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The Phone Game: How To Make Him Yours With Just Your Voice
The Phone Game: How To Make Him Yours With Just Your Voice
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This book is a special bonus guide included with Amy North’s ‘Text
Chemistry’ program. It is only available to Text Chemistry customers and is
not sold or distributed by any other means.
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Let me tell you, ladies, that the telephone has now evolved far
enough into a technological multi-tool that an actual voice
conversation with your man counts as quaint and old
fashioned. And that’s a good thing, because if you learn to use
the phone properly, you can entice your man in an entirely
new and powerful way: with your voice!
One of the best ways to interest and attract a man, and to keep
him interested, is to be different, unique and unusual. Use
your telephone and your voice to do just that. He’s likely to get
dozens of texts a day – texts are unobtrusive and polite and
they wait quietly to be answered... or ignored. Don’t even get
me started on emails – yawn! Send him an email if you want to
put him to sleep, or if you want to increase the chances of
being completely forgotten or ignored.
Again, this scenario also plays out well if you’re in a busy train
station or airport or similar public place, somewhere with lots
of people around, a place that indicates you are a busy woman
YOU: “Hello. I’m in a crowd and I can’t talk long, but I was
wondering if you’d like to meet me for coffee, maybe
tomorrow?”
The crowd and your sense of urgency keep him a little off
balance, and this is where actually talking on the phone, rather
than texting, works in your favor. A text is polite and not
intrusive. It appears on his screen – “Coffee tomorrow?” – and
just sits there in limbo. He can glance at it and put the phone
in his pocket and answer it later. He can take as much time as
he wants to think about it. He can think of reasons why he’s
too busy to meet you, or whatever. You don’t want him to have
all that time, because meeting you for coffee is a special,
limited time only offer, and by calling you make that clear.
When that answer is yes, you’ve achieved your goal. Keep the
rest of your talk short – remember, you’re busy and in
demand. Don’t sound like you’re so busy you are irritable. Stay
positive and cheerful, but keep the chat short and efficient:
“That’s great – I’ll see you at noon! Bye!”
Being sexy on the phone does take some work, though. Like
my ‘Constellation Texts’ that you may have already read about,
it’s all about what you leave out. You’ll want to use your
common sense and judge the level of your relationship with
him. Sometimes your instincts are all you have to go on. If
you’ve only been on one date and he seems like a pretty
traditional guy, then it might not be time (yet) for you to call
him up and tell him, in your best sultry voice, that you’ve been
thinking about him.
You don’t need to offer any specifics. You may not even know
what you were thinking, but that’s not important. What
matters is that you’ve called him, in this case first thing in the
morning, when he’s on his way to work or whatever, and
you’ve planted an idea in his mind. His imagination can work
on that idea all day.
You don’t need to tell him who the “somebody” is. He may ask.
Food and sex are akin in the sensual pleasure they provoke,
and you can sound pretty sexy talking about food. He will
wonder whether you are only thinking about food, and that’s
exactly what you want him wondering.
YOU: “Well, I’ve thought about it, and I think you should
wear that blue suit you wore last month when we went to
that Italian restaurant. Do you remember that night?”
And you hang up. Once again, you are in charge, not only of
what he wears, but of what he thinks about during the day. A
one-minute phone conversation leaves the memory of your
…And you hang up. You’re in charge – of how long the phone
call is, of what he wears, and of what he thinks about.
YOU: “So … what did St. Patrick say when he was driving
all the snakes out of Ireland?”
Think about it – you didn’t call him with any agenda, not to
remind him to do some chore he’s forgotten, or to pick up
something at the store, or to ask him some inane question.
You called him for two minutes or less just to make him smile
and laugh. You are now a brief bright spot in his work day.
He may keep thinking about the little joke you told, and he
may even relate it to some of his coworkers. Little,
fundamental human connections like this are the bricks that
build up the edifice of your relationship. You made him pause
for a moment during his stressful day to smile and laugh.
Laughter releases stress and produces a positive chemical
change in his brain. Those happy feelings, even if they only last
HIM: “No, I didn’t see it. I’ve been trapped in a two hour
strategy meeting with those clients I told you about.”
You tell him the story in brief, and remind him that you’re
looking forward to seeing him soon, and hang up. This entire
conversation might take two minutes, but it is a genuine
human connection, powered by your voice. You’ve expressed
sympathy over his tough meeting, distracted him from any
work stress, made him laugh a bit, and reminded him that you
are thinking about him, all in those short few moments.
You can also be a little bit fun and read him a children’s story,
the kind you’d read a kid before bedtime. Depending on your
personality and his, this could be a silly experience, which
makes you both laugh a bit, or it could be a sweet moment,
where you let him know you care about him.
YOU: “Oh, it’s been so hot here …” (*Let him finish this
thought in his mind*)