it hard to
breathe.
“Your father works so hard to feed
and clothe all of you. He comes home
for a nap and there’s not a moment of
peace. What insolence to invite them in
to our living room and make such a
racket!”
“I never asked them here. They know
I’m not allowed to go to their houses
after school so they decided to visit me
instead.”
She slapped me with the back of her
hand against my other cheek. “Show
off! I’ll teach you to be so sneaky!” she
screamed. “Go downstairs this minute
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and tell your hooligan friends to get out!
They are not welcome!”
As I hesitated and shuffled my feet,
she hit my face yet again. “Do you hear
me?” she yelled at the top of her voice.
“I want them out of the house this
minute! Are you deaf? Tell them to gun
dan ( , get lost) and never come here
again! Never! Never! Never!”
I clenched my fists and made my way
slowly down the stairs. An eerie silence
now permeated the house. My class
mates must have heard Niang’s every
word through the open door of the Holy
of Holies. My nose and eyes were
drenched, and I wiped them with the
back of my sleeve. To my horror, I saw
bright red blood staining my hand and
dress. Drops of blood trickled freely
from my nose onto the floor. I realized
that Niang’s blows must have caused a
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nosebleed and that my face was prob
ably smeared with a mixture of blood,
mucus and tears.
I reentered the living room and stood
in front of my classmates, unable to say
a word. I felt naked and ghastly and vul
nerable. None of them looked at me,
and I dared not look at them. At school,
I had been so careful to pretend I came
from a loving family. Now they knew
the pathetic truth! Unwanted and un
loved by my own parents! How long did
it take for a person to die of shame?
Finally, I choked out to the room at
large, “My father wishes to sleep. They
want you to go home now. I am sorry.”
No one replied but, in the painful si
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lence, Wu Chunmei took out her
handkerchief and handed it to me. I
shrugged and tried to give her a smile of
thanks, but something in her eyes
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suddenly made it impossible for me to
feign nonchalance. With tears
strangling my voice, I told them, “Thank
you for coming. I’ll never forget your
loyalty.”
One by one they trooped out, leaving
their gifts by my side. Wu Chunmei
lingered and was the last to go. As she
went past the stairway she shouted to
ward the Holy of Holies, “This is unfair.
You’re cruel and barbaric! I’ll tell my
father!”
I gathered my presents and hesitated
at the threshold of my parents’ room,
thinking about running away. Their
door was wide open. Father ordered me
to go in, close the door and unwrap my
packages.
Out came a jumbled collection of
comics, kung fu novels, a chess set, a
jump rope; packages of treats: salted
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plums, sweet ginger slices and dried wa
termelon seeds; and a sheet of calli
graphy paper with the character VICT ORY
prominently stroked out with brush and
ink.
“Throw the whole lot into the
wastepaper basket!” Father
commanded.
I hurried to comply.
“Why should your classmates give
you gifts?” Niang asked suspiciously.
“It’s because we won the election
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today. I’m now class president. We
worked hard at it—”
Niang interrupted me in the middle
of my explanation. “Stop bragging!” she
screamed. “Who do you think you are?
A princess of some sort, that all your
friends should come and pay you trib
ute? You are getting altogether too
proud and conceited! No matter what
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you consider yourself to be, you are
nothing without your father. Nothing!
Nothing! Nothing!”
“You breached our trust in you when
you asked your friends to come here
and insult us,” Father said in a quiet
voice that made me grit my teeth in
pain. “Family ugliness should never be
revealed in public. Since you’re not
happy here, you must go somewhere
else.”
“But where can I go? Who will take
me in?” I asked shakily.
“We’re not sure,” Father replied
cruelly.
Times were hard, and on my way to
school in the early mornings, I had seen
infants wrapped in newspapers left to
die in doorways. Beggar children in rags
routinely rummaged through the
garbage cans searching for food. Some
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were reduced to eating bark peeled off
the trees lining the street on which we
lived.
“What’s going to happen to me? Will I
be sold?” I knelt in front of them in a
state of panic.
“You don’t know how lucky you are to
be fed and housed here in these uncer
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tain times,” Father said. “Apologize to
your Niang.”
“I apologize, Niang.”
“It’s your aunt who has taught you to
lie and cheat. She feeds your arrogance
by giving you money behind our backs,”
Niang said. “She is an evil influence. Be
fore it’s too late, you must move out of
her room and not speak to her again.
We’ll find an orphanage that will take
you in until you’re old enough to find a
job to support yourself. Your father has
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enough to worry about without the likes
of you. You can go now.”
The thought of being separated from
my aunt filled me with dread. Somberly,
I climbed the stairs and went back to
the room I shared with her, perhaps for
the last time.
After a sleepless night, I walked to
school the next morning feeling appre
hensive and ashamed. Along the way I
kept asking myself, “What’ll my friends
say this time? How will my voters look
at me? Will I be the laughingstock of my
class? Will everyone sneer and whisper
about me during recess?”
I waited in the bathroom for a long
time, reluctant to face my peers. When
the bell rang, I was among the last to
file into our classroom. Teacher Wong
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was already standing in front of the
blackboard, writing something with a
piece of chalk. Immersed in my misery,
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I didn’t pay any attention until Wu
Chunmei nudged me and pointed at
our teacher’s back. I looked and looked
again. To my amazement, I saw my
name, Yen Junling ( ), written in
big characters on the blackboard.
Teacher Wong turned toward me and
smiled proudly. “I want the class to wel
come and salute Yen Junling as your
new class president. You have elected
her of your own free will. From now on,
she will be the one who will lead you in
reciting Sun Yatsen’s last testament in
front of our flag before lessons begin.
When I am called away during class, she
will take charge and you are to report to
her!”
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Everyone clapped and I glowed with
happiness. The eyes of my supporters
were shining with respect and admira
tion. I said to myself, How is it pos
sible? I, the same despised daughter
publicly rejected by my parents yester
day, am now being honored by my
teacher and classmates! Which is the
true me? Though it’s blatantly obvious
that my father loathes me as much as
my stepmother does, perhaps he’ll
change his mind one day if I bring him
a few more honors. Besides, does he
truly hate me or is he just going along
with her because he loves her more
than me and wants a peaceful life?
After all, I am his real daughter.
All day, girls came up to offer their
congratulations and pat me on my back.
Nobody mentioned a word about being
dismissed by my parents from my
house. It was as if none of that had ever
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happened. As I basked in their goodwill,
the horrors of the day before started
fading. By the time I walked home, I
had put those dreadful memories be
hind and was lightheartedly skipping
along the pavement from stone to stone.
I pushed open the back door and real
ity rushed back at once. Cook was
plucking a freshly killed chicken in the
kitchen. He glanced at me and called
out ominously, “Ah Sun, she’s back
from school!” Now, why did he say
that? I didn’t wait to find out, but my
spirits sank and happiness evaporated
as I climbed the stairs, past the Holy of
Holies, where the door was mercifully
closed, past the antechamber where my
two half siblings were having afternoon
tea. (No tea for the likes of me, of
course. Never tea for the likes of me!)
Past my grandfather Ye Ye’s room.…
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Ye Ye was standing at his door,
watching me with a sad expression on
his face. He started to say something,
but Ah Sun was calling out in a loud
voice, “So you’re back! Tell me what else
belongs to you!”
She was in my room, kneeling on the
floor and packing a suitcase.
“What are you doing?” I asked
foolishly.
“What does it look like I’m doing?
Your Niang ordered me to pack your
clothes and move you out of your aunt’s
room. You are to sleep on the couch in
your Ye Ye’s room tonight. Tomorrow
your father and Niang are flying to Ti
anjin, and you’re to go with them.”
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“To Tianjin tomorrow!” I exclaimed
in dismay. “And Aunt Baba, what about
her? Is she coming too?”
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“You must be dreaming! Your Niang
says it’s a bad thing you’re always with
her. She spoils you too much.”
“But I have homework to do!”
“Homework!” Ah Sun scoffed. “What
for, when you’re flying off in an airplane
at noon!”
I ignored her and sat down at my
desk, laid out my books and started my
homework as if my life depended on it.
As I tackled my math and did my Eng
lish translation, the gloom of the next
day’s departure seemed to lighten
slightly. Ah Sun sneered at me but I told
her, “This is what I want to do on my
last afternoon in Shanghai.” She fin
ished the packing and went away.
I sat forlornly on the top stair landing
on our floor, longing for my aunt to
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come home, desolate at the thought that
I would never be able to go back to
school or see any of my friends again. I
pictured them waiting in vain for me to
lead them in reciting Sun Yatsen’s last
testament the next morning, and felt an
overwhelming sense of despair.
For once, Aunt Baba was early. From
the defeated way she walked up the
stairs, I suspected she knew my fate. We
entered our room and she closed the
door. She peered over at my homework
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as she peeled off her coat.
“Autumn has come early this year,
and the weather turns chilly when the
sun goes down,” she murmured, taking
my cold hands and rubbing heat into
them. “Are you wearing enough clothes?
She looked for my sweater, fished it out
of the packed suitcase and noticed a
hole in the elbow. She found needle and
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thread and started her repair, her fore
head creased in concentration.
She helped me put on my sweater. We
sat side by side on her bed. She re
moved the key from the chain around
her neck, opened her safedeposit box
and took out my stack of report cards. I
knew that in her eyes, my grades had
been conferred an extraordinary value.
“Never mind!” she said consolingly.
“With such exceptional grades, you’ll be
able to become anybody you want! Let
this be your secret weapon, your talis
man, your magic charm that will bring
you all the riches you could ever wish
for. One day, the world will recognize
your talent, and we’ll leave them and
live together in our own home. Just the
two of us.”
She didn’t say how I should actually
achieve this goal, seeing that I was only
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ten years old and in the sixth grade and
about to be banished to a Tianjin
orphanage. I saw the mortified stoop of
her shoulders and had no heart to chal
lenge anything she was saying. I under
stood dimly how important it was for
both of us to relish the dream, though I
could think of nothing but the
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heartrending prospect of being sent
away from her forever.
“Will you always be my aunt?”
“Of course!” She hugged me.
“Will you write to me every week?”
“Yes! And twice a week if you write to
me too!”
“For always?”
“For as long as you’re in Tianjin.” She
hugged me again. “And even after that,
for as long as you’ll remember me.”
“And then?”
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“After that it’s entirely up to you. I’ll
be here for you as long as I’m alive.
Surely you know that? But you must
never forget the dream. Try to do your
best at all times. You have something
priceless inside you which must not be
wasted. I’ve always known that. You
must prove them wrong! Promise?”
“Yes, I promise.”
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At Hongqiao Airport there were huge
crowds milling around, pushing and
shoving like a human tidal wave, fight
ing for tickets. To my amazement, fewer
than ten passengers boarded our plane
from Shanghai to Tianjin. I sat immedi
ately behind Father and Niang next to
an empty seat.
I didn’t know it then, but the China I
had always known was changing before
my very eyes. My grandparents Ye Ye
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and Nai Nai were both born during the
Qing dynasty, which ruled China for 374
years until Sun Yatsen toppled it in
1911. Following Sun’s revolution, local
warlords divided the country into fief
doms and waged war with one another
until the emergence of the Nationalist
Party under Chiang Kaishek. When
Japan invaded in 1937, most of China
was controlled by Chiang. However, the
Communists under Mao Zedong were
gaining momentum. Between 1937 and
1945, the Nationalists and Communists
formed a united front to fight the
Japanese. After Japan’s surrender in
1945, the civil war resumed between
Mao Zedong and Chiang Kaishek for
the control of China.
By September 1948, when Father and
Niang took me north to Tianjin from
Shanghai to separate me from my aunt,
the Communists were already in control
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of Manchuria and were advancing rap
idly southward toward Beijing and Ti
anjin. Province after province was being
lost to the victorious People’s Liberation
Army. Most people were fleeing in the
opposite direction. Railroad stations,
airports and dockyards were jammed
with passengers wishing to escape to
Taiwan and Hong Kong.
Being completely ignorant of the
political situation, I merely thought it
rather strange that the plane was so
empty when the airport was so full. As
soon as we took off, the stewardess
came around to hand out landing cards.
“Are you traveling alone?” she asked.
“No, I’m with my parents.”
“Good.” She smiled. “Then they’ll
have to fill this out for you.”
The airplane began to toss and roll. I
felt sick to my stomach, closed my eyes
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and must have fallen asleep. When I
awoke, Father was sitting by my side,
gently shaking my shoulder. I sat bolt
upright.
“Sorry, Father,” I began. “Have we
arrived?”
“Not yet.” He had three landing cards
in his hand and a sheepish expression
on his face. “The stewardess asked me
to fill out these cards. I’m afraid I’ve for
gotten your Chinese name. Is it Jun
qing?”
A pang went through me. I meant so
little to him, I was such a nobody, that
he didn’t even remember my name!
“No, Father. That’s Little Sister’s name.
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Mine is Junling.”
“Of course! Junling!” He gave an em
barassed chuckle and quickly scribbled
Junling on the card. “Now, give me
your date of birth.”
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“I’m afraid I don’t know, Father.” It
was true. In our family, the stepchil
dren’s birthdays were unknown. We
counted for so little that our birthdays
were never remembered, let alone
celebrated.
He scratched his head. “Hmm… let’s
see now. How old are you?”
“I’m ten, Father.”
“Ten years old! How time flies!” He
looked into space and was lost in rever
ie. After a while he continued, “But we
have to complete these landing cards!
Tell you what. Why don’t I give you my
birthday? Would you like that?”
“Yes, please, Father!” How wonder
ful! To share the same birthday as my
father! I was thrilled!
“Now you know what to say next time
when someone asks you for your
birthday.”
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That’s how November 30 became my
birthday. The same day as my father’s.
Niang’s brother, Pierre Prosperi, met us
at the airport. I had met him once be
fore when he came to our house for din
ner in Shanghai. I didn’t know where I
was or what time it was but dared not
ask. The day seemed to be drawing to a
close.
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“Say good evening to your Uncle Pi
erre,” Niang instructed me. When I did,
she exclaimed, “Not in the Shanghai
dialect! No one speaks that here.”
It was true. Everyone at the crowded
airport was shouting to each other in
Mandarin, the local dialect of Tianjin.
