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Fear and How To Overcome Fear
Fear and How To Overcome Fear
Fear is an unpleasant emotion that arises mainly because of craving. Craving and
attachment are the causes for many unwholesome, unpleasant, and evil things in
life. It is because of these two that we wander in samsāra, the cycle of birth and
death. In contrast, fearlessness is the state of perfect peace, tranquility, and the
highest bliss that which is possible to be achieved by us all.
Naturally, all beings experience fear. They all are afraid of either of their present,
past or future. All beings are called beings (satta) because they all are clinging to
the five aggregates: form, feelings, perception, volitional formations, and
consciousness. As long as we are clinging to these five aggregates, we have fear.
Only arahants are entirely freed from fear. They have achieved the state of
fearlessness. That is why they are called non-beings (asatta).1 We cling not only to
the five aggregates of existence, but also to many other material and immaterial
things around us. Therefore, as long as we attach, grasp, and cling to things we
have no escape from fear.
Why Fear?
With this short article I intend to clarify the Buddhist perspective on fear and how
to achieve the state of fearlessness. If one were able to observe and read our
mentality right now, one would be able to see that we all are like spiders
entangled in our own woven webs. We wove our webs of attachment and
expectations and got trapped. That is why we are suffering from fear of getting
lost and fear of many different things about us and around us. For instance, as we
see here in the West, many parents are fearful of things such as their children's
moving out after they turn 18, job security, mortgage payments, debts, credit card
bills, etc. which contribute to constant distress. At the same time, children
themselves fear for their parents' insecurity, such as fear of aging, sickness, and
death. Then, at least for some extent, because of their untrustworthiness both
husband and wife may fear that the otherone could leave them at anytime.
Likewise, regarding many other factors contribute to the rise fear in individuals.
Fear does not arise by itself alone, but in combination with other factors, such as
suspicion, presumption, jealousy, misleading information, vanity, and hostility.
In daily life, most people fear separation from their family members temporarily
or permanently. The Buddha said, "Separation from loved ones is sorrow." Not
only actual separation, but even thinking of their future or past, based on the
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experience they have gained, most people undergo unutterable agony and create
anxiety and worry. Mainly, because they do not think of and are not ready to
accept the fact that all animate or inanimate things are changing (anicca) they
have fear and suffer. As the Buddha taught us, nothing is certain or permanent. In
other words, nothing remains the same. That is one of the fundamental teachings
of the Buddha. Most people simply go with the flow, but they themselves do not
know that it means that they are simply floating. The teachings of the Buddha is
not to simply float along in the river of existence. It is to strive and get out of the
river of existence to the state of non-existence where there is no fear, sorrow,
lamentation, pain, grief, or dispair at all because it is not an existence. Those who
have achieved that experience enjoy that bliss.
Fear of Death
As the Buddha said, "All beings die, but death is not the end of all things. Death is
only the end of one life." Thereafter, one will have to go according to the
volitional actions (kamma) done while living here, in this world. We all experience
fear of facing death. Actually, for the worldlings, their greatest fear is death. That
is why even the Buddha said, "All tremble at violence; all fear death. Putting
oneself in the place of another, one should neither kill nor cause another to kill."
However, if we get ready for that we can face death bravely. The Buddha's
instruction for that is to develop and cultivate mindfulness. This is the way to the
state of fearlessness as well.
The old saying goes "every dark cloud has a silver lining." Even beyond the fear
of death with the guidance of the teachings of the Buddha in our daily lives we can
find positive results or aspects of the fearful and dreadful situations we encounter.
With fear of future uncertainties about their own jobs, mortgage, children's
schooling, college or university entrance or exams and so on, day and night people
are suffering from boundless fear to achieve these so-called goals. However,
unexpectedly fear arises and collapes the mansion of hope. What should be done
then? Nothing but coming to the present moment to understand the situation
mindfully and make up your own mind to face it more positively, productively,
and rewardingly.
The best thing to do is seek the cause of the problem objectively. That means
removing the focus on individuals. Strive to find the root of the situation as not
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his, her, or their faults, but as based on conditions. Then seek the cause and
remove the cause of the action. If you can remove the cause you can definitely
remove the fear, perhaps to a certain degree or even completely. Unfortunately,
human nature is to panic, suffer or obsess over every single unachievable target.
