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MY MOTHER AT SIXTY SIX Notes
MY MOTHER AT SIXTY SIX Notes
Important words:
Doze : sleep lightly for short time
Wan : colourless
My mother at sixty six is based on the theme of advancing age (of natural process of ageing) and fear of
loss and separation associated with it. The poet, Kamala Das must be feeling guilty of not being able to
stay with her mother in her old age.
Relationship between people becomes stronger at every aspect of life and they can’t bear separation
due to aging. In this poem, the poet relates a personal experience. She brings out a common paradox of
human relationships and portrays a sensational separation of a mother and a daughter.
Elderly parents want companionship, caring and love. They are old and thus, not able to
move around as much as they used to. They are lonely and want their children to spend a
little time with them. A kind word and some moments of our time will give them happiness
and make them feel loved and cherished. If ignored and spurned, they feel gloomy and
abandoned. We must remember that we all have to grow old and a day will come when we
too will want some attention and company.
Important question-answers:
Q1. What kind of contrast can you find in the poem My mother at sixty six?
Ans. For the poet, it becomes unbearable to look at her mother’s miserable state of existence
and therefore, she looks outside the car window to divert her thoughts. She sees the young
trees sprinting and happy children are coming out of their homes. She has created a paradox
here to bring out a contrast between the lifeless, still form of her mother and the freshness and
Q2. What is the kind of pain and ache that the poet feels?
Ans. The emotional pain and ache that the poet feels is due to the realization that her mother has gone
old and has become frail and pale like a corpse. The ache also refers to the old familiar ache of the
childhood that revisits the poet due to the mother’s old age and her approaching death. It can also be
because of poet’s continuous sad feeling that she is not being able to take a good care of her old and
ailing mother.
Q4. Why has the poet brought in image of the merry children ‘spilling out of their homes’?
Ans. The poet has brought in the image of the merry children ‘spilling out of their homes’ because this
image helps to bring out the contrast between childhood and old age. While childhood is a period of
carefree merrymaking, old age is the period of sadness, decay and death. Both the images are useful for
the understanding of the process of ageing and death.
Q5. Why has the mother been compared to the ‘late winter’s moon’?
Ans. The poet’s mother has been compared to the ‘late winter’s moon’ because winter, like old age is
the last phase of human life just as winter is the last month of the year. And in old age a man grows pale
like death just as the moon in the late winter looks pale white.
Q6. What do the parting words of the poet and her smile signify?
Ans. The parting words of the poetess and her smile signify her pain and fear of losing her mother. She
tries to put on a brave front by hiding this fear behind a smile. And her parting words ‘see you soon,
Amma ‘ are spoken to give hope to her mother.
Practice questions
Q1. In the last line of the poem ‘My mother at sixty six’ why does the poet use
the word ‘smile’ repeatedly?
Q2. Having looked at her mother, why does Kamala Das look at the young
children?
Q3. Why does Kamala Das compare her mother to a ‘late winter’s moon’?
Q4. How does Kamala Das try to put away the thoughts of her ageing mother?
Q5. What were the poet’s feelings at the airport? How did she hide them?