Birr Walidayn Arabic-Eng
Birr Walidayn Arabic-Eng
ﺎء
ْ َ َ َُ َ
In Regards to Birr of
Translated by
May Allah send prayers and peace upon the one who said,
“That the pleasure of our Lord, Most High
And Allah has made fulfilling the rights of the parents incumbent upon everyone,
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(This being established by the Quran, Sunnah and the consensus of the Ummah)
ﻓِﻲ اﻟْﺒِ ﱢﺮ ﺑِﺎﻷَﺑَ ِﺎء َواﻷَ ْﺟ َﺪ ِاد َﺳ ﱠﻤ ْﻴﺘُﻪُ اﻟﻈﱠَﻔ َﺮ ﺑِﺎﻟْ ُﻤ َﺮ ِاد
And if you wish, you may say, “Success of the Two Abodes
Through Birr of the Parents” and Allah is Oft-Giving
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ﺍاﻟﺒﺮﻭوﺭر ﺑﺎﺏب
Chapter of Buroor
ﻴﻞ ِ ِِ ﱢ ِ ٍ ِ ٍِ ِ
ْ ﺑَـ ْﻴ َﻦ ﻳَ َﺪ ْي َﺳﻴﱢﺪﻩ اﻟْ َﻔﻆ اﻟْ َﺠﻠ ﻴﻞ
ْ َﻛ َﻘ ْﻮل َﻋ ْﺒﺪ ذي ﺟﻨَﺎﻳَﺔ ذَﻟ
Teach them what they need to know about the matters of the Deen
Such as the obligations, Sunnahs and recommended actions
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َوﻧَ ْﺤ َﻮ َذا ِﻣ ْﻦ َد ْﻋ َﻮةٍ ُﻣ َﺮ ﱢﺟﺒَ ْﻪ َﻣ َﻜﺎﻧَﻪُ ﻳَﺎ َواﻟِ ِﺪي َوﻳَﺎ أَﺑَ ْﻪ
ْ َﺣ ْﺘ ٌﻢ إِ َن
اﺳﻠَ َﻤﺎ َوإﻻﱠ َﺣ ُﺮَﻣﺎ ﺐ اﻟ ﱠﺮ ْﺣ َﻤﺎ ِن ﻳَـ ْﺮ َﺣ ُﻤ ُﻬ َﻤﺎ
ُ ََوﻃَﻠ
ِ ﻒ
اﻻﺑْ ُﻦ ﻧَـ ْﻔﻠَﻪُ َو َﺳﻠﱠ َﻤﺎ َ َﺧ ﱠﻔ ِ َ)وإِ ْن أَب ﻳـﻨ
ﺎد َﻛﻲ ﻳُ َﻜﻠﱠ َﻤﺎ ُ ٌ َ
ِ ِﻣﻦ و
(اﻟﺪي اﻻﺑْ ِﻦ َوإِﻻ ﻗَﻄَ َﻌﺎ ﺻﻢ أ َﻋ َﻤﻰ َﻣﻦ َد َﻋﺎ
َ ْ َ َﻣﺎ ﻟَ ْﻢ ﻳَ ُﻜ ْﻦ أ
This is as long as the one calling, whether it be either of the child’s parents,
Is not deaf or blind. Otherwise, he should cut the prayer short.”
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ﻓﺼﻞ
Section
If you want to know what has been ordered in regards to the body,
Then beware of walking in front of your parent
َ ِذَﻟ
َواﺗﱠﺒِ ْﻊ،٬ ﻚ ﻟَْﻴﻼً ﻓَـﺘَـ َﻌﻠﱠ ْﻢ ِِ ِِ
َ َواﺗﱠ،٬أَ ْو ﺑﺈ َزاﺋﻪ ﻧَـ َﻬ ًﺎرا
ﺴ ْﻊ
Also, beware of walking at his side if it is in the daytime, yet there is much leeway in this
matter if it is at night so learn this and follow
ِ ِ ِ ِﻓِﻲ ﻗ
َ ﺼﺔ اﻟﺼﺪ ِﻳﻖ َﻣ َﻊ َﺧﻴ ِﺮ
اﻟﻮَرى َ َوﻟَ ْﻢ ﻳُ َﺨﺎﻟِﻒ أَ َدﺑًﺎ َﻛ َﻤﺎ َﺟ َﺮى
And the order does not contradict proper etiquette, like what took place
In the story of the Siddiq with the Best of Men