Whatever your targets they should be achievable, goals should be realistic,
expectations should be real, worthy to achieve. Always be positive and strive to
understand the benefits you have gained from blessings in disguise rather being in
a panic.
Suppose you are laid off – think of your own quality time with the family and
friends. It could be a wonderful opportunity to teach your culture, language,
mediation, dhamma to your kids, to limit your children’s screen time in order to
save their eyes, teach them how to cook, give the essential life skills, improve
themselves with meditation, learn the dhamma, original discourses of the Buddha,
and enjoy the free time visiting a nearby park with the friends and family. Parents,
creating memorable experiences with your family is more important than having
money. Kids grow up quickly, so it is worthwhile to spend time with the kids
when they are young. They feel it, enjoy it, appreciate it. When you hear the news
"laid off," parents and kids get the message differently. While the kids may
celebrate it, parents will take it as it is the end of the world. Although you need
money, if the given situation cannot be changed, you have to learn how to turn the
bad news or bad period to an advantage. Positive mindset is important. Learning
Buddha's teaching will definitely guide you to see and accept the facts and the
situation positively.
As an emotional arousal fear arises in the mind as a mental state. When there is
fear, our mind is directly connected to our heart. Therefore, by that time, both our
brain and heart are guided not by intelligence but by emotion. Emotion is always
harmful. Emotions are based on greed, hatred, and delusion. This is why one has
to develop intelligence and wisdom by developing the intellectual aspect of mind
and perceptional aspect of mind through mental development (bhāvanā). Emotion
and fear are interdependently existing like a cycle. Where there is fear there is
emotion and where there is emotion there is fear. Therefore, as long as fear exists
emotions exist and vise-a-versa. However, when we are intelligent and wise
enough to understand and control our emotions we can come to the state of
peacefulness and calmness of mind.
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fear. That means only the Enlightened Ones are entirely be free from fear. With
their enlightenment they come to the state of fearlesness (abhaya or akutobhaya).
As the Buddha very clearly and comprehensively said in the Dhammapada, fear
arises because of craving (tanhā). He said, "From craving springs grief, from
craving springs fear. For him who is wholly free from craving there is no grief,
whence then fear?"
One should not forget that the cause of all dukkha, unsatisfactoriness is craving.
Once the Buddha himself said that the world is ensnared by craving (Tanhāya
uddito loko)4 In accordance with the teachings of the Buddha craving should be
tamed and entirely eliminated by mindfulness. This is why the Buddha taught us
the technique of Samatha-Vipassana meditation to understand the real refuge and
to go to the real refuge, rather going to refuge of many things in the world blindly.
It is because of fear they go to many a refuge. We have to understand the real
refuge and go to the real refuge. Refuge is never found in another person.
In the Dhammapada, the Buddha pointed out what happens when fear arises in the
minds of uninstructed, worldly people, average persons. Since they have fear of
many things, they search for safety. Therefore, they go to many a refuge. The
Buddha explains,
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In accordance with the above explanation, when fear strikes one cannot understand
things clearly. Therefore, one does not know what is to be done and what is not to
be done. As a consequence, they go to many a refuge without understanding the
real refuge. Not only that, with their perverted perception, they grasp things as
mine, me, and myself and then they take whatever is impermanent as permanent,
unsatisfactory as satisfactory and selfless as self. That is the danger in them.
Therefore, seeking to allay their fear they start to do many types of rites and
rituals. This is because of their fear of losing of what they have grasped with
delusion. As a result, they are entirely engaged in personalization, doubt, and rites
and rituals (sakkāya ditthi, vicikiccā, silabbataparāmāsa). In such away they are
tightly fettered to the cycle of birth and death (samsāra). Hence, for them
depersonalization is impossible. Moreover, due to their fear, they believe that there
is a permanent entity as a soul or self that needs to be protected and will save them
from fear. They mistakenly think that this form is myself, feeling is myself,
perception is myself, volitional formations are myself, and consciousness is
myself. In such a way, they grasp five aggregates into four ways (5x4=20 ways)
thinking, "This is my form, this is myself, my self is in my form or my form is in
myself." Such thinking is called personalization or personality belief. With that
they have doubt about themselves referring to the past, future, and the present. For
them there is no way to come to the path of fearlessness at all. As the Buddha said
one has to cut off the above three fetters first and follow the path to fearlessness
based on the only real refuge which is the Four Noble Truths.