Outside, it was already dark. I knew I
was far from home, where Aunt Baba
was probably having dinner with Ye Ye
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and my three brothers. Was she think
ing of me too?
Father and Niang hurried me into a
big black motorcar. Father sat in front
talking business with Uncle Pierre and
the chauffeur. Niang and I were alone in
the backseat. I smelled her perfume
and was dizzy with worry and nausea. I
closed my eyes and pretended to be
asleep because I was afraid. We drove
for a long time. When we arrived, it was
pitchblack. The chauffeur got my suit
case out of the trunk while Niang told
me to stand with her in front of the
massive gates of a large building. It
looked familiar. Where had I seen it
before?
The gates swung open as soon as Ni
ang pressed the bell. Two tall foreign
nuns in starched white habits were
standing at the door. They shook
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Niang’s hand and patted me on the
head.
“We have been waiting for you,” they
said.
“Bow to Mother Marie and Mother
Natalie!” Niang instructed, and I bowed
obediently.
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“Sorry we are so late!” Niang ex
claimed as the chauffeur took my suit
case inside. “Behave yourself and listen
to the sisters!” Suddenly I realized she
was speaking to me. More than that, I
was being dismissed. “Mother Marie
used to be my English teacher and
Mother Natalie my French teacher
when I studied here.” She turned to the
sisters with a charming smile. “I won’t
trouble you now but will telephone you
at a more civilized hour tomorrow.
Sleep well!”
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She strode back toward the car, with
the chauffeur trailing behind. He re
spectfully opened the car door for her,
started the engine and pulled away. All
this time, Father and Uncle Pierre had
remained in the car, talking to each oth
er in hushed, earnest voices. Neither of
them bothered to look up or wave
goodbye.
I watched the taillights of Father’s car
disappear and an awful loneliness sank
in. They had tossed me aside like a piece
of garbage.
The sisters spoke in English, which I
barely understood. When I answered in
Mandarin, they shook their heads. “No!
No! No Chinese! You must speak only
English or French here! This is how you
learn!”
They took me into a big room with
rows and rows of beds, each with a
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curtain at its side. Only the three beds
nearest the door had their curtains
drawn. Mother Natalie placed a finger
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against her lips for silence. She pointed
to the bed next to the three occupied
ones and closed the curtain softly. “This
is where you’ll sleep, with the other
three boarders here. We used to have so
many and now there are only four,
counting you. Tomorrow you’ll meet
them all. Come with me now and I’ll
show you the bathroom. It’s late and
you must be tired.”
“Where am I, Mother Natalie?” I
asked. “Am I in Tianjin?”
She stared at me in astonishment.
“Didn’t your mother tell you? Yes!
You’re in Tianjin and she has enrolled
you as a boarder at St. Joseph’s, where
she herself went to school. She tele
phoned us two days ago and told us you
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had attended kindergarten here as a day
girl when you were five years old. Don’t
you remember?”
I lay awake for a long time, snuggled
under the blankets, thinking. No won
der those iron gates looked familiar! So
I’m back at St. Joseph’s. Well, at least
I’m not in an orphanage. Things could
be worse. Through a slit in my curtain I
could see the shapes of the rows of
empty beds in the semidarkness. Bed
after bed with no child sleeping. Each
with its curtain primly pulled back,
waiting and waiting. Every one bare and
sorrowful. Just like me.
I must have dozed off because I woke to
the murmur of voices. Sunlight poured
through my curtain and I recalled with a
start I was in a strange place far from
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home. I crawled out of bed and
nervously peered through my curtain.
A girl my age was sitting on the bed
next to mine talking to a grownup wo
man. They smiled at me.
“Hello,” the girl said in English. “Did
you sleep well?”
“Yes!” I answered, adding hastily in
Mandarin, “My English is bad. In fact, I
hardly speak any!”
She switched at once to Chinese and
said, “I am Nancy Chen. This is my
mother. Mother Natalie says you flew in
from Shanghai yesterday. Is that true?”
I nodded.
Nancy turned triumphantly to her
mother. “See, didn’t I tell you?”
“I can hardly believe this!” Mrs. Chen
exclaimed. “Aren’t you afraid?”
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“No,” I replied with a laugh. “Afraid
of what?”
“Didn’t your parents tell you the
Communists don’t believe in God and
hate foreigners? A Chinese student in a
foreign convent school is seen by them
as a member of the same religious order
and will be persecuted along with the
nuns if they win the war.”
I could only stare at her dumbly as
she continued. “What are your parents
thinking of? Everyone is fleeing Tianjin
for Shanghai or Hong Kong. And here
you are coming from the opposite direc
tion! Do your parents plan to move to
Tianjin and live here from now on?”
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“I don’t think so. I heard Father say to
my uncle in the car yesterday that
they’re flying back to Shanghai in four
days.”
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She looked at me, horrorstricken.
“And they are leaving you here by your
self? All alone in a foreign convent
school? Don’t they read the newspapers
in Shanghai? Haven’t they heard the
Communists are winning the war? Soon
PLA soldiers will be marching in from
Manchuria. When they arrive they’ll
probably arrest us capitalists along with
the foreign sisters and put everybody in
prison. Thousands of refugees from up
north are pouring into Tianjin every day
to get away from them! It’s almost im
possible to get a plane or train ticket out
of here! We’ve been waiting for two
months!”
Suddenly I remembered the chaos at
the airport the day before and could
only suck in my breath, sick with
dismay.
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Then she said, “What have you done
that your parents should wish to punish
you like this!”
My new school seemed so different
from my old school in Shanghai. To be
gin with, there were fewer than a hun
dred pupils in this enormous place
meant for a thousand. We were divided
into six classes, depending not on age
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but on our ability to speak English.
To my embarassment, they placed me
in the beginners’ group. My classmates
ranged from five to eight years old,
while I was almost eleven. It was as if
I’d never left kindergarten. Instead of
algebra, I was doing addition and
subtraction.
We were not supposed to converse in
Chinese with each other at any time. So
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I said nothing at all unless the sisters
addressed me by name. My classmates
probably thought I was dumb because I
was so much bigger but never raised my
hand or volunteered to answer any
questions.
In English conversation class one day,
Mother Marie pointed to me to stand up
and read aloud from Grimm’s Book of
Fairy Tales. My mouth was dry, and I
knew my accent was terrible. Mother
Marie mimicked my pronunciation, and
everyone snickered.
Finally she asked, “How old are you?”
“Ten.”
“How do you feel about coming to
school here?”
I looked around at my classmates, all
of them smaller, younger, smarter and
fluent in English.
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“I feel old,” I told her.
“You mean like having one foot in the
grave?”
All the girls chuckled. I looked up the
word grave with a fury of concentration
in the EnglishChinese half of my dic
tionary. Then I made a quick search for
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two other words in the ChineseEnglish
section.
“Well, as I was saying, do you feel as
if you have one foot in the grave?”
“Yes! And my other foot is on a piece
of watermelon rind!”
There was loud laughter, and a
twinkle came into Mother Marie’s eyes.
“So we have a comedian here! Tell me,
what is your favorite book?”
I held up my dictionary. “This book
here! I can’t live without it.”
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Everyone laughed, including Mother
Marie. “And if you could have one wish
granted, what would that be?”
“To receive a letter addressed to me.
Just one letter. From anyone.”
Nancy Chen left Tianjin with her moth
er in the middle of November 1948. By
then, the number of students had
dwindled and we were all gathered into
a single classroom, ranging in age from
seven to eighteen. Every morning, fewer
girls would show up than the day be
fore. One by one they vanished, many
without saying goodbye. By the middle
of December, I was the only student left.
Three days before Christmas, Mother
Marie gave me an assignment. I was to
learn by heart a poem called “A Visit
from St. Nicholas.”
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I didn’t like the poem. It was too
hard. I looked up all the complicated
English words and translated them into
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Chinese, but the poem still didn’t thrill
me.
When I recited it, Mother Marie
asked, “Who wrote it?”
“Someone called Clement Clarke
Moore.”
“Really! I wouldn’t have guessed in a
million years! Clement Clarke Moore is
probably turning over in his grave! It
sounds like nothing I’ve heard before. I
thought you were repeating a Chinese
poem!” I didn’t feel so bad because she
smiled while saying this and patted me
on the head. Besides, we were all by
ourselves in the classroom and there
was no other student there to laugh at
me.
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Mother Marie was nice, but she
seemed at a loss as to how and what to
teach me. In fact, all the sisters ap
peared somewhat bewildered and
avoided looking at me directly whenever
they happened to meet me in the cor
ridors. They themselves darted around
aimlessly all day in their blackand
white winter habits, silently clicking
their rosaries. The atmosphere was eer
ie and strange. Our days were
numbered! The Communists were com
ing! Everyone knew, but nobody talked
about it.
Day after day, I would wander by my
self from classroom to classroom be
cause there was nowhere to go and no
one to play with. I hated being by myself
and missed my schoolmates terribly. All
the rooms were empty. Rows and rows
of desks and chairs and nobody any
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where. I would look at the whitewashed
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walls hung with maps of China, Tianjin
and France, stand in front of the blank
blackboard filmed with chalk dust, stare
at the crucifix above the door, sit at a
desk scarred by thousands of cuts and
pencil marks. The place had become a
ghost town.
Once I wandered into the chapel after
lunch and found it full of praying nuns.
Apparently, this was where the sisters
were spending most of their time. I
knelt in a pew and looked at the majest
ic vaulted ceiling. The statues of Jesus
and the Virgin Mary radiated a special
tranquillity as they peered out from the
candle smoke and incense vapor float
ing upward. I dared not breathe too
hard, for fear it would all be blown
away. Someone started playing the or
gan. The music enchanted me. For a few
minutes I felt safe again, the way I used
to on Saturday nights in Shanghai,
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when I would snuggle deliciously in bed
for hours and hours, knowing there was
no school the next day. Once more, I
saw Ye Ye and Aunt Baba playing cards
by my bedside. Everything was cozy, re
laxed and comfortable. My aunt’s hair
was combed back smoothly into a bun
that glistened in the lamplight. I heard
again the rhythm of her voice inter
mingled with Ye Ye’s laughter drifting
across the room. What wonderful,
soothing sounds! Then she tucked the
blankets around me and lowered the
mosquito net over my bed.
On Christmas Day, I ate dinner all by
myself in the vast refectory. Sister
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Helene brought me an enormous plate
of ham, beans and potatoes. Meanwhile,
she was rushing in and out distractedly,
bringing in one thing at a time: bread,
water, butter, applesauce, salt, pepper.
But she had neglected to give me a fork
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and I had nothing to eat with. One
minute she seemed glad I was still
around for her to fuss over. The next
minute she had forgotten all about me
after saying she would bring me hot
Christmas pudding for dessert.
I sat for ages pushing my food around
on my plate. Outside I could hear the
sound of a phonograph scratching out
the sweet refrain of “Silent Night,” sung
by an unknown soprano. I put my head
against my folded arms on the refectory
table and fell asleep.
Later on that evening, I wrote to Aunt
Baba.
Dearest Aunt Baba,
I have been trying to think of
what I should say to you because I
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is no other student in the school
now except for me. I am the only
one left. Just me and the sisters in
this enormous place. Sometimes I
can’t help wondering what’s going
to happen when the Communists
come. Will they take me away with
the sisters and put me in prison
too?
It is impossible to describe to
you how I feel. I have written to
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you so many, many times! And to
Ye Ye and Third Brother too. So
far, there is no letter from anyone.
Why don’t you write? Why
doesn’t anyone send me a letter?
I want you to drop me a line
when you get this. I can’t imagine
why you don’t reply. You have no
idea what it’s like. To be all alone
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night I lie awake for a long time
and stare at all the other empty
beds in my dormitory, laid out
next to each other like little tombs.
I want you to send me your pho
tograph so I can place it by my
bed. I would give everything in the
world to be with you and Ye Ye
again back in Shanghai.
Don’t forget me.
Day after dreary day went by. New
Year’s came and it was 1949. There was
nobody to play with and nothing to do.
The sisters were far too busy to fuss
with me. Every day was a free day. I
spent a lot of time in the library reading
fairy tales. Mother Marie had given me
a book for Christmas called Paper Ma
gic: Playing Solitary Games with
Paper—Origami and Paper Cuts. Hour
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after hour, I learned how to fold and cut
paper into airplanes, ships, flowers,
monkeys and birds. I loved this book
because my troubles seemed to vanish
when I applied its magic.
I didn’t dare ask Mother Marie too of
ten whether I had any mail because the
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answer was always no. I didn’t know
then that Niang had instructed the nuns
to stop all my incoming and outgoing
mail and forward it to her instead.
“Look, there is no point in inquiring
anymore!” Mother Marie told me one
day. “Believe me, if you get a letter, I’ll
shout it from the rooftop and bring it to
you at once! Even if you’re asleep I’ll
wake you up!”
Then she looked embarrassed and
gave me a piece of candy she took from
a small gold box in her pocket. “This
little snuffbox is the only thing I have to
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remind me of my father,” she told me.
“He died in Nîmes three years ago. So
you see, we all suffer in one way or an
other.… Let us pray for each other.” In
her voice I heard sadness and fear.
I was bouncing a ball against the wall in
the school yard, sending it as high up as
I could and jumping up to catch it. I saw
Mother Marie huffing and puffing to
ward me. She was waving her right arm
and yelling, “Adeline! Adeline!” (The
French nuns at St. Joseph’s School
called me Adeline, not Yen Junling.)
Was it lunchtime already? I glanced
at her as I bounced the ball hard, one
last time. Back up it went! I tried to
catch it as it came down, but it landed
on my head. It hurt a lot, but I didn’t
want Mother Marie to notice, so I acted
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as if it were nothing. What was she
saying?
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“Adeline! Your aunt is here to take
you out of school! She is sailing to Hong
Kong next week and wants to take you
with her!”
My heart gave a giant lurch as her
words sank in. For a dazzling moment, I
knew with every fiber of my being that
somehow, against all odds, Aunt Baba
had come to my rescue! The whole of
me was vibrating with joy, and I ran as
fast as I could toward the visitors’
lounge, followed by Mother Marie.