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َ َﺲ ﻟَ ُﻬ ْﻢ ِﻓﻲ َﻫ ْﺠ ِﺮِﻫ ﱠﻦ ﻃ
ُﺎﻋﺔ َ ﻟَْﻴ ُﺴﻨَ ِﻦ َواﻟ ﱠﺮ ِﻏﻴﺒَﺔ
ﺐ اﻟ ﱡ ِ
ُ َرَواﺗ
ﻻَ ﺗَـ ُﻘ ْﻢ إِذَا ﻗَـ َﻌﺪﺗَﺎ،٬ﻳَﺄذَ َن ﻻَ ﺗَـ ْﻘﻌُ ْﺪ إِ ْن ﺗَ ْﺪ ُﺧ ْﻞ َﻋﻠَْﻴ ِﻪ َﺣﺘﱠﻰ
Do not sit down, if you enter where they are, until they give you permission
Do not leave if you have sat down, until you ask permission
ُﻣ ْﺬ ﻓِ ِﻴﻪ َﺷ ْﻴ ُﺨﻨَﺎ اﺑْ ُﻦ ُﻣﺘﱠﺎﻟِﻲ َﺷ َﺪا ُﺣ ْﻜ ُﻤﻪُ ﺑَ َﺪا،٬َواﻟْﺒِ ﱡﺮ ﻓِﻲ اﻟ ﱡﺮ ْﺣﻠَ ِﺔ
Obedience to the parents as far as travelling to seek knowledge has been clear
Since the time our teacher, Ibn Muttal, has said about it
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ﻚ ﻓِﻲ اﻟْﺒَـﻠَ ِﺪ َﻣ ْﻦ ﻳَـ ْﻌﻠَ ُﻢ ذَا
ُ َﻟَ ْﻢ ﻳ اﻟﻌ ْﻴﻨِﻲ إِذَا
َ ﻚ
ِ ﺼ ِﻬﻤﺎ ﻓِﻲ ﻓَـﺮ
َﺿ ْ
ِ
َ َوا ْﻋ
Ibn Mutal attributed that opinion to Al-Rawd, a book by Ibn Naji, the possessor of clarity
Who is a commentator of the text Al-Akhdari
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ﻓﺼﻞ
Section
ِ ﺚ ﺑِﺎﻟْﻤ ِ ﻀﻴﻌ
ِ
ﺎل أَﻟَ ْﻢ َ ُ َﺣ ْﻴ،٬ﻳَ ِﺰ ْد َﻋﻠَﻰ ذَا َوﻟَ ْﻢ،٬ﺎن َ ََوﻻَ ﻳَ َﺬ ْرُﻫ َﻤﺎ ﻳ
And you should not leave them to waste away.” He did not
Mention more than this when he spoke about the financial support of the parents
Birr of them in one’s heart is from what has been made incumbent
So beware of hating them or going against them
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ﺍاﻟﺘﻨﺎﺯزﻉع ﺑﺎﺏب
The Chapter on Conflicting Orders
ﺾ أَ ْﻫ ِﻞ اﻟْ ِﻌ ْﻠ ِﻢ َﻣﺎ
ُ ﻧَﻈََﺮ َﺳﺎ َق ﺑَـ ْﻌ ﺎل ﺑَـ ْﻌ َﺪ َﻣﺎ ﺸ ْﻴ ُﺦ اﻻَ ْﺟ ُﻬﻮِر ﱡ
َ َي ﻗ اﻟ ﱠ
ﻀﻴَﺎ ﻓِﻲ اﺑْ ٍﻦ َﻋ َﻤ ْﻞ ِ ِ َأ ْ ﻳُِﻔﻴ ُﺪ أَن ﺗُـ َﻘ ﱢﺪ َم اﻷُ ﱠم َﻋﻠَﻰ
َ َب اذَا َﻣﺎ اﻗْـﺘ ال
Imam Malik ordered the one whose parents gave him conflicting orders
To not disobey his mother and to obey his father
ﺎح ﻳَ ْﺪ َﻋ ُﻢ
ِ ﺼ َﺤ
ﻳﺚ اﻟ ﱢ ِ وﺑِﺎﻷَﺣ
ِ ﺎد ﺎل إِﻧـﱠ َﻬﺎ ﺗُـ َﻘ ﱠﺪ ُم ُ َواﻟﻠﱠْﻴ
َ َﺚ ﻗ
َ َ
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ﺼ ٌﻞ ﻓِﻲ أَﻳَـ ُﻬ َﻤﺎ أ ْﻋﻈَﻢ َﺣﻖ
ْ َﻓ
Section on Which of Them Has a Greater Right
اﻟﺤ ْﻤ ِﻞ َواﻟﺘَـ ْﺮﺑِﻴَﺔ ِ ٍ َ ِﻣﻦ ُﺷﻖ ْ َﻟِ ِﺮﻗَ ِﺔ اﻷُِم َوَﻣﺎ ﻟَِﻘﻴ
َ ﱠ◌ة ﻓﻲ ْ ﺖ
And because of the weakness of women, the mother supercedes the father