The Buddha has talked about fear even before his enlightenment. According to the
Discourse titled "Fear and Dread" in the Majjhima Nikaya6 he clearly said that
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fear and dread arise because of impurity of bodily conduct, verbal conduct, and
mental conduct. He said,
I considered thus: Whenever recluses or brahmins unpurified in bodily
conduct resort to remote jungle-thicket resting places in the forest, then
owing to the defect of their unpurified bodily conduct these good recluses
and brahmins evoke unwholesome fear and dread. But I do not resort to
remote jungle-thicket resting places in the forest unpurified in bodily
conduct. I am purified in bodily conduct. I resort to remote jungle-thicket
resting places in the forest as one of the noble ones with bodily conduct
purified. Seeing in myself this purity of bodily conduct, I found great solace
in dwelling in the forest. ...in verbal conduct... in mental conduct...
1. Overcoming of fear is not that easy. First and formost, it is very clear that in
order to overcome fear one has to remove the cause of fear. That is the most
practical method. Once the Buddha said,
Bhikkhus, whatever fears arise, all arise because of the fool, not because
of the wise man; whatever troubles arise, all arise because of the fool,
not because of the wise man; whatever calamities arise, all arise because
of the fool, not because of the wise man. Just as a fire that starts in a
shed made of rushes or grass burns down even a house with a peaked
roof, with walls plastered inside and outside, shut off, secured by bars,
with shuttered windows; so too, bhikkhus, whatever fears arise … all
arise because of the fool, not because of the wise man. Thus the fool
brings fear, the wise man brings no fear; the fool brings trouble, the
wise man brings no trouble; the fool brings calamity, the wise man
brings no calamity. No fear comes from the wise man, no trouble comes
from the wise man, no calamity comes from the wise man. Therefore,
bhikkhus, you should train thus: 'We shall be wise men, we shall be
inquirers'.7
Those who find the way to overcome fear should understand this as a fact. So in
short, fear arises because of foolishness. Being wise we can keep fear at bay. No
doubt that if we are wise enough we can understand many things regarding fear
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(Abhaye bhayadassino
bhaye cābhayadassino
micchāditthi samādānā
sattā gacchanti duggatim)
In short, one should dwell in the present moment, be aware of what is going on
now. Then, one can dispel the darkness of fear. That is the second method we
introduce for the overcomig of the arisen fear.
3. Let us come to the third method. Apply the six factors to any object whether
animate or inanimate that comes to your mind through the six senses. What are the
six factors? Giving full attention and understanding the object as something
conditioned, fragile and dependently arisen, mentally repeat, "This is not mine,
not I am (not me), not myself. This is impermanent, unsatisfactory, and not self."
This is how one comes to understand reality as it is -- to see things as they really
are. Then, you can abandon the arisen fear because you see the uselessness and
meaninglessness of grasping things as your own.
4. The fourth method is this. For this purpose one has to understand cause and
effect or causal conditionality. One has to reason out things, rationalize things with
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a clear mind applying wise attention. This is the way to overcome fear. The
Buddha, even before his enligthenment as an unenlightened Bodhisatta, practiced
the same thing while he was at the palace and while practicing as an ascetic in the
woods. He said,
And while I dwelt there [in the woods], a wild animal would come up to
me, or a peacock would knock off a branch or the wind would rustle the
leaves. I thought: What now if this is the fear and dread coming?‟ I
thought: Why do I dwell always expecting fear and dread? What if I subdue
that fear and dread while keeping the same posture that I am in when it
comes upon me? While I walked, the fear and dread came upon me; I
neither stood nor sat nor lay down till I had subdued that fear and dread.
While I stood, the fear and dread came upon me; I neither walked nor sat
nor lay down till I had subdued that fear and dread. While I sat, the fear and
dread came upon me; I neither walked nor stood nor lay down till I had
subdued that fear and dread. While I lay down, the fear and dread came
upon me; I neither walked nor stood nor sat down till I had subdued that
fear and dread.