I stopped abruptly at the threshold.
In front of me was a small, mousy for
eign woman with dark brown hair,
dressed in a Western suit. There was no
one else.
“Adeline!” She smiled and greeted me
in English. “How big you’ve grown! Do
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you remember me? I am Aunt Reine
Schilling, your Niang’s older sister.”
I smiled back shyly, saying nothing. A
black wave of disappointment swept
over me.
“Come here! Don’t be afraid! The last
time we met you were still in kinder
garten. It must have been six years ago
when your Nai Nai was still alive. You
were only four or five years old then. No
wonder you don’t remember!”
Something came over me. Great
waves of anguish swelled up. I tried
again and again to greet her, to be polite
and say how grateful I was that she had
come. Words choked me as I struggled,
silently cursing my poor English. Then,
to my great embarrassment, in front of
Mother Marie and this stranger, I star
ted to weep.
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I hardly knew why I was crying. For
the last few months, I had taken the
blows as they came, with stoical forti
tude. The pain of being torn from my
aunt; the anxiety of seeing all my
schoolmates disappear from St.
Joseph’s; the perception of being aban
doned and forgotten; the fear of being
imprisoned by the Communists; the
knowledge of my teachers’ own terror
and helplessness.…
Of course, I had no words to describe
any of this. Somehow, it was still des
perately important to put up a front and
keep up the pretense. Besides, Aunt
Reine was stroking my hair and telling
me not to cry. “Hush now! Hush!
Everything will be all right! It’s a good
thing your parents mentioned you were
enrolled as a boarder at St. Joseph’s
when they dined with us in September.
Otherwise how would we have known?
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To think we might have left Tianjin
without you! Now you can sail with us
to Hong Kong next week. You can share
a cabin with me and my daughter,
Claudine. She is nine. My husband,
Jean, will share one with our son, Vict
or, who is ten. Your parents will be so
pleased to see you. They fled to Hong
Kong three months ago with Ye Ye and
your younger brother and sister.”
For the first time since my arrival in
Tianjin, the sisters allowed me to go
out. We walked briskly toward Father’s
house on Shandong Road. Outside, it
was sunny and cold. The streets were
deserted. There was very little traffic
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and few pedestrians. A truckload of sol
diers in peaked caps and padded winter
uniforms drove past us.
“People’s Liberation Army!” Aunt
Reine exclaimed. “How young they are!
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None of these Communist soldiers look
over twenty.”
I was shocked. “Is Tianjin in Com
munist hands?” I asked in a whisper.
“Has Chiang Kaishek lost the war?”
“Yes! With hardly a bullet being fired!
Beijing is lost too. The Nationalists
simply gave up and retreated south.
Didn’t the sisters tell you?”
“No, they never talk about the civil
war. But all the girls are gone and I am
the only pupil left. Thank you for res
cuing me.”
“It’s a good thing I suddenly thought
of you. You see, we’ve been living in
your father’s house for the last few
months and taking care of it for him.
Since we’re leaving, I tried to contact
your Big Sister to keep an eye on the
house. That’s when I learned she and
her husband have already escaped to
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Taiwan. Didn’t your sister visit you to
say goodbye before she left Tianjin?”
“I’ve seen no one since I came here
last September. You are my first and
only visitor.”
“Aren’t you afraid? All by yourself like
this?”
I heard the concern in her voice and
was close to tears again. “A little.”
She tried to reassure me. “Everything
will be fine from now on.”
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“Where is Aunt Baba? Is she in Hong
Kong too?”
“No, she chose to remain in
Shanghai.”
“Does Niang know you’re taking me
with you to Hong Kong?”
“No, I haven’t had a chance to write
her.”
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I was terrified and trembled with fear.
“May I please go to Shanghai instead of
Hong Kong?” I begged.
“No, of course not! The Communists
will probably be marching into Shang
hai in a few months. Don’t look so
scared! You’ll be safe in less than three
weeks. After lunch, we’ll come back in a
rickshaw and get your belongings. What
can be better than being with your par
ents and Ye Ye in their new home in
Hong Kong?”
I dared not reply but thought What
can be worse? All the time I was quak
ing at the thought of what Niang would
say when she saw me.
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We three children were very excited
when we walked up the gangway of the
British flagship China Star and saw of
ficers, crew and staff rushing around. A
Chinese steward led the way and helped
Uncle Jean and Aunt Reine with our
luggage. Victor, Claudine and I lagged
behind. The steward was tall and thin
and towered over everyone. His head
was completely bald and he walked with
a pronounced limp.
As we followed them down a long,
narrow corridor toward our cabins, all
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we could see was the steward’s shiny
scalp bobbing up and down under the
dim ceiling lights. Victor whispered to
me, “One thing about having no hair at
all on your head, you always look neat!”
Though I was still feeling nervous and
tonguetied because it had only been
three days since Aunt Reine took me out
of St. Joseph’s, I laughed out loud. That
was the effect Victor had on people. He
and Claudine made me feel at ease as
soon as I met them.
“Boys to the right and girls to the
left,” Uncle Jean said. Our two cabins
were directly opposite each other. In
side, everything was neat, bare and
clean.
While Aunt Reine, Claudine and I
were unpacking, there was a knock on
the door. Victor stood there, grinning
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from ear to ear and wearing a bright
redandorange life jacket.
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“Why are you wearing that?” Claud
ine protested. “Our ship hasn’t even
sailed yet!”
“In case the China Star starts going
down. Then you’ll really be sorry you’re
not wearing one yourself! Here! Let me
show you something!” He parted the
curtain and looked out of the round
porthole. Our cabin was below deck.
Outside we could see nothing but deep,
dark water. It did appear rather sinister
and forbidding.
Claudine became alarmed. “Mama,
how often does a ship sink?” she asked.
Before Aunt Reine had time to reply,
Victor quipped with a straight face,
“Only once!”
Aunt Reine and I could not help
laughing in spite of ourselves. But then
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Victor did something my brothers
would never have done. He took off his
life jacket, slipped it on his sister and
showed her how to adjust the straps.
There were only two narrow twin beds
in our cabin, each covered with a dark
blue bedspread tucked in tightly. At
night, our steward brought in a tiny
rollout cot because there were three of
us.
I assumed the cot was for me. Though
the mattress was thin and barely six
inches from the floor, I didn’t mind be
cause it was a small price to pay for be
ing rescued from the Communists. I was
arranging the blankets and pillow when
Aunt Reine put a restraining hand on
my arm.
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“Now, now! Remember what I told
you on your first day with us. It’s share
and share alike in our family. Nobody is
going to be treated differently. Come,
let’s draw lots to decide who will sleep
on the floor.”
She tore a sheet of paper into three
parts, wrote Bed 1 on one, Bed 2 on the
second and Cot on the third, folded
them and placed them in a paper bag,
from which we made our picks, includ
ing Aunt Reine herself. Claudine picked
first, came up with Cot and slept there
the entire time without protest.
That was how the Schilling family
treated me throughout the time I spent
with them. They made me feel as if I
were their third child. For the first time
in my life, I did not automatically get
the short end of the stick but was given
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an equal share, just like Victor and
Claudine.
As we steamed southward, the weath
er became noticeably warmer. The sea
was calm, and we three children spent
much time playing hideandseek on the
decks. Once Victor hid in a lifeboat for
half an hour while we searched every
where. Then he suddenly jumped out as
we passed below him, scaring and de
lighting us at the same time.
“I am Sinbad the Sailor!” he cried.
“Don’t you love the smell of the salty sea
and the noise of the engines and
everything about this ship?”
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“What I love best is the library. Let’s
go there!” I told them.
The library was tucked away in a
quiet, secluded corner next to a sun
drenched atrium. All the books were in
English. Most of them were mysteries,
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romances and travel books. We browsed
for a while until Victor found a stack of
games. Claudine turned out to be a whiz
at Monopoly. While we played, I could
not help noticing how nice Victor was to
his sister. Though he liked to tease her,
he was gentle and protective at the same
time.
For long stretches of time on that
voyage, as we chased each other on
deck, read books in the library, played
games in the atrium or made paper cuts
from the book Mother Marie had given
me, I actually felt as if I were part of the
Schilling family and no longer the un
wanted daughter who always came last.
At night, I would fantasize about being
adopted by them, belonging to them
and going off with them forever. How
wonderful life would be if I did not have
to face Niang ever again! Then I would
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remember my true status and my heart
would be touched by ice.
It could be put off no longer. The
dreaded day had arrived for me to come
face to face with Niang. Our ship
steamed into the dock in Hong Kong
harbor. We walked down the gangplank
in search of a familiar face, but no one
was there to meet us.
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Aunt Reine comforted me. “It was so
difficult to get our boat tickets, and I
couldn’t be sure until the very last
minute. By then it was too late to write
to your parents. Two months ago I did
send them a letter to say we were defin
itely coming to Hong Kong soon but
didn’t know the exact date. I’ll go find a
telephone to tell them we’re here and
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that you’re with us, Adeline. They’ll be
so thrilled!”
Victor and Claudine groaned in uni
son, crushed at not being met. I
breathed a sigh of relief but quickly pre
tended disappointment.
We hailed a taxi and squeezed in with
all our luggage. Aunt Reine turned to
me. “I forgot today is Sunday. We’re
lucky because when I phoned your par
ents, I found everyone home! Including
your father!”
I sat in the taxi in silent terror. The
roads were clean and traffic was or
derly. Our cab trailed a tall red double
decker bus, which stopped at a traffic
light.
Claudine wound down the car win
dow. “How hot and stuffy Hong Kong
is!” she said. “Look at the street signs.
They’re all bilingual with English on top
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and Chinese at the bottom but nothing
in French.”
Victor answered in a superior tone.
“Of course there is nothing in French.
Everything has to be in English because
we are on British soil. Hong Kong has
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been a British colony for over one hun
dred years. It became British when Ch
ina lost the Opium War. Look at the
shop signs! They have English on them
too!”
Having spent so much time together
while sailing from Tianjin to Hong
Kong, the three of us had become good
friends. Victor addressed me: “Let’s
continue our Monopoly game when we
get to your parents’ place. On board
ship, I kept losing. Maybe my luck will
change here. Will you show me how to
make those paper cuts and lend me that
book Mother Marie gave you called
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Paper Magic? What a smashing book!
You think your mother will let us have
some big sheets of paper so we can
make fleets of airplanes and platoons of
soldiers? I’ll paint designs on them in
two different colors and we can play war
games with them. Won’t that be fun?” I
smiled and nodded. Victor didn’t know
that the makebelieve Niang I talked
about was very different from the real
one we’d be facing.
All too quickly, our cab turned into a
street marked Boundary Street and
stopped opposite an imposing school
building. Was I to be dropped off at an
other school so soon? A large sign above
the gate read MARYKNOLL CONVENT
SCHOOL. No children were about, and the
gate was closed.
The cabdriver asked me for his fare in
Cantonese, expecting me to translate
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since I was the only one with a Chinese
face. Aunt Reine answered in fluent
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Mandarin and paid him. Regarding her
with new respect, he pointed to the
freshly painted threestory apartment
building next to us and helped with our
luggage. So they live opposite a girls’
school, I thought. Is Little Sister en
rolled there? How convenient for her!
Suddenly, Father, Niang, Fourth
Brother, Little Sister and two maids
were swarming around us. “Hello!
Hello! Hello! Hello! Welcome! Wel
come!” Niang was embracing Aunt
Reine and jabbering away gaily in a
mixture of French and English. “We
have been watching out for you from
our balcony! Come in! Come in!” Her
greeting appeared to include me,
though she neither made eye contact
nor addressed me directly.
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Father grinned from ear to ear and
warmly shook Uncle Jean’s hand.
Fourth Brother hailed Victor, and Little
Sister was making conversation with
Claudine. In the hubbub, they had for
gotten me! I felt faint at my good for
tune and lingered behind with the
maids, helping them with the luggage.
I was the last to struggle up the stairs
with my suitcase. Their apartment was
on the second floor. The front door was
half open, and I entered a hallway cum
dining room. Inside, it was dim, but I
heard voices and laughter emanating
from the living room. I blinked to clear
my vision and put my case down tentat
ively, pushing it close against a wall to
make it as unobtrusive as possible.
Someone coughed and I looked up,
realizing with a start that I was not
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alone. My eyes adjusted to the semi
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darkness and there, standing quietly at
one end of the oval dining table against
a small window, was my grandfather!
“Ye Ye!” I cried as my heart leaped
with joy. I rushed across to stand by his
side, knowing he had been waiting for
me.
“Let me look at you,” he said, measur
ing my head against his chest. “My, how
you have grown! I do believe you’re
already almost as tall as your Aunt
Baba. Tell me, did you lead your class
before you left Tianjin?”
I couldn’t very well tell him about be
ing the only student left in the entire
school. Besides, I was a little shy be
cause he sounded strange and familiar
at the same time. There was something
else indefinable about him which
brought a lump to my throat. I looked
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down at my feet, unable to speak for a
moment.
“Have you already forgotten how to
talk in our Shanghai dialect?” he teased.
“Are you able to chat in French and
English now? Take off your coat! Why
are you wearing it when sweat is pour
ing down your face? I do believe you’re
still dressed for the bitter Tianjin
weather! What is to become of you!
Grown so big and still so little!”
His voice was full of love, bringing
back longsuppressed memories of
home and Shanghai and Aunt Baba. I
took off my coat and sweater. Un
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derneath I was still wearing the long
sleeved white blouse and dark blue
woolen skirt that were the winter uni
form of St. Joseph’s and the only clothes
that still fitted me. “We’d better go in
and join your parents now,” he said
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with a hint of reluctance, leading the
way. “Otherwise they’ll be wondering
where you are.”
In the living room everyone was
crowded around a glass coffee table.
They made room to include us and gave
Ye Ye the seat of honor, while I squatted
on the floor with the other children.
Aunt Reine had a pair of scissors in her
right hand. She took her coat and ex
amined the buttons one by one. As we
watched spellbound she selected a but
ton, cut a knot and pulled a thread. Out
emerged a sparkling diamond to glitter
magnificently against the dark brown
cloth of her winter jacket. Everyone
gasped, and Niang laughed out loud
while clapping her hands like a child.