In the recommended from the matters of Birr
For that reason, it has been narrated from the Best of all Men
That her matter was repeated three times
Hasan Al-Basri holds the opinion that she has a greater right
But the right of the father is more binding than hers
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ِ ﺎﻋﺘِ ِﻬ َﻤﺎ ﻓﻲ اﻟﻨِ َﻜ
ﺎح َ َﺎب ﻓﻲ ﻃ
ٌ َﺑ
Chapter on Obeying Them About Marriage
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اﻟﻤﻮت ِ
َ ﺑَﺎب ﺑ ُﺮُﻫ َﻤﺎ ﺑَـ ْﻌ َﺪ
Chapter on Birr After Their Death
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ِ ﺑﺎب اﻟﻌ ُﻘ
ﻮق ُ َ
Chapter on Uqooq (Filial Recalcitrance)
ﺐ ِ ِ ِ ُ َﻓِﻴﻤﺎ اﻟْ ِﺨﻼ ْ َأَ ﱠﻣﺎ اﻟْﻌُ ُﻘﻮ ُق ﻓَ ُﻤ َﺨﺎﻟََﻔﺔُ اﻻ
ْ ﻀ
َ َﺐ اﻟْﻐ
ُ ف ﻓﻴﻪ ﻳُﻮﺟ َ ب
ِ َوﺳﻤﻊ اﻷَذ
ﺴ ِﻦ ُ َوا ْﻋﺘِ َﺮ،٬ﻮب
ُ ْاض اﻷَﻟ
ِ ُﺾ اﻟْ ُﻘﻠ
ُ ْﺑـُﻐ ان َو َﺷ ْﺰُر اﻷَ ْﻋﻴُ ِﻦ ُ َْ َ
Listening with the ears, giving a hateful glance with the eyes,
Hating with the heart, and differing with the tongue
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ﺴﺎﻧُﻪُ َرﻗِﻴ َﻘﺔٌ ﻟِ ْﻠ ُﻤ ْﻤﺘَ ِﻘ ْﻞِ
َﻟ َواﻟْ َﻔﺘَﻰ اﻟﱠ ِﺬي ا ْﻋﺘُ ِﻘ ْﻞ،٬َوﻓِﻲ ُﺟ َﺮﻳْ ٍﺞ
ﻟِﻠ ﱢﺪﻳ ِﻦ َواﻟ ﱡﺪﻧْـﻴَﺎ َﻣ ًﻌﺎ َﺣﻼَ ِق ِ ﺎق إِ ﱠن ﻓِﻲ َﻋ َﻘ
ﺎق ِ إِ ْﺣ َﺬر َﻋ َﻘ
ْ
The disappearance of light from the one who cuts off relations with the
Friends of his father has been mentioned in a Prophetic saying
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ﺼ ﱢﺮ ًﺣﺎ أَ ْن ﻳُ ْﺸ َﻜ َﺮا
َ ب اﻟْ َﻮَرى ُﻣ
َر ﱡ ﺎك ﻓِﻲ َﺷﺄْﻧِ ِﻬ َﻤﺎ أَ ْن أَ َﻣ َﺮا
َ َﻛ َﻔ
َﻋﻠَْﻴ ِﻪ ﻓِﻲ ﻛِﺘَﺎﺑِ ِﻪ اﻟْ ُﻤﻨَـ ﱠﺰِل ﺾ اﻟْ َﻌ ِﻠﻲ ِ ﺎك ﻓِﻲ ﺗَـ ْﻌ ِﻈ
ﻴﻤ ِﻪ َﺣ ﱠ َ َﻛ َﻔ
It should be enough of a reason to glorify them that the Most High Has urged us
to glorifying them in His revealed Book
َواﻟﻨﱠﺒِﻲ،٬َﻣﺎ ﻗَﺎﻟَﻪُ اﷲُ ﺗَـ َﻌﺎﻟَﻰ ِ َﺎك ﻓِﻲ إِ ْﻛﺮ ِام اﻷُ ﱢم َواﻷ
ب َ َﻛ َﻔ
َ
It should be enough for you, in regards to honoring the mother and father,
What Allah Exalted and the Prophet have said
ﺒﻤﺎ َرُووا
َﺴ َ ﺑَـﻠَ َﻎ َﻣﺎ ﺑَـﻠَ َﻎ َﺣ اﻟﻌ ﱠﻖ ﻻَ ﻳَـ ْﻨـ َﻔﻌُﻪُ َﺷ ْﻴ ٌﺦ َوﻟَﻮ
َ َو
narrated
Do not curse the father of a man and have then that cause him
To curse your father, for that is a grand sin