That is how he dispelled the arisen fear with a clear mind, wise attention and a
firm ditermination. When the people are plagued with delusion and fear they are
certainly deluded and perceive things in a distorted way, perhaps completely
upside down. The Buddha says, "There are, brahmin, some recluses and brahmins
who perceive day when it is night and night when it is day. I say that on their part
this is an abiding in delusion. But I perceive night when it is night and day when it
is day. Rightly speaking, were it to be said of anyone: A being not subject to
delusion has appeared in the world for the welfare and happiness of many, out of
compassion for the world, for the good, welfare, and happiness of gods and
humans, it is of me indeed that rightly speaking this should be said." 10
5. One day a certain brahmin ascetic named Bawari sent his sixteen disciples to
the Buddha in order to see the Buddha and ask a particular question based on
ignorance. As they went to the Buddha as instructed by their teacher they first
asked questions mentally and then asked the question on ignorance. Thereupon,
the Buddha gave the right answer. Being satisfied and gladdened, they then asked
their personal questions as well. One disciple named Ajita asked the following
questions first. He asked,
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According to this expression it is clear that the greatest fear for humans is dukkha
or unsatisfactoriness. People are almost always unsatisfied with what they have.
This itself is a cause for fear. Therefore, the remedy for this is developing
contentment or satisfactoriness. The Buddha pointed out clearly that contentment
or satisfaction is the greatest wealth (santutthi paramam dhanam). 12 Therefore,
this is the fifth method for overcoming fear.
6. The Buddha taught that one should not follow wrong courses (agati). Therefore,
he taught us four types of wrong courses. We need to remember that one of them
is fear. He said, “Bhikkhus, there are these four ways of taking a wrong course.
What four? One takes a wrong course because of desire, because of hatred,
because of delusion, or because of fear. These are the four ways of taking a wrong
course.” What really happens if one takes these four, wrong courses?
So if one does not take the wrong course of fear, that itself is a way to remove the
fear of going off course (agati). When one takes these wrong courses one does evil
deeds.
7. For our mental protection, the Buddha expounded many different protective
discourses (paritta). Specifically, for the protection from fear and worry he
delivered several discourses. Among these discourses, there is one particular
called "The Discourse on Banner Protection" (Dhajagga Sutta) where the Buddha
said,
Monks, I shall relate a former incident. There arose a battle between the
Devas (gods) and Asuras. Then Sakka, the Lord of the devas, addressed the
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devas of the Tāvatimsa heaven thus: “Happy ones, if the devas who have
gone to the battle should experience fear or terror or suffer from hair
standing on end, let them behold the crest of my own banner. If you do so,
any fear, terror or hair standing on end arising in you will pass away. If
you fail to look up to the crest of my banner, look at the crest of the banner
of Pajāpati, King of gods. If you do so, any fear, terror or hair standing on
end arising in you will pass away. If you fail to look up to the crest of
Pajāpati, King of the gods, look at the crest of the banner of Varuna, King
of the gods. If you do so, any fear, terror or hair standing on end arising in
you will pass away.” “Monks, any fear, terror or hair standing on end
arising in them who look at the crest of the banner of Sakka … The Lord of
the gods, of Pajāpati … of Varuna … of Isāna, the King of the gods, any
fear terror or hair standing on end, may pass away, or may not pass away.
What is the reason for this? Sakka, the Lord of gods, O monks, is not free
from lust, not free from hate, not free from delusion, and is therefore liable
to fear, terror, fright and flight. I also say unto you O monks — if any fear,
terror or hair standing on end should arise in you when you have gone to
the forest or to the foot of a tree, or to an empty house (lonely place), then
think only of me thus: “Such indeed is the Blessed One, Arahant
(Consummate One), supremely enlightened, endowed with knowledge and
virtue, welcome being, knower of worlds, the peerless trainer of persons,
teacher of gods and men, the Buddha, the Blessed One.” Monks, if you
think of me, any fear, terror, or standing of hair on end that may arise in
you will pass away. If you fail to think of me, then think of the Dhamma
(the Doctrine) thus: “Well expounded is the Dhamma by the Blessed One, a
Dhamma to be realized by oneself and gives immediate results, a Dhamma
which invites investigation and leads up to Nibbāna, a Dhamma to be
understood by the wise each for himself.” Monks, if you think of the
Dhamma, any fear, terror or hair standing on end that may arise in you, will
pass away. If you fail to think of the Dhamma, then think of the Sangha
(the Order) thus: “Of good conduct is the Order of Disciples of the Blessed
One, of upright conduct is the Order of Disciples of the Blessed One, of
wise conduct is the Order of Disciples of the Blessed One, of dutiful
conduct is the Order of Disciples of the Blessed One. This Order of
Disciples of the Blessed One — namely those four pairs of persons, the
eight kinds of individuals is worthy of offerings, is worthy of hospitality, is
worthy of gifts, is worthy of reverential salutations, is an incomparable
field of merit for the world.” Monks, if you think of the Sangha, any fear,
terror or hair standing on end that may arise in you, will pass away. What is
the reason for this? The Tathāgata, O monks, who is Arahant, supremely
enlightened, is free from lust, free from hate, is free from delusion, and is
not liable to fear, terror, fright or flight.14
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This is another method to dispel your fear. Recollect the qualities of the Buddha,
Dhamma and the Sangha. This works very well. All monastics dwelling in the
woods do this for their protection from various spirits and creatures like snakes.