Aunt Reine repeated the process until
there were eight precious stones
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glittering in front of us, dazzling us with
their radiance and luster.
“My entire diamond collection!” Ni
ang exclaimed. “How clever you are,
Reine! Did anyone suspect?”
“There were a few hairraising mo
ments,” Aunt Reine replied with a
smile. “But let’s not dwell on those in
front of the children! Not only do you
have your gems back, we also have res
cued your daughter from Communist
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hands! This calls for a double celebra
tion, n’estce pas?”
Though Aunt Reine was speaking of
me, neither Niang nor Father looked in
my direction. So far, they had not ad
dressed me at all. Theirs was the gaze
that glances but does not see.
“Champagne all around!” Father ex
claimed, grinning from ear to ear. “How
can we ever thank you enough? May we
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invite you to the Peninsula Hotel for
dinner tonight? They have recently em
ployed a new chef who is excellent.”
During the ensuing commotion, Ye Ye
signaled me to leave the room with him.
“When Aunt Reine phoned this morn
ing and I heard of your unexpected ar
rival in Hong Kong,” he said, “I ordered
the maids to set up a cot in my room at
once. While your Niang is in this eu
phoric mood, quickly unpack your bag
and settle in before she changes her
mind about your staying here. This
apartment is small and there is little
room.”
“Thank you, Ye Ye.” I picked up my
suitcase and followed him to his room.
There was no need to say more. He did
not elaborate, and I asked no questions.
We understood each other’s predica
ment only too well. He strolled back to
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the living room while I started to un
pack. The new quality in his voice that
hadn’t been there before came back to
me. What was it? The correct word
dawned as I closed the lid of my empty
suitcase. Of course! It was defeat. Ye Ye
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had given up.
The Schilling family stayed at a small
hotel nearby. Next morning, they
walked over for breakfast at nine
o’clock. Father had already left for the
office and Fourth Brother and Little
Sister were at school. Niang made plans
to take her sister’s family shopping and
sightseeing. She invited Ye Ye to ac
company them.
“No, thank you,” Ye Ye declined po
litely. “I am feeling a little tired today.
My neck bothers me.”
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“Adeline, you can make yourself use
ful for once and massage Ye Ye’s neck
for him,” Niang ordered, looking dir
ectly at me for the first time.
I was overjoyed! Not only had Niang
finally acknowledged me, she had even
given me a task to perform! Perhaps she
had forgiven me? “Yes, Niang,” I
answered promptly.
Victor groaned. “Does that mean
Adeline won’t be coming with us? Quel
dommage! Before I go, Adeline, how
about folding a few more paper air
planes with me? There is still time.”
After their departure, Ye Ye and I
settled comfortably in the airy and
bright living room.
“Read me the newspapers,” Ye Ye
said. “The newsprint here in Hong
Kong is definitely smaller. I can hardly
read the papers even with glasses. My
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doctor says it’s due to my diabetes.
Lately, I’m also having trouble hearing.
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My lower back aches as much as my
neck. The worst thing about growing old
is that the gadgets of my body are fail
ing one by one.”
I started to read, but all the news was
depressing.
“It is estimated that the loss incurred
at the Battle of Huai Hai has cost the
Nationalists over half a million troops.
Chiang Kaishek has definitely resigned
as president of China. Vice president Li
Tsungjen takes office and is trying to
negotiate peace with the Communists.
People’s Liberation Army soldiers are
marching toward Nanking and Shang
hai and preparing to cross the Yantze
River en masse. Mobs intending to flee
Shanghai for Hong Kong and Taiwan
congregate and riot at shipping offices
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for tickets. One U.S. dollar is now worth
9.5 million Chinese yuan.” I stopped of
ten because many Chinese words were
unfamiliar.
“You are forgetting your Chinese!” Ye
Ye admonished. “Go get the dictionary
on the table by my bed. Look up those
new words I just taught you and copy
them in your notebook.”
My mind was full of gloomy thoughts,
and I suddenly burst out, “I’m sick and
tired of blindly copying Chinese charac
ters over and over into my notebook like
a robot! I hate studying Chinese! It’s a
waste of time. Besides, your dictionary
is not a real dictionary. It’s only a
ChineseChinese dictionary, not a
ChineseEnglish dictionary. I only want
to learn English, not Chinese.”
“How can you say that?” Ye Ye
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The hurt on his face made me cringe,
but I was unable to stop. “My teacher
Mother Marie says the only way to suc
ceed in the second half of the twentieth
century is to be fluent in English.”
“Hand me a piece of paper, get me a
pen and come over here,” Ye Ye said
softly. “Let me show you something.
Though you have a fine mind and a
subtle intellect, the sentiments you ex
press not only expose your ignorance,
they also wound my heart. You forget
that I know you only too well. Not only
what you look like outside, but also how
you are made inside. How can you say
you hate the study of Chinese when you
are Chinese yourself? Go look in the
mirror if you have any doubts!
“You may be right in believing that if
you study hard, one day you might be
come fluent in English. But you will still
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look Chinese, and when people meet
you, they’ll see a Chinese girl no matter
how well you speak English. You’ll al
ways be expected to know Chinese, and
if you don’t, I’m afraid they will not re
spect you as much.
“Besides, China is a huge country
with a vast population and an ancient
culture. Though life has to be lived for
ward, it can only be understood back
ward. Reading Chinese history will en
lighten you in ways no English writing
can.
“I predict that in a hundred years
from now, the world’s many languages
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will be distilled down to three: Chinese,
English and Spanish. Chinese will never
disappear because China’s population
has a unified written language.
“Above all, there is the wisdom and
magic of our language itself. When you
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read a Chinese book, try to look at the
characters and think about them. I have
met many who appear to know a good
many Chinese words but never actually
grasp the true meaning of any of them.
“Let me give you the example of just
one character, (bei), to illustrate my
point.
“In ancient times, cowrie shells were
used as units of money and were ex
changed for goods and services. In time,
a hole was drilled in these shells and a
row of shells was held together by a
string. A string of shells was called
(bei). Look at the character (bei) care
fully. Does it not resemble a row of
shells held together by a piece of string
knotted at the end?
“I agree that Chinese words are more
difficult to learn than English. We do
not have an alphabet, and there is no
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correlation at all between our written
and spoken language. In fact, I once met
a Frenchman who could not speak a
word of Chinese but wrote and read
Chinese so well he worked as a translat
or of Chinese law at the French consu
late in Shanghai. Chinese is a pictorial
language, not a phonetic one. Our
words come from images. The meaning
of many characters is subtle and pro
found. Other words are poetic and even
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philosophical.
“To go back to (bei). Because the
word evolved from something that was
‘valuable’ in ancient times, many mod
ern Chinese words containing the com
ponent (bei) are associated with fin
ance or commerce in some way. Take
the word (měi); it means ‘to buy’;
(mèi) means ‘to sell.’ Place the two
words side by side (měi) (mèi), ‘buy
sell,’ and the term means ‘business.’
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Now, what is the essence of business if
not buysell? Regardless of what com
modity you are trading, if you wish to be
successful in business, you hope to buy
low and sell high. Otherwise you are in
big trouble. This is universally true re
gardless of what business you’re in.
“Look at (měi) (mèi) again.” (The
words look almost the same but are pro
nounced a bit differently.) “What is the
only difference between the two charac
ters? Compared to (měi), ‘buy,’ the
word (mèi), ‘sell,’ has the symbol (tu)
on top. What is (tu)? The word (tu)
means earth or land. If the essence of
business is buysell, then its most im
portant ingredient is (tu), ‘earth’ or
‘land.’ Should you go into business one
day, keep this in mind. Everything else
can be made better or cheaper or faster,
but not land. It is the only commodity
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that can never be duplicated or
replaced.
“Now look at two other words that
also contain (bei). They appear very
similar. At first glance, if you are care
less, you might even mistake them for
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each other. (pin) and (tan). But you
have to be very, very careful. Don’t ever
mix them up just because they resemble
each other. (pin) means poverty.
(tan) means greed. Remember how
much the two words look alike. Yes,
greed and poverty are intimately linked
in mysterious ways indeed. All covet, all
lose.
“You have the newspaper in front of
you. Pick another word, for instance ,
(yi). Look at it. The top part, (yin), is
‘sound.’ The bottom part, (xin), is
‘heart.’ Does not look like a jumping
heart? Put (yin) on top of (xin) and
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you have (yi), which means ‘sound
from your heart.’ The new word, (yi),
is the symbol for ‘intention’ or
‘meaning.’ What is ‘intention’ but a
‘sound from your heart’?
“How about a new word, a difficult
word, (jian)? On top is the symbol for
‘grass’ or ‘straw’ or ‘vegetable matter’,
Below is a little house with a partition in
the middle, On the left of the wall is ,
a symbol for ‘small.’ On the right is
(chong), a symbol for worm. So here we
have a little house made of vegetable
matter with a little worm in it. What is
the word? (jian), ‘cocoon’! Look at it
again. Now close your eyes! Do you see
a little straw hut with a small worm
inside?
“Then you can have two or more
words that, combined together, are
transformed into something wonderful
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and illuminating. For instance, (wei)
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means danger. (ji) means opportun
ity. Add them together and you have a
‘crisis.’ Break them apart and keep in
mind that whenever you are in a crisis,
you are in the midst of danger as well as
opportunity.
“Now, do you still think the study of
Chinese is boring?”
For a whole week, Niang went out with
the Schillings. She always invited Ye Ye
but never included me. Everyone knew
she didn’t really want Ye Ye to accom
pany them and only asked him out of
politeness. He invariably thanked her
and said he preferred to rest at home.
Did I mind being left behind with my
grandfather? Of course not! As soon as
Niang left, it was as if a heavy weight
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had been lifted off my shoulders. Aside
from Ye Ye, me and the maids, even the
apartment itself seemed to breathe a
sigh of deliverance. At once, the whole
place became brighter, cozier and
friendlier. To the two of us sitting side
by side playing Chinese chess or reading
the newspaper, the house would gradu
ally transform itself into a happier and
more intimate place.
A week went by and it was Sunday
again. The sun was shining, everyone
was home and excitement was in the
air. At breakfast, Niang announced,
“Today, we’ll all go for a long scenic
drive and visit the elegant Repulse Bay
Hotel on the far side of Hong Kong is
land. I’ve made lunch reservations at
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the hotel’s dining room, where the view
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is breathtaking and the food delicious.
Our car will travel from Kowloon to
Hong Kong across the harbor by ferry.
After lunch, we’ll go for a swim at the
beach, rent a tent and have an after
noon picnic. Won’t that be fun?”
She made it sound so enticing that for
once, even Ye Ye agreed to go.
I wondered if I was going to be in
cluded in this special outing. Niang had
not said I couldn’t go. Nor had she said
I could.
One by one, they piled into Father’s
large Studebaker while the maids
stocked the car trunk with picnic
hampers, lotion, blankets and towels.
Father, Ye Ye and Uncle Jean sat in
front. Niang, Aunt Reine, Claudine,
Fourth Brother and Little Sister were in
the back. Victor and I stood hesitantly
next to each other. The car sagged
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under the weight of its many
passengers.
“Come on, Victor,” Niang cried out
gaily in French. “Room for just one
more, I think. We can all squeeze in just
a little tighter.”
Victor was half in and half out of the
car. He turned around and saw me
watching him from the curb. “It’s not
fair, Maman. What about Adeline?” he
asked Aunt Reine in French. “Since Ye
Ye is coming with us, she’ll be home by
herself. Why don’t we take her along?”
Not understanding French and impa
tient to depart, Father asked Victor in
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English, “What is it, Victor, do you want
to use the bathroom before we start?”
Victor shook his head, “No, Uncle
Joseph,” he began in English, but Niang
interrupted him in French. “There is not
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enough room. You can see how crowded
we all are.”
“Then what about yesterday and the
day before and the day before that?”
Victor persisted.
“Stop dawdling and get in the car!”
Aunt Reine commanded. “Everyone is
ready to go and you are delaying
everything.”
“It’s so unfair,” Victor continued.
“Why doesn’t she get to go anywhere
with us?”
“That’s just the way it is!” Niang ex
claimed sharply. “You either get in now
and come with us, or you can stay home
with her. Suit yourself!”
“In that case,” Victor replied gal
lantly, “I think I’ll stay and keep Adeline
company.”
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He climbed out to stand by my side.
Together, we watched the car drive off. I
was overwhelmed by his chivalry but
could find no words sufficient to ex
press my gratitude. After a painful
pause, I ran upstairs, dug out my book
Paper Magic, gave it to him and said,
“This is for you.”
He took the book hesitantly, too
stunned to say a word, unable to believe
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his good luck.
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I knew the Schillings were leaving Hong
Kong for Geneva on Thursday morning,
so I got up early and hovered around
the front door, hoping Father would
take me along when he left to drive
them to the pier. But he was in a rush,
and I was too shy to say anything. The
result was that I never got to say
goodbye.
Two days later, an hour after lunch on
Saturday afternoon, the maid Ah Gum
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knocked on our door. I opened it softly
and placed my finger against my lips be
cause Ye Ye was taking his afternoon
nap. She whispered that Niang wanted
me to pack my bag immediately because
I was being taken away.
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Father was at the office, and Little
Sister was attending a birthday party.
Niang, Fourth Brother and I climbed in
to the backseat of Father’s Studebaker. I
didn’t know where they were taking me
and dared not ask. In the car, Fourth
Brother deliberately snubbed me. He
was playing with Niang’s diamond ring,
twisting it around and around her fin
ger. I envied his privilege and freedom
as he nonchalantly positioned her finger
this way and that, trying to catch the
sun’s rays. She looked on indulgently
while I sat primly in my corner, with my
back straight and my skirt pulled down,
hoping to be unnoticed. I knew Fourth
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Brother was angry at me because of
what had happened earlier.
Ye Ye had a habit of going into the liv
ing room at eight o’clock every morning
to read the newspapers before break
fast. His sight was failing, and he liked
the bright sunlight at that hour. To my
surprise, I caught a glimpse of Fourth
Brother lurking furtively in the hallway.
I thought, It’s Saturday and there’s no
school. Besides, Fourth Brother hates to
get up early. What is he up to?