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ﺿ ِﺎع ﻻَ ﺗَ ْﺴﺘَ ْﺨ ِﺪ ُﻣ ْﻪ
َ َوﻓِﻲ ِﺳ َﻮى ا ِﻹ ْر َ َوﻻَ ﺗُـ َﻮﱢﻛ ْﻠﻪُ َﻋﻠَﻰ ُﻣ َﺨ
ﺎﺻ َﻤﻪ
A child is disobedient if he has his parents imprisoned, or has them swear an oath
about a right that they owe him, or has the Hadd punishment incurred on them for Qathf
َوﻟَ ِﺪﻩِ َﺣ ﱞﻖ ﻟِﻐَْﻴ ِﺮﻩِ ا ْﻋﺘَـﻠَ ْﻖ ﻧَـ َﻌ ْﻢ ﻟَﻨَﺎ ﺗَ ْﺤﻠِﻴ ُﻔﻪُ إِذَا ﺑِ َﺤ ْﻖ
َ ﺻﻠُﻪُ ِﻣ ْﻨ
ﻚ أَ َﺣ ْﻖ ِ ِ
ْ ﻟ َﻘﻄْ ِﻌﻪ َﻣ ْﻦ َو ﺼ َﺪاﻗَ ِﺔ ﻋُ َﻘ ْﻖ ِ
َ ِﻻَ ﺗَﺜ َﻘ ﱠﻦ ﺑ
ُ ِﺑ
َ َﺸ ْﻜ ٍﺮ ﻏَْﻴـ َﺮ اﻷَﺑَـ َﻮﻳْ ِﻦ ﻧ
ﺼﺎ َوﻟَ ْﻢ أَ ِﺟ ْﺪ ﻛِﺘَﺎب َرﺑِﻰ َو ﱠ
ﺻﻰ
I have not found that the Book of my Lord has explicitly given an order to be
Thankful to other than the parents
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ﺎء ﻓِﻲ اﻟﺒُـ ُﺮور
َ َﻣﺎ َﺟ
What Has Been Narrated as Far as Buroor
َ َِﻛ ْﻮﻧ
ﻚ َﻣ ْﻌﻪُ َوَﻛ َﻔﻰ َوﻓَ ﱠ ِ ﻀﻞ َﻛﻮﻧًﺎ ﻣﻌﻬﻤﺎ اﻟﻬ
َﻀﻼ ﺎدي َﻋﻠَﻰ َ َ ُ ْ َ ْ َ ﻓَ ﱠ
The Guide has given preference to the son’s being with his parents over
Being with him and that should be enough
And, for the son, the Prophet has preferred serving the parents over Jihad with his troop
And he is the one with inner sight when giving guidance
ِ ِ ِ ِ ِ ﺼ ِﺔ أَﺻﺤ ِ ِ
ْ َوَﻣ ْﻦ ﺑ َﺪا ِر اﻟْ ُﺨ ْﻠﺪ َراﻓَ َﻖ اﻟْ َﻜﻠ
ﻴﻢ ﻴﻢ
ْ ﺎب اﻟ ﱠﺮﻗ َ ْ َوإِ ﱠن ﻓﻲ ﻗ ﱠ
And in the story of the one who benefited his father in the next life
Thus making them both fortunate, are glad tidings to the righteous ones
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ﺼ ٌﻞ ﻓﻲ اﻷُِم
ْ َﻓ
Section Concerning the Mother
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ِ ِ ََﺧﺎﺗِﻤﺔٌ ِﻓﻴﻤﺎ ﻳﻄْﻠ
ٌ ﺐ ﺑِﻪ َواﻟ ٌﺪ َوَز
وج َوﻧَ ْﺤ ُﻮ ُﻫ َﻤﺎ ُ ُ َ َ
An Epilogue in Regards to What is Requested of a Parent, Husband and the Like
َﻛﺎ َن ﻟَﻪُ َﺣ ﱡﻖ َﻋﻠَﻰ آ َﺧ َﺮ أَ ْن )ﺗَـ َﻌ َﺎوﻧُﻮا( ﻓَـﻴَـ ْﻨﺒَ ِﻐﻲ ﻟِ َﻤ ْﻦ:ﺎل
َ َﻗ
And may Allah have mercy on the father who assists his son to fulfill
the rights he owes his parents has reached us through a Hadith
َوِﻣ ْﻨﻪُ أَ ْر ُﺟﻮ أَ ْﺣ َﺴ َﻦ اﻟْ ِﺨﺘَ ِﺎم َواﻟْ َﺤ ْﻤ ُﺪ ﻟِﻠﱠ ِﻪ َﻋﻠَﻰ اﻟﺘﱠ َﻤ ِﺎم
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