8. According to the teachings of the Buddha it is because of not knowing the fear
of samsāra we are wondering in samsāra hindered by ignorance and fettered by
craving. This samsāric fear is to be understood properly. Only then, we can find
the real remedy for this malady. The Buddha says, "Monks, this samsāra is
without discoverable beginning. A first point is not discerned of beings roaming
and wandering on hindered by ignorance and fettered by craving.15 If we know
this samsāric fear we do not cling to things and strive to live as if we are not
dying. Since we all have to face death, having fear of death, we should do more
and more good deeds in order to be reborn in good destinations. We should do
more and more good deeds for the happy and peaceful samsāric journey as well.
So knowing the malady of this samsāra itself is a way to dispel the fear of
existence which brings us suffering.
There are, monks, these three perils that separate mother and son. What
three? The peril of old age, the peril of illness, and the peril of death. When
the son is growing old, the mother cannot fulfill her wish: ‘Let me grow
old, but may my son not grow old!’ And when the mother is growing old,
the son cannot fulfill his wish: ‘Let me grow old, but may my mother not
grow old!’ “When the son has fallen ill, the mother cannot fulfill her wish:
‘Let me fall ill, but may my son not fall ill!’ And when the mother has
fallen ill, the son cannot fulfill his wish: ‘Let me fall ill, but may my mother
not fall ill!’ “When the son is dying, the mother cannot fulfill her wish: ‘Let
me die, but may my son not die!’ And when the mother is dying, the son
cannot fulfill his wish: ‘Let me die, but may my mother not die!’ “These
are the three perils that separate mother and son.16
So what is to be done? Nothing can be except to be more and more intelligent and
wise. Be aware of the nature of change. Nothing is unchanging. Everything is
changing, everything is unsatisfactory, and everything is without a core, substance
or soul. With this understanding you can dispel and overcome existing fear and
fear that may arise in future. That is the ninth method.
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10. The Buddha delivered a special discourse on five types of fearful animosities.
Here, the Buddha clearly pointed out that as long as one has not subduded the five
types of fear one is not safe because one still has tendencies to be born in the
animal realm, hungry ghost realm, or other woeful states such as hells. That is the
fear in samsāra. No one can escape from this fear, this danger if they have not
realized the Four Noble Truths. Addressing the householder, Anāthapindika, very
clearly and positively the Buddha said,
That is how one enters the state of fearlessness. In order to complete his or her
final mission there are three more stages to accomplish, namely the once returner,
non-returner, and arahantship. The arahant is the real person who has completely
cut off fear and attained the state of fearlessness (abhaya). He or she has no fear at
all of the defilements greed, hatred, and delusion. The Buddha is the most
excellent Fearless One in the world who brings fearlessness to the whole world.
In this manner, let us understand the nature of fear and how to overcome fear to
attain a state of fearlessness as the Buddha has taught. That is the Buddhist
perspective the Buddha well expounded in his teachings.
Summary
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10. Strive to eradicate the five fears and animosities to attain the state of stream
entry and full enlightenment so that it is possible to completely eradicate
fear.
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15 S.N. 15. Anamatagga Samyutta.
16 A.N. III. 62 (2). Perils.
17 S.N. 12. 41 (1). Five Fearful Animosities.
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