Now Ye Ye was shuffling slowly from
the hall toward the halfopen door of
the living room. I happened to look up
and suddenly spotted a pile of thick en
cyclopedias propped precariously on the
door’s upper ledge: lying in wait, like
their perpetrator, Fourth Brother, to fall
on Ye Ye’s shaven head.
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I was seized by a sudden rage. It was
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a sizzling hot day but I felt a chill with
in. In a flash, I lurched forward, over
took Ye Ye and pushed the door open
violently. Three heavy volumes crashed
to the floor, narrowly missing our heads
and landing with a loud bang!
“Mind your own business!” His plans
thwarted and beside himself with fury,
Fourth Brother was screaming at me at
the top of his lungs. “Gun Dan! Gun
Dan! (Get lost! Drop dead!)”
“How mean you are!” a voice de
clared. We both turned to see the tiny
figure of Little Sister, arms akimbo,
glaring at Fourth Brother from the
doorway of her room.
Before either of us could react, Father
rushed out in his bathrobe. Grasping
the situation at once, he hesitated
briefly. I saw his face, half turned
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toward Fourth Brother and half turned
to return to his room. “Pick up the
books!” he commanded finally in a stern
voice. “Such a racket! Don’t you know
your mother is still sleeping? Keep your
voices down when you play! That goes
for all three of you!”
And that was all.
Afterward, Ye Ye and I sat by
ourselves on the long couch, not saying
a word. I looked at my grandfather, de
feated and resigned with a blanket
around his drooping shoulders in the
blistering heat, his face contorted with
sadness and anguish. A tired old man
with no one to turn to, imprisoned by
his love for his only son, my father.
I closed my eyes and made him a
promise. I didn’t dare say it out loud,
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but I wished very hard over and over,
It’s bound to get better. One day things
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will be different. Life won’t go on like
this forever. I don’t know when, how or
what, but I’ll come back and rescue you
from this. I promise!
In the car, Fourth Brother demanded
to have afternoon tea at the posh Penin
sula Hotel. We stopped there, though I
felt sick to my stomach, besieged with
unknown fears but too afraid to utter a
single word. As we approached the
grand entrance, I spied a little girl
standing forlornly beside a man kneel
ing on the ground with his head bowed.
Both were in rags. On the pavement was
a sheet of paper describing their miser
ies and a plea for help. The child had a
large placard hanging around her neck
on which was written, MY NAME IS FENG
SANAN. I AM FOR SALE.
In the cool, luxurious lounge on the
ground floor of the hotel, there was a
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long line of Chinese customers waiting
to be seated for afternoon tea. The cap
tain was writing down their names in a
large leatherbound appointment book.
Fourth Brother had run ahead and
was in the process of giving his name.
As I approached with Niang, I heard the
captain repeating in Chinese, “Last
name is Yen. Party of three? Looks like
half an hour’s wait, I’m afraid.”
Meanwhile, Niang was impatiently
checking the time on her gold Rolex
watch. Haughtily, she demanded in
English to be seated immediately. “My
name is Prosperi,” she proclaimed in
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her best European accent. “We are in a
great hurry!”
With one sweeping glance, the cap
tain took in Niang’s French designer
suit, alligator handbag, matching shoes
and sevencarat diamond ring. “Of
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course, madam,” he said without any
change of expression, while leading us
past the long line to sit at a table by the
window. After all, Hong Kong was a
British Colony. White people took pre
cedence over the native population and
went automatically to the head of every
line, wherever that might be.
After tea, we crossed the harbor by
ferry and drove past an impressive
building, Governor’s House, which was
surrounded by lush green lawns and
guarded by tall English soldiers. Our car
stopped at a large school building
perched halfway up a slope. A sign out
side said SACRED HEART SCHOOL AND
ORPHANAGE.
Two foreign nuns in white habits
greeted us. Niang and Fourth Brother
followed them into a conference room,
while I was left outside in the hall.
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Nobody was around, and there was
nothing to read except the school bro
chure lying on the table. Surely they
can’t fault me for perusing that!
I found out there were twelve hun
dred students enrolled at Sacred Heart,
of whom sixtyfive were boarders. The
rest were day girls. More ominously,
Sacred Heart also had an orphanage for
unwanted daughters abandoned by
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their parents. I felt my heart pounding
as I pondered my fate.
I told myself, The danger is very real.
Niang loathes me. As for Father, he
doesn’t really care. He hardly knows I
exist, remembering neither my name
nor my date of birth. To him I don’t
matter.
Finally, after an hour and a half, they
emerged together. To my astonishment,
Niang actually introduced me with a
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smile to Mother Mary and Mother
Louisa. I thought, Is this part of her
trick to abandon me in the orphanage
where I would cost her nothing? I had
better concentrate on what she’s say
ing. Good heavens! She is congratulat
ing me on my good luck because the
sisters are making an exception. I am
being admitted as a boarder even
though it’s the middle of the school
year! Did she say boarder ? My heart is
singing and I can hardly believe my
good luck. There is a God after all!
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T WO YEARS LAT ER; SUMMER 1951
During mass at the cathedral I kept
thinking, It’s Sunday again and I feel so
blue. There’s no doubt about it. Sunday
is my least favorite day of the week.
Just thinking about it makes me cringe!
Thank goodness it’s the last Sunday of
the summer term.
After mass we filed two by two back
to school, then immediately dashed into
the refectory for breakfast. As usual,
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Mother Mary wheeled in a huge vat of
steaming boiled eggs. These eggs were
precious because you couldn’t just order
them from the sisters, no matter how
rich your father was. Someone from
home had to care about you enough to
take the trouble and bring fresh eggs to
you personally during visiting hours on
Sunday, carefully wrapped and padded
in newspapers. In addition, you had to
paint your school number in indelible
ink on the shell and retrieve your egg
when Mother Mary called your number
during breakfast. Then you walked back
to your seat with your egg perched
proudly in your eggcup, showing the
whole world that you were cherished
and beloved.
Since no one had ever come to visit
me (let alone brought me an egg), it was
humiliating to sit there morning after
morning looking on, knowing my
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number would never come up. During
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these sessions, I usually pretended to be
deaf and preoccupied.
Suddenly, my friend Rachel shoved
my elbow. “Do you hear what I hear,
Adeline? Mother just called your
number! Thirtyseven!”
“Impossible!” But sure enough, I
heard Mother Mary plainly this time.
“Number thirtyseven!”
I rose with amazed delight. The whole
refectory was now silent. All eyes were
watching me. Nobody believed my num
ber had been called. Nor did I!
I returned with my prize settled in its
very own cup. The first time in two
years! Finally an egg after 730 eggless
mornings! Carefully, I examined its sur
face. The number 37 was plainly visible,
painted in black ink on the smooth,
brownish shell. I thought, Who is it
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from? Do I have a secret admirer?
Dare I eat it? Is it really mine to be con
sumed at will?
I imagined tapping my egg with the
back of my spoon, cracking its top, del
icately peeling off the broken bits of
shell and digging into its white mem
branous surface. Oh, what bliss to taste
that wonderful rich yolk on my tongue
and let it slide deliciously down my
throat! So very, very tempting! I longed
for it. Yet I knew very well it was not
mine. It was a mistake. Perhaps a trick
or a cruel practical joke. What if the
rightful owner came up while I was in
the middle of enjoying my egg and
claimed it? What should I do then?
Once I broke the shell, there was no go
ing back.
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I steeled myself and got up from the
table. Mother Mary had just handed out
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the last egg and was about to leave with
her empty vat. I approached her hesit
antly, feeling confused and defensive,
and handed back the egg.
“Mother Mary! This is not mine.”
Impatiently, she dropped the vat and
scrutinized my egg with a sigh. “It says
thirtyseven. What is your number? Are
you number thirtyseven?”
“Yes, Mother!”
“Then the egg is yours.”
“No, it can’t be!”
“Why not? Why can’t it be?”
Everyone had stopped eating and was
listening intently. There was not a
sound. This is terrible! I thought. I’m
drawing attention to myself and
broadcasting my state of perpetual
egglessness. What can I say that’s
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logical and convincing and still pre
serve a bit of dignity?
“My parents know I hate boiled eggs.
That’s why they never bring me any,” I
blurted out, my face burning with
shame at the lie. “So there is no possib
ility this egg can be mine!”
Behind me, I heard someone (prob
ably Monica) snickering and saying in a
loud stage whisper, “I suppose she hates
chocolates and mangoes too. That’s why
no one ever comes on Sunday to bring
her any goodies at all.”
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Sixteenyearold Monica Lim was three
years older than I and the daughter of
one of the richest tycoons in Hong
Kong. She was tall, pretty and well
groomed. Her nick164 name was
Brains because she routinely led her
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class. Rumors were she’d be head girl
the next year.
Every Sunday, Monica dressed in the
latest European fashion to greet her
mother, who reputedly was not her il
lustrious father’s real wife but merely a
concubine and a former bar girl. During
visiting hours on Sunday, the only day
we boarders were allowed to dress in
street clothes, Monica and her mother
looked like models as they strutted
around the school yard in fashionable
costumes, embellished with padded
bras, silk stockings, tailored qipaos and
imported highheeled shoes. Besides
eggs, her mother brought Monica soda
crackers, malted milk balls, Cadbury
candy bars, beef jerky, seasonal fresh
fruit and ice cream. On her birthday,
Monica traditionally got a giant cream
cake covered with luscious strawberries,
which she shared only with certain
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handpicked “friends.” Because of her
father’s fabulous wealth, she was much
pampered by the nuns and received
many special privileges.
For a long time, Monica ignored me.
She was one of the elite group of beauti
ful “big girls” whom we plain “little
ones” were supposed to admire and
worship from afar. Then we both got
picked to write for the school magazine.
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In three successive issues, my essays
were selected over hers by Mother
Agnes, our editor. At the end of my first
year at Sacred Heart, I skipped a grade,
and the girls started calling me Scholar.
They began comparing my writing to
Monica’s. One day, I accidentally
bumped into her in the library and she
said resentfully, “Instead of trying to
memorize every book in here, you’d be
more popular if you get yourself some
pretty dresses instead.”
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I felt my face go hot because I knew I
looked terrible. Having no money and
not knowing where to buy a bra, I tried
to hide my budding breasts by wearing
two sets of shrunken underwear to flat
ten my chest. Besides my uniforms, I
possessed only one oldfashioned, plain
brown Sunday dress that was too small,
too short and too tight. I always wore
tennis shoes because those were the
only shoes available for sale in the
school gym and Mother Mary had per
mission to charge them to Father’s ac
count at her discretion. As for my hair,
well, I knew I’d better not even think
about it! So I swallowed my anger and
walked away.
In spite of Monica’s unkind remarks
about my lack of visitors on Sundays,
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the girls ignored her and nobody else
made fun of me.
Toward the end of breakfast, Mother
Mary announced that because it was the
last Sunday before the beginning of the
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summer holidays, visiting hours were
being extended from two hours to three.
Everyone cheered, but I felt jittery.
When I was nervous I always had to go
to the bathroom. It was crowded with
everyone preparing to meet their par
ents. They were preening themselves in
front of the mirror and arranging their
hair. Not yet! Better wait another half
hour. I sauntered into the library and
picked out a few books. What a beauti
ful room! Away from all the noise,
giggles and excitement. My haven. My
sanctuary. The place where I belonged!
My real world!
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But even there I didn’t feel entirely
safe on Sunday mornings. It was okay
for a temporary respite, but girls some
times brought their parents in for a tour
of the premises. When they saw me they
felt obliged to make polite conversation,
though I’d much rather they would ig
nore me and treat me as part of the fur
niture. Sure enough, my classmate
Irene Tan walked in with her mother.
“This is our library, Mother. Oh,
hello, Adeline. Let me introduce you to
my mother! This is Adeline Yen, top
student of our class. She skipped two
grades and will be going into form five
after the holidays, at thirteen!”
“Studying so hard even on a Sunday!”
Mrs. Tan exclaimed, turning to her
daughter. “Now, why can’t you be like
that?”
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I felt like a freak and looked enviously
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at Irene’s elegant new sandals and
matching dress. “No! No! I’m not study
ing. This is purely for pleasure and
recreation.”
Mrs. Tan came over and glanced at
my book. “What are you reading? King
Lear ! My! My! You say this is for
pleasure?”
I hung my head and saw my worn
tennis shoes with the hole at the side
and wrinkled stockings with the elastic
washed away, knowing I must appear
very odd indeed next to Irene’s stylish
elegance in my oldfashioned, tight,
shabby brown dress. Hanging out in the
library and reading King Lear out of
choice simply rounded out the whole
dismal picture. A special sort of idiot
savant found in Hong Kong Catholic
convent schools. I was wishing fervently
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I could disappear when I heard Irene
say, “Last Friday we were reading King
Lear out loud in class and Adeline sud
denly burst out crying.”
I felt an intense heat spreading up
ward from my neck. What she reported
was true, but I had no words to explain
it away. The poetry and pathos of Lear
had moved me so profoundly I simply
couldn’t control myself. So much of his
plight seemed to mirror that of my
grandfather at home. Contrary to all lo
gic, I had the uncanny sensation that
Shakespeare had actually had my Ye Ye
in mind when he wrote his immortal
play four hundred years earlier.
When Lear knelt in front of his evil
daughter Regan to plead for his food
and lodging, I saw my Ye Ye dropping to
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his knees to say the same terrible words
to my stepmother:
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Page 346Dear daughter, I confess that I
am old;
Age is unnecessary: on my knees I
beg
That you’ll vouchsafe me raiment,
bed and food.
However, Mrs. Tan was looking at me
with an odd expression on her face,
halfway between pity and curiosity. It
made me acutely uncomfortable. All I
wanted was to make a quick getaway.
I glanced at the clock and feigned sur
prise. “Oh! Excuse me! Is it tenfifteen
already? I’d better go get ready. Other
wise I’ll be late!”
I strode out purposefully with an
armful of books, though I didn’t know
where to head for, hating myself for my
pretense. Why couldn’t I tell Mrs. Tan
candidly, “I hide out and read in the lib
rary because my parents never come to
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visit me. And I don’t like everyone to
notice I’m the only one always left out.
