1) Jinsoo Kim received a call on Mother's Day 2018 informing him that his father was in a coma after being assaulted at an ATM.
2) After reviewing the ATM footage, he learned his father had been assaulted and the attacker was apprehended two days later.
3) Over the following months, he learned the attacker, Mr. Lee, had experienced hardships and fallen on hard times. When they met in a restorative justice circle, Jinsoo chose to forgive Mr. Lee in order to let go of his anger and hate and honor his father's legacy of peace, justice, and forgiveness.
1) Jinsoo Kim received a call on Mother's Day 2018 informing him that his father was in a coma after being assaulted at an ATM.
2) After reviewing the ATM footage, he learned his father had been assaulted and the attacker was apprehended two days later.
3) Over the following months, he learned the attacker, Mr. Lee, had experienced hardships and fallen on hard times. When they met in a restorative justice circle, Jinsoo chose to forgive Mr. Lee in order to let go of his anger and hate and honor his father's legacy of peace, justice, and forgiveness.
1) Jinsoo Kim received a call on Mother's Day 2018 informing him that his father was in a coma after being assaulted at an ATM.
2) After reviewing the ATM footage, he learned his father had been assaulted and the attacker was apprehended two days later.
3) Over the following months, he learned the attacker, Mr. Lee, had experienced hardships and fallen on hard times. When they met in a restorative justice circle, Jinsoo chose to forgive Mr. Lee in order to let go of his anger and hate and honor his father's legacy of peace, justice, and forgiveness.
Mother’s Day, 2018, I immediately knew that something horrible had happened. It was not my father on the other end of the line, but an unfamiliar doctor introducing himself. The doctor explained that my father was in a coma, with little to no hope of him ever waking from it. I can still feel the shock from that call. Almost everybody assumed that my father had slipped and hit his head at the Citibank ATM. Just to see if we could figure out what happened, I requested the ATM footage from Citibank the next morning. They called me a few hours later, and told me that my father was assaulted, and that the attack was caught on camera. I can still feel the shock from that call as well. Many people that knew my father have said that he was the nicest person they have ever met, genuinely concerned about the well-being of all. He devoted 50 years of his life to teaching others the value of human rights, kindness, and compassion. He planned on writing a book about the small happinesses in life, and how they are important, yet often overlooked. Who would hurt such a peaceful, loving man? I had an image of his attacker as a monster, cruel, heartless. Thanks to the ATM footage, Mr. Lee was apprehended just two days after the attack, without incident. A small happiness there, you could say. Over the next few months, the detectives on the case and Assistant DA Yoran told me details about Mr. Lee. The more I heard, the more my anger at him became my sorrow for him. Mr. Lee had no previous record, he lost his father in 2013, he lost his mother in 2014, and had fallen behind on rent after he had to pay his medical bills. When I heard that he confessed and said that he was sorry for what he did, my anger shifted again, towards understanding. Perhaps sensing this, Assistant DA Yoran suggested, as an option, that Mr Lee and I could participate in a restorative justice circle, meet each other and talk about what happened. I am grateful that she did so - having the choice to have the meeting or not was empowering in itself. The decision was not immediate, and was not taken lightly. Did I want to keep the anger and hate that I felt, or did I want to be free of it? Neither choice would bring my father back. If I kept that hate, it would be with me everywhere I went. I would bring it into my home - into the same room as my wife and our infant daughter. Being surrounded by my family and their joy and love made my hate and anger towards Mr. Lee even more jarring and self-destructive. I wondered what my father would have wanted. He lived under the Japanese occupation of Korea, and saw the horrors of the Korean War firsthand, yet he taught the value of peace, justice, mercy, understanding, and forgiveness afterwards. He understood that anger and grief are different – anger is hate, grief is love.
To honor his legacy, it became clear that it was
appropriate to have the meeting with Mr. Lee. We did so on November 19th 2019. Letting go of the anger does not guarantee that the hurt will go away. I am still sad that my daughter will never meet my father. I’m sad that I never got to hear my dad’s voice one last time. I’m sad that he never got to write his book. I’m also sad that we live in a world where too many people have to choose between paying for their healthcare, their housing, and their food. Mr. Lee - during our meeting, I made a conscious decision not to say “I forgive you”. Even after our meeting, I was not sure that I would ever say those words to you - those words are not to be spoken lightly. For guidance, I looked up the definition of “Forgive". To forgive is to stop feeling angry or resentful towards (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake. Mr Lee. - you made a terrible, terrible mistake when you attacked my father. But I am grateful that you had the strength and courage to do the right thing afterwards. You confessed, accepted responsibility for your actions, and apologized to my family deeply and repeatedly. I am glad that I had heard your words directly, not filtered through lawyers. I believe you when you say that you are sorry and that you will do your best to stay out of trouble in the future. I can’t choose how much I hurt, but I can choose how much I hate - and I choose to not hate you anymore. I forgive you. Not just for your sake, but for mine as well. There is no healing where there is hate.
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