It’s easier to make myself invisible. I
wish I had someone like you. Irene is
very lucky.”
Tentatively I circled the bathroom. In
American magazines, they described it
as “casing the joint.” Thank goodness it
was now deserted. Furtively, I walked
away at first, then retraced my steps
and quickly slipped into the last, most
unobtrusive lavatory stall. I locked the
door and carefully placed my stack of
books on a ledge by the window so that
nobody would see them should anyone
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peek under the gap beneath the door. I
ensconced myself on the toilet seat with
a sigh of relief. It was smelly and damp,
but I felt safe. No one could get at me.
Privacy at last! No prying eyes, spiteful
remarks, pitying glances. I was alone
with my beloved books. What bliss! To
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be left in peace with Cordelia, Regan,
Gonoril and Lear himself—characters
more real than my family back home or
my schoolmates downstairs. The
rhythm! The story! The magical words!
What happiness! What comfort!
All too soon, I heard footsteps ap
proaching. Were visiting hours over?
Surely it couldn’t be one o’clock already!
I heard the voices of Irene Tan and
Eleanor Lui. They were trying on new
dresses, hairbands and ribbons, chuck
ling at their reflections in the fulllength
bathroom mirror.
“What a stunning outfit!” Irene was
exclaiming. “Do you dare go into lunch
wearing this skimpy little number after
what happened this morning at
breakfast?”
“That was almost too close for com
fort!” Eleanor replied.
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“Why did you do it, anyway?”
“I thought Adeline might like an egg
for breakfast once in a while. My num
ber is thirtyone and hers is thirtysev
en. Mama is always bringing me eggs on
Sunday even though I tell her not to. I
can’t stand eating them, especially the
way they softboil them here, with the
yolk all runny. Reminds me of snot.
Yesterday I wrapped a halfeaten egg in
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my paper napkin and trashed it in the
wastebasket in the study when no one
was looking. Unfortunately Ma Mien
(HorseFace) Mother Valentino came
across it and fished it out. At first I
denied it was mine, but she merely
pointed to the number on the shell. “It’s
a sin to waste food like this when so
many of your countrymen are starving
to death!” she screamed. Then she
forced me to get a spoon and eat it.
Later that day, I sneaked into the
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kitchen and changed the number on my
egg from one to seven. Thought Adeline
might get a kick having her number
called for a change! How was I to know
she hates eggs? All I’m aware of is that
she gets neither eggs nor visitors on
Sundays.”
“They say Adeline is brilliant, but to
me she’s rather pathetic too. Rushing
around in that infantile brown dress
looking like a refugee fresh off a junk
from the mainland. Never gets any let
ters either, though she’s always first in
line when mail gets delivered. I heard
Monica say to her yesterday, ‘Expecting
a letter from someone? I wouldn’t hold
my breath if I were you!’”
“Monica is just unhappy she and
Adeline will be in the same class next
term after the holidays. No brain likes
to be upstaged. In spite of how she
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dresses, I think Adeline will be okay
eventually. She has a sort of special
spirit, and it’s a person’s inner core that
counts, don’t you think?”
The lunch bell sounded and they
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scurried off. I waited awhile longer,
then opened the door a crack to make
sure no one was around. Whew! What a
relief! The coast was finally clear!
In the bathroom mirror I stared at
myself while washing my hands, full of
inarticulate emotion. I mulled over
Eleanor’s secret attempt to pass on her
unwanted egg for me to consume,
thinking, Who am I kidding? The whole
world knows of my eggless state, and
some even feel sorry for me. No way
will I ever allow myself to be the object
of anyone’s charity or pity. Besides, in
spite of everything, is there not a hint
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of respect in their sentiments toward
me?
I walked to my cubicle and sat at the
edge of my bed after drawing the cur
tain around me for privacy, then
stacked my books beside my flashlight
in the bedside locker. Did the sisters
know that I frequently read by flashlight
under the bedclothes after lightsout?
Did other thirteenyearolds also have
terrifying thoughts at night and diffi
culty sleeping? Were they sometimes
besieged by anxiety and nameless mon
sters of the deep? If so, how did they
deal with these paralyzing fears about
their future? What was their escape
route?
I looked down with distaste at my
shrunken brown dress two sizes too
small… my “refugee costume”! Better
change back into my school uniform
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before joining my peers for lunch, I
thought. At least my uniform was still
the right size.
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It was the last day of term. Classes had
finished, and we boarders sat in the
lounge waiting for our parents to take
us home for the summer holidays.
Eleanor Lui was wearing her good
shoes with the twoinch heels, examin
ing herself in the mirror and fluffing up
her hair.
“I must admit my bangs are rather
nice… even if I say so myself,” she
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announced.
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“They certainly look better than your
legs!” replied Monica unkindly, thereby
drawing attention to her own slim, well
shod feet. It was true that Eleanor’s legs
did appear somewhat fat and beefy in
comparison as she tottered around un
steadily on her high heels.
“The problem is I love to eat too
much,” Eleanor said candidly with a
giggle. “Remember yesterday when we
had a discussion on crocodiles in Ma
Mien (HorseFace) Valentino’s science
class? I was wondering how barbecued
crocodile meat would taste when Ma
Mien suddenly asked me whether cro
codiles have lungs. As long as their meat
tastes good, who cares how they
breathe?”
“That’s why you are such a marvelous
cook!” her loyal friend Irene Tan ex
claimed. “Everything is reduced to a
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recipe in your head. Do you remember
that discussion we had in English class
on the word serendipity?”
We all burst out laughing. Our Eng
lish teacher, Mother Louisa, had just
defined the meaning of serendipity as
“a discovery by accident of things which
one is not in search of.”
“Now, girls, I want you to give me
some examples to illustrate this word
and make it come alive for the class,”
she instructed.
Rachel raised her hand. “How about
the discovery of America by Columbus?
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He was looking for a shortcut to the
East Indies when he came upon a whole
new continent.”
“Very good indeed! Another example,
girls?”
“Last Sunday my dad was telling me
about the Korean War,” Daisy Chen
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said. “He read in the newspapers that
many badly wounded American soldiers
were being saved by this medicine
called penicillin. Ten years ago they
would all have died. Apparently an Eng
lish doctor in London called Alexander
Fleming dropped some mold on a plate
of germs and noticed how all the germs
around the mold got killed. That’s how
he discovered penicillin. Completely by
accident!”
“This is another excellent example.
Now, do you remember last week’s les
son on the word galvanism? Can we
combine the two concepts, serendipity
and galvanism?”
The previous week, Mother Louisa
had said that the word galvanism came
from a man named Luigi Galvani, who
first noticed a frog’s leg muscle twitch
ing when its nerve was stimulated.
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However, no one knew the answer to
her question because she hadn’t men
tioned what Mr. Galvani was doing with
the frog’s leg to begin with when he
made his discovery.
“Eleanor!” Mother Louisa finally
asked. “Wake up! Do you have a theory?
What is the story about Mr. Galvani and
his frogs?”
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“Oh! Mother Louisa!” gushed Eleanor
enthusiastically. “Frogs’ legs are
delicious stirfried with a little ginger
and soy sauce. So tender and juicy. In
my dad’s restaurant, we have frogs’ legs
and I order them every time. Only
they’re called field chickens on the
menu. Same thing, really.” She paused
briefly and must have suddenly re
membered to whom she was speaking.
“I think Mr. Galvani was eating frogs’
legs for dinner. Maybe he bit on a nerve
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by mistake and the leg twitched or
something. That’s another example of
serendipity.”
Mother Louisa arched her eyebrows
while the whole class roared. “Amazing!
So you have Mr. Galvani chewing on a
bunch of twitching frogs’ legs!” She
waited for the uproar to die down, then
continued. “In actual fact, Mr. Galvani
was hanging frogs’ legs by a copper wire
from an iron railing at his home. A gust
of wind blew the copper wire against the
iron railing and the frogs’ legs twitched.
Without meaning to, he had accident
ally created an electric current. This
serendipitous event in the eighteenth
century resulted in the discovery of
galvanism.”
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One by one my fellow boarders left, call
ing out “Best wishes” and “Happy sum
mer holidays” to each other. Eventually,
only Rachel Yu, Mary Suen and I were
left behind.
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Though I felt a special closeness to
these two friends, I was never able to
openly confide in them anything about
my family. Those were emotions I
repressed and thoughts I hated to think,
let alone express. Besides, they had
their own problems.
Mary’s father kept a “small wife” and
spent most of his time with his second
family. Her mother, though ostensibly
his “big wife,” saw him only on Mary’s
birthday and Chinese New Year. Neg
lected and ignored, Mrs. Suen became
bitter and quarrelsome. On the rare oc
casions when Mr. Suen did come
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“home,” he and his wife argued
constantly.
Rachel’s parents were separated. Her
father, a wellknown jockey and horse
trainer, saved every penny to keep her
at Sacred Heart. She was his sole reason
for existence and an investment for his
future, but she felt smothered by his
expectations.
After the hubbub and excitement of
everyone’s departure, I developed a
stinging headache. Even though I had
mentioned nothing of my summer
plans, all the girls knew I was again the
only boarder not going home for the
holidays because I had not bothered to
pack. It was hard to be the only one left
behind time after time, and I couldn’t
help feeling sorry for myself. Mary and
Rachel were probably staying around
deliberately for as long as possible to
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keep me company. Did they sense my
mood?
I sauntered out onto the balcony, and
they followed me. It was getting dark,
and lights were coming on all the way
down the slope, across Victoria harbor
and into the peninsula. We could see
the giant ships dotting the bay below,
and welllit ferryboats moving smoothly
to and fro between Hong Kong and
Kowloon. I was seized by a longing to
escape.
“More than anything,” I told them, “I
yearn to grow up, get out of here and
see the world. Wouldn’t it be wonderful
if the three of us could sail away togeth
er on one of the big boats down there to
all those countries we’ve been reading
about: Japan, England, Australia,
America? We must get away, stand on
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our own two feet and create our own
destiny.”
“Let’s make a pact,” Rachel said, “that
we’ll always be there for each other,
wherever we may be.”
Solemnly, the three of us placed our
six hands on top of one another and
made a giant fist.
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My headache worsened after Mary and
Rachel went home and I was left alone.
All night long I tossed and turned, feel
ing hot one minute and cold the next,
trying to find a comfortable position.
There was a tickle in my throat and I
couldn’t stop coughing.
Next morning, the sight of my break
fast sickened me. It was very depressing
to sit in the refectory all by myself, filled
with a feeling of déjà vu. In the middle
of it I had a coughing fit and ended up
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vomiting. When I came back from the
bathroom, I coughed up some blood.
Mother Mary felt my forehead and
told me I was burning up. She ordered
me to go to bed and called a doctor. My
temperature shot up to 104 degrees.
When the doctor came, he immediately
admitted me to the hospital.
While I was hospitalized, Mary Suen
came to see me every day. She was my
one and only visitor. Her mother lived
within walking distance of the hospital
and Mary told me she had nothing bet
ter to do. On one occasion Father
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dropped in; Mary saw him because she
happened to come into my room while
he was leaving. Later, she was able to
report to our friends that not only did I
actually have a father, but he was also
handsome, well dressed and looked
“very important,” thus disproving once
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and for all the widely held belief that I
was an orphan.
The doctors injected me with penicillin
and I recovered. Father’s chauffeur
came to fetch me when I was dis
charged. To my amazement, instead of
taking me directly back to school, he
drove toward the car ferry terminal
instead.
“Am I going home?” I asked, half
hopeful and half fearful.
“Yes. Those are your mother’s
orders.”
Third Brother opened the door when
I rang the bell. He had recently arrived
from Shanghai. I was overjoyed to see
him and had a million questions.
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“Where is everyone? The apartment is
so quiet!”
“Father is at the office. Niang, Fourth
Brother and Little Sister have been in
vited to a friend’s house. Before Niang
left, I heard her tell the chauffeur to
bring you home to recuperate here for
one week.”
I was greatly relieved. “So it’s just the
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three of us for the time being. Where is
Ye Ye?”
“He is having lunch. Let’s join him.
I’ve been waiting for you.”
We found Ye Ye sitting by himself in
the dining room, despondently staring
at his plate. On it were some steamed
carrots, a small piece of poached fish, a
mound of rice and a few potatoes. His
face lit up when I ran to his side and
greeted him. “Ye Ye!”
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“Ah, Wu Mei! You’re home. I must
apologize for not waiting for you to have
lunch. My diabetes is worse and this
English doctor friend of your father’s
has put me on this special diet.” He
looked down with distaste at his food. “I
have to eat punctually at eight, noon
and six. Otherwise my blood sugar goes
skyhigh. The trouble is, I get so tired of
eating the same thing three times a day,
every day.”
He sounded so sad I felt like crying.
Instead I sat down beside him to keep
him company and asked Third Brother,
“How is Aunt Baba?”
“She’s fine. Still working at Grand
Aunt’s bank. She keeps worrying about
you and Ye Ye.”
“Did the Communists bother you?”
“No. Life in Shanghai is better than
ever. Actually”— he lowered his
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voice—“I was having such a good time I
didn’t want to come to Hong Kong at
all. Big Brother and Second Brother left
over a year ago to go to college in Eng
land. So at home it was just Aunt Baba
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and me. She treated me like a king!”
“Life in Shanghai won’t be like that
forever!” Ye Ye warned. “The Commun
ists will show their true colors sooner or
later. Besides, your father has plans for
you to study in England next year. Just
like your two older brothers.”
“How lucky! Oh! If only I could go to
college in England too! I’d give anything
in the world to be able to do that! Alas!
It’s not for us girls.” A thought struck
me and I continued, “Where is Big
Sister? Is she still in Taiwan?”
“No! Against everyone’s advice, she
went back to Tianjin with her husband
and took their baby daughter with
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them,” Ye Ye replied. “Yes! Big Sister is
now a mother, and I have my first great
granddaughter. What a mistake Big
Sister is making in going back to Com
munist China! Mark my words! She’ll
come to regret it.”
“What are your future plans?” Third
Brother asked, turning to me. “How are
you doing at school these days?”
Before I could reply, Ye Ye said
proudly, “True to form, she continues to
be top of her class year after year. She
started in form one when she first came
to Hong Kong. The next year, she
skipped a grade and attended form
three. We just received a letter from
Mother Superior saying that they’re en
couraging her to skip another grade. In
September she’ll be going into form
five—and she’s only thirteen years old.”
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“Not bad!” Third Brother exclaimed.
“You must feel pretty good about
yourself.”
“Oh, I don’t know. What good does it
do? Being top of my class and skipping
grades and all that. My friends probably
think I’m some sort of freak, reading all
the time. Not that it’ll get me anywhere.
They nicknamed me Scholar, but I don’t
know whether that’s complimentary or
derogatory. I read because I have to. It
drives everything else from my mind. It
lets me escape to find other worlds. The
people in my books become more real
than anyone else. They make me
forget.”
“It’s not so bad here, is it?” Third
Brother asked wistfully.
“How can you say that!” I exclaimed.
“But then, you’ve only just arrived.
Besides, you’re a son, not a despised
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daughter, and you have England to look
forward to. For me, it’s bad. In fact, very
bad. To begin with, I have no future. I’m
terrified they’ll force me into an ar
ranged marriage like Big Sister’s just to
be rid of me. I don’t know what they
have in store, but you can be sure it’s
not England. I’ve been here for over two
years, and this is only the third time I’ve
been allowed home. The rest of the time
I’m shut away behind convent doors
like a nun. Last time I was home was
five months ago at Chinese New Year. I
was helping Little Sister with her home
work when Niang pointedly told her not
to spend too much time with me and
sent her away. Who needs it? No one.
She treats me like a leper, and I know
she doesn’t like me. Quite honestly, I
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don’t like myself either. As for Father,
he doesn’t even remember my name. In
his mind, I’m nothing. Less than
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nothing. A piece of garbage to be
thrown out—”
“Don’t talk like that!” Ye Ye interrup
ted. “You mustn’t talk like that! You
have your whole life ahead of you.
Everything is possible! I’ve tried to tell
you over and over that far from being
garbage, you are precious and special.
Being top of your class merely confirms
this. But you can vanquish the demons
only when you yourself are convinced of
your own worth.
“The world is changing. You must rely
on yourself and not end up married off
like Big Sister. I have faith in you. Go
out there and compete in the most diffi
cult examinations. Create your own des
tiny! Your Ye Ye is an old man now and
his days are numbered. Who knows how
long we have to talk like this? But no
matter what happens, always remember
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that my hopes are with you. Trust me!
Continue to work hard! One day you’ll
show the world what you are really
made of.”
At that moment Ah Gum entered the
room with our lunch. In contrast to Ye
Ye’s spartan repast, she placed sweet
andsour spareribs, string beans with
beef in black bean sauce and sautéed
spinach on the table for Third Brother
and me. As soon as she left the room, Ye
Ye quickly served himself a generous
helping of ribs.
“I know I’m not supposed to eat this,”
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he said, “and your father will probably
yell at me should he find out. But my
doctor has taken all the taste out of my
food. Sometimes I ask myself, ‘What’s
the point of hanging on if I can’t even
enjoy my meals? What else is there left
for me?’”
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There was so much despair in his
voice it made me cringe. I longed des
perately to make it up to him. So I said,
“When I go back to school, I’ll try even
harder. And if I should be so lucky as to
succeed one day, it’ll be because you be
lieved in me.”
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When I went back to school after a
week, the holidays were not yet over
and all the girls were still home with
their families. The place was a tomb.
Day after day, I sat in the library
reading and chatting with Mother
Louisa, who also served as the school
librarian. In a magazine, I came across
an announcement for a playwriting
competition that was open to English
speaking children anywhere in the
world. Inspired by Ye Ye’s exhortations,
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I approached Mother Louisa with some
trepidation.
“Should I enter this competition? Do
you think I stand a chance?”
“As good a chance as anyone else.
Since you have time on your hands and
wish to enter, why don’t you? It will fo
cus your energies and give you a goal.”
“Because I don’t think I’m that talen
ted. I’m afraid of losing.”
“Look at it this way. Anyone who
enters has a chance. However, if you
don’t enter, then you certainly will have
destroyed your chance before you even
begin. First, you must believe that you
can do anything you set your mind to.
Remember the old adage: genius is ten
percent inspiration, ninety percent
perspiration.”
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I sent for information and was tremend
ously excited when I received by return
mail the application form as well as four
pages of extremely complicated rules
and regulations. That was the only mail
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I ever got during my entire time at
Sacred Heart. Laboriously, I read and
reread the instructions and set to work.
I titled my play Gone with the Locusts
and created the story of an imaginary
African girl who was stolen from her
parents by bandits during a famine
brought on by locusts. Into her lips I in
jected my loneliness, isolation and feel
ing of being unwanted. To my heroine I
gave everything of myself. What began
as a diversion became a passion. In the
end, I had her triumph over her ad
versities through her own efforts. I en
joyed my task so much that I was al
most sorry when it was completed.
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“This play is dedicated to my grand
father,” I wrote proudly on the cover
sheet, and sent it off the day before the
girls came back from vacation.
School restarted, and I was in the
fifth form. Though I wrote many letters
to Father and Niang begging them to al
low me to go to college in England with
Third Brother, they never replied. In
fact, they seemed to have forgotten me
entirely. When they moved into a bigger
house, I was never told but discovered it
by serendipity. During Christmas vaca
tion, I was helping Mother Mary sort
out a bulky pile of mail addressed to the
sisters. To my amazement, I came
across a card sent by my parents!
Besides holiday greetings, Joseph and
Jeanne Yen informed the nuns of their
change of address. Instead of Boundary
Street in Kowloon, they were now living
on Stubbs Road in Hong Kong. Of
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course, they had not thought it neces
sary or worthwhile to write to me.
Chinese New Year’s came and went in
1952 without any contact from home.
There was also no news about my play,
even though six months had gone by.
Mother Louisa consoled me: “Be pa
tient. No news is good news. As long as
you don’t hear, you can keep on hoping.
Pray hard. Miracles do happen.”
“If I win, will you inform my Ye Ye?
He’ll be so pleased! He really believes in
me, and I dedicated my play to him.”
MARCH 1952
I was playing basketball and the score
was close. I lowered my head and
lunged toward the basket, eluding my
defender by suddenly switching to her
left. I found myself free and took careful
aim—
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“Adeline!”
Ma Mien (HorseFace) Valentino was
calling me. I shot the ball anyway and
watched its arc as it sailed through the
air and through the hoop. Swish! Two
points! The score was tied. For once I
didn’t miss.
“Adeline! Come here at once!”
“Aw, Mother! Can we please finish
our game? Five more minutes? Please?”
“No, Adeline! This can’t wait. Your
chauffeur is waiting for you downstairs
to take you home.”
“My chauffeur? Am I hearing cor
rectly? Take me home? Have I died and
gone to heaven?” There was a hush. All
the girls on the basketball court were
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listening, with their faces upturned. I
knew what was going through their
minds because I was thinking the same
thing. “Adeline actually has a
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chauffeur?” We were all equally
astonished!
I left the court and ran to Mother
Valentino. “Go wash your hands and
comb your hair,” she said. “There is no
time for you to change clothes. Your
father has sent his chauffeur to take you
directly to the Buddhist temple. Your
grandfather has died. Today is his
funeral.”
I sobbed throughout the long ceremony,
besieged by sorrow and loss. No one
else was crying. Father, Niang, Third
Brother, Fourth Brother and Little
Sister sat stonyfaced next to me as the
monks chanted endless prayers and ex
tolled Ye Ye’s virtues. The heady smell
of incense permeated the air.
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Between masses of white flowers I
saw my Ye Ye’s kind, sad face peering at
me from his photograph perched on his
coffin. I heard his voice once more, ex
horting me to try my best and create a
life of my own. It was because of him
that I had dared to enter the playwriting
competition. Now he’ll never know how
much he influenced me. Does anyone
else in the world care whether I win or
lose?
I saw Niang looking at me with open
disdain as we filed out and waited for
Father’s chauffeur to drive us home. I
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knew I looked ghastly with my dirty
school uniform, scuffed and smudgy
tennis shoes, straight, unpermed hair,
bitten fingernails and swollen eyes red
from crying. Standing beside her made
me feel especially worthless, plain and
small. I caught a whiff of her perfume
and was sick with fear.
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As the Studebaker approached, Niang
turned to Father and announced in a
loud voice that I was looking uglier and
uglier as I grew older and taller. Hear
ing this, Fourth Brother gave a snort of
contempt. Oh, the misery of it all! I felt I
was being skinned alive.
At home, Niang called me into the liv
ing room. She instructed me to look for
a job when school ended that summer
because Father had too many children
to support and could no longer afford
my school fees. She reminded me that I
was fourteen years old and could not ex
pect to live in luxury at Father’s expense
forever.
After lunch, the chauffeur brought me
back to school. It was the free interval
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after tea, and my fellow boarders were
playing a game.
Rachel screamed out, “Join us! What
in your opinion is your best physical, in
tellectual or social feature, Adeline?
Each player first writes her own notion
on a sheet of paper. The rest of us then
put down their views for comparison.”
As we progressed, it was illuminating
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to see how differently my friends viewed
themselves and one another. One by
one, without realizing it, we each re
vealed our inner beings.
We went down the list alphabetically:
Daisy (Style versus Sincerity), Eleanor
(Hair versus Lips), Mary (Legs versus
Hands), Irene (Eyes versus Friendli
ness), Rachel (Intelligence versus
Generosity).
Because I had come in late, I was al
lowed to go last. It was my turn. My
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paper remained blank as I thought des
perately, Do I have any redeeming
features?
“Come on, Adeline!” Rachel promp
ted. “Write something!”
“Okay!” I finally blurted out. “Here it
is!”
Rachel opened my paper. “What’s
this? You wrote ‘nothing.’ What does
that mean?”
“That’s right! Nothing! I don’t think
any of my features are good. That’s what
I mean.”
“And that’s your honest opinion of
yourself?” Rachel asked.
“Yes! That’s it. Everything is ugly. I
loathe myself.” “Well, we beg to differ.
In fact, we have voted you most likely to
succeed.”
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The combination of Ye Ye’s sudden
death and Niang’s instructions to leave
school and get a job sent me into a hor
rible depression. Night after night, I was
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unable to sleep, worried about my fu
ture, wondering what was to become of
me. I spent hours praying in the hushed
solemnity of the school chapel, trying to
figure a way out. I dreamed of running
away and sneaking back into mainland
China, rejoining Aunt Baba and my
schoolfriends in Shanghai. I wrote nu
merous beseeching letters to my par
ents, begging them to let me go to Eng
land, where my two oldest brothers
were studying. “Third Brother is leaving
for London in August,” I wrote. “May I
please accompany him? I do so yearn to
go to college. I have skipped two grades
in the last three years and am still at the
top of my class. I know I’m only a girl
and don’t deserve it, but will you please
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be so kind? I promise I’ll pay you back
as soon as I graduate and get a decent
job.”
During the day I was unable to eat
but spent hours gazing at the harbor be
low, dreaming of a time when I could
escape and sail away to fabulous institu
tions of learning far, far from home.
Every afternoon at teatime I waited in
line when mail was distributed, hoping
for a letter from home. It was a standing
joke among the girls that I was always
there waiting, though I had only re
ceived one single letter in my three
years at the school—not from home but
from the playwriting board. Still, I
couldn’t help being there every day.
The idea of leaving school forever in a
few months enveloped me in a constant
state of gloom. Without the prospect of
furthering my education, my dreams
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were withering and I was in agony. Day
after day, anxiety spun its web around
my thoughts and spread to all corners of
my heart.
Time went by relentlessly and it was
Saturday again. Eight weeks more and it
would be the end of term… in my case
perhaps the end of school forever.
Four of us were playing Monopoly.
My heart was not in it, and I was losing
steadily. Outside, it was hot and a warm
wind was blowing. The radio warned of
a possible typhoon the next day. It was
my turn, and I threw the dice. As I
played, the thought of leaving school
throbbed at the back of my mind like a
persistent toothache.
“Adeline!” Ma Mien Valentino was
calling.
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“You can’t go now,” Mary protested.
“For once I’m winning. One, two, three,
four. Good! You’ve landed on my
property. Thirtyfive dollars, please. Oh,
good afternoon, Mother Valentino!”
We all stood up and greeted her.
“Adeline, didn’t you hear me call you?
Hurry up downstairs! Your chauffeur is
waiting to take you home!”
Full of foreboding, I ran downstairs
as in a nightmare, wondering who had
died this time. Father’s chauffeur as
sured me everyone was healthy.
“Then why are you taking me home?”
I asked.
“How should I know?” he answered
defensively, shrugging. “Your guess is as
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good as mine. They give the orders and
I carry them out.”
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During the short drive home, my
heart was full of dread and I wondered
what I had done wrong. Our car stopped
at an elegant villa halfway up the hill
between the peak and the harbor.
“Where are we?” I asked foolishly.
“Don’t you know anything?” the
chauffeur replied rudely. “This is your
new home. Your parents moved here a
few months ago.”
“I had forgotten,” I said as I got out.
Ah Gum opened the door. Inside, it
was quiet and cool.
“Where is everyone?”
“Your mother is out playing bridge.
Your two brothers and Little Sister are
sunbathing by the swimming pool. Your
father is in his room and wants to see
you as soon as you get home.”
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See me in his room? I was over
whelmed by the thought that I had been
summoned by Father to enter the Holy
of Holies—a place to which I had never
been invited. Why? Was I to be forced
into an arranged marriage?
Timidly, I knocked on his door. Fath
er was alone, looking relaxed in his slip
pers and bathrobe, reading a newspa
per. He smiled as I entered, and I saw
he was in a happy mood. I breathed a
small sigh of relief at first but became
uneasy again when I wondered why he
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was being so nice, thinking, Is this a gi
ant ruse on his part to trick me? Dare I
let my guard down?
“Sit down! Sit down!” He pointed to a
chair. “Don’t look so scared. Here, take
a look at this! They’re writing about
someone we both know, I think.”
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He handed me the day’s newspaper
and there, in one corner, I saw my
name, ADELINE JUNLING YEN, in capital
letters prominently displayed.
“It was announced today that
14yearold Hong Kong schoolgirl
ADELINE JUNLING YEN of Sacred Heart
Canossian School, Caine Road, Hong
Kong, has won first prize in the
International Playwriting Competition
held in London, England, for the
1951–1952 school year. It is the first
time that any local Chinese student
from Hong Kong has won such a presti
gious event. Besides a medal, the prize
comes with a cash reward of FIFT Y
ENGLISH POUNDS. Our sincere congratula
tions, ADELINE, for bringing honor to
Hong Kong. We are proud of you.”
Is it possible? Am I dreaming? Me,
the winner?
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“I was going up the elevator this
morning with my friend C. Y. Tung
when he showed me this article and
asked me, ‘Is the winner Adeline Jun
ling Yen related to you? The two of you
have the same uncommon last name.’
Now, C. Y. himself has a few children
about your age, but so far none of them
has won an international literary prize,
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as far as I know. So I was quite pleased
to tell him you are my daughter. Well
done!”
He looked radiant. For once, he was
proud of me. In front of his revered col
league, C. Y. Tung, a prominent fellow
businessman also from Shanghai, I had
given him face. I thought, Is this the big
moment I have been waiting for? My
whole being vibrated with all the joy in
the world. I only had to stretch out my
hand to reach the stars.
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“Tell me, how did you do it?” he con
tinued. “How come you won?”
“Well, the rules and regulations were
very complicated. One really has to be
dedicated just to understand what they
want. Perhaps I was the only one de
termined enough to enter and there
were no other competitors!”
He laughed approvingly. “I doubt it
very much, but that’s a good answer.”
“Please, Father,” I asked boldly,
thinking it was now or never. “May I go
to college in England too, just like my
brothers?”
“I do believe you have potential. Tell
me, what would you study?”
My heart gave a giant lurch as it
dawned on me that he was agreeing to
let me go. How marvelous it felt simply
to be alive! Study? I thought. Going to
England is like entering heaven. Does it
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matter what you do after you get to
heaven?
But Father was expecting an answer.
What about creative writing? After all, I
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had just won first prize in an interna
tional writing competition!
“I plan to study literature. I’ll be a
writer.”
“Writer!” he scoffed. “You are going
to starve! What language are you going
to write in, and who is going to read
your writing? Though you may think
you’re an expert in both Chinese and
English, your Chinese is actually rather
elementary. As for your English, don’t
you think the native English speakers
can write better than you?”
I waited in silence. I did not wish to
contradict him.
“You will go to England with Third
Brother this summer and you will go to
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medical school. After you graduate, you
will specialize in obstetrics. Women will
always be having babies. Women pa
tients prefer women doctors. You will
learn to deliver their babies. That’s a
foolproof profession for you. Don’t you
agree?”
Agree? I thought. Of course I agree.
Apparently, he has it all planned out.
As long as he lets me go to college in
England, I’ll study anything he wishes.
How does that line go in Wordsworth’s
poem? “Bliss was it in that dawn to be
alive.”
“Father, I shall go to medical school
in England and become a doctor. Thank
you very, very much.”
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22ND SEPT EMBER, 1952
My precious little treasure,
What a surprise to hear from you
after four long years and to learn that
you are on your way with Third Brother
to study in Oxford, England. Your letter
(postmarked Singapore) gave me more
happiness than anything else in the
world. The only thing better would be a
personal visit from you. Thank you for
thinking of me on your long ocean
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voyage. What an adventure for the two
of you!
Here in Shanghai, I share your fath
er’s big house on Avenue Joffre with
Miss Chien and two maids. I am tired
this evening after my usual long day’s
work at the Women’s Bank. However, I
have so much in my heart to say to you
that I must write to you tonight.
I must confess that I have been much
worried about you since we have been
apart. Before he passed away in March
this year, Ye Ye used to write and give
me news of you. I knew Aunt Reine had
taken you from Tianjin to Hong Kong
and that you were in boarding school
there. In his last letter to me, Ye Ye was
gravely concerned about your future.
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That is why it is such a pleasant surprise
to learn that your father has agreed to
send you for further studies in England.
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Tonight I miss Ye Ye more than ever,
and that is another reason why I am
writing. Someday, you will be my age
and may wish to speak to me, but I may
no longer be around. Keep in mind al
ways, always, no matter what, that you
are worthwhile and very important to
me, wherever I may be.
When you were little and things were
going badly, you used to run to me and
ask me to take away this “big, black
cloud” in your head, do you remember?
I’d tell you a story and you would fall
asleep listening. Here is a new story I
want you never to forget. Whenever you
feel discouraged, and those clouds come
back, take out this letter and read it
again. It is a message from your Aunt
Baba, who will always hold you precious
in her heart.
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This story was told to me by my own
mother (your Nai Nai) many years be
fore she passed away. It is part of our
Chinese folklore.
Once upon a time, there was a little girl
called Ye Xian who lived during the
Tang dynasty in China. Her father had
two wives and two daughters, one by
each wife. Ye Xian’s mother died, fol
lowed by her father. Her stepmother
mistreated her, showing preference for
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her own daughter.
Ye Xian was a talented potter and
spent her time at the wheel perfecting
her skill. People came from far and wide
to purchase her pots. Her only friend
was a goldfish, which she loved. Her
stepmother became jealous, caught the
fish and ate it, hiding the fish bones
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under a pile of manure. Ye Xian found
the bones and hid them in her room.
The presence of the fish bones gave off
magical rays that imparted a special
sheen to her pots.
A great festival was being held, but Ye
Xian was forbidden by her stepmother
to attend. After her stepmother and sis
ter left, Ye Xian dressed herself in a
beautiful cloak of kingfisher feathers
and a pair of gold shoes that were light
and elegant.
At the festival she spoke briefly to the
local warlord, who was much struck by
her beauty. Her stepmother recognized
her and gave chase. Ye Xian ran home
but lost one of her shoes, which was
found by the warlord. He ordered all the
girls in his kingdom to try it on, but it
was too small. The cobbler who made
the shoes came forward and told the
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warlord of Ye Xian, who had traded one
of her pots for the gold shoes. Through
her own talent and effort, Ye Xian had
bought the shoes that led eventually to
marriage with the warlord. They lived
happily ever after.
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In England and America, your Grand
Aunt tells me there is a similar story
called “Cinderella.” In a way, both Ye
Xian and Cinderella are like you: chil
dren who are mourning for their dead
mothers. Their stories may be perceived
as talismans against despair.
By winning that prestigious interna
tional playwriting competition, you
have climbed another rung on the lad
der of success. Like Ye Xian, you have
defied the odds and garnered triumph
through your own efforts. Your future is
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limitless, and I shall always be proud of
you,
MY CHINESE CINDERELLA
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On page 200 is the Chinese text of a story from
China written during the Tang Dynasty
(618–906 A.D.). It is the story of Ye Xian, ,
also known as the original Chinese Cinderella.
Isn’t it mindboggling to think that this well
loved fairy tale was already known more than
one thousand years ago? My Aunt Baba told me
about Ye Xian when I was fourteen years old.
You too can read all about Ye Xian in Chapter
22.
I am grateful to Feelie Lee, Ph.D., and Pro
fessor David Schaberg of UCLA’s East Asian
Languages and Culture Department for their
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scholarship and research in finding the book
You Yang Za Zu at UCLA’s East Asian Library.
You Yang Za Zu contains a miscellany of ninth
century Chinese folk tales, among which was the
Chinese text of Ye Xian’s story. The author was
Duan Chengshi ( ), whose stories were col
lected in an encyclopedic book that went
through many editions during the last eleven
hundred years.
Please note the absence of punctuation and
the beautiful Chinese characters, almost as if
each word had been painted with a brush. This
was how ancient Chinese texts were written.
The oldest Chinese books were copied by hand.
However, this particular reissue was probably
blockprinted.
For many years, the story of Cinderella was
thought to have been invented in Italy in 1634.
Iona and Peter Opie in The Classic Fairy Tales,
published by Oxford University Press in 1974,
consider the Italian Cinderella story the oldest
European version. We now realize that Duan
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Chengshi’s Ye Xian predates the Italian tale by
eight hundred years. Cinderella seemed to have
traveled to Europe from China. Perhaps Marco
Polo brought her eight hundred years ago from
Beijing to Venice. Who knows?
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China is a big country, roughly the size of the
United States. It has the world’s oldest continu
ous civilization, and Chinese writing has re
mained virtually unchanged for the past three
thousand years. Until the middle of the nine
teenth century, China was the most powerful
country in Asia. The country looked inward and
considered itself the center of the world, calling
itself zhong guo, which means central country.
In 1842, China lost the Opium War. As a res
ult, Britain took over Hong Kong and Kowloon.
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For about a hundred years afterward, China
suffered many humiliating defeats at the hands
of all the major industrial powers, including Bri
tain, France and Japan. Many port cities on
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China’s coast (such as Tianjin and Shanghai) fell
under foreign control. Native Chinese were
ruled by foreigners and lived as secondclass cit
izens in their own cities.
In 1911, there was a revolution and the imper
ial Manchu court in Beijing was abolished. Sun
Yatsen became president and proclaimed Ch
ina a republic. However, the country broke into
fiefdoms ruled by warlords who fought each
other for control of China. Chiang Kaishek, a
military general and protégé of Sun Yatsen,
took over after Sun’s death in 1925.
Japan first seized Taiwan from China in 1895.
It then usurped Manchuria. In July 1937, Japan
declared war on China and quickly occupied
Beijing and Tianjin.
When I was born in November 1937 in Ti
anjin, the city was still divided into foreign con
cessions. However, outside the concessions, the
Japanese were in charge. My family lived in the
French concession, where we were ruled by
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French citizens according to French law. My sis
ter and I attended a French missionary school
and were taught by French Catholic nuns.
On December 7, 1941, Japan bombed Pearl
Harbor and declared war on the United States
and Britain. On the same day, Japanese troops
marched into Tianjin’s foreign concessions. Be
cause my father did not wish to collaborate with
the Japanese, he took an assumed name and es
caped from Tianjin to Shanghai. We joined him
there two years later.
In 1945, Japan surrendered and the Second
World War was at an end. Chiang Kaishek was
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back in charge. His triumph was shortlived be
cause a civil war soon erupted between the Na
tionalists under Chiang and the Communists
under Mao Zedong.
In 1948, during the height of the civil war, my
parents took me from Shanghai back to Tianjin
to separate me from my aunt, who they said was
a bad influence. They abandoned me in a
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convent school in Tianjin while they themselves
went back to Shanghai and then on to Hong
Kong. The Communists won the war and drove
the Nationalists out of mainland China to
Taiwan.
I was the only student left in my school when
the Communists took over Tianjin. All the other
students had escaped. Luckily, I was rescued by
an aunt, who took me out of school and brought
me to Hong Kong. At that time, Hong Kong was
still a British colony, and my parents sent me to
another Catholic boarding school. They were
hoping that the Americans would help Chiang
Kaishek take back mainland China. The Korean
War broke out in 1950, pitting North Korea
(aided by Communist China and the Soviet
Union) against South Korea (aided by the Un
ited Nations). People in Hong Kong were ex
tremely fearful that Communist China would
march in from the mainland and occupy Hong
Kong. This did not happen. A truce was reached
instead and the Korean War ended.
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I left Hong Kong in August 1952 and went to
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school in England. My life changed dramatic
ally. I spent three years in two different English
boarding schools, then entered University Col
lege and London Hospital Medical College. It
was a wonderful period of my life. The whole
world of science was opening up to me. I could
not wait to get to classes every morning. Labor
atory experiments reminded me of intricate
chess games. My opponent was the great un
known, about to be unmasked. Along the way,
there were tantalizing clues.
After graduation, I emigrated to California
and practiced as a physician for twentysix
years. Although my second marriage was very
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happy and my husband and I had two lovely
children, I still yearned for my parents’ accept
ance. My father died in 1988, but our stepmoth
er, Niang, prevented us from reading his will.
She herself passed away in 1990.
Exactly one day before the reading of my
stepmother’s will, Third Brother suddenly in
formed me that I had been unexpectedly and
mysteriously disinherited by her. In addition, I
later found out that there had been a conspiracy
to hide the truth from me. The circumstances
surrounding Niang’s funeral in Hong Kong and
my desperate search for my father’s missing will
was a page torn out of my childhood and reen
acted forty years later. You can read all about it
in my autobiography, Falling Leaves, which was
first published in London in 1997. I was com
pelled to write my story and, to everyone’s sur
prise, Falling Leaves became an international
bestseller.
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My grandaunt was also known as Gong
Gong (“Grand Uncle”) because of the
respect granted her as president of the
Shanghai Women’s Bank, which she
founded in 1924. As a child of three,
she refused to have her feet bound. She
attended a missionary school founded
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by American Methodists and was flu
ent in English. Her bank at 480
Nanjing Lu in Shanghai is still in
operation.
My brothers and sisters. Back row,
from left: Gregory, James, Edgar.
Front row, from left: Lydia with baby
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half sister Susan, and Adeline. This
picture was taken in Tianjin in 1942
before the death of our grandmother.
We were all fashionably dressed in
Western clothes and had stylish
haircuts.
The boom days of Tianjin provided
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economic opportunities for Ye Ye, my
grandfather, on right; his son, my fath
er, at left; and K. C. Li, at the center.
K.C. was one of the first Chinese
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graduates of the London School of Eco
nomics and the founder of Hwa Chong
Hong, a highly successful importex
port firm. Both my grandfather and my
father worked for him.
My stepmother, Niang (“Mother”), and
my father with Ye Ye (middle) in the
1940s. Ye Ye was a devout Buddhist.
He always shaved his head, wore a
skullcap in winter, and dressed in
Chinese robes.
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Ye Ye and my baby half sister, Susan.
The picture was taken one and a half
years after their arrival in Shanghai
from Tianjin in October 1943.
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Aunt Baba never ceased to nurture me
as a child, praising my accomplish
ments in school, checking my home
work, and sharing her pedicabs with
me. She never married and was finan
cially dependent on my father and
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stepmother all her life. She was gentle,
patient, and wise. I loved her very
much.
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